Thousands of people have gone through divorce, so you are not the only one. Divorce is not the end of your life, it is just the end of a marriage. You have other things that you need to focus on, rather than you marriage. If you have children for example, this is a great time to start focusing on them more.

Many people will find that it is hard to let go of their feelings during a divorce. They become angry and feel like they will lose control at any moment. Don't forget that there are thousands of people who feel this way. What you need to do is to seek therapy to help you control your temper and feelings of rage. This way you'll learn how to get along with your ex partner for the sake of the children.

After divorce, you may find that your self-esteem is completely gone. The most important step for rebuilding your esteem after divorce is to let go. You must place the past in the past and start to think about how you can improve the way you feel about yourself.

Never beat yourself down. It is not your fault, it's not anyone's fault, perhaps you just had a bad relationship. Don't think about the past – think about the future. Learn to use positive words to describe your personality (like smart, attractive, aspirational, etc). You image of yourself will effect your life very much. Sometimes it's better to be on your own and follow your own path, rather than following someone else. Your self-esteem will rise because you are an independent person.

One the most important lessons that you will learn from divorce is you are much stronger than you think. Going though all that you have, you will become a stronger individual. Now, you will be able to handle situations that you usually wouldn't think you could handle. Divorce definitely makes you stronger.

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Author's Bio: 

This definition is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. The Official Guide to Divorce is Carolyn Ellis. Carolyn founded Thrive After Divorce, Inc. to provide success strategies and resources for separated and divorced individuals. She is the author of "The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting: What to Avoid to Help Your Children Thrive after Divorce", which was awarded the prestigious Publisher's Choice designation by her publisher. She is also the co-author of "Power and Soul", with Alexandria Brown, the Million Dollar Marketing Coach. Carolyn is also the host of an award-winning podcast, "The Divorce 101 Show." She is a Harvard University graduate, a Certified Master Integrative Coach™, Teleclass Leader and the first Canadian to be certified as a Spiritual Divorce Coach.

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