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This article discusses effective and ineffective ways of gaining personal power and how that search impacts those around us. Note: I suggest you read “The Victim Tyrant Cycle” as it includes important concepts used in this article ... Views: 18
Only 16% of all murder victims are members of the defendant’s family?
That’s according to the PDF file that pops open (or opens in your browser) when you click this link – and you must have the free Adobe Acrobat reader to see it. (Fortunately, it is included with most computers ... Views: 26
At the age of 34 Rory had achieved everything he had set out to do when he decided to prove to his father that he wasn’t a waster. He had an exciting six figure salary job as a buyer of exotic furnishings for a global interior design company. Together with a large upscale home, a beautiful and ... Views: 42
Stress is an unavoidable side effect of life. There will always be events that force you to undergo a large amount of physical and emotional stress, which makes knowing how to handle those situations key to keeping yourself sane. Below is a list of the six most stressful situations that most ... Views: 51
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The narcissist can get better, but rarely does he get well ("heal"). The reason is the narcissist's enormous life-long, irreplaceable and indispensable emotional investment in his disorder. It serves two critical functions, ... Views: 64
Freedom is healthy.
I have always believed this, and still do. My perspective comes from many places — my upbringing, when I was bombarded since an early age by my Russian-immigrant grandmother how wonderful it is to be in the United States, where we are free, unlike the oppressed and ... Views: 35
I love being a ”shrink-lady.” (okay, a “psychiatrist.”)
I did not pick it out of a hat. I tried a couple of other medical specialties. The “doctor” part — well, there was never any doubt about that part, really. I mean the idea of taking care of other folks came into my head pretty early ... Views: 42
We being a human always search for easy fixes, short cuts, and quick ways to fulfill our desires, wishes, and needs. We want to be happy as early as possible. We are quite impatient and inconsistent in achieving our goals and become successful. It is our nature and we fight with our nature to ... Views: 66
Incredible as it sounds, I still am amazed at how often I hear people say “I don’t believe in ADHD.” You probably have heard it too. And if you are like me, the moment those words come out of their mouth, every hair raises on the back of your neck, the fire starts to churn in the pit of your ... Views: 122
Colour and light are powerful sources of energy that affects our mental and physical health also. They can reveal a lot about our personality while helping tonifing ourselves by filling our energy losses that we suffer daily cause of anxiety, stress, fatigue and other ... Views: 61
Over the last decade of working in the field of Psychotherapy and Coaching, I've met many clients who had a rather negative experience or no results at all as they worked with some of my colleagues. The situation is not limited to certain countries or branches of Psychology.
As a solution to ... Views: 84
Depression and anxiety are, by far, the most common mental health problems. Nearly 20 percent of the US population struggles with or will struggle with one or both of these problems.
The most common treatment today for these issues is medication—typically prescribed by the primary care ... Views: 127
Mental problems are difficult to diagnose and treat. However, there are some steps that you can take to help a family member manage such conditions.
A person suffering from any form of mental condition should see a certified psychiatrist to receive a proper diagnosis. ... Views: 97
I remember a supervisor from the past whom I never thought had the right personality to be a psychiatrist. I mean, he was a little angry and domineering for my taste. But heck — I gave him a “bye” since he worked in a prison context.
I was never attacked by a prison patient through my ... Views: 121
Life can feel like a perpetual classroom. You’re constantly learning. Sometimes you make mistakes and other times you get a gold star for your achievements. Once in a while, a particular lesson alludes you, no matter how many times you experience it. When frustrations build, you might consider ... Views: 126
Sometimes the people who need therapy the most are the very people who find it hardest to seek help. They’re afraid they’re wasting the therapist’s time. They’re afraid they’re wasting their own or their loved one’s money. They’re afraid of exposing their deepest selves—and of trying and ... Views: 108
It’s easy to see when your friend needs to dial it down at a party. When your cousin’s behavior is a little off. When things are off balance for someone else. But it’s not so easy to see about yourself. Sometimes you seek therapy precisely because you are not clear about where you are trying to ... Views: 98
According to an article released by CBS News called “Fake Service Dogs a Growing Problem,” real service dogs help assist a wide variety of individuals, including “people who use power or manual wheelchairs, have balance issues, have various types of autism, need seizure alert or response, need ... Views: 128
Struggling with one’s weight is rarely connected to sole physiological factor.
Addressing body image and health issues through counselling and weight loss hypnotherapy can help an individual to identify the “root” of their lack of success in losing weight. Modern technologies can also be ... Views: 185
The Perfectionist is one form of the Inner Critic. It is a part of you that tries to get you to do things perfectly. It has very high standards for your behavior and especially for products you create or performances you make. This often comes up around written reports. Often the Perfectionist ... Views: 164
When Joe’s wife asks him to do something around the house, he always seems to go along and agrees to do it. But it rarely happens. He forgets about it, or he does a little bit of it but doesn’t finish the job. Sometimes he does the job in a way that isn’t really what she wanted. He feels vaguely ... Views: 166
Effective couples therapy depends on a number of factors. Both partners must be willing to make a change. If one has already decided to give up and cannot reengage, then success is probably not possible. The key is to get to a therapist before your relationship has eroded too far. If one or both ... Views: 107
When someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years.
So for some people, it ... Views: 166
Many people that have consistently been struggling with their weight may sooner or later turn to humorous, self-criticism as a defence mechanism. Overweight people have often been stereotyped in society and popular culture as the heart and soul of the party because of their humorous approach ... Views: 232
What harm can a 12-year-old girl do to the world? One would think. Before I met David, I’d say none.
Generally speaking, a 12-year-old girl is associated with innocence and powerlessness.
Unless, maybe, when such a girl is a nanny, having to take care of younger children.
David came ... Views: 482
Keep making those Requests
Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment.
I have a friend of many years who as a teenager was experimenting with a rocket that exploded ... Views: 250
Do you often feel like you don’t fit in your world? Do you sometimes see or hear things that other people don’t? Do you often feel like you have trouble paying attention and have lost interest in things that you used to enjoy?. Do you sometimes have trouble speaking and getting organized? Do you ... Views: 203
The onset of schizophrenia can be any age from around 16 to 30 with some rare cases as old as 40. The average age of onset is 19. If your teenager or young adult has the following signs they may have schizophrenia: garbled speech or pauses in conversation, periods of staring in space, and ... Views: 243
One of the challenges for men in the modern world is to accept that they have stress, depression, anxiety and other mental health issues. Women now expect their man to be open and share his feelings. In previous generations men were expected to go to work and provide the money. This was not ... Views: 248
Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist and Tedx speaker, revealed to his audience in a segment called “The Most Important Lesson from 83,000 Brain Injuries” the ineffectiveness of modern psychiatric practices. He also referred to the influx of returning U.S. combat veterans who served in Iraq and/or ... Views: 391
Regain Your Inner Core By Working On Core Issues
The concept of family goes back to the beginning of time. It’s the traditional social system that shapes our inter-personal dynamics and provides the working model for the story we create about ourselves. Of course, we’ve all been children at ... Views: 212
Often times partners share their wondering about how exclusivity, monogamy, and fidelity is possible in a longterm relationship. It is usually the male partners who pose this question when their female counterpart is not present.
I appreciate their honesty, risk and willingness to explore ... Views: 300
Dear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ... Views: 271
The criticisms of others can do you a great service! Yes, I said service not the disservice you’ve come to feel it is. How can the criticisms of others serve you? By destroying your ego. This sounds awful, doesn’t it? Of course, it does. Most of us have falsely identified with our egos. We ... Views: 241
Once more, mindfulness is being totally present and in the moment and avoiding judgment. So how do we connect our increased practice with mindfulness to our eating behaviors and attitude to food?
Sadly, we let our lives become so busy that things become automatic, even some of the things we ... Views: 218
Mindfulness is about stabilizing. Studies have shown that people who have experienced trauma can benefit highly from this type of work. (Cullen, 2011). When people have experienced trauma, they can be challenged with high levels of stress, anxiety and depression at any time.
When we increase ... Views: 137
Dr. Romance writes:
I’ve been talking with clients a lot recently about what to do if someone you love or care for is self-destructing through addiction, or is making it difficult to be a friend because they’re out of control. We all have had some dramatic examples on television and in ... Views: 444
Scientific research demonstrates that belief in a treatment method has a direct affect on the probability for its success. These findings apply to all types of healing methods and approaches. Given the immense power of belief, following are 5 of the more common beliefs that can sabotage even the ... Views: 504
Awakening to Our Celestial Nature 8 Day Course (Part 1)
By Author: White Wolf
Awakening to our Celestial Nature (Day 1)
This course is for anyone that feels that there is more to life than what they are getting. There are certain rules in this Universe that we must follow so that we can ... Views: 126
Seasonal affective disorder, otherwise SAD in short, is considered a state of depression fuelled by the particularities typical for each of the four seasons summer, autumn, winter and spring. Quite simply experiencing an inappropriate mood thus being unable to adjust for the seasonal change that ... Views: 653
There's no escaping the fact that children take up time. In fact, they tend to take up so much time that there can be little left over to focus on yourself. Babies especially are incredibly demanding and their needs can become all-consuming. Even the most organised and efficient mums admit to ... Views: 121
Most people are empathetic, unless they have a personality disorder, and they understand that emotions are sacred. To be taken seriously. Most people agree that it’s morally unethical to toy with someone else’s emotions.
But some people—notably narcissists and psychopaths—find emotional ... Views: 358
The little girl with no needs. The little boy who takes care of mom. Premature maturity, is in fact, no escape from having needs or needing to be taken care of. It is not an escape from being a child, and it is in fact, not often maturity at all. Premature maturity is something else more ... Views: 517
Dr. Romance writes:
I recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for ... Views: 405
There is a myth that those who self harm are seeking attention; on the contrary, people who self harm are known to keep their actions private. Common reasons such as shame or fear prevent the individual from asking for help; this is why an important factor into supporting people who self harm is ... Views: 434
Are you afraid of conflict with your significant other or friend? Do you make bad decisions to accommodate him? Do you tell little white lies to avoid problems? Do you blame yourself for his dissatisfaction? Do you rush to pamper him when he becomes irritated? Do you sacrifice and give, give, ... Views: 365
Christian Counseling is now growing in terms of its popularity all around the world. Gone are the days when anything to do with religion were looked on by psychologists and counselors as being detrimental to one’s mental health. A plethora of studies have now shown that spiritual beliefs, a ... Views: 474
Many families are often confronted by situations that may cause stress, anger, tension and heartache in the family dynamics. For this reason, a family may consider going to family therapy sessions to work through some of those problems and challenges. A therapist is a good sounding board when ... Views: 420
Right off the bat that must sound like such a selfish thing to say, why would I wish what had happened to me on my siblings? But it’s an age-old question that hunted me for many years. Did I do something wrong? Was it because I miss behaved? Surly not I only acted that way to get noticed. If I ... Views: 355
My loved one has only been sober for 1 month. Why aren’t they answering their phone? Did he/she relapse again? Oh no…not again. You call. They don’t answer. You drive by their favorite restaurant; their favorite bar. They aren’t there. You call their friends. No answer.
There it ... Views: 557