Bereavement

Bereavement is a state of loneliness and emotional trauma, where a person is unable to deal with the loss he has suffered. This loss can be in any form such as loss due to a death, if a loved one is moving far away, a sudden break-up in a romantic relationship, divorce etc. However, Bereavement is more often than not associated with the passing away of a loved one and also with an end to a romantic relationship. There are two kinds of pain that you go through your life. One is the physical pain, maybe a headache, hurts a lot, then you take an aspirin and the pain is gone. The other one is the most awful kind, it is known as emotional pain or emotional trauma. There is no medicine for it, no surgery can fix it and no matter how much you deny, it still exists in the deepest corner of your heart, ripping your soul to shreds.

One of the most gruesome forms of this sort of grief is, when a child is lost to the hands of time. The death of a child can be pre-natal, neonatal, still birth or the death of an older child. In any and all cases, the loss of a child is simply devastating for the parents. It's an unbearable pain of incomprehensible proportions. Losing your own flesh and blood can never be just a bad news, it is and will always be the most intense form of grief. A life that you created, dreamt about his first words, first walk, his mischief and his future. Although, I'm trying the best I can, still I know, that such feelings can never be put into words and explained. However, having suffered the loss of a loved one myself, it's just a humble effort to show a path through which grieving loved ones can at least begin to get to terms with the reality and give a shot at moving on in life.

In this time of insurmountable pain and agony, what one needs is a way to let out the grief, to let it not manifest in him. Repressed feelings are more dangerous than the ones you let out, especially if these are negative in nature such as grief, sorrow anger etc. If a person shows the symptoms of numbness, loneliness, shock, guilt, anxiety, agitation and anger, then one must understand that the individual is in a state of bereavement. There are certain steps that should be followed, mostly by parents who have lost a child in order to let go off the grief and find some sort of a closure.

Crying Helps!: Cry all your grief out. Give yourself the permission to cry whenever you feel like it. It is extremely dangerous to keep the feelings bottled up inside. I know, it feels like you've been hit in the guts and you can't breathe. Still, it is imperative that you cry as much as you can. Anytime, anywhere. Formalities should be the least of your concerns.

Talk to People Close to You: The more you talk about your grief, the better. It makes you feel light from within and also lets you share all that is eating you inside. Talk to your friends, your spouse and each and every one that you think would be able to understand what you are going through.

Never Lose Faith: God is the only force that can pull you out of your misery. He is the Supreme Force that looks after us and shows the right way towards peace! For the last eight years, the only thing that has driven me towards leading a normal life, is Him. Believe in Him and He will give you strength to accept things that you can't change. You are never alone, He is always with you. Have faith and trust in Him. Come what may, never lose your trust in Him. Believe me, the comfort that His name alone provides, would be more than enough to keep your soul at peace.

At last, although it's no conciliation, but you have to move on. Cherish the memories you shared and dedicate your life to something meaningful. The pain remains, what changes is the way you deal with it and how you turn it from your weakness to your strength. God Bless You!