The Victim Tyrant Cycle
By Julie Roberts, Ph.D.
This paper is about adults and not children. Children donât have a choice when they are victims (they canât leave their situation and if they do speak, often they arenât heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ... Views: 68
If there is one thing that we would like to change, it would be the notion that we can change something that has occurred in the past. Perhaps you may agree that if something occurred in the past, we can accept what happened and choose to begin moving forward. We can decide to change how we ... Views: 79
We all know what a mistake is so there is no reason to offer the dictionaryâs version of this reality. Mistakes offer us an opportunity to examine our thinking and discover what aspect(s) of our projects could be done differently, positively, therefore resulting in improved outcomes. Mistakes ... Views: 177
WHAT IS Aromatherapy? Aromatherapy means to treat with aroma through inhalation and is a natural holistic healing therapy. The true practice of aromatherapy is a wedding of both science and art in the use of pure plant essential oils to enhance your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual ... Views: 115
Eating disorders are known to be prevalent inside the fashion industry, but what about the military? As the number of women who enlist in the armed forces increases, so do the rates of eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia nervosa.
Eating disorders, at their core, provide an afflicted ... Views: 59
During the Iraq War, the news was one of the few resources that civilians had in order to track U.S. troopsâ activities overseas. However, this point of view, with only brief video clips and sparse snapshots flashing across TV screens, was the only peek into the lives of these troops as they ... Views: 56
Many people make light of nervous breakdowns, often using the term in a joking and over-exaggerative manner. However, nervous breakdowns, although not officially referred to as a medical condition, are still very serious, as they signal several underlying mental issues which must be ... Views: 70
The U.S. Department of Veteransâ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: âre-experiencing symptoms,â âavoidance symptoms,â ... Views: 87
By now, the public has become more aware of the startling number of daily military suicidesâroughly 22 veterans a day are taking their own lives after they are discharged from service. However, the exact cause of (at the least the majority of) these suicides is unfortunately unknown. ... Views: 60
Struggling with oneâs weight is rarely connected to sole physiological factor.
Addressing body image and health issues through counselling and weight loss hypnotherapy can help an individual to identify the ârootâ of their lack of success in losing weight. Modern technologies can also be ... Views: 80
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ... Views: 107
MoHowÂ Â Posted ByÂ Â Joel SimmsÂ Â Over the years I have been asked many times by many people how I remain calm and patient in situations where others become agitated, frightened, frustrated and angry. My answer has been, âI have learned to be patient by learning a range of skills that anyone can ... Views: 154
The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ... Views: 94
Want to try a little experiment?
Stop breathing. Really. For a few seconds, maybe a few dozen seconds, and see how it feels.
For me, this experiment is an intimate way to experience a deep truth, that we live dependently, relying on 10,000 things for physical survival, happiness, love, and ... Views: 41
The Perfectionist is one form of the Inner Critic. It is a part of you that tries to get you to do things perfectly. It has very high standards for your behavior and especially for products you create or performances you make. This often comes up around written reports. Often the Perfectionist ... Views: 75
When Joeâs wife asks him to do something around the house, he always seems to go along and agrees to do it. But it rarely happens. He forgets about it, or he does a little bit of it but doesnât finish the job. Sometimes he does the job in a way that isnât really what she wanted. He feels vaguely ... Views: 72
Jeanette had low self esteem, all her teachers wondered about this. She was musically talented, but had no confidence in herself. She never tried out for the orchestra or school plays. As she got older, this pattern continued and she ended up with minimal jobs. She just assumed that she wouldnât ... Views: 58
This will only work if you are willing to feel a little discomfort when facing your fears. Most people stop as soon as they start feeling the fear. They talk themselves into thinking... âI just canât do itâ and they donât push through. Breakthroughs happen as a result of pushing ... Views: 72
Do you know that negative thoughts are generated deep in your subconscious mind for the express reason of controlling you and your actions? Do you know this means you already live in a "Matrix-like" mental prison in which your mind has been violated without your knowledge or consent? Does this ... Views: 89
Do you know that many individuals feel embarrassed by the ever present thought lurking in the back of their mind that the truth about how immature they feel inside will reach the light of day?
Do you know that many attempt to hide this feeling not only from others by presenting a seemingly ... Views: 91
Do you know that most people, whether they choose to admit it to themselves or not, feel a sense of inadequacy and incompleteness within? How do I know this? Well if you look around and witness the extent to which many attempt to prop themselves up with wealth, sexy looks, flashy clothes, fancy ... Views: 106
Do you know that many individuals give away their power and integrity through automatic people pleasing behaviors? Do you know that you probably do it without even knowing that you do? Do you know this is one of the chief causes of low self esteem and low self worth?
Do you know this ... Views: 101
Do you know that self sabotaging patterns are programmed into you when you are very young? Do you know that they stem from negative experiences of abuse, neglect, rejection, abandonment, humiliation etc. that caused you to identify yourself as a bad, unworthy, guilty and punishable person in ... Views: 123
Do you know that most people, without realizing it automatically operate from a series of subconsciously driven programs that cause them by default to feel and behave like dependent, small, helpless and needy children? Do you know this makes them unattractive, unsuccessful in relationships, feel ... Views: 80
Do you know the possibility of being permanently free of any/all limiting beliefs is now at hand? Do you know it requires that you commit yourself to being personally honest with yourself about what is "you" and what is foreign (mental propaganda) programming that has been downloaded into you? ... Views: 66
The Fear of Change has many negative consequences on one's life. These include all of the following:
1. Perpetuates unfulfilling relationships,
2. Enslaves one in endless self destructive habits,
3. Suffocates one's creative potential,
4. Leaves one feeling helpless to the whims and ... Views: 141
The way I learned to deal with my feelings was not to feel. One of the ways I learned to do this was to think of something different. For instance, I looked forward to getting some candy from the little store on my way home from school. I would get a cola soft drink and a frosted pastry or ... Views: 71
Do you sabotage yourself out of having the best orgasms ever?
This time I would like to address the subject of female orgasms and how to remove subconscious sabotage to reaching the best orgasms or multiple orgasms.
At another time Iâll address the issue of male orgasm, as the sabotage is ... Views: 65
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a major impediment to ever having or sustaining a successful and healthy relationship? Do you know most people who find themselves unconsciously sabotaging their relationships harbor this fear deep within them? Do you know that this fear often arises ... Views: 87
Effective couples therapy depends on a number of factors. Both partners must be willing to make a change. If one has already decided to give up and cannot reengage, then success is probably not possible. The key is to get to a therapist before your relationship has eroded too far. If one or both ... Views: 46
If you have never suffered from excessive anxiety, then it may be difficult to empathize with someone who has. Anxious people may seem to be worried about nothing of substance, so itâs tempting to disregard the problem. But the fact is, anxietyâincluding post-traumatic stress disorder, ... Views: 71
About one in four Americans is affected by a mental disorder in a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. How many of those seek help from a mental health professional? Not nearly enough. So quite a few people suffer who might not have to if they sought help.
But how ... Views: 70
Do you know that old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories of abandonment, rejection, heart break, humiliation, abuse, bullying and failure etc., are responsible for unattractive needy feelings and behaviors?
Do you know that those memories make one feel inadequate, vulnerable, ... Views: 76
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 71
Do you know the majority of individuals who have had critical, disapproving or abusive parents still carry the voices of those parents in their head?
Do you know those voices serve only to undermine one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, sense of adequacy, and the ability to succeed ... Views: 81
Contrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills. Not so the covert ... Views: 72
For several years, the VA has been under fire for repeated instances of negligence. Reports released by CBS in 2013 revealed that medical professionals associated with the VA prescribed 259% more narcotics than in 2002, and that individualized therapy had fallen by the wayside. An affiliate of ... Views: 74
A (somewhat) retired combat veteran, Sergeant Shane Savage, recently became a featured story as part of the New York Times. Savageâs story employs the multitude of struggles that thousands of other combat veterans face shortly after their discharge from service. Savage recalls his battles with ... Views: 108
According to a website called Army.mil, ever since WWI, mothers of fallen soldiers have dubbed themselves as âGold Star Mothersâ. The name derived from the Gold Star, a symbol in the military known for âloss and sacrificeâ. Ever since 1936, September 29th has officially been recognized by the ... Views: 61
Mothers are normally military minorities. Sure, women in general are gaining more recognition in the military, but surely many people forget that a large majority of these women are mothers as well as national heroes. However, balancing these two identities is hardly ever easy. One military ... Views: 62
People have always said that laughter is the best medicine, but is there really any truth to the saying? What sort, if any, medicinal benefits does laughter have on the body? What about the mind?
Discovery.com, the on-line database for the Discovery Channel, uses results from studying ... Views: 67
By Frosty Wooldridge
During your journey on Earth, you face incredible moments of joy, challenge and discomfort. You never know where those âmomentsâ may originate or for how long.
In your life, you may face an accident, loss of a loved one, disintegration of a friendship or disease. A ... Views: 79
Research shows that relationships are built from interactions, and interactions are built from moments. A critical moment in an interaction is when one person wants something from the other one. ("Wants" include wishes, needs, desires, hopes, and longings.) The want could be simple and concrete, ... Views: 50
"One of my coworkers is so annoying! She's always making personal calls when she's supposed to be working. Then when she can't finish her work she asks me for help!"
Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. "We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine ... Views: 65
"You must do the things you think you can't do." Eleanor Roosevelt
There are women all over the world risking their lives to become educated. We must support them. How can we do that? We must begin to lift the veil of unconsciousness. We can't pretend the emotional/physical abuse that is ... Views: 83
MoHow Posted By Joel Simms Itâs amazing how some simple, easy, positive actions can improve life. Saying "Thank You" and being grateful are two examples that have enormous power. In fact, they have the power to change your life in the most profound way.
My wife taught me to be grateful ... Views: 125
Do you know the single greatest impediment to one's success is the storehouse of negative memories of failure, humiliation and rejection that continues to reside in the subconscious mind?
Do you know those negative memories are responsible for procrastination, the fear of failure, the fear ... Views: 108
At times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world.
To help another ... Views: 93
When someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years.
So for some people, it ... Views: 59
The Subconscious Source of Negative Emotions
Most individuals are more aware of physical aches and pains than of their emotional counterparts. The latter, hard to clearly define or pin down include feeling states such as low self esteem, worry depression, feelings of inadequacy, low self ... Views: 87