Do you know that many individuals make themselves martyrs and door mats because they believe deep down they'll be rewarded for doing so?
Do you know that there is no "reward" for this self destructive strategy besides death? Do you know that this tendency to submit as the punching bag of ... Views: 87
Do you know that self sabotaging thoughts and behaviors are generated subconsciously by programming based in negative memories from your past? Do you know that unless one can permanently erase/delete the memories driving that programming they will remain a helpless and self destructive being ... Views: 111
Do you know that a controlling personality actually controls the very person who has it? Do you know that the need to control others is driven by a need to compensate for deeply buried emotions such as: the fear of feeling disappointment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of feeling ... Views: 99
Do you know many individuals feel like needy, dependent, weak, vulnerable, helpless, frightened children inside? Do you know this "personality state" robs them of their self confidence, inner strength, courage, ability to trust and assert themselves, and ultimately of any real success or ... Views: 98
The happiest people I have seen on this planet so far are the newly arrived children. The saddest and most unhappy ones I have seen so far are the departing adults. The difference between the two is that the first ones have not yet accepted everything they are not, and are in tune with ... Views: 113
This week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ... Views: 109
When I was much younger and more naive, I used to buy into the New Age belief that we create our personal reality 100% of the time based on our thoughts. But, I've come to realize that this is only a partial truth. And, while our beliefs certainly do influence and affect our experience of ... Views: 122
Various “triggers” can put people at risk of relapsing into old patterns of addiction. A trigger can be as simple as people, places, or feelings that initiate a desire, or craving or reminder of past addictive behaviors. Causes of relapse can differ for each person. Pay attention ... Views: 110
Over five weeks ago I was approached by one of my patients on the unit who let me know that he hated his life. He talked about the various experiences he had and he was concerned that a short stay in rehab wouldn’t offer him the opportunity to find any kind of comfort or relief. I suggested that ... Views: 104
I remember a supervisor from the past whom I never thought had the right personality to be a psychiatrist. I mean, he was a little angry and domineering for my taste. But heck — I gave him a “bye” since he worked in a prison context.
I was never attacked by a prison patient through my ... Views: 70
When you work with and support others, do you experience: Feeling drained? Do you desire them to "get better"? Do you take on one more client because there is no one else? Are you attached to them making progress?
When I first heard the expression Divinely Selfish- I experienced a lot of ... Views: 110
It is good to explore the difference between exerting effort and applying oneself to something. The clarity that comes from that understanding can help us lead a peaceful life. One can then move on to sensing the deeper aspects of living on this planet.
We often feel elevated when we see a ... Views: 133
You visit your sick co-worker in the hospital or at home and he looks terrible. He's not sounding like himself and he's sharing way too much personal information. Then, you happen to see a pamphlet on the nightstand about a scary illness that you were not aware that he has. To top it off, some ... Views: 85
Perhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ... Views: 78
Do you enjoy a good fight? I don't but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times ... Views: 95
Keywords: A warm, refreshing orange aroma that fairly sparkles with brightness. Petitgrain is a top note often used in perfumery. Almost all cologne waters contain some petitgrain oil.
Steam distilled from the leaves of the bitter orange tree Petitgrain oil has a lovely fresh and revitalizing ... Views: 153
The title of this practice is a little tongue-in-cheek. What I mean is, most of us - me included - spend time worrying about criticism: past, present, and even future. Yes, try hard, keep agreements, "don't be evil," etc. But sooner or later - usually sooner - someone is going to point out the ... Views: 60
Life can feel like a perpetual classroom. You’re constantly learning. Sometimes you make mistakes and other times you get a gold star for your achievements. Once in a while, a particular lesson alludes you, no matter how many times you experience it. When frustrations build, you might consider ... Views: 71
Many relationships end miserably. Why is that? Well it's largely because the foundation upon which such relationships are initially based is inherently faulty. Let me explain.
If you ever stop to reflect on the underlying reasons why many individuals enter relationships in the first place you ... Views: 102
The fear of being honest.
Isn't that something you've struggled with at some point in your relationship? Well I'm sure more than once.
They belief is that honesty can be hurtful to the other person and therefore could have negative repercussions for you. Perhaps make you feel like a ... Views: 119
Does it ever feel like the negative thoughts intruding on your mind have a mind of their own? Does it ever feel like you are losing the battle waged at trying to reclaim full ownership over your freewill? Well that's because those negative thoughts are trying to hijack your mind and your life ... Views: 173
It is a common misconception that the critical inner voice that many harbor is somehow useful to them. In this article I outline a short exercise that will help bring clarity to how toxic it is and also help you begin to permanently silence it.
It is a common belief that the critical inner ... Views: 103
You've had many years of training in your craft as a performer, singer, actor etc. but if you still feel haunted by the ravages of Performance Anxiety your career may be in serious jeopardy.
Performance Anxiety, that familiar nemesis to all performers is often experienced as some or all the ... Views: 94
Anxiety is largely the result of what I call "emotional landmines" i.e. negatively charged memories stored in your unconscious mind and body that keep getting re-triggered by daily events thus leading to anxiety and other painful emotional and physical experiences. If you would like to know how ... Views: 105
The textbook formula for weight loss is apparently quite simple – eat less and start working out. It sounds simple but the weight loss reality is quite different. For thousands of people, it turns into a tremendous struggle that seems to almost have a predetermined end.
Have you been trying ... Views: 190
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 120
The impulse to get married almost seems programmed into us from a very early age. Many believe that being married reflects on how attractive, lovable, and successful they are as human beings. Do you know, however that most people who are thinking about marriage are not yet ready for such a ... Views: 134
Are you one of those individuals who "lives in the past"? Do you continually find yourself rehashing past events all the while wishing they could have been different, better, more satisfying or fulfilling? Do you continually use the past as a way of licking your wounds and as justification for ... Views: 85
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 123
As you move through your life do you ever find yourself repeating or recreating situations that are less than desirable? For instance do you find yourself caught in certain self sabotaging or self destructive habits that have taken control over your mind and life? Do you feel sufficiently ... Views: 161
Impotence, or erectile dysfunction, (E.D.), is afflicting many men. You can see that from the billions of dollars sales of drugs like Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra.
Sometimes, people die, when using these drugs. Sometimes, E.D. is just a way warning you that you have to look into the underlying ... Views: 72
Do you know that self sabotage happens when one is triggered into an auto pilot trance state like in which they actually lose awareness and control over what they are doing? Do you know this is much like texting while you are driving and then wind up getting into an accident?
Do you know ... Views: 111
Sometimes the people who need therapy the most are the very people who find it hardest to seek help. They’re afraid they’re wasting the therapist’s time. They’re afraid they’re wasting their own or their loved one’s money. They’re afraid of exposing their deepest selves—and of trying and ... Views: 62
It’s easy to see when your friend needs to dial it down at a party. When your cousin’s behavior is a little off. When things are off balance for someone else. But it’s not so easy to see about yourself. Sometimes you seek therapy precisely because you are not clear about where you are trying to ... Views: 63
Within the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ... Views: 109
Creativity is intelligence having fun.
-Albert Einstein, physicist
Do you think fun is frivolous? If so, perhaps you should think again.
Pause at the end of this paragraph – just for a few seconds – to recall a very happy, joyful, engaging moment from your life. Please stop and reflect ... Views: 123
An Oscar-nominated documentary called “The Invisible War” tackles the seemingly taboo subject of rape and sexual assault in the military. ABC News covered a quick story of the documentary and featured three women who bravely volunteered their personal stories of being raped while enlisted in the ... Views: 73
Intimate personal violence, which is similar to domestic violence, affects an estimated 12 million people, both men and women, per year. That is according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, where plenty of similarly shocking statistics can be found. For instance, “more than 1 ... Views: 77
Operation: I.V is a 501(c)3 non-profit founded in 2012 that helps combat veterans heal from both PTSD as well as traumatic brain injuries. Its founder, Roxann Abrams, is a Gold Star Mother who lost her son SFC Randy Abrams in 2009. Randy took his own life after experiencing a PTSD flashback from ... Views: 75
“People of Western Europe, the hour of your liberation is approaching. All patriots, men and women, young and old, have a part to play in the achievement of final victory. This landing is but the opening phase of the campaign of Western Europe. Great battles lie ahead. I call upon all who love ... Views: 73
According to an article released by CBS News called “Fake Service Dogs a Growing Problem,” real service dogs help assist a wide variety of individuals, including “people who use power or manual wheelchairs, have balance issues, have various types of autism, need seizure alert or response, need ... Views: 65
Divorce - it's a word that makes me cringe every time I hear it. Mine was thirty-two years ago (not of my choosing) and was one of the most painful periods of my life. Two people brought together in love take a sacred vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for eternity. No one ever says, ... Views: 216
Do you know many individuals find themselves so irretrievably stuck in emotionally abusive relationships that often they literally become "numb" to the toxic consequences of their situation? Do you know this "unconsciousness" is perhaps the single most important factor keeping one stuck in and ... Views: 84
How many times have you been told by a girlfriend that you were afraid of an emotional commitment? Well if this sounds familiar then you've landed in the right place. Let me tell you why.
What is meant by a fear of "emotional commitment"? Well there are many interpretations of this so I'll ... Views: 107
Have you been told that you are a passive aggressive person? Is your life being ruined by pent up anger that controls you in ways that elude you? Are you ready to take full control over your life and redefine who you are and how you wish to be in the world?
If so then this will interest ... Views: 103
"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss
How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced ... Views: 124
You may have seen the old Mickey Mouse movie in which he is working at a conveyor belt in a factory. More and more widgets come at him that he has to handle, and he gets increasingly frazzled as he struggles to keep up.
Do you ever feel the same way? Think about all the dishes, emails, ... Views: 60
Neil Findlay says he is just, “An ordinary person out there doing some stuff.” But he is so much more than that. Both Neil and his wife have dedicated some of their working years and now their “retirement” to helping children around the world. They are both an inspiration for what we can all ... Views: 122
Summary: Daniel was told to seal his book “till the time of the end,” but his book defines that time. His vision [chazon] of a ram and goat is at the time of the end, Daniel 8:17. Historians confirm the ram as the Medes and Persians conquered by Alexander the Great, but that was not the time of ... Views: 103
In several other articles I have pointed out that because of men's socialization patterns many are not only unable to express their emotions they are more seriously also unable to "feel" them.
So how can one express what one doesn't feel? Well simply, you can't!
So how does one kick start ... Views: 126