Are your communication skills lacking?

Are you tired of not getting what you want because you don’t know how to express it?

Do you often feel misunderstood?

In this article I will take you through some motivating and effective ways to communicate.

After you finish reading this page you will feel like you have a new positive and productive way to get through to your loved ones and or business prospects.

These are some of my simple yet effective communication skills that will enhance your relationships and increase your business.

Effective Communication Skills in all your Relationships

Whether you are in a relationship with a significant other, a family member or a business prospect understanding how to express your intentions effectively can make all the difference in the world.

My secret weapon is observation and the ability to tune in and sense someone’s personality. What I mean here is sensing their energy vibration.

When you start to really pay attention you will be amazed at the important information you will pick up. You find out what makes the other person tick. You can find out if they are responsive to your energy level if not you can adjust that. You can find out what is important to them and what they like and don’t like.

If you know the answer to these important questions you will have gained some very valuable information about the person and how to use communication skills with them.

In examining the first point we are looking at what makes the person tick. How do they operate in life? Are they quite? Do they love to talk? Are they up beat? Do they move fast or slow? Really take in what kind of person you are interacting with.

If this is someone you have known for a long time then you will want to pay extra attention to these details. You may feel you know the person so well that you don’t need to try anymore. The exact opposite is true. This person may have changed and you are still operating on old ideas about who they are.

Check in and see if that may be one of the reasons you are having communication problems to begin with. You may be operating under past assumptions.

A perfect example of poor communication skills is with my mother who for the longest time kept responding to me as if I was still fifteen. She would say to me you don’t like this or you can’t do that. I would think, “What? Who is she talking about I have been into such and such for years now, how does she not know this?” One of us if not both of us is not communicating very well. She still thinks I like the same things and have the same thoughts I had at age fifteen.

Whose fault is that? Both of ours really, I never took the time to let her into my world as it is now and she never asked. Since that time our relationship is much improved ,we communicate better now then ever but that wasn’t always the case. We had to both make an effort to get to know each other today and let the past go.

Finding out what is important to someone is really about asking questions. Yes a very important part of communication skills is asking questions.

If you know what the other person likes and dislikes you will know how to speak to them so they respond positively. That doesn’t mean you adjust what you like or dislike it means that you are going to communicate with them on their level.

When I am in any type of selling situation I always ask as many questions as I can so I know how to present my idea or service in a way that is of value to them.

The only way to know what is of value to someone is by asking questions. They will tell you exactly what they like and don’t like. It is up to you to listen.

Your ability to become a chameleon will be particularly beneficial with strengthening your communication skills .

I have found that people are the most comfortable with other people that are like them. If you put yourself in the same rhythm they are in you will bond with them. People respond very well to similarities.

Have you ever heard someone say, “Oh you’re just like me.” We are all looking for what is the same so we can share that common bond. When you bond with them you create an excellent starting point for developing great communication skills.

When I am with someone I allow their energy to meld with mine, if they need a boost then my energy will help lift them if I need a calming effect I allow their energy to sooth me and together there will be a great balance. Be aware of this the next time you are with someone and you will see what a mean by melding with their energy instead of fighting it or pushing away from it.

The last and most important point to make about effective communication skills is listening. If you listen more then you talk when it’s your turn to talk you will know that what you are going to say is going to make an impact. You will know what turns them off and you will know what they need to hear to close the deal.

People will tell you exactly what they want and what they don’t. If you respond to what they are looking for they will buy what you are selling.

Take the time to develop your communication tools and you will see the world open up to you.

I wish for you all the success and happiness the Universe has to offer!

Author's Bio: 

Dawn Abraham Certified Life/Business Coach, “Official Guide for Small Business Marketing at, partners with professionals and entrepreneurs to create balanced lives while earning more money. Law of Attraction, Self Esteem, Abundance, Meditation, Motivation, Reiki, Private & Group Coaching, Free Life Changing Mp3's and Teleclasses are offered go to: Qualified Life Coach.Com

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