Mind Your Own Side of the Fence!
We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately.
I find that ... Views: 87
Cultivate Your Intimacy!
The hecticness and speediness of today’s pace of life makes it challenging for partners to synchronize, connect and bond. Add to this each partner’s limitations and the journey to Intimacy can feel pretty daunting. It’s no wonder partners ... Views: 106
Attune to Your Partner!
What is a Successful Relationship?
Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ... Views: 85
According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), there are more than 4 million people who habitually abuse or are addicted to Methamphetamine in the U.S. and almost 12 million individuals that have tried the drug at least once.
However, SAMHSA also reported ... Views: 74
What is a controlling relationship?
Well it's when one or both partners attempt to get the other to meet their needs in order to help themselves feel secure.
Now this may sound a bit strange to some of you as you find yourselves scratching your heads wondering what the problem is here. ... Views: 87
Anger is a common emotion experienced by individuals whose relationship has recently ended. Many would like to be able to dispense with such feelings but instead find themselves caught in the endless loop of having to fuel the anger by reminding themselves of the hurts, deceptions, lies, abuse ... Views: 122
Any unsuccessful relationship leaves residual feelings of sadness and grief. Now as so-called "normal" human beings we are expected to bear these feelings. Many therapists will tell you for instance that having such feelings is a normal part of the process, a normal part of living.
In this ... Views: 122
Freedom from a negative past may seem like a fantasy because no one can change the past, or can they? Learn how that past can be permanently erased from your unconscious mind and body freeing you to live a conscious and self determined life.
It is not only no longer necessary to live with ... Views: 56
If you want to free yourself from the pervasive barrage of negative thoughts that are draining your energy, enthusiasm, joy for life, motivation, confidence, sense of adequacy and hope then read this.
Negative thoughts emerge into conscious awareness from the depths of the unconscious mind ... Views: 98
Are you living a life of quiet frustration? Do you feel like something inside of you is blocking you from fully expressing yourself and manifesting all that you desire? Is your motivation and enthusiasm to try anything new at low ebb? If so then you most certainly carry within you a repertoire ... Views: 80
Are you feeling controlled by negative self destructive thoughts, feelings and behaviors? Well if you'd like to learn where they come from and how you can permanently delete them so as to take back your mind read this.
Negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors, contrary to popular opinion, do ... Views: 46
Listening to what lies behind the thought process can be quite helpful in understanding ourselves beyond the verbal explanations. Certain periods in our daily routine are conducive to that listening. It is good to pay attention to those times of inner silence.
The Conditioned Mind
True ... Views: 119
Why do most relationships fail? Is it because of a fear of commitment, a fear of being honest, a fear of intimacy, the result of co-dependent neediness, etc.? Well would you be surprised that many of these are only the surface veneer to a much deeper problem that each individual presents with ... Views: 144
The fear of abandonment can place significant stresses on a relationship. So much so that it often leads to the very outcome that is feared. Is there some way to permanently release what amounts to early life programming so as to help restore both you and your relationship to life?
As ... Views: 59
If you still feel like a victim of your past it's because it is still inside you and hijacking your mind away from you at every moment. There is now a way to permanently free yourself and reinstate your positive self at the helm.
Why do old negative tapes constantly replay themselves in one's ... Views: 58
Do you know how worry can chew up much of your energy, enthusiasm and create enormous amounts of mental, emotional and physical stress? Do you know that worry is actually not a normal human emotion and that it can be completely and irreversibly purged from your mind and body? How do you do that, ... Views: 115
Do you know that destructive negative thoughts have a life of their own? Do you know that such thoughts are not actually generated by you rather emerge like toxic fumes from the depths of your unconscious mind from negative memories of the past?
Do you know that as long as those memories ... Views: 90
Do you know most people who experience feelings of jealousy consider it a normal human emotional reaction? Do you know, however, that jealous feelings are a clear sign of neediness that make you unattractive and can seriously jeopardize your chances of ever having a healthy stable relationship? ... Views: 130
Do you ever worry that wanting to do something that feels right to you will disappoint someone else? Even worse does this worry then block you from doing what you really wanted and cause you to capitulate only to protect the other and your integrity as a caring and compassionate person?
If ... Views: 104
Do you know that many people feel so unsure of themselves that in order to move forward in their lives they must first get the approval of others?
Do you know that this leaves them feeling inadequate, dependent, needy, enslaved, trapped, weak, lacking confidence, frustrated, vulnerable to ... Views: 91
Do you know that feelings of neediness and dependence make one unattractive, prone to rejection, and winding up alone and lonely? Do you know that few individuals realize that neediness and dependence can be completely eradicated/erased from their life leaving them feeling free, strong, self ... Views: 83
Do you know that many individuals make themselves martyrs and door mats because they believe deep down they'll be rewarded for doing so?
Do you know that there is no "reward" for this self destructive strategy besides death? Do you know that this tendency to submit as the punching bag of ... Views: 113
Do you know how the need to please others can completely debilitate you? Do you know how it robs your life away and enslaves you to the whims of others?
Do you know how, in spite of its good intentions, it fails as a strategy to get approval, love, validation, self esteem, self worth, and a ... Views: 99
Do you know the only reason most individuals suffer from low self esteem is because they carry within them old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories stored in the subconscious mind that reminds them regularly of how inadequate, stupid, unlovable, unwanted, bad, unworthy, ... Views: 87
Making your own personal relaxation audio can be effective in helping you practice and master many of the relaxation techniques and methods you've learned so far. This particular script includes relaxed breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, imagery, and suggestion.
Preparing Your ... Views: 104
Anxiety Free New Year’s Resolutions
The new year is only a day old, and my client Wendy is looking at her list of resolutions. They’re the things she’s focused on every January for the past three years – more exercise, better eating habits, more accomplishment at work, more patience with her ... Views: 127
There are three obsessive behaviors that you are likely to be engaging in that is impeding your healing process and stopping you from enjoying a stress-free life. Recognizing these barriers can be a great first step toward getting rid of the problems that go with being too stressed.
The first ... Views: 116
One glorious day, a small miracle happened. It was at a professional tennis tournament in Turkey that I was about to play in. I was in the qualifying draw and playing against someone who was ranked much higher than me. He was also bigger, hit the ball harder, played smarter, and was much younger ... Views: 124
Navigating the Waters of Grief …
Grieving a loss of any kind can seem as if a storm has ripped away our sail from a well-charted life.
The loss of a loved one, a pet, employment, a lifestyle, physical health, or a way of being can seem as if we were unexpectedly thrown overboard into the ... Views: 112
Do you find yourself repeated saying or doing things that undermine the strength and quality of your relationship? Do you sometimes feel like someone or something has hijacked your brain, your body or your mouth and all you can do is sit by and watch the demise of your relationship? Well you're ... Views: 78
Are you one of those individuals who constantly frets about your man running off with another woman even when the signs that he might are nonexistent? Do you get anxious, insecure, needy of constant reassurance from your man in order to make you feel like he really loves you and will continue to ... Views: 80
Do you worry, perhaps even go into a panic at the thought that your partner might leave you. Does this evoke powerful or devastating feelings of abandonment? Well then would it surprise you if I said that you have been pre-programmed to have your abandonment fears become a self fulfilling ... Views: 73
Do you know that needy behavior marks one as a person lacking in self confidence, self esteem, and self worth and makes them very unattractive, except maybe to other "needy" individuals? Do you know neediness therefore limits one's relationship life and potential success? Do you know neediness ... Views: 121
Do you know that those negative voices in your head are foreign intruders that are attempting to hijack your freewill mind and your life away from you?
Do you know they attempt to distract and throw you off balance by trying to convince you you're inadequate, stupid, a loser and failure, ... Views: 129
Do you know that every negative event you have ever experienced has left an emotional scar that limits you in some area of your life today? Do you know that the cumulative sum of all this is what many refer to as their emotional baggage? Do you know that, whether you like it or not, you are ... Views: 66
Do you know how much of your time and energy is wasted by the constant flow of negative thoughts through your conscious mind? Do you know those thoughts behave like "friction" in the mind slowing you down and making life feel difficult and effortful? Do you know those thoughts undermine your ... Views: 75
Power exists in all relationships. Having power means to have a sense of control, to have choices and the ability to influence our environment and others. It’s a natural and healthy instinct to exert our power to get our wants and needs met. When we feel empowered, we can manage our emotions, we ... Views: 120
If you are like most individuals I'm sure you've experienced some form of rejection at one time or other in your life. You may not realize it but the emotional charge associated with these memories remain stored within you along side their corresponding memories. They behave as what I call ... Views: 81
There are many individuals who carry the fear they will be rejected by friends, family, colleagues, or their partner. Unfortunately the fear itself is the real problem because it leads to a self fulfilling prophecy that often cannot be avoided. There is now a way to free your self from the ... Views: 114
Do you know many people believe that if they feel jealous about their partner having friends of the opposite sex that these feelings are a sign of their love for their partner? Do you know this is actually a sign of their neediness, insecurity, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment and so on? ... Views: 115
Do you know that most people believe that love is based on having one's needs met by their partner? Do you this definition of love is unhealthy and leads to a cycle of abusive relationships that eventually sours one's desire for them? Do you know there is a more healthy definition that few know ... Views: 123
Do you know that most relationships are founded on the bedrock of neediness in one or both partners? Do you know this leads to unstable, turbulent, unhealthy and abusive relationships that often end miserably? Do you know most people consider this to be a normal and acceptable definition of what ... Views: 117
Do you know that negative thoughts emerge steadily like toxic fumes from the subconscious mind and pollute one's conscious mind?
Do you know this flow undermines one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, energy, strength, optimism, sense of adequacy, courage, ability to make clear and ... Views: 89
Do you know that self sabotage is controlled by subconscious negative thoughts such as: I am unworthy, inadequate, undeserving, a loser, a failure, deficient, defective, incompetent, unlovable, bad and so on? Do you know such thoughts subtly derail any conscious efforts to achieve success and ... Views: 76
In deciding to review past resolutions, intentions or goals, means we are continuously willing to keep moving forward and challenge ourselves to be positive. We are determined to overcome whatever issue that we would like to resolve. If overeating, smoking, drinking, excess internet gaming, etc. ... Views: 129
Do you know that all relationship conflict arises because old emotional "buttons" are re-triggered which sets off an "emotional storm" rooted in earlier negative relationship experiences of abuse, humiliation, betrayal, rejection, abandonment, etc. stored as negative memories in the subconscious ... Views: 126
Do you know that co-dependence is the single biggest problem that destroys relationships? Do you know co-dependent behaviors are built on a solid foundation of neediness? Do you know all neediness is rooted in subconsciously stored negative memories of rejection, abandonment, abuse, neglect, ... Views: 101
Do you know that feelings of abandonment and rejection haunt both partners when there is a breakup? Do you know these feelings undermine one's self esteem, self confidence, self worth, make them feel undesirable, unlovable, fearful of further rejection/abandonment and severely limit their ... Views: 138
Do you know that a relationship breakup can damage one's self esteem to the point that it can take 3 to 5 years, or more, before the individual regains enough courage to re-enter the dating scene? Do you know this is unnecessary time wasted? Do you know that it is possible to completely erase ... Views: 121
Do you know that practically all relationships on this planet are unhealthily co-dependent in nature? Does that mean you have no chance of ever having a healthy relationship? Hardly! Do you know that in our era there are new insights into how co-dependence can be completely eradicated from what ... Views: 146