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25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication
“The greatest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw.
Communication is the main currency in the today’s Information Age, but sadly, miscommunication is our number one failing ... Views: 26
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ... Views: 34
If human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone had relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part in ... Views: 90
Without a doubt, one of the most powerful ways for someone in a position of authority to become a true leader is through the trust of their team. Obtaining the trust of your employees can mean the difference between a smooth flow of work, and having people doubt your capabilities and intentions. ... Views: 50
As human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life.
Of ... Views: 105
Relationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse
Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex.
1. Choose your battles.
One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ... Views: 158
One can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses.
This could be because of what is ... Views: 136
This article is about learning to trust your self!
Many articles about relationships are often about learning to trust your partner again after some unfortunate incident has occurred in the relationship. In many cases attempting to do this is about numbing one's self to one's own inner wisdom ... Views: 118
Of course the best way to protect yourself from emotional abuse in a relationship is to leave it and find a better one.
Most individuals are unable to muster the courage to do this for many reasons that involve fear. I have written about this in another article (i.e. Relationships: The Fear ... Views: 118
To recover from infidelity and save your marriage:
1. Tell the Truth.
Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions.
2. Give your Spouse the ... Views: 125
Dear Dr. Romance:
Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof?
"Handling the Green-Eyed ... Views: 202
Many therapists call the problem some individuals have saying no to others a "boundary issue" problem. In other words the individual has a problem protecting their own space and their energy resources.
Such individuals tend to quietly accept whatever is doled out them whether they like it or ... Views: 129
Last month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader:
“A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ... Views: 196
There are many experiences of the truth of who you are:
"The Authentic Self is the part of you that lives before and after this lifetime, that is eternal…When you leave [your experience here on earth] you have a lot more power. It won’t be ego-based power. Rather it will be beyond ego, ... Views: 228
You made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ... Views: 209
Not being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life. Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be ... Views: 108
Dear Dr. Romance,
Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ... Views: 187
3 ways to Stay Sane and Stay Married
Is your spouse a control freak? It is driving you to distraction? Here are three tips to keep your relationship on track, keep you sane and stop you from going to divorce court.
1. Control freaks can be very successful.
If yours is, give credit where ... Views: 232
The most aggravating feeling in the world is the feeling of abandonment. You can talk all you want yet you will never get your point across and it will be hurtful for your pride to speak whenever you are feeling abandoned. You feel as if the world has ended and no matter who comes to help you, ... Views: 153
Dear Dr. Romance:
You state in the Yahoo article "Signs You Must Move On": "Women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they're unhealthy. They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won't ... Views: 256
Are you unsure whether or not you have strayed into the realms of emotional infidelity?
Are you worried that perhaps someone other than your spouse has become your top priority?
Or maybe you're here reading this because your husband or wife wants you to see for yourself that your ... Views: 366
Yes it's about quality not quantity. You can spend every waking hour with your partner and have a terrible relationship. And if that's the case then who the heck would want to spend all day with them anyway?
Right? So it's definitely quality over quantity. And it doesn't matter if you've ... Views: 295
"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships.
“I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ... Views: 227
"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships.
“I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ... Views: 211
There are plenty of things about us that we do not understand; things that we do not notice or see even when they are available right in front of us. Sometimes those things are abilities that we have long forgotten about and sometimes they are skills that we have earned through time. We might ... Views: 268
After a long day of fishing the bright sea, an Indian fisherman heads home to port. The sea with its endless potential treated him very well today and he was sure to gain huge reward after selling his catch. The fishing market had been bustling as of recent and the demand for the fisherman’s ... Views: 397
Why do relationship counselors, speakers and authors say repeatedly that your relationship depends on how well you communicate with each other? Because marriage is a partnership and to create teamwork, you need to keep each other informed, and keep yourself aware of your partner’s ideas, wants ... Views: 247
When you were growing up, you probably learned that lying was wrong.
Remember the old adage, "Honesty is the best policy"?
However, chances are that those same people who told you not to lie often told a few non-truths themselves. And today, the mantra of "do not lie" may be one you repeat ... Views: 237
All marriages should be all about the fairy tale, but this is not always the case. Obviously, reality is hardly ever that way. Money and raising kids are often tense issues a lot of couples fight over which can be rather challenging. Issues that couples fight over are common everyday issues. ... Views: 195
Dear Dr Romance:
I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight.I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ... Views: 448
Who would you be and how different your life would be if you could embody a state of absolute self-love? That means loving ALL about yourself: the past, the present, your shadow self, your thoughts (including those you are grateful no one knows about), your mistakes and your emotions.
There ... Views: 338
So many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ... Views: 364
Dear Dr. Romance:
How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their
If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition.
These guidelines can help:
Dr. Romance's ... Views: 350
p>Dear Dr. Romance:
Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ... Views: 386
Even healthy couples can certainly make some of the most common marital mistakes. However, the good news is, they are avoidable. Also, for couples who have already fallen prey to some of these most common mistakes, they can certainly take action to remedy them.
Disregarding Your Spouse’s ... Views: 344
A friend once told me that "Compatibility on many levels (physical, mental, emotional, lifestyle, goals, etc.) is more likely to create a lasting relationship than compatibility on only a few levels." I want to thank that friend for saying this and influencing this new blog post. I will not say ... Views: 331
Sometimes (not often, I must admit), I’m speechless. I really don’t mind losing my voice to the indescribable beauty of a sunset. Or when, surprised by a visit from one of my children, my grin speaks louder than words. I DO mind, however, when I am in a situation that requires me to speak, ... Views: 342
When a Constellation is “set up,” we always try to start as small as possible. After you state your issue to the group, which generally consists of 15-20 people, I then check in with you about how you are doing. When you are ready, I tell you who needs to be represented in your Constellation. We ... Views: 281
Alcohol abuse and alcoholism are so pervasive that about a third of Americans have someone close to them who has the problem. This means legions of people have relationships that are stressful at best, and damaging at worst. If your spouse is an alcoholic then alcoholism is bound to affect you ... Views: 333
I just want to give you a short quiz on what you think love is. A, Do you think that love is about reciprocity? B, Do you feel that love is about openness, honesty, and sharing? C, Do you feel that love is about calling someone ten to twenty times a day, monitoring their Facebook page like it ... Views: 254
Family Constellation therapy or better said Family Constellation work (as it is properly named) is a therapeutic process that was developed in the second half of the 20st century, by a man named Bert Hellinger.
Today Hellinger is known as the father of phenomenological psychotherapy. ... Views: 259
Just rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with Barbie and Ken dolls. If you were a boy, you probably played with small action figures like He-Man and GI Joe. You put so much imagination into those toys. After all, you needed to bring them to life. Each toy had a story ... Views: 370
There are many people we trust in life but once that trust is broken how can we trust again? To be honest I am not sure we can but in different types of relationships there are different levels of trust. If a partner lies to you and you find out how do we deal with that? If adultery is the trust ... Views: 426
In this world there are two kinds of people; takers and givers. Takers are the type of people that will take anything from you. Takers will take something material from you, or they will simply drain you emotionally. Takers only care about themselves. Takers do not care about your ... Views: 615
Being able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ... Views: 513
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a ... Views: 545
The Mindset Train
There are times when our thoughts and actions do not necessarily fall in line with what would be to our greatest advantage in life. Instead of being proactive toward living a better, more fulfilling life, many of us go through times when we inadvertently limit our actions, ... Views: 785
Decision making is very complex as many concepts play their role to make it happen. For most of the time, we don’t know which concept is leading ourselves towards an immediate decision. These are hidden concepts that make our background to work within our brains. Here, I am least interested in ... Views: 285
Do you Feel like your Relationship has Become a Battle Ground?
Does Your Relationship Seem More Distant Each Day?
How Is It Possible to Change-Conflict-Into-Intimacy?
You might be scratching your head wondering "How is it possible to turn ... Views: 541
When we begin a relationship we start off by revealing parts of ourselves, our likes and dislikes, what I like to call our preferences. These include things such as politics, religion, our favorite movies, the food we like, basically our thoughts, views and beliefs. If we agree, like and accept ... Views: 749