Have you ever heard hear someone say this statement, “but, I can’t because.” Maybe you’ve even said it a few times yourself. Either way, it is a powerful statement that can change the direction of all the words that follow it.

I want you to test this out for yourself the next time you notice someone saying this statement. When you hear it, I think you’ll find that everything that follows it is an explanation or a reason why the person cannot do whatever it may be.

The interesting thing is that very often that “something” that people are telling you that they cannot do is really something they say they want to do. That “something” that they say they want in their lives is often what comes before the statement, “but, I can’t because.”

I’ll give you an example. Someone may say, “I want another job, but I can’t because.” Or “I want to get a new car, but I can’t because” or “I want a (fill in the blank) but I can’t because.” You get the idea.

If you pay close attention you’ll also notice that some people will even argue with you, someone else, or themselves for all the reasons why they cannot have the very thing they say they want in their lives. By the way, I strongly suggest that you do not argue with people about this. The more energy they put into the argument, the more they are convinced it is the truth. And in a sense, it is the truth. It is their truth in that moment in time. Try honoring their truth. People are much more likely to make changes in their lives when you respect where they are, whether you agree with their position or not.

Now, if you catch yourself saying “I can’t because…” and you want to work with yourself, here's a simple series of Change Your Life Coaching Tip (s) that will, with regular practice, dramatically transform your life

When you catch yourself saying, “but, I can’t because” then congratulate yourself because you’ve already encountered step one; awareness that you’re saying it. The next step is to be gentle and patient with yourself. It’s ok if you said it. It’s not a bad thing to make the statement, just realize where it’s taking you.

The next step is to choose a different statement that is more empowering. One suggestion I have is to replace it with the statement “and, I can because.” It’s ok if you don’t fully believe it, just go with it and see what you start to say after that statement, and before you know it you’ll be making arguments for all the reasons why you can have what you want.

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Mike Brown specializes in Life Coaching, Spiritual Counseling, Deep Change Facilitation, and Advanced Manifesting to assist people in moving through blocks and getting what they really want.
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