Here are some simple, fairly inexpensive ideas to help you find love and nurture yourself so that you are not left waiting for a relationship to fulfill those needs. Remember that finding love starts on the inside.


1. Write down a list of everything a romantic partner would give you. Review the list to see if there are any items that you can give yourself right now.

2. Romance Yourself. Have a picnic in the middle of your living room, with a nice bottle of wine, candles and the music of your choice. Write a love letter to your future beloved.

3. Visualize every day that you are in the romance of your dreams, remember to engage the feeling of love.

4. Buy yourself flowers or treat yourself to a massage.

5. Instead of waiting for someone to take you on a vacation, go on a romantic trip for one.

6. Be conscious of your thoughts. Talk to yourself as you want your future mate to talk to you.

7. Stop putting off activities until “your love” arrives, go out and get active doing what you love to do right now. You never know who you will meet.

8. Avoid negative single people who complain that there are “no good ones” left. Surround yourself with people who are in alignment with your desire to experience true love.

9. Identify and release any ideas that block you from attracting love such as negative self-talk, lack of trust, desperation and impatience.

10. Remember that you are the prize and if someone doesn’t love and adore you, there is a four-letter word for that….”next!”

Author's Bio: 

This definition is part of a series that covers the topic of Dating. The Official Guide to Dating is Debra Berndt. Debra Berndt has been in the healing arts since 2000 working with clients on emotional, physical and spiritual issues. Berndt is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist with the American Council of Hypnotist Examiners (Cert. #104-078) and a member of the Colorado Association of Psychotherapists. She has been featured on television and radio throughtout the US and Canada, and she has a regular guest spot on Denver's Channel 7 News discussing topics that relate to dating, relationships and the power of the subconscious mind. Her book on attracting true love through hypnosis is due out in late 2008. Berndt is the creator of The Dating Makeover, a self-help program to change unhealthy dating patterns in the subconscious so that singles can attract the love of their life.

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