Every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you react to an event in your life.
It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that makes the difference.

Between every event and response there is a potential space. That space contains your freedom
to choose, and your power to respond. How you respond determines both your growth and happiness.

So, if you don't like the outcomes you're experienceing you can:

Focus on S - Blame the event for your lack of results.

Focus on R- Change your response to the events to get the outcome you want. If you focus on R, you have to give us blaming and complaining.

Here is an essential principle for ownership of your life and wellness story. In adulthood, you either "create" or "allow" everything that happens to you.

When you find yourself focusing on an obstacle, reflect on the underlying desire. When you're ready to accept that you create the obstacle, you're also ready to consider the possibility of not creating it.

Focus you attention consciously on a new experience, and you create new connections. Focused attention plays a crucial role in actually altering the structure of the brain. This means when you focus attention in constructive ways you change your brain.

This concept offers explanation at a brain level for why a solution focus is more effective than a problem focus. These brain connections literally become mind-maps, and influence the reality we see.

New neuronal networks and pathways are created when you focus on solutions. The already existing circuitry is further etched when you focus on existing problems. This is why people get stuck in therapy.

Neuroscience validates that it is not understanding the source of our thoughts, but a focus on awareness of choice that is most beneficial.

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Author's Bio: 

Pamela Hadfield-Grier is Life and Wellness Coach offering Stress Management techniques and Sport Yoga Instruction. She works with individuals to help them incorporate their mind, body and spirit to facilitate their decision making as well as their physical wellbeing to improve results in all areas of their lives.

For more information on Wellness Coaching, Stress Management and Sport Yoga visit my website at http://www.freedomfromillusion.com.