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Last month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader:
“A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ... Views: 120
There are many experiences of the truth of who you are:
"The Authentic Self is the part of you that lives before and after this lifetime, that is eternal…When you leave [your experience here on earth] you have a lot more power. It won’t be ego-based power. Rather it will be beyond ego, ... Views: 169
You made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ... Views: 148
Not being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life. Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be ... Views: 67
Dear Dr. Romance,
Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ... Views: 129
3 ways to Stay Sane and Stay Married
Is your spouse a control freak? It is driving you to distraction? Here are three tips to keep your relationship on track, keep you sane and stop you from going to divorce court.
1. Control freaks can be very successful.
If yours is, give credit where ... Views: 179
The most aggravating feeling in the world is the feeling of abandonment. You can talk all you want yet you will never get your point across and it will be hurtful for your pride to speak whenever you are feeling abandoned. You feel as if the world has ended and no matter who comes to help you, ... Views: 113
Dear Dr. Romance:
You state in the Yahoo article "Signs You Must Move On": "Women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they're unhealthy. They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won't ... Views: 183
Are you unsure whether or not you have strayed into the realms of emotional infidelity?
Are you worried that perhaps someone other than your spouse has become your top priority?
Or maybe you're here reading this because your husband or wife wants you to see for yourself that your ... Views: 251
Yes it's about quality not quantity. You can spend every waking hour with your partner and have a terrible relationship. And if that's the case then who the heck would want to spend all day with them anyway?
Right? So it's definitely quality over quantity. And it doesn't matter if you've ... Views: 250
"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships.
“I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ... Views: 179
"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships.
“I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ... Views: 159
There are plenty of things about us that we do not understand; things that we do not notice or see even when they are available right in front of us. Sometimes those things are abilities that we have long forgotten about and sometimes they are skills that we have earned through time. We might ... Views: 219
After a long day of fishing the bright sea, an Indian fisherman heads home to port. The sea with its endless potential treated him very well today and he was sure to gain huge reward after selling his catch. The fishing market had been bustling as of recent and the demand for the fisherman’s ... Views: 317
Why do relationship counselors, speakers and authors say repeatedly that your relationship depends on how well you communicate with each other? Because marriage is a partnership and to create teamwork, you need to keep each other informed, and keep yourself aware of your partner’s ideas, wants ... Views: 203
When you were growing up, you probably learned that lying was wrong.
Remember the old adage, "Honesty is the best policy"?
However, chances are that those same people who told you not to lie often told a few non-truths themselves. And today, the mantra of "do not lie" may be one you repeat ... Views: 191
All marriages should be all about the fairy tale, but this is not always the case. Obviously, reality is hardly ever that way. Money and raising kids are often tense issues a lot of couples fight over which can be rather challenging. Issues that couples fight over are common everyday issues. ... Views: 158
Dear Dr Romance:
I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight.I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ... Views: 377
Who would you be and how different your life would be if you could embody a state of absolute self-love? That means loving ALL about yourself: the past, the present, your shadow self, your thoughts (including those you are grateful no one knows about), your mistakes and your emotions.
There ... Views: 279
So many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ... Views: 311
Dear Dr. Romance:
How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their
If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition.
These guidelines can help:
Dr. Romance's ... Views: 300
p>Dear Dr. Romance:
Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ... Views: 337
Even healthy couples can certainly make some of the most common marital mistakes. However, the good news is, they are avoidable. Also, for couples who have already fallen prey to some of these most common mistakes, they can certainly take action to remedy them.
Disregarding Your Spouse’s ... Views: 306
A friend once told me that "Compatibility on many levels (physical, mental, emotional, lifestyle, goals, etc.) is more likely to create a lasting relationship than compatibility on only a few levels." I want to thank that friend for saying this and influencing this new blog post. I will not say ... Views: 271
Sometimes (not often, I must admit), I’m speechless. I really don’t mind losing my voice to the indescribable beauty of a sunset. Or when, surprised by a visit from one of my children, my grin speaks louder than words. I DO mind, however, when I am in a situation that requires me to speak, ... Views: 282
When a Constellation is “set up,” we always try to start as small as possible. After you state your issue to the group, which generally consists of 15-20 people, I then check in with you about how you are doing. When you are ready, I tell you who needs to be represented in your Constellation. We ... Views: 244
Alcohol abuse and alcoholism are so pervasive that about a third of Americans have someone close to them who has the problem. This means legions of people have relationships that are stressful at best, and damaging at worst. If your spouse is an alcoholic then alcoholism is bound to affect you ... Views: 296
I just want to give you a short quiz on what you think love is. A, Do you think that love is about reciprocity? B, Do you feel that love is about openness, honesty, and sharing? C, Do you feel that love is about calling someone ten to twenty times a day, monitoring their Facebook page like it ... Views: 218
Family Constellation therapy or better said Family Constellation work (as it is properly named) is a therapeutic process that was developed in the second half of the 20st century, by a man named Bert Hellinger.
Today Hellinger is known as the father of phenomenological psychotherapy. ... Views: 217
Just rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with Barbie and Ken dolls. If you were a boy, you probably played with small action figures like He-Man and GI Joe. You put so much imagination into those toys. After all, you needed to bring them to life. Each toy had a story ... Views: 319
There are many people we trust in life but once that trust is broken how can we trust again? To be honest I am not sure we can but in different types of relationships there are different levels of trust. If a partner lies to you and you find out how do we deal with that? If adultery is the trust ... Views: 355
In this world there are two kinds of people; takers and givers. Takers are the type of people that will take anything from you. Takers will take something material from you, or they will simply drain you emotionally. Takers only care about themselves. Takers do not care about your ... Views: 518
Being able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ... Views: 446
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a ... Views: 500
The Mindset Train
There are times when our thoughts and actions do not necessarily fall in line with what would be to our greatest advantage in life. Instead of being proactive toward living a better, more fulfilling life, many of us go through times when we inadvertently limit our actions, ... Views: 678
Decision making is very complex as many concepts play their role to make it happen. For most of the time, we don’t know which concept is leading ourselves towards an immediate decision. These are hidden concepts that make our background to work within our brains. Here, I am least interested in ... Views: 252
Do you Feel like your Relationship has Become a Battle Ground?
Does Your Relationship Seem More Distant Each Day?
How Is It Possible to Change-Conflict-Into-Intimacy?
You might be scratching your head wondering "How is it possible to turn ... Views: 485
When we begin a relationship we start off by revealing parts of ourselves, our likes and dislikes, what I like to call our preferences. These include things such as politics, religion, our favorite movies, the food we like, basically our thoughts, views and beliefs. If we agree, like and accept ... Views: 689
There are two most common elements that hinder us in reaching our goals. These two come together and block our roads to the life that we want. When we learn to overcome them, there’s no way that we will not land to the path that we wanted to travel.
Worry and Fear come together and are our ... Views: 495
Between the wish and the thing life lies waiting.
When you're stuck in a situation you can't control, how do you handle it?
Really think about that.
When you have to sit in traffic on the highway for two hours because a truck overturned up ahead and there's no way ... Views: 522
When it comes to building trust and rapport, there are seven basic principles that we have found to be key. The first of those is as follows:
Avoid Criticizing and Complaining
Any behavior that is negative will inherently go against the spirit of building trust and rapport with someone. ... Views: 432
To have a happy dating and marriage with the girl you meet, communication and chat Russian women is the key to the successful relationship and happy marriage. Everything about relationship, love, marriage, trust and more is realized by means of good communication with your lovers.For the purpose ... Views: 848
“The Most Expensive thing in the world is trust… It can take years to earn and just a matter of seconds to lose”
I am sure that you have experienced how trusting relationships are simply easy and flowing, whereas ones without trust require much more work and involve conflict and power ... Views: 563
When the essence of your life, which is consciousness, connects to something like another person or your work, a commitment is formed. A superficial level of commitment happens when your consciousness connects to the thoughts of something and you are just left committed to your own mind. The ... Views: 267
Does it seem like every time you start to get close to your partner, she or he finds a way to prevent you from connecting on a deeper level? If so, your partner may be struggling with fear of intimacy.
WHAT IS INTIMACY?
In order to understand fear of intimacy, it is necessary to understand ... Views: 755
For most of my life, I assumed there was something deep, dark and shameful about myself that would make people recoil in horror from me, if they really got to know me. This belief was unconscious, and it actually took a lot of work for me to admit this to myself. It was necessary, because I kept ... Views: 505
“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”
Sir Josiah Stamp
Self-responsibility, — a concept by which individuals assume responsibility for their own choosing.
Now when it come to the ... Views: 427
This is my first web based article. I feel joy as I write it, simply because many of my cob webs are gone and I feel like I CAN... do many of the things my prior life said were not possible. It is my goal to offer you inspiration, hope, and a desire to truly clean up and be free... in other ... Views: 587
What is emotional vulnerability? Emotional vulnerability is when an individual surrenders fully to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. It is when you break open locks and tear down walls—being open and transparent.
The fear of the unknown is what blocks us from giving ourselves ... Views: 967
Everyone experiences ups and downs in relationships. It is normal for there to be rough patches and little problems in every relationship. Most people manage to get through them by talking it through with their partner (or family member, friend, etc.) and coming to a solution. Sometimes the ... Views: 804