Do you know someone who has been affected by abortion?

Consider these facts:

The U. S. population of females, ages 15 to 79, is 110,000,000.

The number of abortions in the last 34 years is about 48,000,000.

Yes, we all know someone who has been affected by abortion!

Abortion is a weighty decision; no woman makes this choice lightly. Some of these women have severe and long-term emotional complications due to their choice to terminate a pregnancy. For these women, there’s good news and bad news.

First, the bad news: Many hurting women do not seek help. Why?

1. They fear condemnation. As one woman said, “Society says it’s okay to have an abortion, but when they know I’ve had one they think I’m terrible.

2. They don’t realize others have suffered from the same difficulties. After her abortion, Betty Jo suffered from nightmares, the sound of a baby crying, guilt, regret, and sterility. She discovered a book about one post-abortive woman’s struggle to find peace. She says, “I realized that I was not alone. As I came to understand that many women had suffered just like me and as I read about how they dealt with this trauma, I could feel healing beginning in my heart.” She was eventually able to say, “I’m so thankful I have finally pulled loose from the clutches of my abortion and am healed from its horrors.”

3. They don’t know where to go for help. Stacy says, “I wish someone had told me that $300, the cost of my abortion, would not fix my problem, but instead would cause more emotional and physical trauma than I could possible imagine.” After she went through a healing program, she says, “I wish someone had told me sooner that I could go through a healing program in which God would release me from the shame, guilt, and grief that I had suffered for so many, many years.

Now, the good news: Help is available!

Listen to what these women have to say.

Cathie says, “Although the healing process was difficult and heartrending, it was so freeing. For the first time I was finally able to tell my story in a safe place where I wasn’t judged. This loving group allowed me to grieve for my children.”

As she looks in a mirror, Susan is able to say, “The reflection I see today is of a woman forgiven and free. I see a woman who is:

• Free of the shame, the guilt, the self-torture, and the self-loathing that I carried for so many years.
• Free from many of my destructive behaviors and habits.
• Free to love more openly.
• Free to love my living son in new and glorious ways, and to be a better mother to him.

“What a blessed journey!”

Suzan says, “It has been thirty years since my first abortion and there hasn’t been a day that I haven’t thought about my children, Sarah and Michael. Because of my healing, now I can remember my children with love, not shame.”

So where does a hurting woman go for help?

An excellent article by Leslie Graves discusses the types of helps that are available and discusses which kind of program might be right for you. It is available at

Here are a few of the many places to go for help:

Focus on the Family: (Offers on-line support groups.)

H.E.A.R.T.: Call 1-800-395-HELP (395-4357) for a program near you.

Healing Hearts Ministries: (Offers weekend retreats.)


Often it takes a concerned family member or friend to help a post-abortive women find the help she needs. You can be that caring person!

Author's Bio: 

Barbara Horak is a retired Certified Public Accountant, author, and speaker. She was Vice President of a multi-million dollar construction company and is currently involved in investments. Her latest adventure: part owner of a mountainous West Texas cattle ranch.

Barbara edited a recently released book, Real Abortion Stories: The Hurting and The Healing, which includes riveting, first-person stories by fourteen post-abortive women and one man. The story contributors want to help, so there is no condemnation or judgmental attitude. This book sells for $7.95. See for a special offer on May 16, 2007.