The process of learning to love life is one which involves the detoxification of elements which hinder your personal growth. Many people believe they are happy and fully content with it all, but when you peel back some the layers of the surface, they hare hoarding feelings deeply seeded in past regret.

How do we move past regret? The truth is regret originates from the growth process itself. With time and experience, we gain the knowledge and wisdom, which creates feelings of anxiety over past decisions today. I call that the “what if” syndrome. We often say “what if I had done that, what if I stayed in that relationship, what if I had stayed at that job or what if I could find that person”. The truth is those ‘what ifs’ are taking up precious time in your life.

Learning to let go of the past is difficult, I understand, but it is essential. You must trust your past decisions as they were at that time regardless of how you have reevaluated the situation in the present. The decisions we made in the past help us to grow and understand our mistakes. When you made a decision over a decade ago, you cannot rebirth the outcome. Learn to accept the outcome as a lesson that has enhanced your life in a positive way regardless of how you view its effect.

In the present, stay away from the elements that serve as the source of your regret from the past. For example, if you let your brother borrow $500 from you ten years ago and he never paid you back, if he asks you today to borrow $500 today, would you let him borrow the money? The past experience has shaped the way you think today. Today, you make conscious decisions that will not create the same result as those in the past. Why? Because your past has shaped your thought process for you avoid the same outcome. You can face situations with confidence and create effective plans based upon experience.

But in the future, the reality is you must prepare for change and further growth. Take a moment to evaluate the outcome of today’s decisions and its potential effect on your future. In the scenario provided, if you lend your brother another $500, do you think he will pay you back? Do you think that it will cause conflict in the future if he did not pay back the debt? Do you think that he will wait another ten years to borrow more money? The choice is yours.

Your past is the past and there is nothing that can change past circumstances, however, learning how to overcome past regret is the key to developing a healthy mindset which will allow you to experience growth in every aspect of your life. And remember, now is the time to leap out on faith and dare to live out your dreams…..

Continued Prosperity!

Carol Sankar

Author's Bio: 

Originally from Brooklyn, New York, Carol Sankar is the first generation American born a family who migrated to the United Stated from the Caribbean in the 1970’s. Ms. Sankar excelled in school and had her sights on becoming an attorney from the age of eight. After graduating from high school in 1994, Carol spent a few years bouncing around in corporate America while going to college part time.

In 1997, Carol was offered an internship with the Kings County District Attorney’s Office which changed her life. She had the chance to network with several attorneys, judges, advocates and politicians which gave her the chance to explore the legal world from a business aspect. Following her tenure with the District Attorney, Carol worked as a Paralegal with several of the best mid-sized law firms in New York City.

By the early part of 2000, Carol was beginning to feel undervalued and overworked in the workplace. She began to realize that her value was determined by others and wanted to find a way to define her own worth. In 2003, Carol leaped out on faith and formed her first company, New Edge, which served as a local legal outsourced entity to assist law firms, insurance companies, and multi-service firms to outsource additional services. New Edge received local press coverage in the Caribbean community.

In 2005, Carol relocated to Charlotte, North Carolina and became involved in real estate. Ms. Sankar invented systems to invest in the real estate market in Charlotte without money or credit. Today, Carol coaches and trains others on how to invest in real estate with the same strategies which works she utilizes.

In addition to real estate, Carol Sankar is passionate about entrepreneurship and the value of ownership of your own life. She coaches other entrepreneurs on the value of realizing the potential of vision and understanding how to grow your business by accepting the Millionaire Mindset.