Valentine’s Day with its focus on love and romance can be a lonely time of year for singles still without their beloved. Many of us grow up counting on a fairytale romance, where love happens magically and soul mates always find one another -- without effort. Some singles just coast through life wishing and hoping for a loving relationship. While it is healthy to believe in the miracles and magic of love, it doesn’t hurt to also be practical and proactive in preparing for one’s romantic destiny.

As unromantic as that may sound, the romance will follow as soon as you are super clear on what you want in a relationship and what you are truly willing to bring to it. Why not take time this February to prepare for the love of Valentine’s Days to come? Take time this month to get ready for love, romance and marriage! Here are some ideas to help to get you started.

Enjoy Being Single.
Use times of longing and yearning for love to prepare for a new relationship. Assess the state of your life and begin to create the life you want to be living -- even if there is no one to share it with yet.

Heal and Move on from the Past.
Liberate yourself from obstacles that stand in the way of love by healing old heartaches, relationships and self-sabotaging relationship patterns. Now is the time to make decisions about letting go of relationships that no longer serve you.

Clean Up Your Life.
Start with a drawer, a closet; don’t stop until you’ve removed physical clutter, junk, old memories and memorabilia from you environment. Acknowledge what’s out of place in your life -- physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, as well as, financially – and take action to put things into balance. Pay off debts, deal with old paperwork, and take full charge of your life. True love can’t hope to find you if your life is too cluttered.

Evoke The Energy of Love.
Write, visualize, daydream, pray, and express gratitude for love as if it is already in your life. Make collages of pictures of couples in love, make wish lists and write stories about the relationship you choose.

Meditate to get a "sense" of your true love.
Let your mind wander and ponder the question: Who will be my life mate? See if your mind sends you any words, images or a hunch about your beloved. Let the images, words or feelings flow and come alive within you. Use any creative tools you are comfortable with to ask for all the Divine help you can get!

Become Soul-Mate Friendly.
Make an effort to ditch old baggage, dis-empowering beliefs, such as anger, neediness and worry, which can block or disable your ability to discern true love.

Say A Little Prayer.
Studies show that prayers help heal those who are suffering and that people who pray live longer, happier, more balanced lives so pray daily for love. Here’s a prayer to get you started.

Soul Mate Seeker’s Prayer

God, Goddess, Divine Spirit of All That Is,
thank you for the gift of knowing that love is my birthright.
And thank you for this opportunity to discover and pursue my hearts true desire.
I call upon the light and love of all the Cosmic Matchmakers,
the Spiritual Power that brings true loves together.
Please make sure I learn to love myself as
you guide me in my quest for love.
Please illumine the path with wisdom, grace, love and intelligence,
so that I can see my true love in the light of the divine,
And begin my relationship with "the right mate."
Please hold me in your embrace, that I may safely open my heart.
Support me in evoking from within the hero and heroine I once sought from others.
Let me write my own true love story... and let my true love help me craft it.
I pray that you help me find a love that brings heaven closer to earth.
Amen. And so it is.

If you take the time to enjoy single life, heal from past relationship mishaps and give thought to the love you really want, it will be much easier for your mystical lover to find and embrace you!

Author's Bio: 

About the Author - Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy person specializing in matters of the heart and soul. She is creator and instructor ofCreate Your Romantic Resume: A 30-Day Program to Transform Your Romantic Destiny, an email course available exclusively at She is "The Romance Reverend" - Soulful Love columnist for And author of A Goddess Is a Girl's Best Friend: A Divine Guide To Finding Love, Success and Happiness (Perigee Books, December 2002). Copyright © 2002 Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway. All rights reserved. For permission to publish, please contact