Our brain is basically a piece of equipment—like a computer’s hard drive. It is programmed to do things for us like tell the heart to beat and the lungs to breathe. It listens to everything we tell ourselves as though we are giving it instructions. It doesn’t make decisions or judgments about our thoughts, it just follows orders.

Our mind is the intangible part of ourselves that thinks and decides what we feel about people and events. Most of us are aware that we have a nearly continuous stream of inner conversation happening. We tell ourselves we can do something and we do it. Conversely, we tell ourselves we can’t and we believe that as well.

Say you desire a wonderful relationship and write down what your ideal person would be like. That’s good to do because it clarifies what is important to you. What happens if after you write it, your thought is, “I’ll never find anyone like that?” What if at a deeper level, you’ve told yourself you don’t deserve anyone with those qualities—you’re too old, too overweight, too—whatever? What are the chances of your dream happening? You might come close, but never see your vision manifest in your life.

Suppose you have a conflict with a boss or co-worker and your usual inner dialogue states, “I can’t stand that person.” What can you say that is a truth and lends itself to possibly creating balance in this area? “I could like my co-worker better.”

Here are some additional statements:
I could increase my monthly income.
I could have the meaningful relationship I want.
I could — you fill in the rest of it.

Saying you could opens the door to it becoming possible.

Another area self-talk impacts is health. People use catch-phrases like something is a pain in the (whatever). I know a person whose frequently-used phrase was, “It’s hard to swallow.” Within a few years, he developed a disease that impacted his ability to swallow. According to medical statistics, he wasn’t even a candidate to get this disease. Pay attention to your own catch-phrases and eliminate or change them so that your brain manifests what you really want.

Each of us came here with a special gift to share, whether on a small or grand scale. This gift has nothing to do with skills we acquire or talents we possess. It is the core of who we are, the inner splendor seeking full expression in our lives. If we are to release this splendor, we cannot afford self-talk that imposes limitations on us.

If you’re going to talk to yourself, and you will—as we all do—say the right things. Ask questions such as What’s working and how can I do more of that. You are part of a larger consciousness that offers unlimited potential to you. Align your thoughts, words, and actions with who you know yourself to be and your gift will help bring light into the world by virtue of your being who you truly are—a gift to be shared.

Author's Bio: 

Joyce Shafer is a Next-Level and Life Empowerment Coach, and author of “I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, But I Have Something to Say.” She has done radio programs around the U.S. For more information about her free session to see if coaching is for you, to order the Take This Life and Live It! workbook, or ask about the workshop, please contact her at jls1422@yahoo.com.