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- Being the Big One - by Submitted on May 20, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Sometimes when we are little and things go wrong, we think we have to take charge and fix things. We feel it’s up to us to make it better. We think we have to be the big one and we’ll show the adults how to do it. Or we feel like no one else is seeing what a mess things are, or how unsafe things ...
Views: 1003(1 vote) - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 6218 - Do You Guide or Dominate Your Children? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThis question obviously applies mainly to people who have their own children, but can equally apply to people who as children are aware of their own upbringing, and can also apply to how an individual treats other people in his life who he effectively has some responsibility for, either at work ...
Views: 777 - Can You Put Up With Immature Behaviour? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThe answer to this to some extent depends on who the person is, and what the behaviour is, and how much their behaviour affects you and in what ways. Obviously this is a very broad question but there is an important point behind it, in terms of an individual's willingness to let other people be ...
Views: 768 - Comforting the Little Orphan Girl - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaWhen life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ages of 12 and 18. ...
Views: 880 - A Request To Parents - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaHow parents introduce their children to others impact on their personalities strongly. There are many examples that may clarify the concept better. Let us consider: A parent is introducing his/her child to his/her relative/friend and says with a smiling face- a. She is too aggressive. ...
Views: 877 - How To Help Your Child Get Over Their Fear Of Swimming - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2014 from Savannah CoulsenA fear of the water is normal among young kids. This fear can be exacerbated if the child had a bad experience in their bathtub or a swimming pool in the past. There is nothing wrong with a young child shying away from the water, but parents must do their best to help kids overcome this fear. ...
Views: 1176(1 vote) - Love Child - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2014 from Kelli WilsonDo you ever look at your child, I mean really look at him or her and think to yourself, “Wow, here is an amazing small human being in my care”? Of course you do, you’re a parent. I have been given the amazing responsibility to care for these human beings to the best of my ability for at ...
Views: 844 - Could your child be suffering from Separation Anxiety?? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2014 from Rhonda RabowNow, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety. It is not unusual that your child may have ...
Views: 774 - 5 Ways to Support Your Child through the Difficulty of a Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Karleia SteinerChildren often experience the ugliest parts of their parents' divorce, feeling guilty for the demise of the marriage and feeling at a loss of whose side to choose. There are plenty of ways you can help your child work through the pain of your separation and help them learn how to accept ...
Views: 624 - Stress Free Parents - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaIn todays modern lifestyle, everyone is stressed up, tired and bore, especially the parents. In most of the parts of the world, parents are usually engaged in earnings and greatly tired when back home. Even if one of the parents is not working hand, he or she must be doing house chores and at ...
Views: 915 - Five Tips to Helping Your Child Overcome Anger Management Issues - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2014 from Karleia SteinerIn the children’s book When Sophie Gets Angry – Really, Really Angry, the little girl, Sophie, gets so angry she runs out into the woods and climbs up a tree. After a very short time, she is calm and returns home to her family. It is no wonder that Sophie got so angry. A young ...
Views: 723 - Intimacy: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one has the need to experience something, it doesn’t always mean that this need will be fulfilled. And this is something that can be said when it comes to ones need to connect to another person. For some people, intimacy is going to be something that they have always ...
Views: 1258 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Hate Men? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperCertain emotions are often seen as positive and others are often seen as negative, and this can cause people to embrace some and to deny others. But regardless of the label they’re given, they all have a purpose. What matters is: how one responds to how they feel and not how they feel. If ...
Views: 1479 - Relationships: Do You Expect Other Adults To Fulfil Your Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ...
Views: 1326 - How Can You Motivate Your Children To Write A Book? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaThere are many things parents can do for their children. They can offer lots of activities to facilitate their creative skills , they can explore new places to give their children new exposures, they can provide them with lots of books to read and write, and they can play with them or provide ...
Views: 1111(1 vote) - Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much ...
Views: 7233 - Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one’s life and to assist in their personal evolution. That is unless one leaves the relationship and uses the experience to ...
Views: 1298 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1355 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 1301 - Abandonment: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Control Your Life? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal is for someone to live their truth, this is not always possible. And one reason why this is not possible is when they have a fear of being abandoned. Their choices and decisions in life are then going to be defined by this fear and what is actually right for them is going to be ...
Views: 1360 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 1592 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Abuse? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable with relationships that are healthy and functional, there are other people who feel comfortable with relationships that are unhealthy and dysfunctional. There are going to be people who have relationships that are unhealthy and they are aware of this. And ...
Views: 1129 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
Views: 1264 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1197 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen and recognised is something that most human beings want to experience. And while this is part of being human and nothing to feel ashamed of, these needs are going to vary from person to person. For some people, receiving a moderate amount of attention will be enough to enhance ...
Views: 2848 - Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNot every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is ...
Views: 3018 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1121 - Relationships: What Causes Enmeshed Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are physically separate, it doesn’t mean that they are emotionally or intellectually separate. And as connecting to another human being involves opening up and allowing another person to open up, there are going to be moments where one merges with another. This is not only ...
Views: 1648 - Single Mom's Promise To Her Son - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2014 from Jessica RectorMommy really doesn't know much right now, but I promise you I will. The only thing I do know is mommy loves you more than words, more than actions. Mommy loves you as though you are her heart, spirit, and soul wrapped in one... without a beginning or an end. There is no depth or breath to my ...
Views: 2409 - Single Moms, You Know What's Best For You - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Jessica RectorI received a baby gift this weekend from a college friend. He is one in the group of guys I used to hang out with my sophomore year. I remember the days like they were yesterday. He used to knock on my door so we could grab breakfast before walking to class. I even remember what I ordered each ...
Views: 665 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
Views: 2723 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 1729 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Need Others To Tell Them What To Do? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people. This is what will be ...
Views: 1187 - WHO OR WHAT IS PROGRAMING YOUR CHILDREN ? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Robert CrutchfieldBy Rev. Robert A. Crutchfield There 's an old saying in computers, “Garbage in, Garbage out!” What that means is your result depends on what you put in and the quality of what you put in. In truth computers only mimic what we as people do. This is a prime example. Many parents wonder what ...
Views: 884 - Monkey See, Monkey Do:AKA Parenthood - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2014 from Robert CrutchfieldYears ago I was participating in a men's bible study class. The topic that day was parenthood. Many of the men present had grown children and grandchildren. At some point in the discussion, I commented that my observation had always been that parenthood was a big game of monkey see, monkey do. ...
Views: 890 - Children, Time, and Patience - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Robert CrutchfieldWe all become aware of how fast time flies as we get older. At the same time we often wonder why children seem so impatient. The fact is the two things are related. It all boils down to the concepts of perception and perspective. Perception is the way we see something. Perspective has to do ...
Views: 906 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 1384 - Healing: Do We Heal When We Are Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better. This is natural and must ...
Views: 1252 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1192 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 2244 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1167 - BULLYING PREVENTION BEGINS AT HOME: 7 Ways to help keep your children from being involved in bullying. - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Harvey DeutschendorfAs a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs. 1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional ...
Views: 784 - Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because ...
Views: 1354 - Support: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach and every one of us is interdependent and this means that not only do we want to be supported by others, but that we also need to be; with it being it being vital for our own survival and our ability to thrive. The ideal is going to be for one to feel supported for who they are. There ...
Views: 1241 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Try To Rescue Men? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship between a man and woman is meant to be based on giving and receiving, this is not always the case. For some women, this will be exactly how it is for them and this is going to enhance their life. And yet for others, this will be far from what they can relate to. When ...
Views: 3854 - Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 1478 - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 1377 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1369 - Emotional Regulation: What Happens When Someone Can't Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world there are all kinds of challenges that people are having to face. And some of these are relatively easy to handle, while others can seem to be more or less impossible to solve. These can range from global, societal and personal problems. In a way, they can all affect each ...
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