What To Do When She Won't Stop Talking

When you are dealing with a woman who is a constant chatterbox, the first thing you have to consider it: what is her age? After all, a two year old who talks a mile a minute is a far cry from a twenty-two year old who does the same; and much different from a ninety-two year old.

In the case of a child, a simple step is to just give her lessons in good manners. On the other hand, if her endless chattering continues, consider taking her to her pediatrician for a full work up. It is possible that she has some sort of attention deficient disorder, and counseling or medication is called for.

When dealing with an elderly lady, there may not be much of anything you can do. Many older people are known to mumble and chatter to themselves regularly. What you may consider doing is listening to her, and see if perhaps she’s talking about the events of her life. Often, senility leads to people slipping back into the youth and/or childhood. You may discover that your dear old mother/aunt/grandmother is happily recounting her days in school or her courtship with her husband. If that is the case, grab a video camera or tape recorder and get those stories recorded. This is part of your family’s heritage, and you won’t get such an opportunity again!

If the lady in question is a friend or associate, and she seems to always want to talk to you, ask yourself if perhaps she’s interested in a relationship with you. In high school, both boys and girls often have trouble verbalizing interests in someone. Often, they will act out, become the class clown, annoy or pester the person etc.: anything to get the attention of their “intended”. Well, as young adults, some women still have this problem. One way of expressing interest in a person is through over use of talking. Sometimes she will do it because she is nervous around you; other times, she may be looking for anything to say in order to prolong a conversation. Look for other subtle signals: body language, facial expressions.

On the other hand, if this is a former girlfriend, or maybe just someone you know, like a classmate, and she won’t stop talking about you; that’s another matter altogether. First, realize that people that talk about others in a demeaning manner usually suffer from low self-esteem. So, try to have some compassion for her. You can try talking to her about it. Also, look at yourself; what sort of personality do you have?

If you are a generally easygoing person, very laid back, then being very assertive toward her about this issue might be the answer. Seeing you stand up for yourself could get her to back down, sort of like dealing with a bully; showing a little backbone can do wonders.

And finally, what about the woman in your life, the girlfriend or wife who talks constantly? She chatters in the movies or while you are watching TV, or maybe she wants to talk about everything under the sun. Maybe she interrupts you as you are telling a story. The point being she is an incessant talker. It could be a deep seated emotional or mental issue. So, counseling might be called for.

The main thing for you to consider is, try to find the underlying issue that is causing her to talk so much. Once you’ve identified it, then you have the opportunity to seek a means of helping her to deal with it.