Many individuals suffer with the fear of abandonment. The havoc it wreaks in one's relationships is, just that, the high risk of being abandoned. So like a self fulfilling prophecy it draws the same negative consequences to itself thereby making it stronger and more intractable. Sadly few ever ... Views: 56
Emotional baggage is a term often used to describe the weight of limitation in the form of negative beliefs, perceptions, feelings, habits and behaviors that blocks us from realizing a joyful and fulfilling life. All of the above reside within your unconscious mind as a series of negative ... Views: 47
It is a common misconception that the critical inner voice that many harbor is somehow useful to them. In this article I outline a short exercise that will help bring clarity to how toxic it is and also help you begin to permanently silence it.
It is a common belief that the critical inner ... Views: 78
One significant culprit that erodes a positive attitude is the deeply ingrained feeling of inadequacy that is generated by unconsciously stored negative memories from childhood that constantly remind you how deficient you are. With this negative backdrop the idea of a positive attitude often ... Views: 80
For people who have endured serious trauma, the concept of anniversaries isn’t so special. “Anxiety anniversaries” act as psychological bookmarks in a person’s memory that takes them back to a specific traumatic incident that occurred during a certain time of year. Both the APA and the U.S, ... Views: 86
There are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ... Views: 72
Do you know that one of the underlying causes of toxic relationships is the fear of abandonment? Do you know this fear causes one to become needy, controlling, manipulative, bullying, jealous, insecure, vulnerable, anxious and unattractive, to name a few, thereby making them and their ... Views: 64
Do you know that many new relationships are haunted by the specter of old failed relationships? Do you know that old emotional baggage from past breakups invariably lead to unresolved feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, mistrust, resentment, sadness, failure, and a fear of intimacy, to name a ... Views: 108
Shame is, next to anger, one of the most corrosive, energy depleting and toxic negative emotions that one can harbor in one's body.
If you reconnect to this emotion inside you as you consider an event or incident that has "imprinted" you with this toxicity I think you will recognize the ... Views: 67
Many men suffer from paralyzing shyness that hinders their ability to approach and/or feel confident in the presence of attractive women. What is at the root of this problem and can anything be done about it?
Shyness is associated with underlying pre-programmed beliefs/emotions that take over ... Views: 84
I was trained in therapeutic hypnosis and hypnoanalysis and used it in my medical practice for over 15 years. Initially it was extremely exciting to have such a wonderfully powerful modality to work with. Its mysterious and almost magical power was extremely seductive to me and to many of those ... Views: 90
Did you know that negative thoughts are similar to hypnotic suggestions that seduce you into believing something about yourself that isn't true? What's more, did you know that it's possible to become completely "de-hypnotized" and permanently wake up to the real you? If this has sparked a moment ... Views: 71
When individuals lack a sense of self esteem, self worth, and self confidence often they also feel themselves to be unattractive and unlovable. Not only do such feelings impair and undermine their ability to attract a suitable partner they also motivate the emergence of self sabotaging behaviors ... Views: 61
There are many unhealthy unconscious reasons that lead individuals to seek out a relationship. These include things such as:
1. The fear of being alone.
2. The fear that one will not make it in life alone.
3. The need to be taken care of.
4. The belief that one needs the help of ... Views: 112
Do you know that many individuals who struggle with emotional intimacy issues in relationships harbor a deep fear that they may become passive and/or dependent on their partner? Do you know that this fear serves as a huge impediment to relationship success? Do you know that there is a way to ... Views: 60
Do you know that neediness is the central cause of unhealthy and unsustainable co-dependent relationships? Do you know that needy "stuff" exists because you still see and experience your self as a small, helpless, vulnerable, child who needs to be loved, wanted, nurtured, taken care of and made ... Views: 98
To be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors.
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Over and over again I meet individuals who carry the war scars of previous failed relationships. These scars create many problems, one of the most significant is the closing down of their hearts to ever being able to love again. From there on relationships become simply about making sure they ... Views: 56
In a recent film the actor Tom Cruise makes the famous and well remembered statement "You complete me". Is it really possible to find a sense of completion even in the best of relationships? Here I expound on why a feeling of completion can never come through another. I also outline the true ... Views: 113
Emotional baggage is the term given to a repertoire of unconsciously stored primitive and dysfunctional tapes that take control of your mind and life and run them into the ground. If you'd like to learn how you can permanently delete these tapes and take complete control over your self then this ... Views: 83
A positive mind set is not only achievable it is your birthright. To learn why you are so sidelined by negative thinking and how to find the way home read this.
A positive "mind set" connotes a state of mind that includes such things as: clarity, peace of mind, the ability to focus, ... Views: 66
All of us date for different reasons. Sometimes theses reasons are unknown to our conscious mind. With application of thought and reflection, we can find out what we want from our dating partner and once we know what we want we can begin breaking down the walls of shyness.
Reasons come ... Views: 83
The fear of withdrawal keeps many individuals from getting the help they need to quit their alcohol or drug addiction. Perhaps they have heard someone talk about their painful and frightening withdrawal symptoms and now they are afraid that they will experience the same.
However, it is ... Views: 63
In a sense, we are all transmitting, or broadcasting energy all of the time via our thoughts, feelings and beliefs, as everything is energy and has frequency. Yet I wanted to go deeper here and share with you what I know to be possible, which I am referring to as the “sacred art of transmission” ... Views: 97
The issue of facing challenges is a very interesting point. Take a moment and check in with yourself and see “How do you face challenges?” Notice if any of these suggestions rang true with you:
* Avoid dealing with person or situation that feels challenged
* Complain about challenges
* ... Views: 94
When someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ... Views: 69
Are you one of those people who fears being rejected by others? Does this fear make you overly cautious about how you behave around them? Does it inhibit your self expression and your spontaneity? Does it make you feel and appear needy? Does it in fact make you so unattractive to others that it ... Views: 97
Do you know that neediness in the form of clingyness, jealousy, feelings of insecurity, fears of being alone, fears of abandonment and rejection, the need to do surveillance, the tendency to manipulate and control, and even to blackmail, to name a few are highly destructive not only to your ... Views: 116
Just because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ... Views: 65
I've been blessed in my life. I've had eighteen dogs, all of whom were sweet and loving. I've never had an aggressive dog with the exception of one - Huggy Bear. Huggy was a black Great Dane that came to us when he was just a pup. Big floppy ears, giant paws, and a single white spot on his chest ... Views: 93
All you have to do is read through what is presented here and as you do simply notice how what you feel inside begins to change and evolve.
Cravings supposedly motivate one to reach out for whatever is craved in order to fill the inner state of emptiness one feels, to alleviate ... Views: 99
Do you know that co-dependent neediness is supposed to help one get others to love, appreciate, need, accept, like, respect, and want (to name a few) the person who is engaging this tendency? Do you know it does exactly the opposite and turns that person into a pariah?
Do you know ... Views: 111
Do you know that co-dependent patterns mean that one is stuck in needy child like states while trying to have adult relationships? Do you know this will only lead to self sabotage and failed relationships? Do you know it's possible to permanently and completely release such unhealthy immature ... Views: 75
Do you know that old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories of abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection, humiliation, failure, failed relationships, mistakes etc. are primarily responsible for all negative thoughts and feelings that undermine your self esteem?
Do you know that much ... Views: 59
Do you know that most individuals yearn for an experience of the Authentic Self they lost somewhere in childhood? Do you know that "self" has largely been exiled from it's natural home, i.e. its mind/body, by a steady stream of negative conditioning that has negated it and subsequently hijacked ... Views: 67
"Tell the truth." It's the foundation of science, ethics, and relationships.
But we have a brain that evolved to tell lies to help us survive. As I've written before, over several hundred million years our ancestors:
* Had to avoid two kinds of mistakes: thinking there's a tiger in the ... Views: 43
Mind Your Own Side of the Fence!
We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately.
I find that ... Views: 82
Cultivate Your Intimacy!
The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ... Views: 99
Attune to Your Partner!
What is a Successful Relationship?
Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ... Views: 79
According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), there are more than 4 million people who habitually abuse or are addicted to Methamphetamine in the U.S. and almost 12 million individuals that have tried the drug at least once.
However, SAMHSA also reported ... Views: 69
What is a controlling relationship?
Well it's when one or both partners attempt to get the other to meet their needs in order to help themselves feel secure.
Now this may sound a bit strange to some of you as you find yourselves scratching your heads wondering what the problem is here. ... Views: 84
Anger is a common emotion experienced by individuals whose relationship has recently ended. Many would like to be able to dispense with such feelings but instead find themselves caught in the endless loop of having to fuel the anger by reminding themselves of the hurts, deceptions, lies, abuse ... Views: 115
Any unsuccessful relationship leaves residual feelings of sadness and grief. Now as so-called "normal" human beings we are expected to bear these feelings. Many therapists will tell you for instance that having such feelings is a normal part of the process, a normal part of living.
In this ... Views: 115
Freedom from a negative past may seem like a fantasy because no one can change the past, or can they? Learn how that past can be permanently erased from your unconscious mind and body freeing you to live a conscious and self determined life.
It is not only no longer necessary to live with ... Views: 52
If you want to free yourself from the pervasive barrage of negative thoughts that are draining your energy, enthusiasm, joy for life, motivation, confidence, sense of adequacy and hope then read this.
Negative thoughts emerge into conscious awareness from the depths of the unconscious mind ... Views: 93
Are you living a life of quiet frustration? Do you feel like something inside of you is blocking you from fully expressing yourself and manifesting all that you desire? Is your motivation and enthusiasm to try anything new at low ebb? If so then you most certainly carry within you a repertoire ... Views: 76
Are you feeling controlled by negative self destructive thoughts, feelings and behaviors? Well if you'd like to learn where they come from and how you can permanently delete them so as to take back your mind read this.
Negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors, contrary to popular opinion, do ... Views: 45
Listening to what lies behind the thought process can be quite helpful in understanding ourselves beyond the verbal explanations. Certain periods in our daily routine are conducive to that listening. It is good to pay attention to those times of inner silence.
The Conditioned Mind
True ... Views: 113
Why do most relationships fail? Is it because of a fear of commitment, a fear of being honest, a fear of intimacy, the result of co-dependent neediness, etc.? Well would you be surprised that many of these are only the surface veneer to a much deeper problem that each individual presents with ... Views: 138
The fear of abandonment can place significant stresses on a relationship. So much so that it often leads to the very outcome that is feared. Is there some way to permanently release what amounts to early life programming so as to help restore both you and your relationship to life?
As ... Views: 58