The first few moments you meet someone can be decisive as to whether or not the two of you are a “match.” Scientists tell us these first impressions of each other that determine your future together happens in just a few minutes.

If you want the other person to like you there are a few techniques you can use to help lure them into liking you and then into making a first date and so on.

If you click during the first impressions, you then enter into the second phase where the person you are after starts making judgments about you as a potential love partner. His or her subconscious mind is most likely thinking about a partner just like themselves or at least similar to. If there is to be compatibility for a lifetime, or even for one date, you must have some things in common with each other. People seek others who have similar values and beliefs, and/or looks at the world in more or less the same way we do. Being similar to each other makes people feel good because it confirms the choices already made during a lifetime. People like to look for others who enjoy the same activities to be able to have fun with each other. Having many things in common with another person is definitely a solid foundation to start a good, long-lasting friendship.

Boredom, however, comes when there are too many similarities between two people. So then we also look for others who are a little different than we are to make up for what we lack. For example, if you are a messy housekeeper, you will appreciate someone who can keep an immaculate house for you. You might want to cross your fingers though that the one able to keep an immaculate house is agreeable at picking up after you and does not come to resent this part of your personality.

The complementary qualities people usually look for in other potential love partners are ones we find interesting or that enhance our lives. Most people seek out others who are similar and complementary to their own personality.

The trick to this particular game in life is to try and plant subliminal seeds of similarity in your chosen person’s heart and ways to make him or her know that, even though you two are basically alike, you are also different in many fun, and interesting ways. You must learn to do this subtly and gently and never become a manipulator of the other person’s heart, life and emotions. Remember, your goal is to win the heart of the other person for a worthwhile purpose, such as a long lasting enjoyable relationship.

It is a bit sad but true that we all ask the question of “what can this other person do for me? Even the nicest people will seek to answer this question. You might ask yourself is this person rich, is this person intelligent, and ultimately just what this person can do for me. Rarely, do people seek out others with the intent of “what they can do for them.” What’s in it for me is the question most everybody asks.

There will always be those people, however, who say love is pure and compassionate and real love between two people is absolutely blind with no selfish attitudes. This kind of love between two people does actually exist. Devotion and being able to sacrifice everything for each other comes later in relationships, much later, after you have made the person fall in love with you.

By: Connie Limon To read more opinions about this subject visit my web site at http://smalldogs2.com/LoveandRelationships where I am publishing a collection of articles written by a variety of authors that focus upon Love and Relationships. You are sure to find lots of helpful and entertaining information.

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By: Connie Limon To read more opinions about this subject visit my web site at http://smalldogs2.com/LoveandRelationships where I am publishing a collection of articles written by a variety of authors that focus upon Love and Relationships. You are sure to find lots of helpful and entertaining information.