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- Your Inner Critic Is A Liar - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you can you set your mind on achieving something and you soon take the next step. During this time, you may find that you have a supportive voice inside you that allows you to keep going when different hurdles arise. Furthermore, this supportive voice could typically be there ...
Views: 517 - Your Story: Is Your Need To Be Loyal Causing You To Create Someone Else's Life? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one does a lot of reading, they may find that they read a lot about other people’s lives. This could be because they like to find out about how other people experience life, and it could also be a sign that they like to get away from their own life. There is then the chance that they are ...
Views: 1127 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 516 - "You Have A Way With Words!" - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn September 2005 I ended up studying music technology, and this was due to a number of reasons. Firstly, I was into dance music and wanted to learn how to create my own music and, secondly, I didn’t know what else to do. During this time, I thought I would be spending a lot of time learning ...
Views: 880 - Boundaries: Are Other People To Blame If Someone Always Ends Up Being Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where other people have the tendency to walk over them, it is going to be a challenge for them to be themselves. They are likely to spend a lot of time on edge, as this will make it easier them to predict what will happen next. Through being anxious, it will be a ...
Views: 936 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Rejection Stop Some People From Saying No? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to stop them from having the need to please others. One will have the ability to say yes when they want to do something and no when they don’t. But even though both of these words have a part to play in their life, it doesn’t mean that they both have ...
Views: 928 - Boundaries: Is Someone A Victim If Other People Walk Over Them? - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to be a lot easier for them to handle life. The reason for this is that they will know that they have the ability to say no when they need to, and to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for them. Drawing the Line Therefore, if they ...
Views: 925 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 533 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 532 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 517 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here. Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ...
Views: 452 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 545 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1411 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Need To Live In Denial In Order To Get On With Their Parents? - by Submitted on May 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their parents, they may find that they start to feel good. What this can then show is that they have a good relationship with them, and this could be how it has always been. Now, this is not to say that they have never had any arguments with them; what it means is ...
Views: 1318 - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1312 - Communication: Is It Important To Have A Positive Energy? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a bad smell can cause someone to leave a room, a bad energy can also cause them to do the same thing. But, while a bad smell can be something that will typically register at a conscious level for someone, their conscious mind might not typically be aware of when they are ...
Views: 804 - Critical Thinking: Does Politics Attract People Who Can’t Acknowledge Their Own ‘Darkness’? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are left-leaning/right-leaning who see all people on the other side of the spectrum as crazy. In fact, it could go even further than this with these people seeing all of the people on the other side as less-than-human. When someone is in this position, they are ...
Views: 398 - Critical Thinking: Does The Mainstream Media Define How People Perceive Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, more and more people have turned their back on the mainstream media. While some of these people rarely, if ever, find out about what is going on, there are others that now look towards the alternative media for answers. However, with what is currently going on, there ...
Views: 389 - Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Trying To Infantilize Everyone? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt can appear as though the people in power are there to look out for their fellow human beings; nothing more; nothing less. Or, to be more accurate, the people who appear to be in power. The reason for this is that the people who are actually running the show rarely show their face (and ...
Views: 715 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Toxic Masculinity’ The Problem? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of days ago, a brand released a short film that was aimed at men, and this was there to remind men of their “toxic masculinity”. In addition to this part, it showed men how to act in a more civilised way. In the past, this company would share adverts that were radically different, ...
Views: 601 - Dating: Can Being Needy Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one goes on a date, they may find that they are able to be themselves, and this is going to show that they feel comfortable in their own skin. Therefore, even if they are at a point in their life where they want to be with someone, they are not going to come across as being needy. The ...
Views: 1097 - Empathy Is No Better Than Anger! - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at a bar the other night there was a scuffle; fortunately, no one was injured. I thought that this is what can happen when some people get drunk, they lose all self-control. Instead of being able to think about what they are doing and the consequences that may arise, they end ...
Views: 804 - Energy Vampires: Is It Harder To Realise When Someone Is An Energy Vampire When We Are Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one will come into contact with people who will take their energy, they are also going to come into contact with people who won’t. And it could be said that the ideal will be for them to spend more time around the latter than the former. How Life is When this is how one experiences ...
Views: 962 - False-Self: Can Self-Development Allow Someone To Replace Their False-Self With Another False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their feelings and needs, it could be said that they are in touch with their true-self. And if it is possible for these aspects to have an effect on their life, it will mean that their life will be an expression of who they are. The Ideal One way of looking ...
Views: 1019 - False-Self: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that it is a reflection of who they are. And as their life is this way, it is going to how that they are in touch with their needs and feelings. It is then through being in touch with what is taking place within them, ...
Views: 1104 - Fear: Are Some People Addicted To Fear? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperJust as there are some people who experience fear from time to time, there are also some people who experience it on a regular basis. Due to this, their experience on this earth is likely to be radically different. One way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the former, ...
Views: 886 - Free Speech: Is The Western World Walking On Eggshells? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one lives in America and they are against Donald Trump, or if they live in the United Kingdom and they were against Brexit, it could be said that there would be no reason for them to keep their views to themselves. They could share their views with their friends and online, and there is a ...
Views: 960 - I Thought Astrology Was A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading about my star sign in different papers when I was growing up and thinking how general it was. So, while I would read up on my sign from time to time, I wouldn’t take much notice of what I read. After a while, I soon turned my back on it altogether and saw it as a bit of a ...
Views: 888 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 183 - Intimacy: Can Feeling Worthless Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things that people need in order to have a fulfilling existence. When these things are in place, one can feel as though they are on the right track. Close Connections One of the things that this is likely to include is having people in their ...
Views: 1083 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Have The Right Vibration If They Want To Experience Something? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance. Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ...
Views: 250 - Mental Health: Is It A Good Thing That Lady Gaga And Prince William Are Talking About Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, Lady Gaga and Prince William had a conversation about mental health. This was a time when the former spoke about her own challenges and the latter spoke about how important it is for people to open up, amongst other things. A Mixed Response And as these two people are ...
Views: 1174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 193 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 875 - Online Dating: Should Someone Take It Personally If Another Person Goes Silent On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with. No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was ...
Views: 1113 - People Pleasing: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they have the need to please others. What this will show is that they are aware of what is wrong and this is then why they have been able to take the next step. One Step Behind Yet, if one hasn’t reached this ...
Views: 937 - Relationships: Can A Man Have A Healthy Relationship With A Woman If She Has A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to meet a woman who he had a good connection with, he might want to take things further. So, in the upcoming weeks and months, he could take the time to get to know her better. A Better Understanding Through taking this approach, it will give him the opportunity to see if ...
Views: 1359 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Believe That Their Partner Will Leave Them? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, there is no guarantee that it will last for a certain amount of time. It could last for a few months, a few years, or it could come to an end when their life comes to an end. Two Sides Now, this is not to say that this is something that is completely ...
Views: 950 - Relationships: Do Some People Use The Law Of Attraction To Shame Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that if someone is in to self-development, it is because of the law of attraction. Through finding out about this so-called law, it would then have meant that this ended up being an important part of their life. One thing leads To Another It is then the same as how ...
Views: 1267 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to connect with others, and then there are others who are unable to do so. When one can do this, there is a strong chance that they are going to be used to having people in their life that they are close to. One on side this could mean that they will have ...
Views: 1121 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Attracts Controlling Men? - by Submitted on May 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can have the desire to be with a certain type of man, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. There is then the chance that the kind of guy she ends with is completely different to the one she had in mind. Not a Problem Nevertheless, she could find that this is ...
Views: 1089 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Be In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to start a new relationship, they might think about where they can find someone to be with. Alternatively, they could simply join an online dating site and see what happens there. There could also be moments when one goes out in the evening to different places, and there might ...
Views: 958 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Someone Is No Longer Willing To Put Up With Other People's Projections? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally. It is then going to be ...
Views: 1301 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Two People Put On An Act During The Start Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together for the first time, it will give them the chance to see how they get on. This will also give them the opportunity to find out about each other, to see what their values are, and what they hope to achieve it the future, for instance. The First Step What happens ...
Views: 992 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 664 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Fix Others When They Open Up? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the best thing that someone can do for another person, when they are going through a challenging time, is to simply be there for them. So, when one is in the other person’s presence, it will be vital for them to be completely present. No Agenda This means that one is ...
Views: 1229 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf woman was to focus on an area of her life that is not working, she may begin to think about how she is unable to find a man who is available. This could be how her life has been for a short while, or it may have been this was for as long as she can remember. There is Hope When she can ...
Views: 1073 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Relax When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very busy life, and this can stop them from being able to just be. During the week, there is likely be the amount of time that they are at work each day and, once they get home, they may have other things to do. Another Job This ...
Views: 945 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it ...
Views: 894 - Self-Worth: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Sensitive When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one behaves in a way that is seen as being socially acceptable, it can be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. But before they were even old enough to go out into the world by themselves, there would have been how they were treated by their caregiver/s. An Extrovert ...
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