A woman likes you if she looks at you, if she talks to you and lets you talk, if she touches you or lets you touch her, and certainly if she kisses you or has sex with you. You see, there are DEGREES to “liking” and a DURATION to how long and how much you are “liked.”
Through this all there is no guarantee that it will be present in the next year, or month, or week, day, hour or minute. Because “liking” is dependent on the emotions and the factors that shift and change and get challenged – the factors behind the three kinds of attraction I lay out for you in the Omega Male Program.
It is a better thing to be yourself, and always growing, becoming more empowered on the inside, than to worry about what someone’s view of you is on the outside. If you attend to the former, there is a high statistical likelihood that many women – no one particular one – will be sexually attracted to you. If you observe the latter, you and your behavior – not to mention your mission in life as a man – are always imperiled, and at the mercy of a woman’s emotions of the moment. All of which is a lesson in personal boundaries.
Because of boundaries, we also never have a proof, a certainty, a guarantee of sex, love or attraction, and certainly never “control” over the feelings, attitudes, preferences or actions of another person.
In other words, it doesn’t MATTER if a woman likes you. Only that you are as masculine as you can be.
One of the ways I teach guys to run their dating life is to see it as a 12 lane highway rather than a country road with cracking shoulders. Better to have twelve women to spend time with and jump form one to the other early in rebooting a dating life, than one and only one option in a woman. As you go along, you’ll be able to evaluate and test the women for the few who make the cut, and the ONE who may be with you for life.
And I say MAY be with you for a reason: again, we don’t control other people.
When you have filtered out the ones who have marginal interest, a weak match to who you are and what you need, and have one or two who really seem to “get you,” at that point you will know she likes you because she gives off what anthropologists have called, “submission signals.”
These are subtle social signals that a woman is currently, in the moment, sexually attracted to you. I explain as many as I can in the Omega Male Program.
Nearness to you, a long gaze in your eyes, a flip of the hair and tilt of the hips, and a slightly open mouth in looking at or talking to you – these are all signs.
But what will most guarantee a woman “likes you” is not HER, but in the amplification of your own degree of masculinity – your leadership, dominance, territoriality, competence at making your way in the world and having the resources to share with, protect her with (no matter how tough or important she is), and elevate your own rank among men.
Paul Dobransky, M.D. is a board-certified psychiatrist, public speaker and relationship expert who has treated more than 10,000 patients in 15+ years in clinical psychiatric care. Journalists and clients worldwide have sought Dr. Paul's advice on dating, relationships and all aspects of human psychology.
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