Righteous indignation. Proving your point. Being right. Holding On. Never letting go. Beating a dead horse. Having to win. Always coming out on top. Having to have the last word. Sound familiar? Then this column is surely for you.
I believe that peace is the single greatest good. Peace. You ... Views: 86
(part 3 of A Soft Place to Call Home)
Now that you have made space for your thoughts and listened to them, gently, without judgment, and without reacting, what would the next steps be? How do you develop the perspective to ... Views: 109
(part 2 of A Soft Place to Call Home
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky
Conscious breathing is my anchor”
Thich Nhat Hanh
In my last article, I wrote about the importance of being compassionate ... Views: 93
When I was fourteen, my godparents gave birth to a baby boy after twenty years of marriage. The most joyful day of their lives was shattered by the devastating news that their son had Down's Syndrome. Fifty years ago Downs was a death sentence and Robert was no exception. Three weeks later they ... Views: 92
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) became increasingly popular recently because it is, indeed, effective and at the same time very easy to use. However, there are also a lot of reports that it is not as effective as it was reported to be.
EFT founder, Gary Craig, blamed it on the fact that the ... Views: 61
Do you look towards others for validation? Do you find your self-worth depends on how worthwhile people think you are? Do you wish you had the confidence that others seem to have? If so, read on.
Let us take the last question. If you wish to have the self-confidence that others seem to have, ... Views: 99
The average college student leads a very busy life. There are deadlines, homework assignments, and during finals week, a lot of flash cards and study notes to memorize. What if there was a healthy way for college students to unwind and let go of some of the stress that comes along with post high ... Views: 60
Courageous Creative Empowerment
Having a sense of creative empowerment is about the power to create! It begins by centering yourself so you may achieve clarity and know that you have the courage you need to live in the now! When you have the courage to create, you never truly know what ... Views: 85
We all have issues - including demands upon us, stresses, illnesses, losses, vulnerabilities, and pain. (As Alan Watts put it: "Life is wiggly.") Of course, many of our issues - in the broad sense I'm using the word here - are related to important sources of fulfillment, such as starting a ... Views: 64
Positivity is a universal trait and a common factor to enhance our well being over all over the world. Every day we learn about positivity and try to adopt it as much as possible in our day to day life. We love to be called as positive parents, couples, children and positive members of our ... Views: 113
I have seen them.
Men, who sit in my office and tell me they are addicts to internet pornography.
They describe symptoms that have long been regarded as markers of addiction.
Dependence — They start feeling poorly, maybe even depressed, if they don’t get their regular quota of ... Views: 116
Experiences can be painful. Such is life. When we were little, we ran to mommy and her kiss and cuddle fixed everything. Lying in her arms, there seemed not a worry in the world and the incident that had brought us running and howling was very soon a lonely cloud drifting in the far distance. ... Views: 109
The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
-George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ... Views: 105
The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
-George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ... Views: 96
They're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ... Views: 93
It is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ... Views: 111
When I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases a part of me had taken over. You know what I mean. The parts of us that have a partial view, are driven ... Views: 50
The achievement made in the field of medicine and science in the last century would be dwarfed by the achievements occurred in this century. The advancement in technology would make practicing medicine faster, cheaper and better. And the best part is that patients would be benefited a lot from ... Views: 118
Recently a client admitted to falling back into an old undesirable habit. Ashley had once again become a tyrant at home. She was obsessed with the cleanliness of her house. She worried about getting things done on time. She stopped interacting with her family. The only time she spoke to them was ... Views: 113
One of the most direct ways to transform your life is to let go of the past. Many people try to let go of painful memories or forget the past. Another option is to let go of emotional wounds from the past.
Emotions are different from thoughts. Emotions are experienced in the body. According ... Views: 81
Is your past still affecting you? Are painful emotions from childhood holding you back?
How do you know if your past is still affecting you?
Some people are very aware of how their past affects their present. For example, being a child of divorce can create insecurity and worry in present ... Views: 78
People are looking for ways to improve their lives and create more success. Many methods focus on changing thoughts and behaviors. Releasing emotional wounds from the past is another option. Could this option be right for you?
What causes emotional wounds?
Painful or traumatic events from ... Views: 68
We being a human always search for easy fixes, short cuts, and quick ways to fulfill our desires, wishes, and needs. We want to be happy as early as possible. We are quite impatient and inconsistent in achieving our goals and become successful. It is our nature and we fight with our nature to ... Views: 91
In classical EFT, tappers often use the Setup statement of "Even though I have this [problem], I deeply love myself". Some tappers cannot say "I deeply love myself" or even "I love myself". This is a sign that self-love can do with a boost.
And you may wonder why anyone should worry about ... Views: 123
When you've survived a traumatic experience, the anxiety that often follows can consume you for the rest of your life. Whether the traumatic event was a violent attack or a life-threatening car accident, this anxiety can occasionally develop into post-traumatic stress. Things that didn't matter ... Views: 90
At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ... Views: 99
I just read that studies indicate that people who suffer from depression are actually more realistic, than people who are optimistic. Researchers seemed to conclude that those of use who are optimistic are in fact delusional. We tend to think we are better looking, have a better ... Views: 265
As I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox.
One of the benefits I've experienced since leaving the office ... Views: 92
Approximately 8 out of 10 people in this planet have some sort of faith, religion, or belief in some kind of divine force, and/or supreme being(s). There are numerous religions, spiritual authorities, scriptures and interpretations of the divine and all of them seem to possess the power to ... Views: 104
Incredible as it sounds, I still am amazed at how often I hear people say “I don’t believe in ADHD.” You probably have heard it too. And if you are like me, the moment those words come out of their mouth, every hair raises on the back of your neck, the fire starts to churn in the pit of your ... Views: 162
Ahhh…the comfort zone. That comfy familiar place where we feel safe. Here we can kick back, relax and pat ourselves on the back. Livin’ seems easy…but there is an underlying restlessness as if something is missing. Is this the comfort zone or…are we “zoning out”?
Recently, I was asked to ... Views: 230
Recently I’ve noticed that being “happy” or striving for “happiness” is a major topic of many conversations. We seem to live in a world where we are inundated by information about being happy. Pursuing it could literally be a full time job! Being someone who has struggled with depression, it has ... Views: 153
Which is more important to help manage your symptoms of ADD…exercise, diet or sleep?
Ideally we are fueling our bodies with nutritious food, moving our bodies with regular exercise and getting the consistent sleep we need to feel rested, alert and focused to decrease our symptoms of ... Views: 119
Albert Einstein once said…”Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
For instance, have you been trying the same strategies to get out the door on time, but constantly arrive late? Are you struggling to organize your day at work or ... Views: 88
“ADHD medications aren’t natural.”
“I only want to use natural ways to manage my ADHD symptoms.”
“I don’t want to put anything unnatural into my body.”
These are just some of the familiar comments I hear during or following one of my presentations about ADHD medications. In our world ... Views: 117
Life with ADHD is a 24-hour, seven-day-a-week-adventure!! If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with ADHD, then you know how challenging it can be at times. Unfortunately, most of our focus is on the “negative aspects and problems” of ADHD and rarely are the strengths or positive ... Views: 128
In my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was love - waves and waves of love that I'd pushed down due to ... Views: 59
Colour and light are powerful sources of energy that affects our mental and physical health also. They can reveal a lot about our personality while helping tonifing ourselves by filling our energy losses that we suffer daily cause of anxiety, stress, fatigue and other ... Views: 83
Everyone - we all need anger. The most simple basic definition of anger is that it's an indication that we have unmet needs that have to be addressed, a sign that something is lacking in our lives that we want to satisfy. As with all emotions, anger is normal, useful, healthy, and necessary. ... Views: 100
Past Life Treatment Made Easy
How to Remove Past Life Trauma Without Traumatizing Yourself All Over Again By Re-experiencing It.
Past life regression became popular by Dr. Bryan Weiss, using hypnosis.
However, this method is excruciatingly painful, as you need, in the hypnotic trance, ... Views: 102
The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his ... Views: 128
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 111
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 94
Most people spend most minutes of most days doing one thing after another. I sure do. Typing these words is a kind of doing, as is driving to work, making dinner, brushing one's teeth, or putting the kids to bed. For all the "labor-saving" devices of the past 50 years - dishwashers, phone ... Views: 59
In our fast-paced, multi-tasking, on-the-go-deadline driven work, we are often caught up in the act of “Doing.” We move from task to task on our to-do list. We rush from work to class to home. We keep pushing ourselves to do more and do it better.
from type a to type me: how to stop doing ... Views: 120
Now, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety.
It is not unusual that your child may have ... Views: 108
Today I was reminded of my own anger while driving.I don't get angry that easily or that often. Luckily I know what tools work for me when I start noticing anger wanting to show it's ugly face. Like I've told many clients, it's called Anger Management, not Anger Cure. This is an important ... Views: 117
Questions and Intent
“What in the world are you talking about?!” “Why did you do that?” “How can you act like this?!” These are questions that I have at times asked in frustration, sometimes in my mind, other times vocally. But when I ask these questions, what is my purpose? Most of the ... Views: 83
Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS
Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become ... Views: 100
The Comfort Zone Concept
I have never seen the phrase comfort zone in the dictionary, but if it were there, I suppose it would read something like this:
Comfort Zone- A mental state in which no progression toward one’s potential takes place.
I believe that my comfort zone is nothing ... Views: 208