"Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always had and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept other people and ourselves." -- Sidney and Suzanne Simon

Forgiveness is the key to emitting and creating positive energy. Forgiveness is also one of the most difficult states to achieve. We have all experienced negative events and situations in our lives. Many of us are holding grudges and resentment toward individuals for these events that happened. By holding on to grudges, you are emitting self-defeating negative energy. Think about it. How does it feel when you think of that person? Do you feel good, or do you feel bad? If you are feeling bad, you are still harboring negative feelings toward that person or situation and therefore are emitting negative energy. It is equivalent to dragging around an anchor with you at all times. In order to release that anchor and free yourself from these grudges and negative feelings that you are dragging around, you must let go of the feelings. How do you do that?

By forgiving. When you forgive, you are releasing that anchor.

Author Ann Lamott said it best: "In fact, not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die."

In reality, the only person dying is you. When you forgive someone, you are not doing it for the other person; you are doing it for yourself. The simple act of forgiving automatically releases all the negative energy and feelings that were there for that person. Once you are able to forgive, you will feel a sense of inner peace and freedom, strengthening your positive energy field.

For every negative experience that enters our lives, there is always something to learn and a way to grow from it. Identify the lesson learned. Recognize how you have grown from it and then be thankful for the experience. It is from our difficult experiences that we learn and grow the most. You can allow yourself to let go of the anger, resentment, and negative emotions that are attached to that individual or situation.

You are only hurting yourself by not forgiving. Stop resisting forgiveness. Forgive, and let go.

Forgiving others is important to emitting positive energy, but forgiving yourself is just as important. Sometimes we hold grudges, anger, and resentment toward ourselves.

As we live our lives each day, we are learning. At times, we have made mistakes, been unkind, and behaved in a less than loving manner. We need to find the inner strength to forgive ourselves for our pasts. The past is who you once were, even if it was just moments ago; it is not who you are now, or necessarily who you will become in the future. You have the ability and freedom to start your new life, to be the person you know you truly choose to be.

Think of a person you are having difficulty forgiving. Write out what you have learned and how you have grown from the situation that occurred. Then, write a letter thanking that person for what happened. Explain what you learned and how you've grown as a person because of it. Then, forgive that person. Write "I forgive you."

Note: The person you are writing to can also be someone who has passed away. You don't have to actually mail the letter or even speak to the person in order for the act of forgiveness to occur.

Author's Bio: 

Sonia Ricotti is the author of the highly acclaimed new book "The Law of Attraction, Plain and Simple: Create the Extraordinary Life That You Deserve." Go to http://www.leadoutloud.ca/lawofattraction to find out how to receive $10,000 worth of free gifts when you purchase the book today!

She is the president of Lead Out Loud, a world-renowned transformational leadership and self-development firm that helps people achieve professional and personal success. She is also a highly sought-after motivational speaker and a radio host for the popular inspirational Internet talk radio show Lead Out Loud Talk Radio.

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