In the 20 years of leading workshops and guiding couples back to a place of loving connection, I've come to learn that there are certain skills one needs to learn to create lasting successful change inside and out.
I have also been able to see and understand the roadblocks: what gets in the way of love and deep connection. One of my areas of expertise is taking apart the puzzle, going deep and seeing/feeling what's really going on beneath the surface.
And I also do the same for myself.
Flashback two years when suddenly people started asking me if I was going to offer a training so serious practitioners, students, could learn what's going on behind the scenes of the Intimate Puja Circles I lead - and learn how to do it themselves. I made a mental note but did nothing about it.
Fast forward two years (or 18 months) and more people were asking and still I kept putting it aside. Lo and behold, SELF DOUBT was rearing its head!
What's a Come Back To Love coach to do? ----> Figure out how to deal with self-doubt and come back to self-love.
First, I want to say that these deep feelings --- that began in childhood --- they can be insidious. They can impact us physically, emotionally, energetically...and even spiritually. Mine did! I got a cold, a virus actually -- keep reading to see what I did!
Here's a snapshot of the most valuable tools to relieve self-doubt and come back to self LOVE.
In my case, I had so many early experiences of my parents shaming me for being smart, doing the right thing, getting good grades. They weren't trying to shame me -- but it happened. So self-doubt showed up bright and clear when I started to step into the next phase of my business - the training!
Once I went through steps 1 through 4 above, I got another 'hit' of a situation that needed healing. Doing the healing work is beyond the scope of this article but doing the formative work above will give you the clarity about what's going on and what your next steps are. Let me know if you want to discuss further.
I use a simple tapping (back and forth, left and right) to move through painful feelings. I recently led an example of that on FB here.
There are always many opportunities to come back to love with yourself. We spent a week looking closely at judgment and today's article brings you tools to use to shift self-doubt when it shows up.
You want to become a master of YOU. Whether you are in relationship or not, is not really the point - because no matter what it's YOU that needs to be loved...from YOU. To YOU.
The work that I do not only supports you in looking at the past and what's ready to be healed but also what is happening in the present that is holding you back...from loving yourself, and from having the best relationship in your life, too (if that is what you choose).
Robyn Vogel, MA, LMHC is a psychotherapist, certified sex coach sex educator, and creator of Come Back To Love, Inc®. Robyn marries traditional psychological principles with spiritual tantric philosophy and practice. She teaches couples and individuals how to master the skills of intimacy and come back to love. Those that are struggling in relationship, feeling lost around love, and deeply craving purposeful and passionate connection gain much insight and healing in their work with Robyn. Learn more at comebacktolove.com.