The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
-George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ... Views: 164
They're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ... Views: 160
It is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ... Views: 177
When I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases a part of me had taken over. You know what I mean. The parts of us that have a partial view, are driven ... Views: 84
The achievement made in the field of medicine and science in the last century would be dwarfed by the achievements occurred in this century. The advancement in technology would make practicing medicine faster, cheaper and better. And the best part is that patients would be benefited a lot from ... Views: 208
Recently a client admitted to falling back into an old undesirable habit. Ashley had once again become a tyrant at home. She was obsessed with the cleanliness of her house. She worried about getting things done on time. She stopped interacting with her family. The only time she spoke to them was ... Views: 197
One of the most direct ways to transform your life is to let go of the past. Many people try to let go of painful memories or forget the past. Another option is to let go of emotional wounds from the past.
Emotions are different from thoughts. Emotions are experienced in the body. According ... Views: 141
Is your past still affecting you? Are painful emotions from childhood holding you back?
How do you know if your past is still affecting you?
Some people are very aware of how their past affects their present. For example, being a child of divorce can create insecurity and worry in present ... Views: 138
People are looking for ways to improve their lives and create more success. Many methods focus on changing thoughts and behaviors. Releasing emotional wounds from the past is another option. Could this option be right for you?
What causes emotional wounds?
Painful or traumatic events from ... Views: 120
We being a human always search for easy fixes, short cuts, and quick ways to fulfill our desires, wishes, and needs. We want to be happy as early as possible. We are quite impatient and inconsistent in achieving our goals and become successful. It is our nature and we fight with our nature to ... Views: 159
In classical EFT, tappers often use the Setup statement of "Even though I have this [problem], I deeply love myself". Some tappers cannot say "I deeply love myself" or even "I love myself". This is a sign that self-love can do with a boost.
And you may wonder why anyone should worry about ... Views: 186
When you've survived a traumatic experience, the anxiety that often follows can consume you for the rest of your life. Whether the traumatic event was a violent attack or a life-threatening car accident, this anxiety can occasionally develop into post-traumatic stress. Things that didn't matter ... Views: 145
At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ... Views: 147
I just read that studies indicate that people who suffer from depression are actually more realistic, than people who are optimistic. Researchers seemed to conclude that those of use who are optimistic are in fact delusional. We tend to think we are better looking, have a better ... Views: 453
As I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox.
One of the benefits I've experienced since leaving the office ... Views: 170
Approximately 8 out of 10 people in this planet have some sort of faith, religion, or belief in some kind of divine force, and/or supreme being(s). There are numerous religions, spiritual authorities, scriptures and interpretations of the divine and all of them seem to possess the power to ... Views: 177
Incredible as it sounds, I still am amazed at how often I hear people say “I don’t believe in ADHD.” You probably have heard it too. And if you are like me, the moment those words come out of their mouth, every hair raises on the back of your neck, the fire starts to churn in the pit of your ... Views: 276
Ahhh…the comfort zone. That comfy familiar place where we feel safe. Here we can kick back, relax and pat ourselves on the back. Livin’ seems easy…but there is an underlying restlessness as if something is missing. Is this the comfort zone or…are we “zoning out”?
Recently, I was asked to ... Views: 377
Recently I’ve noticed that being “happy” or striving for “happiness” is a major topic of many conversations. We seem to live in a world where we are inundated by information about being happy. Pursuing it could literally be a full time job! Being someone who has struggled with depression, it has ... Views: 244
Which is more important to help manage your symptoms of ADD…exercise, diet or sleep?
Ideally we are fueling our bodies with nutritious food, moving our bodies with regular exercise and getting the consistent sleep we need to feel rested, alert and focused to decrease our symptoms of ... Views: 210
Albert Einstein once said…”Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
For instance, have you been trying the same strategies to get out the door on time, but constantly arrive late? Are you struggling to organize your day at work or ... Views: 163
“ADHD medications aren’t natural.”
“I only want to use natural ways to manage my ADHD symptoms.”
“I don’t want to put anything unnatural into my body.”
These are just some of the familiar comments I hear during or following one of my presentations about ADHD medications. In our world ... Views: 233
Life with ADHD is a 24-hour, seven-day-a-week-adventure!! If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with ADHD, then you know how challenging it can be at times. Unfortunately, most of our focus is on the “negative aspects and problems” of ADHD and rarely are the strengths or positive ... Views: 209
In my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was love - waves and waves of love that I'd pushed down due to ... Views: 92
Colour and light are powerful sources of energy that affects our mental and physical health also. They can reveal a lot about our personality while helping tonifing ourselves by filling our energy losses that we suffer daily cause of anxiety, stress, fatigue and other ... Views: 153
Everyone - we all need anger. The most simple basic definition of anger is that it's an indication that we have unmet needs that have to be addressed, a sign that something is lacking in our lives that we want to satisfy. As with all emotions, anger is normal, useful, healthy, and necessary. ... Views: 160
Past Life Treatment Made Easy
How to Remove Past Life Trauma Without Traumatizing Yourself All Over Again By Re-experiencing It.
Past life regression became popular by Dr. Bryan Weiss, using hypnosis.
However, this method is excruciatingly painful, as you need, in the hypnotic trance, ... Views: 160
The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his ... Views: 213
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 190
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 159
Most people spend most minutes of most days doing one thing after another. I sure do. Typing these words is a kind of doing, as is driving to work, making dinner, brushing one's teeth, or putting the kids to bed. For all the "labor-saving" devices of the past 50 years - dishwashers, phone ... Views: 92
In our fast-paced, multi-tasking, on-the-go-deadline driven work, we are often caught up in the act of “Doing.” We move from task to task on our to-do list. We rush from work to class to home. We keep pushing ourselves to do more and do it better.
from type a to type me: how to stop doing ... Views: 201
Now, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety.
It is not unusual that your child may have ... Views: 184
Today I was reminded of my own anger while driving.I don't get angry that easily or that often. Luckily I know what tools work for me when I start noticing anger wanting to show it's ugly face. Like I've told many clients, it's called Anger Management, not Anger Cure. This is an important ... Views: 169
Questions and Intent
“What in the world are you talking about?!” “Why did you do that?” “How can you act like this?!” These are questions that I have at times asked in frustration, sometimes in my mind, other times vocally. But when I ask these questions, what is my purpose? Most of the ... Views: 139
Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS
Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become ... Views: 154
The Comfort Zone Concept
I have never seen the phrase comfort zone in the dictionary, but if it were there, I suppose it would read something like this:
Comfort Zone- A mental state in which no progression toward one’s potential takes place.
I believe that my comfort zone is nothing ... Views: 307
While speaking my thoughts can be a very powerful tool in developing meaningful relationships with those around me, it could also prove to be very detrimental, based on what my thoughts revolve around. With that reasoning, I feel comfortable making the assertion that before I ... Views: 182
How does gratitude work? What's the point of it? Will this new craze of daily gratitude be something that changes my life? If it did, what would it change, how would I be different? Isn't gratitude some kind of religious thing?
Like meditation, gratitude has been sidelined with religious ... Views: 293
The dissolution of the robotic response of the human brain is necessary to understand the hidden aspects of life and the afterlife. Such dissolution can be called the psychological death. It leads to wholesome and holistic living.
Ending of the ego can be considered as a matter of ... Views: 184
I'm reasonably confident in saying that there's not a person on this planet who has not felt unfairly judged at some point. While we may feel justified in imposing verdicts on one another, when we are on the receiving end the feeling can be quite hurtful. It is not uncommon to react with anger, ... Views: 186
We all know this fear. You're walking down a street, someone you don't know comes toward you, and there's a second or more of wariness, scanning, apprehension, and tension or bracing in the body: a barely conscious assessment of possible threat. Or you step into a meeting with people you know ... Views: 95
The most complex body organ is the brain. In fact, it is extremely complicated to comprehend it fully. An inexplicable biological system exists in the brain consisting of various neurotransmitters & chemicals. The whole human system is controlled by the brain, so any issues with the brain ... Views: 286
Challenge 1: Eating again – Sugar Awareness
Challenge 2: Food is fuel, food is just fuel
Challenge 3: The 80/20 approach – Balance & moderation,
The sugar connection
Challenge 4: Shopping from a list - taking control of what you buy ... Views: 174
CHASING HUNGER - 90 day bulimia breakthrough challenge, by author Kathy Welter-Nichols,
The technology of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) provides an opportunity to consider that behind every behavior there is a positive intention. While bulimia might seem strange or even ... Views: 167
Building your self-esteem is a long, arduous process of trial and error, goal setting, and faith in yourself. Best yet is when you also have positive thinking friends to support your dreams and goals. You have to keep on going no matter what happens along the way.
For me it was a struggle ... Views: 156
I recently trotted my two granddaughters off to the discount theater to see How to Train Your Dragon 2. It was a hot, Saturday afternoon and the place was packed. In order to sit together we were forced to take a front row seat. One thing about this vantage point is you feel like you’re rubbing ... Views: 141
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The manic phase of Bipolar I Disorder is often misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Bipolar patients in the manic phase exhibit many of the signs and symptoms of pathological narcissism - ... Views: 219
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Asperger's Disorder is often misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), though evident as early as age 3 (while pathological narcissism cannot be safely diagnosed prior to early adolescence).
In both ... Views: 301
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Anxiety Disorders – and especially Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) – are often misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Anxiety is uncontrollable and excessive apprehension. Anxiety disorders usually ... Views: 217