Sex may not make the world go ‘round, but it can certainly play a part in sustaining a marriage. So can letting your wife know that you cherish and care about her outside the bedroom. This article will give you several clues of what you could do to become the ideal husband, and relay to your wife that not only do you love her, but care for her deeply.

How about giving communication a try? You could tell your wife that you love or cherish her. This is the first simple thing you could do that – believe it or not – could end up turning her on OUTSIDE the bedroom.

Remember before you were dating, you used to actually go out on dates and do things together? Even if the kids are a challenge, set aside a weekly or at least monthly date night for just the two of you. Line up a sitter ahead of time. Make these nights truly special by going out to eat, seeing movies you both like, attending the symphony or even extending date nights into the occasional short weekend away. If you feel you’ve grown distant over the years, take the time to get to know her all over again, just like you did when you first got together.

Sure, you pitch in and mow the lawn and do the fixing around the house. But, since you both work, why not try helping out around the house a little bit from time to time, besides your normal Mr. fix it or lawn-mowing duties? Experiment with washing dishes, cleaning up the kitchen, doing a load of laundry or two, and if you’re brave, prepare a meal for the family.

This could be an especially significant gesture if she comes home from work exhausted or has had a really rough day all around. I’m not saying that you need to do double duty by doing all the household chores all the time. But, when you notice she’s a bit behind, stop what you’re doing, pitch in, and come alongside her. After all, you’re in it together. Why not show it with your actions?

If you’ve implemented even a few of my suggestions, you’re on your way to getting your wife’s attention back on you and your marriage, outside the bedroom. Congratulations! You’ve done a few things to help out around the house, but I’d encourage you to do more.

Here’s your opportunity to really meet her needs, which may very well turn out in your best interest, as it could lead to a lot more than just pillow talk. Say your wife is just wiped out from work. Think back massage. Before you get all excited, though, remember, you’re doing it for her, which doesn’t mean it will (necessarily) lead to a full body massage for both of you. Tender touch in a caring, romantic but non-sexual way, helping to ease her physical tension in her back, temples or wherever she directs you is the order of the day. Remember to keep your hands above her waist, unless she specifies otherwise.

You, too, can turn your wife on OUTSIDE the bedroom. Ever heard of the saying, “Sex begins in the kitchen?” If not, here it is - when you help out around the house (like doing dishes or cooking a meal), in addition to letting her know that you cherish her, and touching her romantically, you may very well end up getting the surprise of your life – your wife desires to meet your primary need as a man. Sex, that is.

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