The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 40
I became a mother when I was seven years old. An all consuming love happened in an instant, as it does for some new mothers, when my angelic brother, just having been adopted, was brought home at seven days old. When I first saw him, gorgeous as a crescent moon, with blond tiny ringlets, I was ... Views: 13
Depression and anxiety are, by far, the most common mental health problems. Nearly 20 percent of the US population struggles with or will struggle with one or both of these problems.
The most common treatment today for these issues is medication—typically prescribed by the primary care ... Views: 24
Jason, 14 is like most male adolescents. He is into video games, hockey, and, of course, hanging with his friends. If you ask him the classic question adults love to ask teens, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Jason will reply, “I don’t know—maybe a ... Views: 28
If there’s one thing that every parent should be able to agree on, it’s that society today isn’t particularly moral. Pornography, drug use, and criminal activity are rampant; raising a child in such a world is emotional and nerve-wracking for any parent. Protecting your ... Views: 37
There are many cultures in this world and all are aware of the name, ‘cultural differences’. We think we belong to a different region so our likes and dislikes are different. We feel we behave similarly while living in the same group and follow the same religious teachings that each one of us ... Views: 56
HOW PEOPLE SURROUNDING YOU CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU
One of the most important ingredients in the formula of success is to surround yourself with the right people.
Who are the right people? No one is right for all times and for every project or relationship. A person will enter your orbit, ... Views: 54
There is a general sense that children today are unhappier and more ungrateful than a generation ago. On the face of it, it seems strange. Our children have more than we could have ever imagined possessing – more gadgets, more clothes, more experiences, more opportunities – and yet somehow it ... Views: 40
Parents do have a strong effect on their childrens personalities. Usually their attitude towards their kids and towards others is very important. Most of parental concerns are about kids education, leisure, social life and behavior in general, in terms of how they are getting along with all ... Views: 73
In this book I have highlighted a very serious custom of Pakistan named,rukhsati',which means sending off girls with their husbands on the wedding day. But in reality it feels like girls are the burden and guests in their parents home and are supposed to leave it one day to live finally in their ... Views: 81
There are many things parents can do for their children. They can offer lots of activities to facilitate their creative skills , they can explore new places to give their children new exposures, they can provide them with lots of books to read and write, and they can play with them or provide ... Views: 73
Father’s day reminds me of many years ago when I attended a different church. The pastor there was the head of the jail ministry at the local county jail. He would tell us of how on Mother’s Day they would bring Mother’s Day cards so that the inmates who were so inclined could send a card to ... Views: 111
An adoption can be a stressful situation for all parties involved, and that is why planning is so essential. For those that want to make this process as smooth as possible, here are a few simple tips to keep in mind before and during the adoption.
Make Use of the Waiting Periods
An ... Views: 95
Self-esteem is one of the natural things that we all have been blessed with since birth. A tiny baby cannot do anything for her, hence can cry, drink, blink, observes, and can feel emotions. Although the intensity of the emotions are not very much visible, but they are present even at the time ... Views: 101
Sick or exhausted parents can always use a short break. This is your chance to jump in to make a difference. Offer to spend an hour or two with the kids.
Here are ten quick and easy things you can do with children:
Watermelon seed spitting contest. Just slice up that watermelon, ... Views: 131
Aggression in children is not very common in cold countries as compared to warm places. There are many factors that contribute to the childâ€™s aggressive behavior: weather, noise pollution, family structure, food, and parents parenting style. The most important one is â€˜parents' parenting ... Views: 144
Money. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ... Views: 139
When things first happen, they don't always appear how they should be. They may seem daunting or scary. They may not be what you want or how you planned. Life may not be working the way you envisioned it would.
I had a plan for my life. I have always been career driven. Even before I ... Views: 182
I arrive at the doctor's office five minutes late. It seems that's par for the course when you have a baby. It takes a lot for me to get anywhere. Gone are the days where I can wake up, throw on some clothes, pull my hair in a ponytail, grab a quick bite, brush my teeth, and head out the door in ... Views: 122
Mommy really doesn't know much right now, but I promise you I will. The only thing I do know is mommy loves you more than words, more than actions. Mommy loves you as though you are her heart, spirit, and soul wrapped in one... without a beginning or an end. There is no depth or breath to my ... Views: 164
It still doesn't seem real. I can't believe it. It's taken me this long to get into a routine of things. Don't get me wrong, I had what I thought were routines. Then a week or two passed, and I would tweak them trying to see if something worked better. Sometimes routines put you in a rut, but as ... Views: 135
Do you ever have those days or even though moments where you find yourself saying, "Only another single mom would understand?" Whether it's your baby rolling over for the first time, your child going off to kindergarten, or your teenager dating, there are just some things that only another mom ... Views: 150
Being parented by imperfect parents/caregivers is considered a traumatic experience of childhood in some of the trauma and attachment literature and information I have come across. This includes being abused, abandoned and/or neglected to various degrees.
When trauma is defined in this ... Views: 186
I received a baby gift this weekend from a college friend. He is one in the group of guys I used to hang out with my sophomore year. I remember the days like they were yesterday. He used to knock on my door so we could grab breakfast before walking to class. I even remember what I ordered each ... Views: 135
B and I go on our second play group to a music sensory, and I'm not sure how it's going to go. The first play group with other moms and kids we went on two weeks ago could have gone better. There were about 25 moms everywhere and even more kids. I was overwhelmed, and he was ... Views: 120
After all the hours of therapy and self-help, self-discoveries, self-realizations, and self-improvements I’ve made, I just identified yet another layer of unresolved issues that I need to deal with. Can you relate?
When will we finally be done evolving and growing into the person who we want ... Views: 145
I had the best day with B. We decided to go to the zoo for the first time. Although the only thing I think he is really interested in are the fish, I still like showing him different things. I take him out of the stroller to point to an animal, and in a matter of seconds, he makes new friends ... Views: 135
By Rev. Robert A. Crutchfield
There 's an old saying in computers, “Garbage in, Garbage out!” What that means is your result depends on what you put in and the quality of what you put in. In truth computers only mimic what we as people do. This is a prime example.
Many parents wonder what ... Views: 165
Years ago I was participating in a men's bible study class. The topic that day was parenthood. Many of the men present had grown children and grandchildren. At some point in the discussion, I commented that my observation had always been that parenthood was a big game of monkey see, monkey do. ... Views: 152
Many smaller associations do not have the membership base to afford paying a “big name” speaker to present at a training or convention. The speakers who present for these associations are usually members of that group and present for free. While this system is cheap, and sometimes can provide ... Views: 131
We all become aware of how fast time flies as we get older. At the same time we often wonder why children seem so impatient. The fact is the two things are related. It all boils down to the concepts of perception and perspective. Perception is the way we see something. Perspective has to do ... Views: 152
B and I take our first flight by ourselves. He has traveled about four times but every other time, my mom has been with us. Doing it by ourselves... what a scary concept, but as always, we are up for the challenge.
The morning we leave, my mom is rushing me. To her credit, we are leaving ten ... Views: 168
Being a first time mom changes you. You can't help but have it change you yet you are still the same person. I'm still the same goofy, adventurous, sarcastic, Type A personality person I was before. I still like the same things and talk to the same people. I'm still driven by passion and the ... Views: 155
Before the conference today, I had spoken to the founder about my need to pump. So she was kind enough to find a private one-stall bathroom with an outlet for me. Since the other restrooms in this hotel either had multiple stalls or no outlet, this was the only place I could use in ... Views: 167
A parent tells their young child to brush their teeth. The child responds, “I don’t want to; I don’t feel like it.”
It is perfectly normal for children to believe that they must be in a certain mood state (feel like it) to do something. Most parents, though, tell ... Views: 189
A basic tenet of behavioral psychology is that the closer the consequence is to the behavior, the more powerful the effect it has on that behavior. For example, if one could eat a sensible nutritious meal, immediately step on the scale and be down two pounds, dieting would be easy. ... Views: 166
I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.
Then my son was born and sleep is no longer my friend. I still love sleep, but for some reason, it's mad at me. I'm not sure if it's jealous, because I'm spending more time with ... Views: 222
seven months old, that all changed. He went to bed later and woke up two hours earlier. I was NOT a fan!
But the biggest problem was he woke up several times throughout the night. When this happens, mama wakes up in the morning COMPLETELY exhausted. This went on for weeks. I felt like I was ... Views: 168
I have a couple of friends with young kids. When I ask them what they are doing for July 4th, they are either not taking their kids for fireworks or doing it at a distance, because of the possible loud noises. None of which occurs to me. As a first time mom, should I even have considered these? ... Views: 169
Back in my undergraduate years I took a required course for all psychology majors entitled Experimental Psychology. Early in that course in a lab we were each instructed to train a white rat to turn right in a T-maze. (A successful trial was defined as the rat not going past a line on the left ... Views: 154
The Japanese call them “parasite singles”, the Americans “boomerang kids”. Sociologists refer to the “accordion family”: it expands and then contracts and then expands again as children return to what should have been an “empty nest.”
Why do youngsters opt to live with their parents rather ... Views: 214
My heart is sad. You send your kids... your babies off to school. You entrust others to watch over, care for, and feed them. It would never occur to me that food my child may eat would be tainted. How does this happen? How are people that irresponsible and careless? That something so preventable ... Views: 182
Love is in the air. Or so we hope, especially for this single mom. This season, fall in love. Where is the best place? That's the question, I've asked myself over and over again. Where do people go to find love?
If you don't meet men through your friends or work, where do you meet them? I've ... Views: 210
A mother of a boy, 12, I was counseling recently spoke about a “play date” her son had. As had been arranged, the mother of the other boy brought her son over to the house around 1 pm. The two boys greeted each other at the door and immediately proceeded to the bedroom, where they began ... Views: 163
Several years ago, I read Naomi Wolf’s groundbreaking book, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women. It’s a provocative, intelligent, and compelling read. It also confirmed several of my fears—namely, that our culture’s obsession with maintaining youth, beauty, and ... Views: 157
Having recently returned from a vacation back east, which included a visit to New York City, I found that it took me several days to recover from the jet lag due to the three-hour time difference. One of the first clients I saw upon returning to work in my practice involved an adolescent ... Views: 196
The parent-teacher conference can be an efficient tool to communicate with your child’s teacher. Below are a few tips on how to make that meeting more productive:
1) Show up: My wife, now retired from teaching fourth grade for 28 years, often said that the parents with whom she most ... Views: 169
As a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs.
1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional ... Views: 238
Many parents struggle with conversing with their adolescent. Attempts at communication often result in yelling, slamming doors, feelings of resentment, and a sense of hopelessness that issues can be resolved. Below are nine strategies to enhance communication with your teen.
1. Praise ... Views: 218
As an experienced clinical child psychologist I believe the ultimate goal of any parent is to rear an independent, responsible child. While at first glance this may appear obvious, if we observe most parents in action on a day-to-day basis, it becomes evident that many parents have no idea ... Views: 247