Spiritual Sex

Just as sex is important to keep a couple connected on a physical level, prayer is important to keep a couple connected on a spiritual level. That is why I call a couple’s prayer time ‘spiritual sex.’

Here are just a few of the benefits spiritual sex provides:
• By understanding more of what your partner wants for themselves and in the relationship, you can be more supportive.
• Two people focusing their attention on a thought or vision is always more powerful than just one person. Praying together strengthens the prayer and the couple’s bond.
• Spiritual sex results in miraculous problem solving. Instead of just focusing on the problems they have, praying together opens both partners to possible solutions for these issues.
• Praying together welcomes outside help (The Divine), adds hope to any situation, and demonstrates a willingness to work together and to move through something.
• Praying together develops both people’s communication skill sets. It creates a space for open communication about those things that most people feel alone with.
• Praying together improves self-awareness. Most people do not really think about what they want. They also believe they will be judged for wanting what they want, or that they will not achieve what they want. The practice of praying together provides both people with the opportunity to truly clarify that which they want, to make these wants a priority, and to have the support of their partner.
• Praying together allows for the perfect feminine-masculine balance. The feminine aspect of prayer is the reflection -- and the masculine aspect of prayer is the action. Answered prayers require the request and inspired action. Here, the feminine energy can help the masculine put thoughts into words, and the masculine can help the feminine by suggesting subsequent actions.
• Praying together also adds an element of joy, excitement and anticipation into the relationship. It is fun to keep track of the amazing ways in which our prayers are answered.

Here are some easy-to-integrate suggestions for couples who wish to start praying together:
• All prayers start with a thank you; start each day with gratitude. Before you get out of bed, look into each other’s eyes and tell each other at least one thing for which you are grateful (this can range from the roof over your heads to the person who created vanilla ice cream).
• After your moment of gratitude, take another moment to think silently about what you want for the day, the week, the month, the year, for yourself, for your partner and for the planet, etc.
• When you decide upon what you want, take turns with each person saying it out loud (both people should still be lying down with their eyes closed). Speak your prayer with as much sensory detail as possible, letting the speaker and the listener visualize it and experience it.
• After both people are done speaking their prayer, write it down. Writing your prayer down brings it closer to the experience. (Keep a journal or blank notebook next to the bed with pens).
• After the prayers are recorded, you are ready to get up and enjoy the day.
• At the end of the day, go back to your prayers and talk about the experiences you had during the course of your day. This will begin to create a connection between the prayer and the answered prayer.
• Adding this prayer time to your day can take as little as twenty minutes. It is worth waking up ten minutes earlier and turning off that television show to experience this as a couple.