It is rather simple to mistakenly take an anxiety attack for a real heart attack. In fact, most casual observers would not even know the difference between the two if they see it happening right before their eyes. The clear signs of an anxiety attack reflect the commonly known signs of a heart ... Views: 101
Do you know that co-dependent behaviors derive from deep feelings of neediness and that many "relationships" rest on this shaky and untenable foundation, perhaps even yours? Do you know that neediness is about trying to get the need for love, validation, acceptance, attention, understanding, a ... Views: 162
Do you know that failed relationships are invariably the result of old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind and associated with negative beliefs/feelings such as: the fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, low self worth, low self confidence, I'm unlovable, I'm inadequate, I'm needy, ... Views: 143
Do you know that attempts to fulfill one's co-dependency needs are at the heart of the problem of low self esteem? Does that surprise you? Do you for instance believe that having your need to be loved, accepted, wanted, understood, appreciated, validated, taken care of, etc. makes you feel ... Views: 178
Do you know that low self esteem has a simple and accessible mathematical/scientific explanation? Do you know that understanding it is also the key to abolishing low self esteem forever? So what is that math/science about, you ask?
To explain this I employ the metaphor of the typical home ... Views: 160
Do you know that procrastination is driven by early negative memories stored subconsciously that generate and sustain a fear of failure, fear of rejection, feelings of unworthiness and inadequacy, low self confidence, a fear of success and much more? Do you know procrastination is something that ... Views: 163
Do you know that self sabotage is a key sign of low self esteem, low self worth, and low self confidence? Do you know self sabotage results from stored negative memories of abuse, neglect, rejection, humiliation, abandonment etc. that live inside you and that subconsciously have you convinced ... Views: 126
Do you know that self sabotaging habits are driven by subconsciously stored programs that you have little conscious awareness of? Do you know your inability to recognize their presence is the single most important factor causing your mind and life to be hijacked when you least expect it? Do you ... Views: 125
Do you know that worry is one of the most toxic self destructive habits in our species' emotional repertoire? Do you know it is responsible for stress, tiredness, burnout, anxiety, depression, helplessness, low self confidence, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of vulnerability, low self worth ... Views: 144
Technology has progressed leaps and bounds since the turn of the century, and with these fantastic advancements comes a new issue: tech anxiety. This is a newly developing strain of anxiety that can be traced back to high levels of technology usage, especially regarding virtual communication. ... Views: 83
Painkiller addiction affects three-fourths of the population of the U.S. and one in ten high school students, according to statistics published by Drug Free World. It is also reported that recreational use of prescription painkillers is up twelve percent from last year and among the reason for ... Views: 110
You love your smartphone – right?
How many good things has it done for you today? From connecting with friends to getting restaurant reviews, our phones are invaluable.
However, there’s also a downside to our phones. As we focus on our phone, we often neglect dealing with things in the ... Views: 171
Do you know that most therapists believe that it is bad to erase negative memories from the subconscious mind? Do you know this essentially allows them to sustain their practices while you continue to remain limited by a notorious form of subconscious programming that literally shuts your life ... Views: 111
Do you know that many individuals feel captive to personalities that severely restrict and constrict the full creative expression of their authentic selves? Do you know this is responsible for a great deal of the suffering seen on this planet? Do you know it is possible to begin to free one's ... Views: 91
Do you know the majority of individuals who have had critical, disapproving or abusive parents still carry the voices of those parents in their head? Do you know those voices serve only to undermine one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, sense of adequacy, and the ability to succeed in ... Views: 125
Do you know that negative self talk consists of many internal voices in the back of your mind that regularly comment on how inadequate, worthless, useless, unattractive, vulnerable, undeserving, unsuccessful, ineffective, defective, deficient, incapable, incompetent, stupid etc. you are?
Do ... Views: 122
Forgiveness Strengthens The Capacity To Choose
The beauty of the New Year is already upon us! It ‘s the perfect time for personal reflection on the year’s ups and downs along with it’s challenges and triumphs. It’s an opportunity to affirm what went well and feel grateful for that. Perhaps ... Views: 156
by Dr. Tali Shenfield, Clinical Psychologist
Eating disorders are far more common than you may think. This disorder is the most common psychological problem treated by mental health practitioners. Eating disorders primarily affect women. Around ninety percent of people with eating disorders ... Views: 206
Do you ever feel controlled and stuck in old unattractive needy behaviors that take hold of you and repeatedly ruin the best of relationship chances? Do you feel confused about how and why this happens? Do you feel sufficiently frustrated by it that you want to stop trying to compensate simply ... Views: 185
Of course the best way to protect yourself from emotional abuse in a relationship is to leave it and find a better one.
Most individuals are unable to muster the courage to do this for many reasons that involve fear. I have written about this in another article (i.e. Relationships: The Fear ... Views: 120
Have you ever noticed yourself falling into an ever familiar pattern of self sabotage shortly after entering into a new relationship?
Self sabotage can take many forms such as engaging in addictive behaviors (i.e. drugs, alcohol, pornography, work , etc), engaging in affairs, withdrawing ... Views: 130
Do you know that self judgment and self criticism come not from you but from an intruder "voice" hiding in your unconscious mind? Do you know that voice is an impostor, has taken up residence inside you and is attempting to take over your mind and your life? Do you know that voice is generated ... Views: 110
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs hide out in your subconscious mind and from there wreak havoc on your life? Do you know most people aren't even aware of the large repertoire of negative limiting beliefs they carry, only the carnage they leave behind?
Do you know such beliefs have ... Views: 122
Do you feel inadequate, useless, like a loser or failure, incompetent, shy, weak, like your lacking in confidence, self esteem, and self worth, like you are unattractive and so on? Do you know that all of this can be changed simply by erasing the negative memories stored inside your subconscious ... Views: 146
Do you know that most individuals carry within them an internal critic that pervasively criticizes, judges, diminishes, undermines, and abuses (to name a few) you whenever it, not you, feels you have been anything less than perfect? Do you know this critic only serves to lower your self ... Views: 147
Can you imagine what it feels like to be constantly trying to figure out and conform to the expectations you think others have of you? I'm sure simply contemplating that drains your vital Life Force Energy from your mind and body. Now, can you imagine being totally indifferent, resilient, and ... Views: 107
I am often astounded at how many "relationship" coaches resort to the idea of psychological trickery as a strategy to get one's ex-partner back! There are one hundred and one reasons why is this not only "not" a great idea it's also a death knell for any chance of having a healthy, satisfying ... Views: 216
Do you know that the majority of relationships are co-dependent in nature? Do you know co-dependent relationships are stressful, conflicted, unstable, potentially abusive, and are highly prone to failure? Do you know co-dependent patterns are based in deeply buried subconscious programming that ... Views: 158
Do you know that if your relationship is on the verge of collapse that it is so because of deeply buried emotional forces that you may not even be consciously aware of? Do you know this means that your relationship life has been hijacked away from you without you even realizing it?
Do you ... Views: 114
Do you know that your relationship conflicts are determined not by external inter-relational factors but by deeply buried internal "emotional landmines" that control you and cause you to be "out of control" whenever something happens in your relationship that triggers them and leaves you ... Views: 185
When we feel different than the person we are projecting to others, it can cause stress and sometimes shame. Most of us have felt that way at times, and the ability to integrate again is usually fluid. But when we feel fragmented and fake most of the time, it can be extremely painful and ... Views: 133
Consider this: people say that human beings are designed to speak languages. It’s just part of how our brain has evolved. Yet, even though every little baby has the potential for language, it still has to be taught language in order to be able to use it. It is helpful to consider other ... Views: 205
In response to my previous JOT - Find Stillness - a wise therapist, Betsy Sansby, reminded me that sometimes a person just can't find any stillness anywhere. Maybe you have epilepsy or chronic pain, or are wildly worried about a child or other loved one, or have been rejected in love or had the ... Views: 65
Columbia University recently reported that women were more likely to develop dependency than men and also the reasons that women give for their use are different from the reasons that men use. The study further reported that women are more likely to feel guilt and shame associated with their ... Views: 102
Do you know that self hate and/or self loathing are unnatural human states that come about only as a result of old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind that hijacks your freewill and turns you against life itself? Do you know that baggage exists there in the form of negative painful ... Views: 118
Do you know that negative thoughts are generated deep in your subconscious mind for the express reason of controlling you and your actions? Do you know this means you already live in a "Matrix-like" mental prison in which your mind has been violated without your knowledge or consent? Does this ... Views: 86
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs such as: I'm inadequate, I'm incapable, I'm a failure, I'm stupid, I'm defective, I'm lacking and so on are essentially hypnotic suggestions that get rooted in the subconscious mind as a result of negative or traumatic experiences had in early life? Do ... Views: 141
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ... Views: 138
In today's world of downsizing and job insecurity, burnout is scary. Luckily, experts agree that you can bust out of burnout and get back to business by taking control of your situation.
Getting Overwork Under Control
You're working so hard that you can barely remember your own name. ... Views: 181
Awareness of our relationship to the child can help our inner transformation as part of our soul-search. It would also ensure that the child grows in an atmosphere of love unsullied by the grownup’s emotional attachment and self-interest. All in all, it is a sacred involvement.
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Do you know that all relationship conflict arises because old emotional "buttons" are re-triggered which sets off an "emotional storm" rooted in earlier negative relationship experiences of abuse, humiliation, betrayal, rejection, abandonment, etc. stored as negative memories in the subconscious ... Views: 175
Do you know the main reasons individuals remain trapped in bad relationships is because they are: Afraid of being alone, Afraid they won't be able to take care of themselves and Afraid of being responsible for their own lives? Do you know that such fears leave them vulnerable to exploitation and ... Views: 129
There are many "heroic" tales about individuals, who after having been victimized, turned to revenge to right the wrong. In our society such acts are revered and the individuals who undertake them are considered heroes. I would like to suggest however that an individual who needs to get revenge ... Views: 151
Do you ever find yourself feeling unfulfilled, bored, empty, unmotivated, and like you're not really living a full, rich, expansive, creative life and feeling alive as your True Self? Do you feel that you react to life in habitually, pre-programmed ways that you refer to as your "personality" ... Views: 107
Breathing properly is one of the simplest ways to drain away tension and relieve your stress. By simply changing your breathing patterns, you can rapidly induce a greater state of relaxation. If you can control the way you breath, you have a powerful tool to reduce bodily tension.
Most ... Views: 108
Do you know that behind procrastination often lives a deep fear of failure that paralyses and destroys one's life? Do you know that fear is based on negative beliefs you have about yourself such as: I'm inadequate, I'm unworthy, I'm incapable, I'm useless, and of course I'm a failure to name a ... Views: 141
Do you know that old emotional baggage is the single most important factor blocking your success in life? Do you know that baggage lives in your subconscious mind, outside of your awareness, and pulls the strings that lead to self sabotage, failed relationships, bad decisions, failure, ... Views: 140
Do you know that most people, without realizing it automatically operate from a series of subconsciously driven programs that cause them by default to feel and behave like dependent, small, helpless and needy children? Do you know this makes them unattractive, unsuccessful in relationships, feel ... Views: 131
Do you know that like a puppet controlled by strings manipulated by an invisible puppet master subconscious negative programming works clandestinely from the deep recesses of your mind to usurp practically all control of your life away from you?
Do you know it also makes you believe that you ... Views: 135
Our ancestors kept telling us that we become what we eat; and highlighted the importance of the connection food has over the way we think which ultimately leads to the actions we take. Our diet is extremely important to our happiness as well as to the way we think, to the way we love one ... Views: 136