Are you one of those people who still carry old emotional baggage that undermines your sense of adequacy in your relationships or career? Do you know that it is no longer necessary for you to remain at the mercy of this old outdated programming and that it can now be easily, effortlessly, ... Views: 80
Do you know that self loathing can take many destructive forms such as self sabotage in relationships, career, health, addictive behaviors, self neglect, procrastination, and much more?
Do you know that "all" self loathing rests on a foundation of negative memories stored deep in the ... Views: 165
Do you know that self esteem is equivalent to loving yourself, your life and life itself? Do you know that as one goes through life here they encounter a series of disappointments that feel inherently traumatic which serve to deplete ones motivation, drive, energy, confidence, optimism, joy, ... Views: 80
It seems like the gray, cold skies of winter will never end, especially for folks who are discouraged, ill, injured, or housebound. Let’s treat them to an early peek at spring. Nothing brings hope like a bit of green!
Here’s how you can bring some cheer to someone who’s going through a ... Views: 103
Being seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can’t be themselves in one way or another.
Partners ... Views: 68
We see a lot of people who consciously are desperately looking for a good relationship. Yet, they are dating or marrying people who are selfish, emotionally unavailable, and even verbally or physically abusive.
In years of treating people who subconsciously sabotage their relationships, I ... Views: 61
Negative thoughts seem to be a common experience that consumes many individuals' motivation and life energy. Is it actually normal to have negative thoughts floating through one's mind ever? Although many of you may think so in fact it is "not" normal! Here's why they're there and what you can ... Views: 68
Do you know that shyness is a) not hardwired, b) not part of who you truly are, c) rooted in early negative experiences of rejection, neglect, abandonment, humiliation, bullying, feeling unwanted and unloved and so on stored in the subconscious mind in the form of negative memories and that d) ... Views: 71
Are you one of those individuals who tend to worry? I bet you have probably never stopped to consider why you do it or the consequences it has on your life. You probably think its just part of who you are or part of your personality. Well I can tell you that not only is it not part of you it is ... Views: 94
Anxiety and stage fright are largely the result of what I call "emotional landmines" i.e. negatively charged memories stored in your unconscious mind and body that keep getting re-triggered by daily events thus leading to anxiety and other painful emotional and physical experiences. If you would ... Views: 65
How do you know if you have a sexual addiction? What are its root causes? How can you get free of it and reclaim your life? In this article I propose an entirely new perspective and a new life coaching approach to address this important and prevalent issue.
Sexual addiction is characterized ... Views: 88
It has been said that one of the major hurdles to ending addiction is the recognition that one is an addict. Although denial if a problem is, in itself a problem, personally it has been my experience coaching individuals for over 20 years that identifying one's self as an addict "is" part of the ... Views: 88
When the learning process moves into the region of some paranormal phenomena, it helps us lead a life of order, dignity and love. It would also aid our passing on phenomenon - be it our own or of our dear ones - to be met with peace and insight.
Freedom from the Self-created Prison
People ... Views: 98
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 107
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 84
The impulse to get married almost seems programmed into us from a very early age. Many believe that being married reflects on how attractive, lovable, and successful they are as human beings. Do you know, however that most people who are thinking about marriage are not yet ready for such a ... Views: 96
Do you know that self sabotaging behaviors are driven by old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind that has hypnotized you into believing that you are bad, unworthy, undeserving, inadequate, guilty, responsible for the suffering of others, unacceptable, undesirable, defective, ... Views: 54
Do you know most people confronted with the reality of being able to completely erase negative memories from their subconscious mind and permanently enhance their lives become immediately skeptical about this? Do you know sadly this keeps many individuals unnecessarily imprisoned in negative ... Views: 83
Co-dependency in relationships with substance abuse are not healthy relationships, rather they are relationships that are filled with emotional stress and drama stemming from alcohol and/or drug abuse. In almost every case, co-dependent relationships involve a manipulator and an enabler.
Both ... Views: 71
Do you know that most people start to lose the experience of their Authentic Self shortly after they are born? Do you know the Authentic Self slowly goes underground as it is replaced by a "false" self that attempts to survive and adapt to an often inhospitable social environment where true self ... Views: 72
There's no doubt: anger takes its toll on every facet of our lives. From on the job, to our personal relationships, to our health and overall enjoyment of life, destructive anger can wreak havoc in our daily lives.
On the job it cost businesses over $4.2 billion, yes -billion, a year. ... Views: 89
When someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better.
This is natural and must ... Views: 71
Bipolar disorder, previously known as “manic depressive disorder”, affects approximately one out of every hundred people, making it a “relatively common” mental illness according to the U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs. However, the public does not usually associate veterans with bipolar ... Views: 85
Many couples are aware of Couvade syndrome, or “sympathetic pregnancies,” where husbands experience some of the same symptoms as their pregnant spouses. But did you know that a similar psychological episodes exist with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD?
It is usually assumed that ... Views: 86
The National Institute for Mental Health finds that about 7.7 million American adults suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. PTSD usually occurs after an individual has either endured or witnessed a traumatic event, but the disorder can even affect people of close relations to ... Views: 77
There are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing.
And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ... Views: 67
Do you know most men, when in the company of attractive women, feel shy and weak, intimidated by their beauty, feel inadequate and anxious, get tongue tied, lose all self confidence, and appear needy and unattractive? Do you know this is a real turn off for many women?
Do you know that it is ... Views: 76
I'm sure many of you suspect that a personal history of having endured emotional (including physical or sexual) abuse has a significant impact on one's ability to perform well in their career and to achieve success. The reasons, mechanisms and solutions to this pervasive problem however are only ... Views: 72
If you find yourself repeating subconsciously driven behaviors that sabotage your success then it is likely that you were programmed for failure early in your life by events that you never asked for. These negative behaviors or habits often work automatically and much faster than your conscious ... Views: 98
Hustling through an airport, I stopped to buy some water. At the shop's refrigerator, a man was bent over, loading bottles into it. I reached past him and pulled out one he'd put in. He looked up, stopped working, got a bottle from another shelf, and held it out to me, saying "This one is cold." ... Views: 41
What is Co-dependence?
Well in a nutshell its when two individuals form a relationship based on the need to fulfill their mutual needs through the other person.
As you can see there was no mention of the word love in the above definition. That must tell you something about the health of ... Views: 83
Many therapists call the problem some individuals have saying no to others a "boundary issue" problem. In other words the individual has a problem protecting their own space and their energy resources.
Such individuals tend to quietly accept whatever is doled out them whether they like it or ... Views: 66
There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.
One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual's ... Views: 93
Do you know that most individuals, if they are honest with themselves, harbor feelings of inadequacy about some area of their lives? Do you know this impedes them from ever achieving a sense of fulfillment and therefore severely limits the overall quality of their life? Do you know that many of ... Views: 69
Do you know most people confronted with the reality of being able to completely erase negative memories from their subconscious mind and permanently enhance their lives become immediately skeptical about this? Do you know sadly this keeps many individuals unnecessarily imprisoned in negative ... Views: 55
Do you know that self sabotaging behaviors are driven by old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind that has hypnotized you into believing that you are bad, unworthy, undeserving, inadequate, guilty, responsible for the suffering of others, unacceptable, undesirable, defective, ... Views: 78
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 129
Do you know that the length of time it takes to completely get over a breakup can be anywhere from 3 years to forever? Do you know that this time period can be shortened to a matter of days to weeks? Do you know that the single greatest impediment to letting go of the negative feelings ... Views: 128
Do you know that procrastination is driven by negative feelings and beliefs such as: the fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of taking responsibility for one's own life, the need to remain dependent of one's friends, parents, and loved ones, the fear of facing the world and becoming an ... Views: 132
What Is The Moral of Your Story?
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
The answer to this intriguing title question ... Views: 144
Often times partners share their wondering about how exclusivity, monogamy, and fidelity is possible in a longterm relationship. It is usually the male partners who pose this question when their female counterpart is not present.
I appreciate their honesty, risk and willingness to explore ... Views: 107
Do you find yourself repeating the same unconscious negative self sabotaging patterns over and over again? Are you fed up with not having full and absolute control over your self and your life? Are you feeling frustrated enough to try something entirely new that will challenge your fundamental ... Views: 75
Many individuals walk around harboring negative beliefs about themselves without ever questioning the truthfulness or immutability of such notions. As a result they unwittingly and unconsciously resign themselves to a life of unnecessary enslavement. I say "unnecessary" because all those ... Views: 68
Now does that title sound like I'm in denial? It may to those individuals who are so identified with their negativity that they have no awareness of where that negativity really comes from. That awareness is also the answer to permanently deleting all negativity that resides within you.
So ... Views: 82
Negative limiting beliefs such as I'm inadequate, I'm lazy, I will never be successful, I lack confidence, I will never have a successful relationship, I'm a loser, I don't have the perseverance to succeed, I am worthless, I don't deserve to have a fulfilling life and so on are like those pop up ... Views: 88
Evolving Through Healthy Detachment
Many Buddhist practitioners claim that the chief cause of suffering stems from any form of attachment; therefore, the converse would also be true, that to experience a sense of peace and well- being would emerge from a process of healthy detachment and ... Views: 68
The mind can play tricks on you. These tricks manifest themselves through your ability to spot imperfections that nobody else seems to notice. Many people want something more; want to be a little bit better and a little bit prettier. It seems like happiness and self-esteem depend on these ... Views: 73
Addictive relationships are characterized by an inability to let go of a partner who is abusive because doing so leads to strong feelings of need and/or insecurity that cannot be tolerated. There are three important things one must do in order to free themselves from an addictive ... Views: 80
In a recent article entitled "Some Evidence On How We Are Spiritually Connected" a case study was presented that revealed how individuals who share common traumatic memories can help each other release the trauma at a distance. In this article I will elaborate some of the potential applications ... Views: 97
A common habit individuals find themselves caught in when in a relationship is the perpetual need to try and rescue their partner from their own self sabotaging and self destructive behaviors. Often this habit can be so strong and compelling that it actually turns into an addiction.
What is ... Views: 67