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Intimacy and Dating Advice 101: In our modern society there is a great disconnect in the dating world. What is it? Its how men and women view love, and lust.
This is important for many reasons, but none more important than communication. It is plain and simple, communicate better and your ... Views: 2021
Premature ejaculation affects not only you but your partner as well. Feelings of anger and resentment can arise from continued unsatisfying sexual encounters. The good news is that this does not have to be a permanent problem. Read on and learn what you (and your partner) can do to improve your ... Views: 1632
Hundreds of thousands, more than likely millions, of people have grown up being taught that sex is a sin. It is considered dirty and should only be done to produce new life, and even then it should be done quickly and with extreme secrecy. In some ancient societies, if a woman was raped within ... Views: 1424
In my “toilet moment”,the moment that was my wake up call, I realized I wasn’t very far from death.
I also realized that, up to that moment, I believed that someone “out there”, the therapists, the doctors and the healers were the experts. I had been hoping, praying even begging that one of ... Views: 1071
As you know that masturbation is seen as our first natural sexual activity so it is not easy to avoid the importance of various effective masterbation ways. It is our ongoing love affair with your self that lasts a lifetime. Online masterbation ways can help you a lot in improving your sexual ... Views: 1925
I first learnt about the ‘Facebook Bra Color Campaign’ through the blog post by sex-positive activist Carlin Ross who works alongside the legendary Betty Dodson.
The campaign, believed to be started by women in Detroit, Michigan, who are trying to raise awareness of Breast Cancer, asked women ... Views: 2552
For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about.
I have come across a man who, after 15 years of marriage, admitted that he and his wife have never talked about sex. Don’t get me wrong. They do have sex. They just don’t talk about it.
In other words, they never ... Views: 2199
If there is one question I am asked almost every time I meet somebody new, it is this: “Why did you become a sexologist?”
Even complete strangers on Facebook find it is their business to pose one-liner questions along the lines of: “Is your job for real?”
Occasionally my polite replies ... Views: 1745
I am surprised that, in this day and age, I still am asked: “What can women do in bed besides lying back and thinking of England?”
In case you are not familiar with this expression, it is an English saying with roughly the same meaning as “to grit one’s teeth”, i.e. to put up with what is ... Views: 4233
I adore the American actress Cameron Diaz.
She dares to be ridiculously funny in ‘The Mask’, has men swooning over her in ‘There’s Something About Mary’, gets to kick butt in ‘Charlie’s Angels’, and is not shy in admitting that she can’t sing in ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding’. She smiles readily, ... Views: 1796
Have you heard of the expression, “Men don’t grow up; their toys just get bigger and more expensive.”? True, since adult men don’t talk of Matchbox cars, but full-sized motorized ones. What of their electronic devices and gadgets from the iPhone, Wii, mp3 players, to laptops?
While we have ... Views: 1370
I was browsing through the October issue of an expat magazine recently when I chanced upon an article entitled, “Well-being and Sex”. Intrigued, I read the piece, only to come upon the sexual terms: ‘sexual transmitted diseases’, ‘impotence’ and ‘frigidity’. The author is obviously not a ... Views: 1119
There is a new beauty pageant in Singapore. It’s named TruMe, an online transgender beauty pageant organised by Action for Aids; it will be officially launched next month.
The moderator of Sggurls, a transgender activist who identifies herself as Nicole Singslave, told me that she coined the ... Views: 1336
Featuring a fantastic array of designs and individual stylish touches to make a range so spectacular that it can suit a diverse selection of individuals, the lingerie market has, over the years, produced an exceptional assortment of basques and sexy corsets to wow and amaze millions of women and ... Views: 855
Sex does not magically happen. You are stymied by a lack of time and energy and having kids have only caused sex from being erratic to the point of non-existent. You love your spouse and want to keep an intimate connection. However life gets in the way. Sex has turned into a dull routine and you ... Views: 1215
How can one overcome premature ejaculation?
When is faster not necessarily better? That’s right – when we are talking about premature ejaculation or ‘PE’. PE is also known as ‘early ejaculation’ or ‘eager ejaculation’. This occurs when a man ejaculates quicker or earlier than desired. It is ... Views: 1293
As the name suggests, it refers to the reverse of fast sex, think fine dining or a 12-course meal as opposed fast food. Slow sex does not necessarily infer to the amount of the time needed for sex, but the way it was being done – slow. It would be good to set aside 30minutes to practice slow ... Views: 1435
Possible reasons of multi-tasking during sex can vary considerably: from boredom due to predictability of sexual routine; stress and anxiety stemming from work; habitual need to overachieve; to genuine lack of time in juggling work and household chores. Sexual inhibition from any kind of trauma, ... Views: 1537
What is considered a low sex drive for females?
There is often a sexual desire discrepancy between the male and female. I like to first emphasize that just because you have a lower sex drive than your partner does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with you. What this means is that ... Views: 1732
What to say when you are too tired for sex.
There are three things to say when you are too tired for sex.
1. Say something polite, nice or caring.
Thanks for asking, but… (can state reason)
I’m glad you asked, but… (can state reason)
2. State your alternative.
I’d rather…
I ... Views: 1060
Do's
Discuss what makes a good date in your opinion so your partner knows
Take turns planning the date and making it happen the way you like it to
Talking about what is going on in your relationship right now, or resolve old issues
End the evening with a high note or with a fun ... Views: 1242
1. For a quickie
You have a few minutes and you want it hot, quick and sexy! Try Wall Standing Sex where both partners are standing doing penetration. The female uses a wall to support herself while being penetrated. Tip: Bend your knees to change the angle of penetration. The guy may wish ... Views: 1805
What factors should a couple take into consideration when wanting to spice up their sex life?
Consider if your partner is a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic (touch) person. Does irritating sounds bother him to no end? Is he particular about textiles, fabrics and the way they feel next to his ... Views: 1149
We set resolutions, goals and targets for all manner of things, from our career and our finances to our love life; so why not for our sexual lives?
Your face might be wearing a bemused expression after seeing the above title. But, let’s pause and think about it. We set resolutions, goals and ... Views: 1930
When you fake an orgasm, you are essentially putting on a show for the benefit of your partner. Your reasons could vary from “getting it over with”, “sparing his feelings”, misleading yourself with “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt”, to the inner satisfaction of “pulling it off” and “getting away ... Views: 1574
During intercourse, it is the outer third of the vagina that is most stimulated. Some women are able to orgasm through this vaginal penetration. That is, vaginal orgasm — without clitoral stimulation.
However research has shown that (Shere Hite’s 1976 survey of 3,000 women) only 30% of women ... Views: 1120
For starters, you can use a vibrating ring which looks like a hair band except it has an external battery with an on-off switch. Have your husband stretch the vibrating ring over his penis and rest it at the base of his erect or non erect penis, and watch the penis come to live as you turn the ... Views: 1575
Work out suitable times in the week both of you can make sex happen. It might sound unromantic to plan time for sex but we all know how to make time for what is important to us – and sex deserves us making time. The anticipation, lead-up and preparation for the date will make it ... Views: 1375
Premature ejaculation happens when a man ejaculates earlier than he would like to. It is also known as rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, or early ejaculation. The average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he ejaculates. To gain greater orgasmic ... Views: 1049
For most men, their earliest sexual experiences are with masturbation done secretly and quickly, for fear of being found out. Hence it is often believed that such early experience actually condition some men’s sexual response to a pattern of rapid ejaculation. In reality, masturbation is one of ... Views: 2089
Does male circumcision make sex more pleasurable for both the guy and the girl?
The extra lubricating functions a foreskin provides are not present in men without a foreskin. However this can be remedied with the addition of a lubricant. If anything, the men I have encountered who underwent ... Views: 1959
The length or girth of a penis is not the measure of a man. Penis pumps, pills, and patches can only make your penis bigger temporarily. They all work on the same principle of increasing blood flow in order to get a thicker penis. I would be wary of any body alternating devices and invariably ... Views: 5319
Do guys need to take protein supplement after making love to replenish the loss of protein?
There are many ingredients composing semen. A few of the constituent elements: vitamin C, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, citric acid, creatine, fructose, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, ... Views: 1757
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How Can I Make My Orgams Stronger, Naturally? - by Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.
The idea of having better orgasms isn’t meant to make you feel like there is anything wrong with the orgasms you’re currently having. Here are some basics: 1) Breathe so your orgasm becomes more of a full body experience; 2) Instead of tensing up and holding still during orgasm, move your body ... Views: 1690
1. Do not make fun of or dismiss her anxieties/ insecurities as irrelevant, nonsensical and the like.
2. Find out where her comfort level is i.e. she doesn’t like/ want to do A, B, or C. What can she do or is willing to do? Start from there.
3. Gently stretch her comfort ... Views: 1175
How can a man best use his tongue to bring a woman to orgasm? What are some techniques he can try?
Our fingers are hard, dry, and possibly chafing. On the other hand, your tongue is warm and moist, hence probably superior to the penis in giving her an orgasm. Also it is easier for most women ... Views: 1175
The definitive DSM-IV-TR, which is the latest version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association, does not recognize sexual addiction as a diagnosis. Conventional wisdom among therapists has long been that there is no such thing ... Views: 2029
What the hug is saying that you are missing.
1. A hug that’s followed by a thump on the back
A thump on the back above or below shoulders is more of a friendly or ” hey how you been ” hug. This is an indication of discomfort with hugging you or with your closeness. However not all back ... Views: 1191
An orgasm is not just a physical experience, it happens in your body, mind, possibly even spirit. And there is no single definition of orgasm. Some tell tale signs of an orgasmic response might include increased heart rate and blood pressure, increased muscle tension, a flush of her skin, as ... Views: 1015
On women’s health "down there".
1. Get familiar with what you are ‘normally’ like ‘down there’ – from the look, smell and even taste. Check daily when you go to the toilet. This way, you are aware when there is any out of the ordinary vaginal discharge.
2. Avoid bath oils, perfumed ... Views: 848
The first thing we should know that the monogamous model for relationship has not existed through all societies and time. More so in our Asian culture, we are exposed to concepts like polygamy where Muslim men can have up to four wives; and patriarchal systems where the father or eldest male is ... Views: 880
How do you know your sex life back on track?
It depends on what aspect of her sexuality she is not happy with. If she is not receiving sexual pleasure the way she would prefer, she needs to be first looking at what are some possible reasons she is not asking for what she likes. Does she know ... Views: 964
Am I doing alright in bed? How can I tell?
We get turned on through our senses – seeing, feeling, touching, smelling, tasting, hearing – and through thought or fantasy. When we begin active sexual movements, we feel the flow of pleasurable feelings centering in the genitals and abdomen. The ... Views: 1041
How much you reveal to your partner has a lot to do with what kind of a relationship you want. If you want an honest and open relationship, then it is important you are as honest and open as you possibly can. Your past is a part of where you have been, and may not be representative of who you ... Views: 880
This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine.
If you have been following my blog here, you may recall a previous post where I mentioned looking forward to watching an 83-minute feature film/documentary called Cowboys in Paradise.
This is a controversial work because this is the ... Views: 3326
It is no secret that like men, women love to masturbate. Here is what you can learn from the female masturbation habits that you can apply to please a woman sexually.
(1) A woman can orgasm easily if she is relaxed
It is for this reason that having sex out of home is so great for her ... Views: 4522
When it comes to female orgasm, a lot of guys are unsure if there is a ‘magic button’ where they could press to excite, thrill and completely satisfy a woman? Well, there is. I am referring, of course, to the clitoris – the only organ in the female body devoted entirely for sexual pleasure. This ... Views: 25767
Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman, is one of the most awesome ways to stimulate her clitoris. Because most women enjoy oral sex, the act of cunnilingus can make her orgasm faster. The following tips and techniques will help to make sure this ... Views: 2464
Codeine. An Unusual Cause of Ejaculatory Failure.
Dr Andrew Rynne.
Delayed ejaculation or so-called anorgasmia is a common male sexual dysfunction. In order of frequency it comes third to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. It can be a deeply frustrating and devastating problem ... Views: 2064
There are exciting things going on with British Columbia in Canada. There have been an additional public program created to help control sexually transmitted diseases. They have a new sort of electronic greeting system installed by inSPOT (Internet notification service for partners and tricks) ... Views: 711