Soul Mates, Twin Flames, & Your Love Life - Why You Can't Always Get What You Want

We are convinced, based on our research, that everyone
has many soul mates, not just one, and no soul mate
connections are perfect.

There are many “experts” who say you can meet your
“soul mate” simply by purchasing their love spell,
following their plan, reading their book, attending
their seminar, or praying to the right angels.

Most of these “experts” fail to acknowledge that you
can’t just have what you want right now if it’s not meant
to be. Instead, they pander to the instant gratification
demands of the general public. Too many ignore the
importance of getting to know yourself on all levels,
discovering what you need to accomplish in this life,
and other higher-minded values.

Promoting captivating half-truths and wishful thinking
dressed up in sophisticated-sounding phrasing might
fatten profits, as many “best-selling” New Age authors
have found, but in the end it only serves to mislead and
add to the massive New Age misinformation heap.

Sure, we appreciate inspiring and creative writing,
especially when it’s grounded in truth instead of cozy
escapism. When one simple idea is stretched into pages
of wistful, much-about-nothing, long-winded prose, and
one concise paragraph could have outlined the point, it
just confuses the reader. Really, truth isn’t complicated,
and you should be wary if you have to read a passage
more than a few times to get its meaning.

We agree that the Universe (or God, or your Angels,
or your Guides, or your Higher Self) does respond to
questions as we’ve experienced the benefits of this
countless times.

But as we’ve said before, we disagree that you can have
something just because you want and ask for it, unless
it’s part of your destined path, regardless of how much
you heal yourself and regardless of how much energy and
inspiration you direct toward your desire. There is no
Santa Claus. If you could receive anything you wanted
in this lifetime, you could just ask for and receive the
winning lottery numbers or anything else, even if it
didn’t match your destined path.

To avoid disappointment and wasting your time, it’s
important to be your own Santa and not expect rewards
from anyone or any power outside yourself just because
you feel you’re entitled to them. You only get what you
want if you’ve earned it, often times through past life,
not current life, behavior and action. Just because you’ve
been “good” in the recent past, doesn’t mean you’ll be
rewarded for that now.

Regarding twin souls or true equals, it’s debatable whether
they really exist or if the concept is absolute New Age
nonsense. If you’re referring to someone who is your most
compatible match (which may or may not be a lasting,
rewarding relationship connection, depending upon your
personal love karma), then yes, we do feel everyone has
soul mates who are more compatible than others. But if
you’re hoping for your “other half,” someone who is a
“perfect” match with whom you’ll have the ideal relationship,
we must inform you that based on our research, we feel that
concept is pure fiction and fantasy.

If you view love relationships as a means to fulfill an
emptiness inside of you, or something that will give you
all that you dream of emotionally, sexually, mentally,
spiritually, or financially, you can be confident that your
outlook on love is unbalanced and unrealistic. In time, you
will be forced to face any feeling of lack you hoped to
eliminate through connecting with another person.

Does that sound a little harsh to you? We would rather
blatantly present our findings and our professional opinions
than lead you down a primrose path of illusion like we see
happen too often in today’s New Age marketplace.

Concerning love spells, we advise against them for two
reasons. The first is that when you cast a spell, you are
accessing and bringing forth energy that may not be for
the highest good of all involved or that may even be
dangerous if not used correctly. While Wicca spells, for
example, can be very beneficial, we feel only those serious
students of Wicca who understand what they are doing should
dabble in spells. The second is that it’s not anyone’s right
to manipulate another person, and sometimes love spells
encourage this.

Also, we firmly believe, through years of observation, that
karma overrides spells. In other words, someone might be
able to “create” a life circumstance through worship or
spell-casting, but it won’t last (and could possibly be
harmful) if it isn’t harmonious with one’s karmic and
fated plan.

We encourage you to learn to enjoy being independent and
make the most of yourself on all levels now so you’re ready
for the right person at the right time. We are also supportive
of the idea that it’s necessary to know yourself and what you
want in a relationship if you want to make the most of your
love life. A simple question to whomever you pray such as
“What’s my next step to improve myself and my love life?”
can work wonders. Ask this as often as you need to for insight.
With practice, you’ll find that asking before bed will often
result in waking up with answers or awareness.

Ultimately, the only way to have an authentically happy love
life is to stop looking outside yourself for love. Think about
that.

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo