Love is a wonderful feeling. Self-love brings peace and acceptance, love for others and being loved brings feelings of gratitude and happiness. So today I am going to cover the 3 easiest ways to bring more of it into your life and relationships. I have developed several tools that have been tried and tested by 1000’s of married couples all over the world to use love to fix marriage problems. Today I am sharing some basic tips
Before I go into them let’s go over what love is.
According to the dictionary:
“Love is a variety of different emotional and mental states, typically strongly and positively experienced, that ranges from deepest interpersonal affection to simple pleasure.”
The truth is Love is in all of us:
We Are Love
As babies, we are born perfect. We don’t have to do anything to become perfect, we just are perfect. Babies are full of love and love everything about themselves, they love their body (even their own faeces). They are loving and confident, acting as if they know they are perfect. They express their emotions freely. You were like that. We all were. Then we started to listen to adults fears, limitations and beliefs and learnt to deny our own brilliance. We forgot about the love in us. As adults we may choose to live a life without love, a baby would never do that. If there was no love at birth we would die, therefore it’s in all of us… Love is essential for the survival of the human race.
Love is more than just a feeling
Love is more than just a feeling. Love is an energy and action. Often a husband or wife will say to me that they are not sure if they are “in love” anymore. So I ask them what loving acts have you taken to show love or be loving? They nearly always reply that they are not doing much. This is either because they are no longer sure if they love their partner, where they are stuck in their head analysing everything. This is a disaster for deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship, by the way, analysing using your head. The mind cannot explain love or feel love. As love is a state of being and way of acting. You cannot feel love if you are not taking any action to create it. To fix marriage problems loving acts is key.
In order to feel more love we need to be love
The other main reason people don’t experience love in their relationship is because they have stopped giving love, they stop giving as they wait and want to receive it first. Often I hear men and women say “I’ve been giving too much, it’s their turn” or “when he/she changes, then I will be more loving.” This is limiting love and putting conditions on it, which holts the free following energy of love. Love needs to flow, it cannot be restricted or used as a tool to bargain with. That makes love a transaction.
The last reason many people complain about a “lack of love” in their relationship is because they feel they are giving everything to their partner. They give so much love at the sacrifice of their own love and needs. This creates an energy of lack of love and lack of love is how they will then feel. In order to give love at a high energy frequency, we need to be love. That means we need to be loving to ourselves first, then others: including those we love, strangers and our enemies.
That’s the real key to living a loved filled life and fixing marriage problems: Being Love!
Be the love you are by loving yourself and all beings!
I didn’t realise this, for years I kept focusing on what my partner was not giving me. I didn’t have any idea back then that this analysing his behaviour and thinking negatively about him and the relationship was making things much worse. The more I focused my attention on the lack of love, the less love I felt and therefore didn’t take as much action. The less love I gave out, the less love came back to me. Like a vicious cycle, where I felt more alone and unloved as time went by.
You see our energy and beliefs affect our behaviour and create our reality. If we feel happy and positive we will create happy and positive circumstances. If we feel love is lacking and the relationship is lacking love, we create a relationship that feels empty, lacking and unrewarding.
Simple right?
So how can you create more love and happiness into your life and relationship right now?
Here are 3 secret ways to create more love and solve marriage problems
Stop any complaining.
Complaining creates more of the same, it makes you feel agitated, angry stressed which isn’t good to be carrying around.
“A man is what he thinks about all day long.” Emerson
If you are having relationship issues, don’t complain to anyone other than a professional in the field. As by complaining you suffer, you get to re-live the annoyance and it becomes your focus. So you will notice it more and create a sense of more things lacking.
Divorce start’s in the mind. Before it gets to this stage, you and your partner you can change your energy and thoughts to match love. When you switch to focus on the great qualities you each have, the whole vibration of the relationship will shift.
Claim love.
Joesph Murphy “The Power of the Subconscious Mind” studied the science behind how our minds operate found that the reasons affirmation statements often don’t work for the majority of people is because they don’t believe them. Instead, he argues if you want to create more wealth in your life to repeat the word wealth when you wake up and go to sleep. So I thought I would test this in my relationship and life and I realised by saying the word love several times when I woke up , before bed and throughout the day when I felt frustrated, stressed or disappointed I felt better. By simply stating a word you can awaken a new energy in you. That is if you want to feel more love, start saying it more and you will create more positive feelings and experiences.
When you wake up put your right hand on your heart and state the word love 7 times, do the same before bed and throughout the day. It’s amazing just how powerful simply repeating this word can be in improving your mood. This didn’t work for just me, countless couples have now started using it with great success to transform the way they feel and act in their marriage.
Be Love.
This is really the only thing you need to do to bring more love into your life. It’s so key I have created a whole program with 23 audios and work books on how to embody love in your body, relationship and life more deeply.
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In the meantime to help yourself get into the loving energy and stay in the loving energy focus on:
1.Taking loving actions towards yourself. Self-Love according to David Richo is taking loving actions to make yourself happy, healthy and grow professionally, emotionally and spiritually.
2. When you feel off track or are about to react to something your loved one has or hasn’t done, stop and ask “what would love do?” or “how can I be more loving?” Either to yourself or your partner. Love is the quickest way to fix marriage problems.
3. Meditate on love. I have created several love awakening meditations and hypnotherapy audios. I find them very powerful combined with actions to love myself and others, you may want to try some that work for you. Countless men and women that join my empowered love formula program also get amazing results quickly from my love meditations. If you are not into meditation, then play the Whitney Houston “The Greatest Love of All.” It’s a beautiful song that talks about the self-love happening inside of her.
As always I hope there is something you can take from this.
From my heart to yours, Nicola
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Nicola Beer is an International Relationship & Divorce Coach who helps her clients find peace and create a new beginning after Marriage Breakdown and Divorce. This includes helping couples on the verge of a breakup to resolve their relationship issues once and for all so that they can revive the love, passion, respect, and fun that's been missing.
As well as helping clients during and after Divorce to manage stress, create more income and adjust to new financial realities, redefine who they are, create a new social life, and when they are ready to attract someone great. Nicola also runs 2 parenting programs that support children through and after divorce
Nicola has combined 11 years' experience helping people with emotional issues. This comprises 7 years private coaching and 4 years as a volunteer for the Samaritans where she supported callers dealing with any emotional distress. She is UK certified in Coaching, Grief Recovery for Adults and Children, NLP, Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis.
Nicola's passion for supporting people before, during and after divorce comes from her own childhood, where due to the stress of divorce her mother suffered a mental breakdown. As 1 of 5 children the divorce was devastating for her family and affected each of her family in different ways. More recently Nicola's older sister with 4 children is going through a difficult divorce. Having experienced and seen the pain and stress associated with divorce Nicola is focused on proving solutions. She knows divorce doesn't have to mean disaster and takes her clients and their children from surviving to thriving. She is equally passionate about saving marriages, so has a program to overcome relationship problems.
Nicola works with expats and locals, Muslims and Non-Muslims from all over the world, mainly from Dubai, London, India, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, either in person for a 2 day intensive package or further afield US, Australia via video conference and phone.