When you lose someone you love, it can be a very difficult time to get through. You might not want to go on in life yourself, especially if it's someone you were close to, like a parent or a child. There are a few ways that you can manage your grief so that you can be a support for your family and continue on in life without dwelling on the loss.
There are plenty of support groups for those who are dealing with losing a loved one. The groups can be at a church or at the office of a psychologist or licensed counselor. Some settings involve a large number of people who are dealing with the same feelings that you have while other sessions are with just you and the person you're talking with so that you feel comfortable in sharing your feelings.
For some people, planning the funeral is a way to deal with the grief. It gives a way to say final good-byes to the loved one. You can do everything from choosing the casket to planning the details of the funeral service, such as the songs that are played and the pictures that are used. If it’s too much to handle get in contact with a company like Caring Funerals that can do the legwork while you grieve.
This is a good way to get your thoughts out of your mind if you don't want to talk to anyone. Find a quiet place to journal so that you have plenty of time to write down your thoughts. You can write about favorite times or even write a letter to the loved one, letting the person know how you feel.
One of the ways that you can deal with grief is to accept it and cry. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that go along with death. If you don't allow yourself to grieve, then those feelings will be bottled inside and will eventually eat at you until you are yelling at others or until you are so depressed that you can't go on in normal functions. Spend some time with others who want to cry as well so that you can be together.
Although it's hard, you have to find your own life once again. Find a hobby that you like. Spend time with friends and family who are there to support you. Read a book that you enjoy, or participate in crafts to take your mind off of the loss.
Losing a loved one is never easy. It's a pain that is unimaginable unless you have experienced it yourself or know someone who has been through the emotions. It's alright to cry and be mad about the person being gone, but it's also important to realize that life goes on and that you will see that person once again.
Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer and blogger. She lives and works out of her home in Los Lunas, New Mexico. She loves the outdoors and spends most her time hiking, biking, and gardening. For more information contact Brooke via Twitter @BrookeChaplan.