I, Dr. Barry Hammer, have recently (January 2014) posted three BlogSpot Radio audio interviews and two YouTube videos discussing the two books that my beloved late father, Dr. Max Hammer, wrote with contributions from me and Dr. Alan C. Butler. These audio interviews and YouTube videos discuss ... Views: 60
Coping with our intensely passionate emotions and desires can be like riding a wild horse, or being inundated by a turbulent river, overflowing its banks, producing havoc for us, and for others around us. We become driven by demanding, insatiable, energies, that have a counterproductive, ... Views: 44
Although the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not ... Views: 43
LOVE IS A SHARED ENERGY OF BLESSING
Love is an expansive connective energy that enables individuals to experience the sublime grandeur of the core of their own being by sharing that relational energy with others. Empathically tuning into what is experientially genuine, naturally good, or ... Views: 47
Fear of success is as prevalent as fear of failure and is one of the main reasons why a lot of people are not fulfilling and maximizing their potential.
Most of the time, the fear of success is subconscious. As such it has much power. When the enemy is unknown it can stab you in the back. ... Views: 47
Sigmund Freud stated that dreams represent unresolved inner conflicts. Many intuitive folks that trust their dreams and intuition exclusively in choosing people, places, and experiences, may be losing out on some great opportunities.
Here's the catch on following your intuition or dream ... Views: 61
As much as I need my alone time I don't like to be alone.
Let me backtrack. A few months ago, on a Friday night, I found myself alone. My son was at his Dad’s house and my boyfriend was at band practice. I decided I was going to have a great night even if I was alone. I would eat a healthy ... Views: 47
There are many reasons why an individual's mental performance, as gauged by the ability to concentrate, focus, make clear and logical decisions, remember, have a clear an uncluttered mind, and to attend is less than optimal. One key and often missed reason which I address here and which is ... Views: 59
After a relationship ends one of the most difficult challenges is to learn to trust again. Yes, certainly it's hard to trust another person again but that is only the half of it. More significantly it becomes difficult to trust one's Heart again. Believe it or not this is a very serious life and ... Views: 39
Do you find yourself saying or doing things that habitually undermine your chances of relationship success? In other words are you repeatedly sabotaging your relationship? Do you know why? Do you want to stop? Here's your chance.
In many cases when self sabotaging behaviors seem to erupt in ... Views: 63
If you've experienced the grief and sadness of rejection, being cheated on etc., that creates a broken heart I'm afraid that scar will be there for the rest of your life and will affect in some significant way your ability to be fully trusting, open and intimate as your true self with all future ... Views: 57
The heartbreak of a breakup can leave painful scars on the Heart that often must be defended at all costs. Unfortunately this undermines one's courage to open themselves up again to a new potential lover in the same unbridled and authentic way. Sadly this leads to inauthentic or falsely ... Views: 43
‘A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five.’
-Groucho Marx, comedian
If I guaranteed you would lower your anxiety, calm your mind, renew, recharge, think more clearly, reduce your fear response and enhance your creativity – just by investing two five-minute ... Views: 60
The National Institute of Drug Abuse reports that 15 percent, that is one in six individuals in the U.S. has used cocaine. Research further shows that more people seek recovery assistance for cocaine use than any other drug.
Cocaine users between the ages of 18 and 25 also reported using other ... Views: 53
What is Guilt? Well quite simply it is an attack on one's Self! One of its main consequences is that it shuts down one's ability to fully express one's self and thereby leads to an unfulfilled life. Although many consider it to be a normal human emotion I intend to show you here that indeed it ... Views: 42
Do you know that giving away one's power means feeling like an indentured slave to the whims, needs and expectations of others? Do you know this leaves one feeling like they do not have full ownership of or control over the direction of their life?
Do you know that such individuals were ... Views: 50
Do you ever feel like life is against you? Do you walk around feeling angry most of the time? Do you spend a lot of your time feeling envious of others? Do you feel cheated or that life has been unfair to you? Well if you answered yes to any of the above then you will likely agree that you feel ... Views: 47
Do you know that most people walk around in a self sabotaging trance? Do you know most don't realize they are asleep and their minds have been hijacked? Do you know reading this will help you to momentarily wake up, notice your state of enslavement and motivate you to take back your mind and ... Views: 47
Keep making those Requests
Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment.
I have a friend of many years who as a teenager was experimenting with a rocket that exploded ... Views: 61
The 12 Steps are a powerful process for creating transformation in body, mind, emotions and spirit. This simple, step by step method can result in miracles. (Simple not being synonymous with easy). There is hard work involved as well as courage needed to face the denial and self-delusion ... Views: 72
You might not have a chance if you keep this up: A tendency to look for weaknesses, gaps, holes, things to improve, deficiencies and the like, and miss the boat on capitalizing on strengths in your relationship. We bring this tendency to how we view our partner and how we relate with them. We ... Views: 75
One would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ... Views: 61
Despite the relief that Craig felt when his wife Sophie did his bookkeeping for his landscape business he was frequently choked with shame. The conflict made him snappy and uninterested in spending leisure time with her. He dreaded going to bed at night because he didn’t want to face his ... Views: 61
Trudy a twenty-nine year old local newspaper reporter and Max a thirty-three year old limousine company owner had endless fights about who was doing the lion’s share of parenting their two children. They argued about what to do, how to do it, when to do it and who should take the blame when ... Views: 51
Driving home from his last landscape design consult, thirty-three year old Craig’s stomach was in knots wondering if Sophie would have gotten over the row she had with her mother the other day. He felt bad for his wife who had tried and failed to arrange a family dinner, taking out her ... Views: 57
How do traditional diet programs work? They are connected to nutritional restrictions and attempts to increase the number of calories used on a daily basis. The media tries to present it as a simple mathematical formula but for people who have struggled with weight loss, it is much more.
The ... Views: 64
Is it necessary or even desirable to totally eliminate memories in order to help eliminate stress? I don't believe it is necessary to eliminate the actual memory that is causing a negative response...but rather, one can eliminate the negative response and still maintain the memory. I have found ... Views: 54
When you look in the mirror, do you see reflected back the image you keep of yourself in your head? So often I feel that somehow time has raced ahead and left the “me” with whom I seem to personally identify, locked securely in image, thought and feeling, frozen in my mind. I look at my ... Views: 56
We've all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we're caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she's having an affair ... Views: 56
Do you have an addiction you simply can’t seem to get rid of? Try these techniques to help you boost success:
Improve your mental and physical health
It takes mental stamina and physical health to prevent relapsing. Trying to fight off an addiction is very draining mentally and physically. ... Views: 66
Loosening the grip of negative emotions through play is one of my favorite ways to shift out of misery into happiness. It’s not only fun but it’s healing as well. I’m quoted about this topic in a new book called Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds by Dr. Kelly Turner, which ... Views: 57
Many times we blame outside circumstances and other people for our own stagnant position in life. We remain stuck because we have not basically said "yes" to our goals or to whatever is calling us. It is so easy to indict a bad childhood, a divorce or some other force for our failure to ... Views: 36
Heroin addiction affects the lives of more than 9.2 million people across the globe, an estimated half million live in the United States. CDC resources show that there are 150,000 new users each year and nearly 20 percent of people in treatment report the drug as the reason. Sadly approximately ... Views: 45
Many strategies that deal with stress require ongoing vigilance and homework. The main reason for this is that none of them actually eliminate stress; they only help you "manage" it. Did you know that there is an unknown secret to completely eliminating stress from your life?
What is that ... Views: 56
Do you know that many people sabotage their relationships because of a fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, fear of being rejected or abandoned, feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and neediness just to name a few?
Do you know all this negativity is generated by old emotional baggage ... Views: 57
Do you know that neediness manifests in many destructive ways i.e. as feelings of insecurity and jealousy, controlling behaviors, the fear of being alone, the fear of rejection or abandonment, the fear of intimacy, the fear of commitment, the need to do surveillance or spy on your partner and so ... Views: 61
Do you know that feelings of jealousy are a) not a sign of how much you love someone b) make you a potentially controlling, needy, unattractive person and c) has the tendency to destroy your relationships? Do you also know that these negative feelings were actually imprinted "into" you as a ... Views: 41
Do you know that many people are addicted to toxic relationships that involve emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, manipulation, control, jealousy, clingy and smothering behaviors and so on? Do you know that many of these people repeatedly make bad ... Views: 67
Do you know that you were always meant to have a pure positive mind but when you arrived into this reality you were met by a social/family environment that programmed you to believe many negative things about yourself, others and the world around you?
Do you know that to this day many of you ... Views: 59
Do you know that many people harbor a deep and inescapable feeling of inadequacy inside? Do you know that such feelings are also responsible for low self confidence, low self worth, low self esteem, lack of motivation or enthusiasm for life, procrastination, anxiety, feelings of depression, self ... Views: 47
Do you know that procrastination is driven by old emotional programming hidden deep in the subconscious mind in the form of negative limiting beliefs and fears? Do you know that this programming behaves like an emotional straight-jacket that robs one of their power and freewill ability to act? ... Views: 57
Do you know that the only thing that stands between you and a peaceful positive mind is the internal "virtual movie" that you call your "negative past" hijacking your mind on a regular basis? Do you know that means that not only are your thoughts and feelings negative much of the time but it's ... Views: 47
When you lose someone to death, the tendency at first is to focus on how bad it is because you will never see them again. However, you can go through the mourning process more quickly when you go through memorabilia of the person and allow yourself to enjoy reminiscing. Read about this and other ... Views: 39
One slice of the pie of life feels relaxed and contented. And then there is that other slice, in which we feel driven and stressed. Trying to get pleasures, avoid pains, pile up accomplishments and recognitions, be loved by more people. Lose more weight, try to fill the hole in the heart. Slake ... Views: 32
Sometimes, in life, we become anxious in trying to have everything work out perfectly. We often seek the perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect spouse, the perfect car etc. The truth is there is no such "country" by that name. For one to experience real joy, everything does not have to be ... Views: 66
Finding what inspires you to become self actualized can greatly reduce anxiety. Inspiration can be found everywhere if one looks for it. It can be found in a baby's playful gurgling, a running brook, a floating cloud and the list goes on. There is literally no end to inspiration in the world ... Views: 49
Anxiety is often caused by the lingering effects of negative memories. In this article, you will be given tools to help you identify which memories are unresolved and how you can use simple thinking tools to heal your anxiety.
Anxiety takes many forms. It can be a panic attack where you feel ... Views: 54
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Thankfulness - by Dr. Emily DeCarlo (The DeCarlo Institue for the Healing Arts)
Thankfulness can not be over rated. It is the elixir that makes the trials of life more palatal. The tests that we face become much easier to digest when we wash them down with gratitude. We can not stop events that seem to be disastrous from occurring in our lives, but we can cushion ourselves ... Views: 41
Depression is often caused by the lingering effects of negative memories. In this article, you will be given tools to help you identify which memories are unresolved and how you can use simple thinking tools to heal your depression.
Many people who are plagued with depression, they can resolve ... Views: 64
Do you often feel like you don’t fit in your world? Do you sometimes see or hear things that other people don’t? Do you often feel like you have trouble paying attention and have lost interest in things that you used to enjoy?. Do you sometimes have trouble speaking and getting organized? Do you ... Views: 36