I have learned many things in my life. Most of what I learned was through trial and error. Mainly through error is when I grew the most. I believe the relationships I had in the past were to prepare me and make me ready to be the right partner for the one I was to be with. While I wish I had found her many years before, I obviously was not ready until the moment she came into my life. One of the lessons I had to learn was how to listen to my partner and really hear what she was saying. Sometimes I have to listen with my ears, and sometimes I have to listen with my heart, and feel what she is saying or doing.

Since the moment we started dating, I paid close attention to everything I could. I remained as open as any man could be so I would not miss an opportunity to know and understand my baby. I wanted to be as close as I could to her, and I wanted to know who she really was. I wanted to be able to understand what she was feeling and what she liked and disliked. By paying attention to her, I was able to get a decent understanding of how she displays certain feelings. I am in no way an expert at knowing exactly what she is feeling at any given time. I am sure I miss a lot of the signals that come out, but when I really listen to her, I almost feel in tune with her. It is at this moment I can almost feel what she is feeling and can then make my own decision on how to react or not react.

Knowing when to do something is another thing that I have had to learn the hard way. I am a natural problem solver. My career is based upon solving complex issues, and one of my hobbies is fixing things and remodeling. So it is a subconscious thing that I will want to fix something. If my sweetheart is in a bad mood, I will feel this, and will want to try to do something to get her in a good mood. While this is completely out of love and care, it is not always what she may be wanting. Sometimes we just want to vent our issues to someone who will just listen. We don’t necessarily want anyone to step in and solve anything; we just want to let things out. If we are in tune with our partners, we can hear what they need by listening with our heart and soul instead of our ears. Our ears may deceive us by turning on our internal want to change what is bothering our sweetheart. But if we turn our ears off, and truly hear our partner, we can begin to understand what they are feeling, needing, and missing if anything.

I have to say that being able to be so close to my sweetheart is such a wonder feeling. Knowing when to hold her close, walk away, listen, and when to hear brings us closer and closer every day. She must have also learned these things too, as she seems to be in tune with me. Not that I may be in an off mood, but she knows immediately when I need to sip my coffee without talking, or when I need her to come up and give me some kisses and sit as close as she can to me. OK, maybe I will always smile and want her to kiss me and hold me close, but the point is she seems to know this. Maybe you can start to listen with your ears closed too, and begin to truly hear what your love is saying. When you begin to hear each other, your relationship will go to new levels and will be more rewarding than you ever imagined.

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