By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
When the narcissist has money, he can exercise his sadistic urges freely and with little fear of repercussions. Money shields him from life itself, from the outcomes and consequences of his actions; it insulates him warmly ... Views: 212
This blog is part 2 of "The Mother Connection" blogpiece, and is a part of Susanna’s book.
It’s impossible today for any of us to not be triggered around our own “enough-ness,” given how much our culture uses this very concept to demonstrate and than sell to us what we need to feel ... Views: 204
Trust is what allows us to believe in ourselves, in others, and in situations. When put into action, it looks like our being confident and knowing that all will be okay no matter what. Liberator of the constraints of our fears and anxiety, from a trusting place, we feel spacious, light, and more ... Views: 206
Dear friend, how often have you heard the saying, the good things in life are free, yet we neglect this simple but profound message. Daily we are bombarded by various advertisements beseeching us to use this and use that to enhance our well-being. (excerpted from my eBook 8 Simple Ways to Live a ... Views: 177
From simple annoyance to fiery rage, loss of temper, with its emotional and physiological mayhem, so mess with your life that it’s time to prevent, not just manage the thunder. Lashing out in anger over even the smallest slights or obstacles only makes sense if your goal is to strip yourself of ... Views: 146
We think we're one type of person. Until . . .
*Someone makes us angry.
*Does something we don't like.
*Run into problems.
*Things don't work out the way we expect them to.
Then who do we become? A stranger even to ourselves. We close our hearts. We withdraw. We yell. We ... Views: 226
Music is KEY to Good Health after Crisis
As a native of the South, I wanted to make a contribution to the field of Psychology through my research on the Katrina survivors in Mississippi and Louisiana. Another reason, was I wanted to identify if individuals who experienced crisis became ... Views: 142
Being burgled can be psychologically devastating for victims, not just because of the value of stolen items, but for the greater loss of treasured memories associated with keepsakes whether or not they are insured. Many people report sleep loss, feelings of impotent rage or personal invasion as ... Views: 101
How to be a good pole dancer; Tips for Buying a Portable Dance Pole
how long to learn pole dancing; If you're interested in buying a removable dance pole, it's a good idea to get an idea of what is available on the market. Though they are becoming very popular and there are several different ... Views: 145
how to be a great pole dancer; Pole Dancing Safety Tips Everyone Should Heed
How to become a good pole dancer; Pole dancing for fitness is a fun and rewarding form of exercise. As a beginner pole dancer, it can tempt to rush in and pole dance your life away, but besides the fun, there is a more ... Views: 113
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled. Having ... Views: 159
I abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ... Views: 144
How can a group of 80 million young Americans suffering from mind-bogglingly high unemployment rates still be positive, buoyant and survive? Leave it to Millennials to do exactly that.
With $200 billion in buying power, they are optimistic, confident, self-expressive, liberal, upbeat and ... Views: 109
What would your life be like if you trusted yourself and the Universe to deliver completely on your hopes and dreams? What would you feel like? What would you be like and act like out in the world? Would you take more risks? Be bolder? Would you follow your dreams with more determination and ... Views: 184
Some folks may ask, “What does it mean to be still, and the benefits?”
If we want to change our circumstances, we have to kill our emotional fits.
These are a particular blend when talking about having experienced PTSD.
Rewinding a past, treacherous event blocks us from reaching, you ... Views: 152
It is important to know that our destiny was formed before PTSD.
All the events in our lives are just like pieces of a puzzle, you see.
Our vision is obstructed by the trauma of those certain events, too.
The corrupted circuit board of our thinking is in our head that keeps us blue.
This ... Views: 122
Charter PTSD Circumstances For Our Higher Purpose
In Luke 22:32 Jesus lovingly instructs Peter to endure through his faith, you see.
Christ knows there is a plan for who we are, and who we are meant to be.
He knows that there is a dark force that seeks to devour us before we are ... Views: 158
Global organizations are looking for more productivity, tighter budgets, fast growth, technological transformations, and multiple gateways generate stronger revenues. Irrespective of the size of the company, they are striving to compete for the top positions to rule the market and gain thick ... Views: 152
Unattractive, stupid, lazy, lacking self-control…is that what you not-so-secretly think of the nearly 70% of adults with “overbesity,” that is, those affected by overweight or obesity? If so, read on. You may be a fat shaming bully and not even know it.
I was working out in the gym yesterday, ... Views: 196
“What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.” - Norman Vincent Peale
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it,” remarked the Greek philosopher Aristotle.
If you were to read no further than that line, ... Views: 168
STRESS – PUBLIC HEALTH ENEMY #1 OR IS IT?
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Stress!! Such a killer. Stress has been deemed a ... Views: 149
“So the ‘magical’ golden shield, led to him winning the Heavyweight Championship of the World?” I asked him incredulously. I couldn’t believe what I had just heard.
Paddy Fitzpatrick, trainer of two-time boxing World Title challenger and current European champion George Groves, was telling me ... Views: 286
It hurts. Rape and sexual abuse are a scalding kind of pain. Still, it is possible to heal. Even from this pain.
1.Celebrate your survival. You’re here and you’re alive. You made it. You may be a bit frayed around the edges, but who wouldn’t be? In spite of all that you’ve been through, ... Views: 135
If you're discontented in a relationship or go from one to another or even remain unhappily alone, you may be caught in a worsening cycle of abandonment.
People tend to think of abandonment as something physical, like neglect. Loss of physical closeness due to death, divorce, and illness is ... Views: 152
Do you feel easily overwhelmed or over-stimulated when there is a lot going on around you?
Are you easily affected by the moods and emotions of others and seem to pick up their energy?
Has your enthusiasm you once had for life and work waned into exhaustion and disillusionment?
If you ... Views: 145
Meditation Transformation – What’s Stopping You?
If you could change your brain for the better, would you? If you could increase your working memory and enhance your decision-making ability by meditating, would you give it a try?
What if you could also: Slow down the natural decline of your ... Views: 148
It does not have to be a certain holiday or time of year.
Anytime we feel the spirit move us, it is time to clear.
Perhaps, another sign to do this becomes more evident.
We can become inspired through a person or event.
Those of us with PTSD can relate to this in the mind.
We have an ... Views: 133
I was truly blessed: when my first husband and I married I acquired a second set of parents. I could not have loved "Bob" and "Mary" more and their fondness for me was generously reciprocated. For the eighteen years I was with their son, we were family. However, my husband's decision to end our ... Views: 232
There is no such thing as a vacuum in nature and the same is true of most peoples’ minds. They are full of beliefs, opinions and knowledge that they depend on to give them some identity and meaning. However, the more you fill your mind with beliefs and knowledge the more closed and fixed you ... Views: 209
We humans invest huge amounts of energy, time and resources trying to create a sense of certainty and security. Uncertainty can terrify us because it threatens the control we believe we have over life, and so we cling to those things that are supposed to bring us certainty, and refuse to ... Views: 250
One version of couples struggling that I come across are couples with partners that are codependent. These are the couples that are stuck in patterns that they can’t seem to break, they have a lot of fighting and drama or complete disconnect (conflict avoiding), they feel they are behind their ... Views: 196
Do you find that your interactions with your partner include some of the following?
Poor or no eye-contact
Giving of the back or talking to the back
Talking to the air
Not responding, acknowledging or answering questions
Shutting down, ignoring
... Views: 183
“We want to change our lives, rather than use our lives, the present moment, as part of our spiritual practice. But, in order to really capture the energy of nirvana and become one with it, we need a partnership with the ordinary world. If we never tire of situations, our energy is joyous. If ... Views: 311
Elizabeth knew that something was wrong at work.
She was being interrupted during discussions, ignored in conversations, and excluded from meetings. She didn’t have a clue what it was about, but the stress of not knowing was undermining her confidence.
Elizabeth felt confused, ... Views: 182
It is an uncomfortable habit that feels so familiar it becomes comfortable. It turns up the volume on fear so high that to move in any direction instills a panicky feeling. You feel trapped and victimized, convincing yourself that doing anything different will kill you.
Have you ever felt ... Views: 206
I find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are meant to do I find that we do not take the time to design our ... Views: 180
Hibernating (from the cold).....What's it good for??
As I travel on my spontaneous journey, I am eager to see the places I am visiting. I have made some sacrifices to take this journey so I want to get all the pleasure from it I can. I am currently in the city I was most looking forward to ... Views: 314
As an adult, you are probably leading a very busy lifestyle. You have kids to take care of, you have a research paper that needs to be finished, or you have a quota at work that you need to accomplish. And because you are so pre-occupied with a lot of things, you may not have enough time for ... Views: 114
Usually we have good intentions and mean to invest in our relationship. Somehow this fizzles from the moment we have that thought or attitude to the next moment… We are very fickle in our thinking about the status and course of our relationship. One moment we are partners for life, the next we ... Views: 181
A key ingredient in a satisfying relationship is Understanding. When we don’t feel understood we are out of sinc with one another and our needs can’t be met.
Understanding validates our existence, is respectful and mindful. It is amazing that most people do not have this necessary ingredient ... Views: 166
When we are babies we learn to get our needs met by alerting our parents of a poopie diaper, hungry belly, or an ouchie with our crying. As adults, we continue to try to get our needs met with our �crying�. Our crying has become more sophisticated over time and now takes the form of criticism, ... Views: 177
How does this happen? Here we are loving a person and doing our best to show them we love, cherish and want to be with them to fail miserably at conveying that message. This is even worse when compounded by difficulties and lack or relationship skills partners bring to the table.
But, it ... Views: 164
Everyone experiences feelings of sadness or discouragement from time to time. Most people have these emotions for a few hours or days at a time. Up to one-fifth of the world's population, however, suffer from a condition called clinical depression, in which these moods last for several days, ... Views: 121
When I was a child my dad would take all of us for a "Sunday drive". Mom, my sisters, and I would pile into his 1950's Chevy sedan with the green vinyl seat covers and off we'd go. I never knew where he was taking us or when we would arrive home. But two things I knew for sure: Dad would ... Views: 212
We all have a ‘dark side’ though most of us are afraid to admit to it. We prefer to think of ourselves of good people. That means that most of us are in, what is called by the experts, a state of denial. It is a state that the human race can no longer ignore, for we all can be murderers if we ... Views: 218
As you learn NOT to take anything personally, you will bring harmony into your relationships. For example, someone may say or do something that feels like an attack on your self-worth, wellbeing or your beliefs. If you retaliate by defending or protecting yourself, you disrupt the connection ... Views: 189
Imagine for a moment, a pie chart.
Now imagine (for the sake of this example) that pie chart represents objective, external reality.
Now imagine that your beliefs are the mechanism through which you gradually unveil and fill in more and more of the pie chart.
As you become more ... Views: 179
Is lack of trust undermining your connection with your partner and wreaking havoc in your relationship? Lack of trust might extend to beliefs that your partner is cheating. Or it can be as simple as not trusting your partner to be there, follow through, keep their word, be accountable, get your ... Views: 192
Here are two universal truths about self-esteem:
Building your self-esteem is essential for confidence and success, and it all begins with you.
People with a healthy self-esteem are able to define their worth, value and achievements.
Many people suffer from low self-esteem. This is ... Views: 150
There will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white.
How one spends their time will ... Views: 233