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- Psychodynamic Psychotherapy: The Crux of Sexual Addiction Healing - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenIn my opinion, long-term psychodynamic therapy is the most efficient way to cultivate healthy personality development. The most comprehensive treatment combines the empathy, insight and relational abilities of a psychodynamic psychotherapist with the 12-step orientation and cognitive-behavioral ...
Views: 124 - More Underpinnings of Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenWhile the sexual behaviors differ, the underlying dynamics of sex addiction are the same. There is always an inability to form a healthy, consistent attachment to a cherished loved one. Perhaps there was a mother who was unable to create a bond with her infant/child that provided the ...
Views: 47 - The Complexity of Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenAddiction to sexual behavior is a complex disorder that incorporates many aspects of your personality, bio-chemistry, socio-cultural environment, family-of-origin issues, thinking/feeling processes, self-esteem, and quality of relations with others. I see sex addiction as a prism; depending on ...
Views: 98 - Who Is A Sex Addict? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenA sex addict is a person who misuse sex as means of coping with unwanted feelings and life stressors. He looks to repetitive, compulsive sexual activities to fill a need for constant validation that shores up a fragile sense of self. If women desire him in reality or through pornography, his ...
Views: 108 - What is Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenTo be at risk for addiction, two psychological conditions seem to exist during childhood. First, the child has become over- reliant on sources of comfort outside of himself to provide a feeling of being soothed, safe and secure. Second, the child had difficulty making a healthy separation ...
Views: 55 - What is Sex Addiction, Anyway? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenAddiction to sexual behavior is a complex disorder that incorporates many aspects of your personality, bio-chemistry, socio-cultural environment, family-of-origin issues, thinking/feeling processes, self-esteem, and quality of relations with others. I see sex addiction as a prism; depending on ...
Views: 93 - Sex Addicts: Why Can't They Stop? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenMost addicts would stop if they could. It’s been said that of all the addictions, sex is the most difficult to manage. This syndrome is a complex mixture of biological, psychological, cultural, and family-of-origin issues, the combination of which creates impulses and urges that are virtually ...
Views: 97 - Oh, NO!! Not Again!! Preventing Relapse in Sex Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenRelapse in sexual addiction recovery is a reality. While all addictions are relapse prone, it is the sexual recovery community who suffer most from the demoralization of repeated relapse. After all, we can live without ever being around alcohol or drugs, but our sexuality is ever-present. ...
Views: 119 - Can Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Help Heal Sex Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe philosophical basis for cognitive therapy goes back to the Stoic Philosophers who taught that it is not the external event that causes our distress, but rather our perception or interpretation of the event that is distressing. According to the Stoics, people are capable of considering ...
Views: 108 - Group Therapy As an Aid in Sexual Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenGroup therapy is a highly effective treatment modality for sex addicts. It reduces shame and denial, limits isolation, increases socialization skills and the development of empathy. The process fosters the development of intimacy and helps sex addicts develop the coping skills they need to meet ...
Views: 91 - Can a Marriage Survive Sex Addiction? Here's One That Did - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenCybersex is the use of electronic communications for sexual diversion and includes email, texting, and internet porn. The American Bar Association cites that in 2011 a whopping 50% of the divorces it handles have cybersex implicated in the couple’s demise. The harm and emotional wreckage to the ...
Views: 119 - Psychopharmocology and Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenSex addiction recovery typically involves at least psychotherapy,twelve-step groups self-help groups and medication. Medication, while not always necessary, can serve as the “water wings” for negotiating the changes necessary for growth. Certain psychiatrists believe that addiction is ...
Views: 80 - A Behavioral Modification Approach to Treating Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy Hayden“Brainlock”, a four-step self-help guide for treating OCD is a book written by Jeffrey Schwartz, M.D., a physician who spent most of his career treating and doing research on Obsessive/Compulsive (OCD) behaviors. His has developed a four-part program self-help program that can be used for ...
Views: 118 - The Psychological Underpinnings of Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe diagnosis of sex addiction is the same as every addiction: loss of control and continued behavior despite adverse consequences. Sexual addiction differs from other addictions, however. Our sexuality reflects unconscious conflicts, longings and wishes of which we are not aware. In essence, ...
Views: 92 - The Mystique of the Dominant Woman - Addiction to Pain - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenA number of years ago, in conjunction with my work with treating sexual addiction, a number of masochistic or submissive men began to come to me for help. The clients I saw did not seem immature or inferior. In fact, the reverse seemed to be true. They were successful by social standards: ...
Views: 132 - Men, Sex Addiction and Depression - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenMy work over the last fifteen years as a psychotherapist treating sexual compulsions has brought me into contact with men - and more men. They come to my consulting room wearing the mask of shame, humiliation, and confusion. Often, after a period of therapy, they come to a common link among ...
Views: 88 - Sex Addiction as an Intimacy Disorder - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenAttachment patterns have to do with how the infant is tended to by his/her primary caregiver, typically the mother. This means that when an infant is upset, or dysregulated, the "good enough" mother soothes the infant thereby regulating his/her nervous system. This kind of consistent tending to ...
Views: 92 - A Case Study of One Sex Addict's Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenSteve is a professional musician. A man in his 50's, virile yet sensitive, he is sexually compulsive around fetishistic sex. Since his early teens, Steve had masturbated nearly every night before going to sleep. As he matured, his need for masturbation increased until he was masturbated five or ...
Views: 80 - Internet Porn Addiction: Not An Easy Nut to Crack - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenI've been sitting in a room talking to addicts for 25 years. All kinds of addicts. I've participated in the enormous struggles of alcoholics to get sober, cocaine, heroine, methamphetamine, food, love, nicotine, sex...all kinds of addictions. My conclusion, culled from clinical experience, is ...
Views: 101 - Who Are Sex Addicts and What are They Looking to Find in Sex? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenWho are sex addicts and what are they hoping to find through their compulsive sexual behavior? Sex addicts are people who, afraid of real, intimate relationships, repeatedly and compulsively try to connect with others through highly impersonal, non intimate behaviors: masturbation, empty ...
Views: 67 - Sex Addiction Is NOT a Moral Issue! - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenSex is surely one of the most powerful of all human experiences. It can drive people to the pinnacle of ecstasy or it can spiral others to the depths of self-loathing and despair. Sexual expression is meant to tie, or connect, to our core sense of self. Sexual energy is part of our life ...
Views: 57 - Caution! 37 Things Your Sex Addict Tells Your Real Self - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe True Self is capable of objectively observing the Sex Addict Self because it's not obsessively preoccupied with getting it's neurotic needs met. Psychoanalysts call this the “observing ego” and it is considered a sign of maturity. Proponents of Eastern spirituality call the True Self “The ...
Views: 87 - What's the "Hook" in Sex Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenA sex addiction is a habitual response and a source of sexual gratification or emotional security. It is a way of coping with internal feelings and external pressures that provides the Addict” as “Not You”">addict with predictable and consistent immediate gratification, but that has concomitant ...
Views: 82 - Control Your Destiny: See "The Addict" as "Not You" - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe True Self is Reality. It sees the activities of the Addict as being what it is: a fantasy growling for what it compulsively seeks: immediate gratification in the form of physical pleasure. Sex addiction is fueled by a fantasy of being how you never thought you were in your youth together of ...
Views: 77 - A Celebration of Rituals - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Denise LammiRituals are actions that are performed which “act out” thoughts produced from beliefs, myths or ideas. Rituals are important because they provide us with opportunities to enhance our experiences as individuals and as a society. Rituals accomplish this by adding meaning to circumstances ...
Views: 128(5 votes) - A Celebration of Rituals - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Denise LammiRituals are actions that are performed which “act out” thoughts produced from beliefs, myths or ideas. Rituals are important because they provide us with opportunities to enhance our experiences as individuals and as a society. Rituals accomplish this by adding meaning to circumstances ...
Views: 128(5 votes) - Depression – Causes And Home Remedies - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Elisa IemmolaDepression is a state of mind in which one feels low and shows utter disinterest or rather aversion towards any kind of activities. A depressed person suffers from a melancholy or sadness far exceeding the normal level of sadness or grief. Depression is viewed in the light of psychology, ‘the ...
Views: 90(2 votes) - 5 Ways to Know You've Lost Yourself - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Nicole NenningerHave you lost yourself? Are you so absorbed in your career, in your relationship, in the daily grind, or in an addiction that you've lost sight of who you are or where you'd like to be in life? Great! Say what? Well, let me reassure you that first, it's pretty common. Second, I can help ...
Views: 267(4 votes) - How to Overcome the Fear of Flying - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Rita SchulteFear is a problem, especially when it comes to flying. It’s estimated that approximately 50% of the population is afraid to get on an airplane. Fear fuels all types of anxiety disorders, and is usually linked to an unpleasant experience, or the belief that an unpleasant experience will occur. ...
Views: 124(1 vote) - The Economic Crisis VS the Increase in Self Harm - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2013 from Jennifer McLeodIn a recent publication by Robert Young, (Royal College of Psychiatrists) Young states: 'Self-harm among young people in the UK is possibly increasing but little is known about the reasons young people give for cessation and their link with gender or employment status'. For many people self ...
Views: 83(1 vote) - 3 Mind Seduction Techniques to Attract and Seduce the Opposite Sex - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Greg FrostSeduction is a mind game played by people of the opposite sex to entice a person into a sexual relationship by overcoming or changing his or her way of thinking. By knowing that mind seduction is just a mind game that anyone can play, it is possible that people who have just been spectators to ...
Views: 105 - The Path to Mastering Methods of Hypnosis - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Greg FrostIn simple language, hypnosis refers to the altered consciousness state that is characterized by increased susceptibility to suggestion. The moat initial step in the path to the mastering of hypnosis is the learning of how you can induce it in the individual subjects. This is indeed one of the ...
Views: 49 - Key Brain Stimulation Techniques to Empower Your Mind - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Greg FrostEvery human being would want to have better control of those aspects that are not wanted in life. Some of these unwanted aspects could be some habits, which deeply entrenched in the mindset of a person such as addictions, drug abuse or other mental disorders. It is usually not very easy to ...
Views: 70(1 vote) - The Truth About Erotic Mind Control and How It Can Work For You - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Greg FrostErotic mind control is the way of making another person constantly think about sexual needs. Taking this into consideration, this is not a healthy state to be in. Getting constantly sexually aroused is not good that is why if you are having an erotic mind, it is best if you also have full ...
Views: 78 - Anxiety Tips To Help You Live Better - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Ramil MorlaAnxiety Tips To Help You Live Better Anxiety is not something that usually gets better on its own. If you are suffering with anxiety and not getting help, chances are good that your condition will only get worse and keep you down. Please keep reading for some very helpful advice on overcoming ...
Views: 87(1 vote) - The Seven Secrets to Stress Relief - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Joyce Dolberg RoweWhat is stress? It is certainly a word that we toss around a lot and loosely. When was the last time you were “stressed out”? Was it work related? Family? Financial? Relationship? What happens to your body when you are stressed out? How do we find stress relief? Most of us have heard the ...
Views: 90(3 votes) - There's Nothing Simple About Procrastination - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Jaqui DuvallWhen I started my master’s degree course work in May 2008, I hadn’t been in an academic program for several decades. I dove in with the enthusiasm and determination born of pursuing education as a calling rather than an obligation. I finished my master’s course work in April 2011, passed my oral ...
Views: 197(1 vote) - AMOUR: Lessons from the 2013 Best Foreign Film - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Phyllis GoldbergAlthough the 2013 Academy Awards are history, one gem - Amour - will continue to shine. This heartbreaking and unflinching movie was painful to watch but it stimulated conversations with more questions than answers. As the people we love decline, how do we deal with the inevitable ...
Views: 166(6 votes) - Wonderment and the Eagerness to Understand – The Stepping Stones to Inner Transformation - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranInner transformation of our minds is necessary to step out of the self-created prison caused by the habitual thought. Self-awareness and the associated wonderment bring about an inward journey that augments inner transformation. It helps us understand the near death experience (NDE) and ...
Views: 153(1 vote) - Get Instant Access to Your True Self - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Warren BerlandWhat if you already had the key to unlock aspects of yourself that you never knew existed? What if you’ve already done so in your life? What can you learn about who you already are from those precious moments you’ve experienced in the past? What if you knew that that voice in your head telling ...
Views: 124(1 vote) - Why Is Alcohol Rehabilitation So Important? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Johan HedinAlcohol dependence is a serious problem today, with an increasing number of young people being affected annually. This translates to loss in productivity as well as a significant amount of money being directed to health care. If you or your loved one has developed a drinking problem, it is ...
Views: 47(1 vote) - Understanding Sciatica Pain - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Igor StilerSciatica is a painful condition that can restrict your normal life. Finding the root cause for the occurrence of sciatica pain is necessary to provide the right treatment. Many people interpret sciatica pain as a simple low back pain. However, the condition is different from a regular ache in ...
Views: 170(2 votes) - Spinal Decompression - An Effective Option for Back Pain Treatment - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Igor StilerSpinal decompression is an FDA-approved treatment that can provide effective relief from back pain. Here is a brief overview of this unique non-invasive therapy. Non-surgical spinal decompression is a novel therapy that can heal seemingly untreatable and painful spinal complaints. This is ...
Views: 170(1 vote) - Selecting the Right Medical Record Review Company - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Steve RyderMedical record review requires the minutest attention to detail and should be carried out only by skilled medical review professionals. Select the right medical review firm to enjoy all benefits. Any kind of selection is to be done with great care if you are to enjoy all the benefits of your ...
Views: 116(1 vote) - Do You Love a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Adam BlumMany of my clients fall in love with narcissists. It’s pretty easy to do. Narcissists often are extremely charming, bright, and attractive. I call them “shiny”. Around them we can feel excited, more alive, entertained, and flattered that these shiny people chose us. While narcissists ...
Views: 141(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't live like this any more. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairlyaffluent ...
Views: 335(6 votes) - How to Master Your Fears – Part 2 - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Kirstin O´DonovanWhat are your biggest fears in life, those that are stopping you from moving forward? What would it mean to you if you knew how to successfully overcome those fears? In my previous article, we looked at what fear is, the difference between real and imagined fear and what that means for you. What ...
Views: 159(1 vote) - Make Good Bargains - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Rick HansonLife is full of tradeoffs between benefits and costs. Sometimes, the benefits are worth the costs. For example, the rewards of going for a run - getting out in fresh air, improving health, etc. - are, for me at least, worth the costs of losing half an hour of work time while gaining a pair of ...
Views: 62(3 votes) - 5 Ways of Overcoming Depression Disorders - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Joshua Nyamache"Hey buddy, I'm experiencing depression and I have lost my appetite and zest for life. I have to do something to get my life back." From this statement, it is true that we can overcome depression and live the life we want. Some people have devised positive ways that help them to stay cheerful ...
Views: 74(2 votes) - Anger Management Groups – the Benefits and What to Expect - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Elisa IemmolaLearning how to control anger is a difficult challenge. Once you’ve overcome the first test, which is recognizing that you need help with your anger issues, you still have a long way to go. And it helps if you’ve got some folks to help you out. If you’re trying to decide between individual ...
Views: 126(2 votes) - The Power of Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Ashoo ModgilOur thoughts are vibrations and we are the storehouse of these vibrations. Just like a recorder records all the information that we want it to store, our mind stores all the information that we want it to know. The quality of the CD in our recorder determines the quality of our recorded ...
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