The following case-study demonstrates how to rekindle a relationship or marriage by practicing the simple self-help practice higher-consciousness healing as described in Tara’s book The Five-Minute Miracle.
Anne (45 years) came to see me because she was very frustrated in her relationship with her husband and with her situation as a house-wife. Her relationship with her partner was rather cold because she wasn’t in love with him any more and sexual relations had virtually stopped many years ago. ‘I hate making love with him’, she said.
Anne also felt a great deal of anxiety and resentments towards her parents who she described as overly critical and angry. Sadly, Anne repeated the same behaviour with her husband and daughter and confessed telling them off in a degrading and shaming way virtually every day. Anne felt bad about her behaviour but couldn’t stop herself.
Anne’s first healing-symbol was geared at restoring the love and sexual relations with her husband. I showed Anne how to visualize her healing-symbol in her heart and envelop herself with love. Then she should do the same with her husband, send him love and wish him to be happy with the help of her healing-symbol. Anne worked in this way with symbol for four weeks and send love to her partner on a daily basis. Her relationship improved a lot and Anne developed once again a feeling of love and attraction to her husband that she had lost long ago. What’s more, the erotic spark returned to their marriage and they made love several times within that month. Anne reported that her husband had remarked on how much happier she had become.
Anne’s next healing-symbol was for the shame and sadness she felt about her behaviour in the relationship with her daughter. I instructed Anne to send the love of her symbol first to herself, then to her daughter and then to her parents. Anne was reluctant at first because she felt a lot of resentment towards her parents. But I explained to her that it was probably her anger towards her parents that made the relationship with her own daughter so difficult.
Eventually, Anne was willing to give this approach a try. Two sessions and four weeks later her suffering in the relationship with her daughter had been reduced to zero and she reported that she hadn’t said a single degrading word to her – and neither to her husband. Anne also reported that she had resolved her frustrating housewife existence because she had booked into further education at university and that she was feeling really happy now.
Then Anne went to visit her parents for two weeks. In the past that would have been a cause of major anxiety and anguish – but not any more. Anne told me afterwards that she had felt a surprising and liberating emotional detachment from her parents instead of her usual frustrated neediness. The whole two weeks she had spend on holiday with her parents, husband and children had actually been ‘very nice’ – a totally new experience for Anne.
Over the next few weeks Anne’s feelings in the relationship with her daughter still went up and down a bit because she felt that herdaughter was over-emotional. So Anne received a healing-symbol on her daughter’s behalf. Higher Consciousness Healing can be used to help others (for example our children) just as effectively as ourselves. Anne practised Higher Consciousness Healing on behalf of her daughter in exactly the same way as she practised her own symbols. She visualised a symbol (pink ballet shoes) in her daughter’s heart and imagined pink radiating into her little body and into her surroundings – with love. Working in this way helped Anne’s daughter to calm down a great deal and the relationship between the two improved even further.
Everybody can learn how to rekindle a relationship by following the simple self-help exercises outlined in Tara Springett’s book The Five-Minute Miracle.
Tara Springett holds an M.A. in Education and is a fully qualified psychotherapist. She has post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and transpersonal therapy. She has worked as a drugs counselor, counselor for adolescents and general psychotherapist since 1988.
Tara has been a dedicated Buddhist practitioner since 1986. In 1997 she received encouragement from her Buddhist teacher to teach others. Tara has since taught on-going meditation groups and combines Buddhist wisdom and her experience in counseling when assisting her clients with their personal growth, self development & improvement.
For more on how to rekindle a relationship go to www.taraspringett.com