What is PLAY?
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Play is simply a time for kids to use their toys and have fun ... or at least that's how it seems.
One day I watched my three children play. My eldest boy, Miggy (7 years old) took out his lego blocks while his younger siblings, Julia and Mikee surrounded him. ... Views: 31
Dear Dr. Romance:
I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ... Views: 55
Consider the following examples for a while:
a. You are on your way and you come across a mother with her sweet toddler child. You start cuddling him/her and ignore the mother totally (no eye contact)
b. You meet someone you know on your way, with his or her spouse. For you, the spouse is a ... Views: 45
It is a parent’s responsibility to educate their children about the dangers of drunk driving before they hit the road intoxicated. A single conversation can save countless lives, but the talk can be difficult. Here are some tips for persuading them of the undeniable dangers:
Stay ... Views: 25
For the past twenty years when I present to mental health providers on how to develop, manage, and market a private practice I always ask members of the audience to raise their hand if they practice without an assistant. Depending on the group and location, typically half or even more of the ... Views: 28
How parents introduce their children to others impact on their personalities strongly. There are many examples that may clarify the concept better. Let us consider:
A parent is introducing his/her child to his/her relative/friend and says with a smiling face-
a. She is too aggressive. ... Views: 38
A father figure provides a tremendous boost to the development of children. Recently, social research has been showing just how much kids need their dads. Children with active fathers learn to read faster, demonstrate more empathy, are less likely to take illegal drugs and are more likely to ... Views: 36
What makes a good parent? What does it take to be successful in the noblest task of raising children? This job is daunting because there are no rules, no formula, no one to tell you exactly how to do it.
Science can sometimes do the trick in helping a parent raise an achiever. For example, ... Views: 99
In todays modern lifestyle, everyone is stressed up, tired and bore, especially the parents. In most of the parts of the world, parents are usually engaged in earnings and greatly tired when back home. Even if one of the parents is not working hand, he or she must be doing house chores and at ... Views: 69
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rocks the world. This hand also prepares the family’s meals, drives kids to school, pushes the swing, gives a pat on the back, and lends itself selflessly, among many other wonderful things a mom does for her family.
What are the traits of a ... Views: 110
I was a bit emotional today. My son was scheduled for his 15-month check up tomorrow. His pediatrician calls, and I miss it. I return the call, and luckily I do, because she tells me my son is no longer covered by his insurance. What? I am shocked. As I dial the number to his insurance, I can ... Views: 76
Even through my 38 weeks of pregnancy, I never once imagined what motherhood would be like. I really never thought about being a single mom. Yes, you hear things will change, but I never truly understood it, which seems to be the case with most things, until you experience them.
After ... Views: 70
One area that is sometimes overlooked when scheduling your kids’ time is how important it is to allow independent play.
It might not be necessary to have a literal scheduled block of time for play, especially if play still comes naturally to both you and your children, but if you find that ... Views: 143
The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 121
I became a mother when I was seven years old. An all consuming love happened in an instant, as it does for some new mothers, when my angelic brother, just having been adopted, was brought home at seven days old. When I first saw him, gorgeous as a crescent moon, with blond tiny ringlets, I was ... Views: 63
Depression and anxiety are, by far, the most common mental health problems. Nearly 20 percent of the US population struggles with or will struggle with one or both of these problems.
The most common treatment today for these issues is medication—typically prescribed by the primary care ... Views: 88
Jason, 14 is like most male adolescents. He is into video games, hockey, and, of course, hanging with his friends. If you ask him the classic question adults love to ask teens, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Jason will reply, “I don’t know—maybe a ... Views: 71
If there’s one thing that every parent should be able to agree on, it’s that society today isn’t particularly moral. Pornography, drug use, and criminal activity are rampant; raising a child in such a world is emotional and nerve-wracking for any parent. Protecting your ... Views: 85
There are many cultures in this world and all are aware of the name, ‘cultural differences’. We think we belong to a different region so our likes and dislikes are different. We feel we behave similarly while living in the same group and follow the same religious teachings that each one of us ... Views: 123
HOW PEOPLE SURROUNDING YOU CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU
One of the most important ingredients in the formula of success is to surround yourself with the right people.
Who are the right people? No one is right for all times and for every project or relationship. A person will enter your orbit, ... Views: 94
There is a general sense that children today are unhappier and more ungrateful than a generation ago. On the face of it, it seems strange. Our children have more than we could have ever imagined possessing – more gadgets, more clothes, more experiences, more opportunities – and yet somehow it ... Views: 81
Parents do have a strong effect on their childrens personalities. Usually their attitude towards their kids and towards others is very important. Most of parental concerns are about kids education, leisure, social life and behavior in general, in terms of how they are getting along with all ... Views: 122
In this book I have highlighted a very serious custom of Pakistan named,rukhsati',which means sending off girls with their husbands on the wedding day. But in reality it feels like girls are the burden and guests in their parents home and are supposed to leave it one day to live finally in their ... Views: 144
There are many things parents can do for their children. They can offer lots of activities to facilitate their creative skills , they can explore new places to give their children new exposures, they can provide them with lots of books to read and write, and they can play with them or provide ... Views: 137
Father’s day reminds me of many years ago when I attended a different church. The pastor there was the head of the jail ministry at the local county jail. He would tell us of how on Mother’s Day they would bring Mother’s Day cards so that the inmates who were so inclined could send a card to ... Views: 161
An adoption can be a stressful situation for all parties involved, and that is why planning is so essential. For those that want to make this process as smooth as possible, here are a few simple tips to keep in mind before and during the adoption.
Make Use of the Waiting Periods
An ... Views: 134
Self-esteem is one of the natural things that we all have been blessed with since birth. A tiny baby cannot do anything for her, hence can cry, drink, blink, observes, and can feel emotions. Although the intensity of the emotions are not very much visible, but they are present even at the time ... Views: 151
Sick or exhausted parents can always use a short break. This is your chance to jump in to make a difference. Offer to spend an hour or two with the kids.
Here are ten quick and easy things you can do with children:
Watermelon seed spitting contest. Just slice up that watermelon, ... Views: 180
Aggression in children is not very common in cold countries as compared to warm places. There are many factors that contribute to the childâ€™s aggressive behavior: weather, noise pollution, family structure, food, and parents parenting style. The most important one is â€˜parents' parenting ... Views: 195
Money. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ... Views: 190
When things first happen, they don't always appear how they should be. They may seem daunting or scary. They may not be what you want or how you planned. Life may not be working the way you envisioned it would.
I had a plan for my life. I have always been career driven. Even before I ... Views: 227
I arrive at the doctor's office five minutes late. It seems that's par for the course when you have a baby. It takes a lot for me to get anywhere. Gone are the days where I can wake up, throw on some clothes, pull my hair in a ponytail, grab a quick bite, brush my teeth, and head out the door in ... Views: 154
Mommy really doesn't know much right now, but I promise you I will. The only thing I do know is mommy loves you more than words, more than actions. Mommy loves you as though you are her heart, spirit, and soul wrapped in one... without a beginning or an end. There is no depth or breath to my ... Views: 219
It still doesn't seem real. I can't believe it. It's taken me this long to get into a routine of things. Don't get me wrong, I had what I thought were routines. Then a week or two passed, and I would tweak them trying to see if something worked better. Sometimes routines put you in a rut, but as ... Views: 174
Do you ever have those days or even though moments where you find yourself saying, "Only another single mom would understand?" Whether it's your baby rolling over for the first time, your child going off to kindergarten, or your teenager dating, there are just some things that only another mom ... Views: 193
Being parented by imperfect parents/caregivers is considered a traumatic experience of childhood in some of the trauma and attachment literature and information I have come across. This includes being abused, abandoned and/or neglected to various degrees.
When trauma is defined in this ... Views: 249
I received a baby gift this weekend from a college friend. He is one in the group of guys I used to hang out with my sophomore year. I remember the days like they were yesterday. He used to knock on my door so we could grab breakfast before walking to class. I even remember what I ordered each ... Views: 174
B and I go on our second play group to a music sensory, and I'm not sure how it's going to go. The first play group with other moms and kids we went on two weeks ago could have gone better. There were about 25 moms everywhere and even more kids. I was overwhelmed, and he was ... Views: 158
After all the hours of therapy and self-help, self-discoveries, self-realizations, and self-improvements I’ve made, I just identified yet another layer of unresolved issues that I need to deal with. Can you relate?
When will we finally be done evolving and growing into the person who we want ... Views: 183
I had the best day with B. We decided to go to the zoo for the first time. Although the only thing I think he is really interested in are the fish, I still like showing him different things. I take him out of the stroller to point to an animal, and in a matter of seconds, he makes new friends ... Views: 172
By Rev. Robert A. Crutchfield
There 's an old saying in computers, “Garbage in, Garbage out!” What that means is your result depends on what you put in and the quality of what you put in. In truth computers only mimic what we as people do. This is a prime example.
Many parents wonder what ... Views: 209
Years ago I was participating in a men's bible study class. The topic that day was parenthood. Many of the men present had grown children and grandchildren. At some point in the discussion, I commented that my observation had always been that parenthood was a big game of monkey see, monkey do. ... Views: 191
Many smaller associations do not have the membership base to afford paying a “big name” speaker to present at a training or convention. The speakers who present for these associations are usually members of that group and present for free. While this system is cheap, and sometimes can provide ... Views: 175
We all become aware of how fast time flies as we get older. At the same time we often wonder why children seem so impatient. The fact is the two things are related. It all boils down to the concepts of perception and perspective. Perception is the way we see something. Perspective has to do ... Views: 194
B and I take our first flight by ourselves. He has traveled about four times but every other time, my mom has been with us. Doing it by ourselves... what a scary concept, but as always, we are up for the challenge.
The morning we leave, my mom is rushing me. To her credit, we are leaving ten ... Views: 205
Being a first time mom changes you. You can't help but have it change you yet you are still the same person. I'm still the same goofy, adventurous, sarcastic, Type A personality person I was before. I still like the same things and talk to the same people. I'm still driven by passion and the ... Views: 202
Before the conference today, I had spoken to the founder about my need to pump. So she was kind enough to find a private one-stall bathroom with an outlet for me. Since the other restrooms in this hotel either had multiple stalls or no outlet, this was the only place I could use in ... Views: 197
A parent tells their young child to brush their teeth. The child responds, “I don’t want to; I don’t feel like it.”
It is perfectly normal for children to believe that they must be in a certain mood state (feel like it) to do something. Most parents, though, tell ... Views: 238
A basic tenet of behavioral psychology is that the closer the consequence is to the behavior, the more powerful the effect it has on that behavior. For example, if one could eat a sensible nutritious meal, immediately step on the scale and be down two pounds, dieting would be easy. ... Views: 212
I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.
Then my son was born and sleep is no longer my friend. I still love sleep, but for some reason, it's mad at me. I'm not sure if it's jealous, because I'm spending more time with ... Views: 263