B and I take our first flight by ourselves. He has traveled about four times but every other time, my mom has been with us. Doing it by ourselves... what a scary concept, but as always, we are up for the challenge.
The morning we leave, my mom is rushing me. To her credit, we are leaving ten ... Views: 6
Being a first time mom changes you. You can't help but have it change you yet you are still the same person. I'm still the same goofy, adventurous, sarcastic, Type A personality person I was before. I still like the same things and talk to the same people. I'm still driven by passion and the ... Views: 6
Before the conference today, I had spoken to the founder about my need to pump. So she was kind enough to find a private one-stall bathroom with an outlet for me. Since the other restrooms in this hotel either had multiple stalls or no outlet, this was the only place I could use in ... Views: 7
A parent tells their young child to brush their teeth. The child responds, “I don’t want to; I don’t feel like it.”
It is perfectly normal for children to believe that they must be in a certain mood state (feel like it) to do something. Most parents, though, tell ... Views: 8
A basic tenet of behavioral psychology is that the closer the consequence is to the behavior, the more powerful the effect it has on that behavior. For example, if one could eat a sensible nutritious meal, immediately step on the scale and be down two pounds, dieting would be easy. ... Views: 8
I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.
Then my son was born and sleep is no longer my friend. I still love sleep, but for some reason, it's mad at me. I'm not sure if it's jealous, because I'm spending more time with ... Views: 21
seven months old, that all changed. He went to bed later and woke up two hours earlier. I was NOT a fan!
But the biggest problem was he woke up several times throughout the night. When this happens, mama wakes up in the morning COMPLETELY exhausted. This went on for weeks. I felt like I was ... Views: 17
I have a couple of friends with young kids. When I ask them what they are doing for July 4th, they are either not taking their kids for fireworks or doing it at a distance, because of the possible loud noises. None of which occurs to me. As a first time mom, should I even have considered these? ... Views: 18
Back in my undergraduate years I took a required course for all psychology majors entitled Experimental Psychology. Early in that course in a lab we were each instructed to train a white rat to turn right in a T-maze. (A successful trial was defined as the rat not going past a line on the left ... Views: 20
The Japanese call them “parasite singles”, the Americans “boomerang kids”. Sociologists refer to the “accordion family”: it expands and then contracts and then expands again as children return to what should have been an “empty nest.”
Why do youngsters opt to live with their parents rather ... Views: 32
My heart is sad. You send your kids... your babies off to school. You entrust others to watch over, care for, and feed them. It would never occur to me that food my child may eat would be tainted. How does this happen? How are people that irresponsible and careless? That something so preventable ... Views: 24
Love is in the air. Or so we hope, especially for this single mom. This season, fall in love. Where is the best place? That's the question, I've asked myself over and over again. Where do people go to find love?
If you don't meet men through your friends or work, where do you meet them? I've ... Views: 42
A mother of a boy, 12, I was counseling recently spoke about a “play date” her son had. As had been arranged, the mother of the other boy brought her son over to the house around 1 pm. The two boys greeted each other at the door and immediately proceeded to the bedroom, where they began ... Views: 23
Several years ago, I read Naomi Wolf’s groundbreaking book, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women. It’s a provocative, intelligent, and compelling read. It also confirmed several of my fears—namely, that our culture’s obsession with maintaining youth, beauty, and ... Views: 29
Having recently returned from a vacation back east, which included a visit to New York City, I found that it took me several days to recover from the jet lag due to the three-hour time difference. One of the first clients I saw upon returning to work in my practice involved an adolescent ... Views: 35
The parent-teacher conference can be an efficient tool to communicate with your child’s teacher. Below are a few tips on how to make that meeting more productive:
1) Show up: My wife, now retired from teaching fourth grade for 28 years, often said that the parents with whom she most ... Views: 40
As a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs.
1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional ... Views: 64
Many parents struggle with conversing with their adolescent. Attempts at communication often result in yelling, slamming doors, feelings of resentment, and a sense of hopelessness that issues can be resolved. Below are nine strategies to enhance communication with your teen.
1. Praise ... Views: 47
As an experienced clinical child psychologist I believe the ultimate goal of any parent is to rear an independent, responsible child. While at first glance this may appear obvious, if we observe most parents in action on a day-to-day basis, it becomes evident that many parents have no idea ... Views: 52
An adolescent in Texas recently was in the news for killing and/or injuring several persons due to recklessly driving his new BMW while quite intoxicated. Apparently, this teen had an alcohol-related incident a few months before this tragedy. At trial a psychologist testified that this boy ... Views: 45
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress.
I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at ... Views: 147
Many of us have a “black sheep” in the family. Sometimes that person has a mental illness and sometimes not. It might be someone who caused you or your parents great unhappiness in your childhood. At any rate, you know someone fairly close to you who caused havoc in your life. That relative ... Views: 126
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
One of the many important caveats about marriage is this – children change the dynamics of a marriage. Make no mistake about that.
Kids! We love them. We cherish them. They bring joy to our lives. When we have children in a marriage, we ... Views: 245
Is gift-giving stressful at your house? Do you try to find things that your child would like, hoping to surprise her, but then learn that it was not what she had in mind at all? Gift giving for children who are inflexible in their thinking can be a disappointing exercise in miscommunication. ... Views: 129
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help?
Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what ... Views: 200
Even though parents argue as to the best residential schedule, choice of school, faith, holiday time, Christmas and extra-curricular activities, these issues are simply not as predictive for the outcome of children of separated parents as conflict alone.
More to the point, the greater the ... Views: 35
4 Real Ways To Make It Work
Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help.
1. Give your blended family a chance to bond.
Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ... Views: 211
(excerpts from the book Holiday Grief: How to Cope with Stress, Anxiety and Depression After a Loved One’s Death)
Since I’ve been involved in helping grieving children for most of my career, it is very important to me to help you learn about the needs of young people when the holidays and ... Views: 37
How To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent
Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting.
1. Be a Grownup.
I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ... Views: 168
by Dr. Tali Shenfield, Clinical Psychologist
Every parent wants to protect their children, teach them to protect themselves, and help them redirect their own outbursts before they become dangerous and aggressive. We want to know that when our children become angry, we can discipline them ... Views: 262
It is a great temptation to give your teen advice about what they should do in a given situation. As parents, we may believe they will benefit from our experience and direction. It may even feel like they want us to tell them what to do. It will serve all of us better, especially in the long ... Views: 23
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ... Views: 224
I am reminded of a young African-American child who was raised under strict family rules. During the early teen years from middle school and throughout high school, this kid was smart yet shy and often picked on and bullied by fellow classmates and even other children in the neighborhood where ... Views: 34
Infertility can be defined in two ways: as inability to conceive after a year of regular sexual intercourse without contraception, or as repeated ectopic pregnancies, miscarriages or perinatal loss. Male and female specific factors account for about 30% of the infertility causes ... Views: 141
Inspiring Quotes for Moms
“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” ~Jamie Paolinetti
My advice for Moms is to take the time to breath. Really breathe. I just did a 2 week cleanse – an amazing cleanse, that I will ... Views: 199
For some couples, the decision to have children is something that was discussed long before marriage---in some cases; I am told, on the first or second date ! But for many couples, deciding whether or not to have children can be one of their most daunting issues. With couples getting married ... Views: 201
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ... Views: 315
Disagreements regarding your children are natural when a marriage or relationship ends. Each parent's life moves on in a new direction and as a result disagreements arise about custody, visitation, and decision-making regarding the children. A look at the policies behind California's custody ... Views: 358
Teaching our kids certain skills and personal habits just isn’t good enough. We need to lead by example and live the skills and traits we teach.
Not only when it is convenient, but all the time.
Here is a list of what I believe to be the seven most important characteristics and skills we ... Views: 316
It is that time of year when your son or daughter is off to college. It is that moment that makes a parent proud but also a moment that you have been dreading. You can put on a smile to everyone, but deep down you are hurting because they are not close in proximity anymore. Now it is time to ... Views: 240
In the midst of the weekday morning whirlwind, many of us barely give breakfast a second thought.
But did you know breakfast can impact not only your children’s whole day – but even their life?
Children who get a good breakfast regularly perform better in school and score higher on IQ ... Views: 256
Mother Energy™ has crept back into my life again—that fiercely protective, “Worrier-Warrior”, who is certain my children aren’t quite ready for the natural progression of life and can’t handle the next steps without my continual guidance and loving, hands-on approach.
No, my Mother Energy™ is ... Views: 145
Custody in Georgia is primarily dependent upon one single factor: the Judge. Judges have an enormous amount of discretion and many times it is nearly impossible for them to decide the issue based on the parents, sometimes both parents appear to be equally good or equally bad. So, what can be ... Views: 155
Many times a year parents come to me for guidance about dealing with their child’s lying. Usually the situation is that the child has been involved in some activity that she knows her parents disapprove of. It could be sampling the frosting on a birthday cake before the occasion, or talking to ... Views: 223
No parent I know, including myself, learns to parent in one fell swoop. Parenting is a process. We learn new things with every new challenge that presents itself. Each child and each situation builds new parenting skills and each challenge, no matter how difficult or trying, offers new ... Views: 260
Unfortunately, lots of kids and teenagers fall victim to low self-esteem. But did you know YOU play a huge role in how they view themselves? Even though they don't like to admit it, most of the opinions kids have about themselves comes from what their parents do and say!
Just how important is ... Views: 235
All these years later, I still think about what kind of mother I used to
be. It took me three years to become a real one after the birth of my
daughter. Motherhood is much harder than most will tell you or admit
to. I couldn’t understand why people said that it was so worth it. I was
32, ... Views: 304
The term “helicopter parent” is a relatively new one in our culture, but the practice is quite prevalent. When a child leaves home (for college, for instance, or even overnight camp) the helicopter parent does exactly what the term implies --hovers. Helicopter parents usually have the best ... Views: 178
The toddler stage can be a very trying time for parents. Our toddlers are becoming their own person, separate from us and on this journey of self-discovery all kinds of both wonderful and challenging changes are happening before our eyes. Toddlers can be exasperating and unpredictable, draining ... Views: 232
As parents, we provide the greatest inspiration and positive influence to our children when we act from our place of power. What is our place of power exactly? Our place of power is found in our own alignment -- that place where we feel happy, calm and joyous. It is that place where our ... Views: 282