I'm a very polite person. I was taught to always say "please" and "thank you" when I was a child, a practice that has continued throughout my adult life. However, I never realized the latter phrase could be used as a means of eliminating anger. You might think it an odd concept but let me ... Views: 146
It took quite awhile to earn that degree, to go on for graduate studies, to land that impressive job. And somehow, it’s still leaving you with thoughts of defeat, of fear and worry.
Or perhaps that degree and job hasn’t happened for you, it’s not where you put your skills to work. Perhaps ... Views: 167
When narcissists fall victim to chronic or acute diseases, or survive a traffic accident, they react in either of four typical ways, depending on the type of narcissist:
1. The schizotypal reaction: the belief that the narcissist's predicament is a part of a larger, cosmic plan, or of a ... Views: 224
A "run in" with the law for the average person usually means a traffic stop resulting in a DUI, a possession arrest or some kind of domestic dispute that escalates into more than just a shouting match. There are five things to remember when facing potential criminal charges.
Keep Your Mouth ... Views: 171
We all carry a lot of unfinished business along with us all the time. The more we accept death, the more in the moment we are. Accepting death is possible, for it makes us reject the parts of us not living in the moment. That is a spiritual gift. If you looked at your life imagining you are ... Views: 183
As I begin this week, I remind myself that any one of my endeavors will only turn out as good as the quality of the experience I had completing it.
Everything is being evaluated through the filters of the thinking mind. We experience the tasks at hand through rote thought and learned ... Views: 185
2 simple techniques you can do anywhere to release stress and fears fast.
When your world crashes in and you can't manage the irritations, arguments and aggravations another minute, take a break. Withdrawing from everyday annoyances for just a few minutes can dramatically reduce the feeling ... Views: 140
The self-help blogs and media are filled with useful information about positive psychology, becoming your best self, leading the good life, and the value and benefits of being optimistic, positive and hopeful. It’s next to impossible--from more than 3000 years of Judaism’s wisdom on happiness to ... Views: 273
The path to liberation is an ongoing process of moving forward on your path to remove the obstacles to your inner peace and self-knowledge. The obstacles on this journey can be as diverse as your mind can imagine. Yet it is not until you are solidly grounded in your body and the world that real ... Views: 245
Mary continually held her breath as she explained how her son Ken grew up in a single-parent home. She became pregnant after being drugged and raped on a blind date. Since kindergarten, Ken had been on a cocktail of drugs. Now eight he had already been on Ritalin, Zoloft, Risperdal, and ... Views: 277
With the weather changing and the days getting longer, it is easier to get outside and get some fresh air. Shortly after my heart surgery the weather turned cold and it was hard to get out. I remember one morning going to get some groceries and I forgot to wear a hat. My head got cold and I ... Views: 180
Compassion is essentially the wish that beings not suffer - from subtle physical and emotional discomfort to agony and anguish - combined with feelings of sympathetic concern.
You could have compassion for an individual (a friend in the hospital, a co-worker passed over for a promotion), ... Views: 106
Not everyone has the appearance they want and may feel self-conscious about their body. As a person ages, it seems as if the imperfections they have become even more noticeable. This can really provide a person with a hit to their self esteem. Some just wish for youthful skin again to feel ... Views: 140
Have you ever asked yourself why you are getting so defensive? ME? DEFENSIVE? I’m not defensive!
See! You are getting defensive.
I’ll share with you the key reasons why you get defensive and how you can leverage your defensiveness to accelerate your own personal growth.
When you get ... Views: 184
I don't worry much. When an issue arises that cause me distress, my mind instantly begins searching for possible solutions. I wasn't always like this - it took years of awareness and effort but it has certainly paid off. Take this past week, for example. I use a service to heavily promote both ... Views: 233
The biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. ... Views: 256
Dr. Romance writes:
I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ... Views: 227
Repeat after me, I lovingly receive.
Most of us spend the majority of our time building, creating, and dare I say pushing for results.
We forget the power of giving ourselves the time and space to receive. Some of us never learned how.
Think of the tides, their natural cycle is rise and ... Views: 371
The choices we make determine what pathways our lives will take.
Whatever we do, one thing we must not do and that is to procrastinate!
This is because opportunities to pull us out of one path may arise.
Even with a clouded present forecast, prayer can lead us to a future prize.
It may ... Views: 194
Everyone wants to make a good first impression, no matter the occasion. When you walk into a room, you want people to notice that you are well-groomed and have made the effort to put your best foot forward. We've all been to the social occasion where a fashion or grooming faux-pas has made the ... Views: 166
Awhile back when I was doing an appreciation list, I realized that, although thoughts and feelings are of utmost importance (which the appreciation list comprises), we are physical beings living in a physical world and our activities cannot be dismissed. So, along with appreciating, I have ... Views: 167
I had recently gained ten or so pounds. I realize that that is not a life-changing or physically detrimental amount and that it is not an equivalent comparison to people who would like to lose some serious pounds. But it has certainly opened my eyes to some new aspects of body image and the ... Views: 276
Accepting your own mortality with grace and dignity can be a difficult process. Many people are left with scant little time to accept their own mortality, and you must prepare as best you can for the inevitable. This article explains four methods that allow you to find peace when you know that ... Views: 145
“Mrs. Mantell, your son Michael is not college material. He should definitely consider a vocational high school path.” That’s what Mrs. McCaffery, my 8th grade teacher at Chancellor Ave. Elementary School in Newark, N.J., told my mother with me sitting there…trembling,
My mother, then ... Views: 251
I'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who never experiences stress. Most of us become frustrated when things don't go the way we planned or when others don't comply with how we want them to be or behave. A sense of losing control triggers feelings of uncertainty within us. Mild anxiety, or ... Views: 248
From my inbox, I receive the following on a regular basis. I hope it helps you or yours.
It goes something like this: I have always felt unworthy because of all that was said to me while growing up. My mother always used to be unhappy and would take it out on me, telling me that I am the ... Views: 282
From my inbox, I receive the following on a regular basis. I hope it helps you or yours.
It goes something like this: I have always felt unworthy because of all that was said to me while growing up. My mother always used to be unhappy and would take it out on me, telling me that I am the ... Views: 250
Everything that we think or do is about habit forming. Some of these habits can be good and some of them not so good, even destructive. So if they are not so good, destructive and are going to not give us a great outcome why do we continue? It is said to be FEAR, being afraid to change what will ... Views: 166
Anxiety and stress are major components of our life, I remember once hearing whether you are doing something or doing nothing there will always be a level of anxiety and stress associated. We will feel anxious and stressed if we are attempting to over achieve or over work ourselves, we will also ... Views: 176
We're usually aware of our own suffering, which - broadly defined - includes the whole range of physical and mental discomfort, from mild headache or anxiety to the agony of bone cancer or the anguish of losing a child. (Certainly, there is more to life than suffering, including great joy and ... Views: 99
Did you know that most of the people you know, including yourself very likely, find it easier to work than to enjoy free time? Becoming successful, it seems, trumps developing happiness. This is what Shawn Achor relies on when he writes about the “Happiness Myth,” namely the myth that hard work ... Views: 214
Stress in America™ survey finds parents, younger generations and lower-income households have higher stress than others overall and this includes many Healing Artists. In every self-care book we have read, the importance of self-care to your business is highlighted. We believe it is because as a ... Views: 231
Notice the vertical letter pattern to the right of the first “Preamble” stanza. It’s the rhyme scheme: A-B-CC-A-B-CCC. This is the basic scheme throughout the poem. Also, it’s one reason the poem is subtitled, “The ABCs of Designing Disorder.”
Courageous Resilience & ... Views: 289
The definition of discipline as a noun is: the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behaviour, and to teach self –control and self-discipline. Other words to describe discipline are training, teaching, direction, instruction, regulation, coach.
The definition of punishment as ... Views: 193
How to stop drinking alcohol that's why we are here.
If you are reading this then you probably have a problem with alcohol. Or know someone who does.
To give you simple steps to quit drinking would do nothing to help you, therefore it would be doing you a disservice.
Why do you want to ... Views: 396
Recently writing about “Bully Types” resurrected an emotion I have grappled with much of my life: a) being part of a family, especially as a child and teen, riddled with mental illness and shrouded in family secrets, b) as a child and young teen, threatened and emotionally bullied by peers for ... Views: 248
The greater the gifted reward is congruent to a more stealth in affliction.
This explains why our cross seems heavier to bear from this contradiction.
My own cross came in the form of property catastrophe, together with infirmity.
The weight of the snow and ice was relentless causing ... Views: 188
Today is "tax day". For millions of American tax payers it is probably their least favorite time of the year, propelling them into a state of duress and anxiety. For a business owner such as myself the task of gathering all of my receipts and itemizing my expenses is time consuming and ... Views: 229
When my insides started ringing like the bells of a five-alarm fire, I didn’t know what was happening. That strong, engulfing feeling of anxiety rose up like a life-threatening wave, sweeping me away from the inside. The first time I experienced this, it took my breath away, literally.
The ... Views: 225
I collapse on the floor, I am secretly lonely, I sit in the corner with my legs pulled up to my chest and I can't feel happy anymore. Does this explains any of your symptoms? No, but maybe that's the case with any of your super creative friend. I hope not. Particularly, so many of creative heads ... Views: 200
In order to experience true happiness, you must develop a positive outlook on life. Although everyone will have an occasional bad day, it is important to maintain a strong sense of hope. Here are six tips to help stay optimistic.
Avoid associating with negative people
Negativity tends to ... Views: 115
Although providing care for grandchildren on a temporary basis is commonplace, there is a growing number who are now substantially responsible for raising them on a longer term basis.
Usually, this is because their children have found themselves in a situation where they are unable to care ... Views: 227
"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.
Dr. Romance knows that self-determination and self-respect are the ... Views: 373
Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step Programs
So many of you have written and e-mailed to ask about The Real 13th Step that I'm delighted to have this new edition in print. It's the ... Views: 291
Daily, I take my vitamin B’s, vitamin C, but vitamin D?
A couple of years ago a routine blood test showed that I had very low levels of vitamin D. You know, that vitamin that is produced automatically in our bodies when we are in the sunlight? Having lived in sunny California for over a ... Views: 330
Daily, I take my vitamin B’s, vitamin C, but vitamin D?
A couple of years ago a routine blood test showed that I had very low levels of vitamin D. You know, that vitamin that is produced automatically in our bodies when we are in the sunlight? Having lived in sunny California for over a ... Views: 310
I think my dentist is on to me. Over the past year I have noticed an increase in their efforts to remind me of my appointments.
In the good old days I would get a postcard two weeks before the appointment reminding me of the day and time. I really appreciated this as most of my dentist ... Views: 366
“Learn the art of taking your stand on the Truth within. When you live in this Truth, the result is a fusion of the mind and the heart and the end of all fears and sorrows. It is not a dry attainment of mere power or intellectual knowledge. A love which is illumined by the intuitive wisdom of ... Views: 226
DR. BARRY HAMMER
Developing intuition involves openness to the direct subliminal experience of significant true insights, such as, alerting us to potential dangers, opportunities, or a true understanding of seemingly ambiguous situations, when such crucial insights may ... Views: 217