You hear about it all the time. First impressions are lasting impressions, you only get one chance to make a good first impression. Nobody will know how good you are unless you make a good first impression on them.
Unfortunately most people see themselves as not good at making a first ... Views: 178
I can’t sleep,” Shelly said. “I mean, I don’t have much trouble falling asleep. But then I wake up at three in the morning and can’t get back to sleep.”
For Shelly, it started with a combination of a fast-paced job and the hormonal changes of pregnancy. While those things started her insomnia ... Views: 169
Anger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage.
The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ... Views: 155
We all have had times in our lives when we felt our partner , parent, child or friend was selfish, unsympathetic and difficult. We may even have accused them of being a narcissist. Behaving badly, lacking empathy and being selfish, though not desirable traits, does not alone define you as a ... Views: 103
Many of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how ... Views: 159
As an entrepreneur and small-business owner, you have a lot of responsibilities. You’re ultimately in charge of all aspects of your company, and trying to keep up with everything can be highly time-consuming.
Many business leaders are finding that employee empowerment can help ease some of ... Views: 164
This past Monday was Memorial Day, a day to celebrate those military members who have made “the ultimate sacrifice”. The History Channel hosts a video on the channel’s website called “Memorial Day” that delves into the history behind the holiday.
The inspiration behind the holiday was first ... Views: 70
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 240
The military can quickly become an all-consuming lifestyle for both soldiers and their families. However, when those soldiers are discharged and released back into the civilian world, one out of five of those soldiers will severely struggle with that adjustment.
The U.S. Department of ... Views: 86
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 242
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 108
The first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, "Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth." Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth.
The word meek comes from the ... Views: 139
Resentment is like quicksand…it really sucks! It pulls us in and holds us down, and we become stuck in our own self-imposed suffering. Forgiveness offers freedom from that suffering, but getting to forgiveness can sometimes feel like an arduous odyssey. Our defensive egos hang onto wrongs with ... Views: 187
By "war" I mean here a mindset, not combat between nations with tanks and bombs. The "war" I'm referring to is an attitude of conflict and animosity toward a person, object, or condition. Parents can feel at war with a misbehaving teenager, and certainly vice versa. Neighbors quarreling over a ... Views: 87
Most western churches are like the fig tree that Christ cursed for its pretentious foliage when it had no fruit, Matthew 21. Most American churches have music and preaching, but may lack content as the imagery suggests re the last of 7 churches, said to be lukewarm with materialism in Revelation ... Views: 138
Self-esteem is one of the natural things that we all have been blessed with since birth. A tiny baby cannot do anything for her, hence can cry, drink, blink, observes, and can feel emotions. Although the intensity of the emotions are not very much visible, but they are present even at the time ... Views: 134
Negativism is always limiting
You put on side cover and limit your view.
It’s easy to fall into the negative mode when things don’t come out the way you planned or are threatened by changes, but there lies an opportunity!
Hindrances can be opportunities in disguise
We often set ... Views: 80
Rhonda Byrne’s book and movie, The Secret, sold 21 million copies. It served an important mission: It popularized the Law of Attraction and emphasized the importance of Positive Thinking.
It also focused on feeling gratitude, as if you already received what you focused on. It ... Views: 119
A frequently overlooked phenomenon within the recovering community, aka 12-step oriented fellowships, is a true understanding of the difference between compliance and acceptance with respect to one’s addiction[s]. As most professionals and addicts themselves have come to understand, addiction is ... Views: 274
The Victim Tyrant Cycle
By Julie Roberts, Ph.D.
This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ... Views: 124
If there is one thing that we would like to change, it would be the notion that we can change something that has occurred in the past. Perhaps you may agree that if something occurred in the past, we can accept what happened and choose to begin moving forward. We can decide to change how we ... Views: 131
We all know what a mistake is so there is no reason to offer the dictionary’s version of this reality. Mistakes offer us an opportunity to examine our thinking and discover what aspect(s) of our projects could be done differently, positively, therefore resulting in improved outcomes. Mistakes ... Views: 249
WHAT IS Aromatherapy? Aromatherapy means to treat with aroma through inhalation and is a natural holistic healing therapy. The true practice of aromatherapy is a wedding of both science and art in the use of pure plant essential oils to enhance your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual ... Views: 208
Eating disorders are known to be prevalent inside the fashion industry, but what about the military? As the number of women who enlist in the armed forces increases, so do the rates of eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia nervosa.
Eating disorders, at their core, provide an afflicted ... Views: 119
During the Iraq War, the news was one of the few resources that civilians had in order to track U.S. troops’ activities overseas. However, this point of view, with only brief video clips and sparse snapshots flashing across TV screens, was the only peek into the lives of these troops as they ... Views: 111
Many people make light of nervous breakdowns, often using the term in a joking and over-exaggerative manner. However, nervous breakdowns, although not officially referred to as a medical condition, are still very serious, as they signal several underlying mental issues which must be ... Views: 144
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 170
By now, the public has become more aware of the startling number of daily military suicides—roughly 22 veterans a day are taking their own lives after they are discharged from service. However, the exact cause of (at the least the majority of) these suicides is unfortunately unknown. ... Views: 117
Struggling with one’s weight is rarely connected to sole physiological factor.
Addressing body image and health issues through counselling and weight loss hypnotherapy can help an individual to identify the “root” of their lack of success in losing weight. Modern technologies can also be ... Views: 155
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ... Views: 177
MoHow Posted By Joel Simms Over the years I have been asked many times by many people how I remain calm and patient in situations where others become agitated, frightened, frustrated and angry. My answer has been, “I have learned to be patient by learning a range of skills that anyone can ... Views: 249
The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ... Views: 159
Want to try a little experiment?
Stop breathing. Really. For a few seconds, maybe a few dozen seconds, and see how it feels.
For me, this experiment is an intimate way to experience a deep truth, that we live dependently, relying on 10,000 things for physical survival, happiness, love, and ... Views: 74
The Perfectionist is one form of the Inner Critic. It is a part of you that tries to get you to do things perfectly. It has very high standards for your behavior and especially for products you create or performances you make. This often comes up around written reports. Often the Perfectionist ... Views: 133
When Joe’s wife asks him to do something around the house, he always seems to go along and agrees to do it. But it rarely happens. He forgets about it, or he does a little bit of it but doesn’t finish the job. Sometimes he does the job in a way that isn’t really what she wanted. He feels vaguely ... Views: 135
Jeanette had low self esteem, all her teachers wondered about this. She was musically talented, but had no confidence in herself. She never tried out for the orchestra or school plays. As she got older, this pattern continued and she ended up with minimal jobs. She just assumed that she wouldn’t ... Views: 109
This will only work if you are willing to feel a little discomfort when facing your fears. Most people stop as soon as they start feeling the fear. They talk themselves into thinking... “I just can’t do it” and they don’t push through. Breakthroughs happen as a result of pushing ... Views: 130
The way I learned to deal with my feelings was not to feel. One of the ways I learned to do this was to think of something different. For instance, I looked forward to getting some candy from the little store on my way home from school. I would get a cola soft drink and a frosted pastry or ... Views: 130
Do you sabotage yourself out of having the best orgasms ever?
This time I would like to address the subject of female orgasms and how to remove subconscious sabotage to reaching the best orgasms or multiple orgasms.
At another time I’ll address the issue of male orgasm, as the sabotage is ... Views: 122
Effective couples therapy depends on a number of factors. Both partners must be willing to make a change. If one has already decided to give up and cannot reengage, then success is probably not possible. The key is to get to a therapist before your relationship has eroded too far. If one or both ... Views: 84
If you have never suffered from excessive anxiety, then it may be difficult to empathize with someone who has. Anxious people may seem to be worried about nothing of substance, so it’s tempting to disregard the problem. But the fact is, anxiety—including post-traumatic stress disorder, ... Views: 119
About one in four Americans is affected by a mental disorder in a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. How many of those seek help from a mental health professional? Not nearly enough. So quite a few people suffer who might not have to if they sought help.
But how ... Views: 116
Contrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills. Not so the covert ... Views: 137
For several years, the VA has been under fire for repeated instances of negligence. Reports released by CBS in 2013 revealed that medical professionals associated with the VA prescribed 259% more narcotics than in 2002, and that individualized therapy had fallen by the wayside. An affiliate of ... Views: 131
A (somewhat) retired combat veteran, Sergeant Shane Savage, recently became a featured story as part of the New York Times. Savage’s story employs the multitude of struggles that thousands of other combat veterans face shortly after their discharge from service. Savage recalls his battles with ... Views: 158
According to a website called Army.mil, ever since WWI, mothers of fallen soldiers have dubbed themselves as “Gold Star Mothers”. The name derived from the Gold Star, a symbol in the military known for “loss and sacrifice”. Ever since 1936, September 29th has officially been recognized by the ... Views: 120
Mothers are normally military minorities. Sure, women in general are gaining more recognition in the military, but surely many people forget that a large majority of these women are mothers as well as national heroes. However, balancing these two identities is hardly ever easy. One military ... Views: 121
People have always said that laughter is the best medicine, but is there really any truth to the saying? What sort, if any, medicinal benefits does laughter have on the body? What about the mind?
Discovery.com, the on-line database for the Discovery Channel, uses results from studying ... Views: 124
By Frosty Wooldridge
During your journey on Earth, you face incredible moments of joy, challenge and discomfort. You never know where those “moments” may originate or for how long.
In your life, you may face an accident, loss of a loved one, disintegration of a friendship or disease. A ... Views: 129
Research shows that relationships are built from interactions, and interactions are built from moments. A critical moment in an interaction is when one person wants something from the other one. ("Wants" include wishes, needs, desires, hopes, and longings.) The want could be simple and concrete, ... Views: 86