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- What Can We Do to Improve Our Relationship? Answers from "Ask Peggy" - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Peggy FergusonCommunication is not only the life's blood of a marriage, it is the cornerstone that the foundation of relationship skills rest on. You have to have good communication skills to be able to convey your love, affection, and commitment to your loved ones. You can not effectively problem solve ...
Views: 2848(3 votes) - Six Super Simple Guidelines for Developing Your Communication Skills By Improving Your Ability to Listen - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Peggy FergusonBuilding a solid foundation for the development of good communication skills involves learning how to listen effectively. There are several elements of effective listening. These elements include attention, reflection, ability to tolerate tension, and ability to challenge the assumptions that ...
Views: 3765(4 votes) - ***Next Time YOU Make a Mistake - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniMost of you are your own worst critic. So when you make a mistake you are much harder on yourself than you would be on anyone else. It is completely normal to be disappointed with yourself, but the longer you beat yourself up the longer it takes for you to regain your confidence. If you ...
Views: 1397(2 votes) - ***You are Doing Your Best - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniIf you follow sports you have noticed that top athletes do not always perform consistently. A world class runner may break a world record in one competition and then not even place in the same event one week later. A champion weight lifter might break a record and then be unable to lift that ...
Views: 1679(5 votes) - ***Don’t Assume a Thing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniIn one of the first classes I taught, I had a student who was always scowling at me. It would have been really hard to miss that scowl. He sat in the front row and it was a small class in a small room. He was friendly enough when he entered the class room and when he left for the evening. ...
Views: 1297(6 votes) - How best to resolve a conflict - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Albert GaroliThe origin of most conflicts, whether between couples, colleagues or friends, stems from the conviction that each party feels he/she is “right.” One’s needs, values and interests thus differ from the other to the point that each party will try to persuade the other to agree with what one ...
Views: 1606(8 votes) - Please read this... It will mean a lot to me. - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2009 from Danish AhmedHey there everyone!! Thanks. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. Now, why do you think this means a lot to me? Take a moment and think about it. What got you to start reading this? If you don't read "every" post, what got you to start reading this time? Was it simply because I ...
Views: 2728(26 votes) - ***It's Not Personal - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniSally looked at Mary Carol and said, "Wow how did you do that? How did you just brush it off, I mean Jim just got in your face and told you that he hates working with you. And you are just as calm and collected as ever." Mary Carol looked at Sally and said, "Well I am really not taking it ...
Views: 1267(4 votes) - COMING TO THE TABLE - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOften couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have ...
Views: 1706(2 votes) - ***Be Impeccable with Your Word - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret Meloni“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” Do any of you remember that charming little childhood chant? It was meant to ward off the cruel verbal taunts we received from other children. Sometimes kids can be very harsh with their teasing. Sometimes adults can be very ...
Views: 3277(4 votes) - “I Had No Choice” Is a Lame Excuse! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenUnderstanding your choices is essential in managing conflict. And, yes, there is always more than one choice! You just have to decide what consequence you will live with. This helps you resolve your own inner conflict. And just as important is the strategy of providing choices for others ...
Views: 1553(3 votes) - Are You Tired of Arguing? There Are Better Ways to Manage Conflict! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta Fredricksen“I'm tired of arguing” are four of the most defeating words in your relationships. And there really are better ways for effectively managing conflict! As a coach and human resource administrator, I've heard these words so many times and usually it says more about you than it does about ...
Views: 6229(3 votes) - 7 Ways to Say No - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWhen you are serious about keeping your word, simplifying your life, or taking control of your schedule, you have to become selective about what you agree to doing. The word “no” isn’t the bad word you may have been taught it was as a kid. Instead, it’s your ticket to freedom. Understanding ...
Views: 2731(4 votes) - MIND BOGGLING - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Chidi Asika-EnahoroThe beauty of the mind can also be its downfall. One cannot overstate the significant importance of the human mind. Anyone can harbor anger and animosity at someone next to him or her and not be obvious about it. The mind is one instrument of amazing capacities that the human have control over, ...
Views: 1915(3 votes) - Seven Tips for Managing Your Own History during Conflict - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenThe biggest obstacle to effective conflict management may just be your own history! You and the others in your relationships all have a past when it comes to communicating, building relationships and managing conflicts. Your patterns of behavior are built on your perceptions of what is ...
Views: 1151(1 vote) - Five Mistakes to Avoid during Conflict - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenThere are so many positive strategies and processes to use in managing conflict effectively. And sometimes it’s very important to know how to avoid the pitfalls. You will enhance your success in finding heart peace if you stay aware of the energies that are the indicators and outcomes of ...
Views: 1518(2 votes) - Seeking Reconciliation – A Conflict Management Strategy! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenTherefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25) Managing conflict sometimes means ...
Views: 1470(2 votes) - ***When is it Helpful to Apologize? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Margaret Paul"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate. The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different ...
Views: 3953(1 vote) - Is Personal Development a Scam? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2009 from Danish AhmedHi there everyone!! I'm a professional working in the personal development industry. For 18 years, I've participated in all the various disciplines of personal development programs. Even with this extensive knowledge of the industry, I still sympathize when I meet someone at a networking ...
Views: 5814(1 vote) - How Do You Deal With Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonIt is interesting to note different people's reactions when dealing with situations involving conflict. Some people act tenaciously like a Jack Russell, yapping and barking loudly and refusing to back down; going on the offensive seems to be inbred in their nature. Other's respond more like a ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - ***The Face of Conflict - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniOne of the more common definitions of conflict is that it is a clash between two (or more) opposing groups or that it is a power struggle or a battle between opposing forces. When you think of conflict, you may think of it as a negative (think power struggle or battle) or you may think that ...
Views: 1162(1 vote) - ***The Intersection of EQ, Difficult People and You! - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniQuestion: What happens when you take someone with empathy and place them in a meeting with someone who is pitching a fit? Answer: The person who is pitching the fit gets lucky because they have someone in the room who understands that sometimes others get upset in the workplace AND someone ...
Views: 1133 - Ouch! He doesn't like me! - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Michelle GottliebA very common dilemma that many people face is that we want people to like us. We may even do things that we disagree with, just to be sure that people like us. We talk about this happening with children, but, unfortunately, this is usually something that we do not grow out of. Why is it so ...
Views: 1405(2 votes) - Overcoming The Obstacles To Self Change - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Robert DarbyThe Dysfunctional Landscape It should be stated from the start that the obstacles mentioned in this article are those of a severe nature. I share the strategies and techniques for dealing with them because they are the same for minor dysfunctionality as they are for major train wrecks, the ...
Views: 1533(2 votes) - Positive Intent - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Christiane TurnerThere is a very important principle, called the “Positive Intent“. Positive Intent means, that there is always a positive function or purpose for what is currently happening in our lives. For example a behavior we don't like about ourselves, like getting angry when our kid whines, or getting all ...
Views: 8766(2 votes) - The Social Butterfly - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThe Social Butterfly It seemed to John that Jane spent at least as much time away from her desk as she did at her desk. It seemed like every time he walked down the hallway he would see her speaking with someone. And she never made it through the company cafeteria without stopping to ...
Views: 1077(1 vote) - About Child Protective Services - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2012 from C BowsterChild Protective and Preventive Services are offered to families by the Department of Social Services which is mandated by law to protect children from abuse or neglect within their families, in foster care, or by persons responsible for the child's welfare as defined by statute. Services are ...
Views: 1936(4 votes) - ***Conflict and You - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniDo you and the people you work with share the exact same beliefs, perspectives, priorities and goals? Probably not. Hmmm, I guess that means you are going to experience conflict. Conflict is a condition in which people’s concerns appear to be incompatible. In fact since you and your co-workers ...
Views: 1703(6 votes) - Why look at your past? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Michelle GottliebWhy look at the past? I can’t tell you the number of clients who have asked me that question in one form or another. What is the point of looking back? It will just bring me pain, or stir up old feelings of hurt or anger. It won’t help me to poke around in it, or so my clients often ...
Views: 1434(2 votes) - Your power is NOW - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from shayne hammond"NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Heb 11:1 Whether your'e thinking about yesterday, pondering the events of today, visualising your future in ten years time, or remembering an experience in your childhood, you are creating NOW, in this ...
Views: 982(4 votes) - Couples Splitting Up Should Try Mediation First - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Erin JohnstonMost couples separating or divorcing find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart. Regardless of the circumstances and presentation conflict between the between the ...
Views: 1284(2 votes) - The Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Rosanne DausilioThe Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery. This was the title of my case study in partial fulfillment of my doctoral degree which I completed in 1996. More on this in a moment. Here it is 13 years later and… In a recent survey training participants were asked ...
Views: 1939(2 votes) - *** Communication and Community: The Secret to Getting Along - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Christine BreeseThe idea of creating a community or a group of unified like minded folks is a great idea, but what happens when there is conflict? As long as there are individuals with different worldviews, there will be conflict. Lack of conflict resolution techniques has been the undoing of many communities ...
Views: 2426(2 votes) - Problem Solving: Don't Ignore the Nudges - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from George TorokAll problems are not equal. Some will bite you. Some just nudge you. Those nudges are worthy of more attention. You will encounter two types of problems, acute and chronic. They have two distinct warnings signs and different methods of solving them. You need to be aware of both types of ...
Views: 1622(3 votes) - Choose Your Advocates Wisely: Getting the Best for Your Child - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Jennifer KruminsImagine...after months of waiting and anticipation the moment has finally arrived! Your beautiful baby enters the world and life is the fullest it has ever been! As the nurse gently places your newborn in your arms she slips a book into your hands. “This is your child’s manual,” she explains, ...
Views: 1969(1 vote) - ***Resolving Conflicts Effectively - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanEvery relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think about the kinds of conflicts that happen in your daily life. These are typical: 1. Disagreements over who should do ...
Views: 1012(1 vote) - A Military Solution to a War on Terrorism is Doomed - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt's a sore temptation to hunt down Osama bin Laden - one of the most consistent campaign promises made by President Obama - and yet there are strong arguments against it. U.S. forces would have to penetrate deep into provincial Pakistan and perhaps even conduct house-to-house searches. Such ...
Views: 873(1 vote) - Conflict – Are You Using it Productively? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Gael DrumConflict is a good motivator to address problems and to seek solutions for unresolved issues. It is a good warning sign that an area of your life, or your personality may need attention. However, if you sweep the warning signals under the carpet or ignore the motivation to confront and resolve ...
Views: 1518(2 votes) - Listening Can Resolve Conflict - 10 Benefits! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenConflict happens in relationships. And the tension it brings is opportunity knocking at the door. We actually learn more by listening than we do by talking! When we are experiencing contrast or conflict with others, we are usually trying our best to persuade them to our point of view. ...
Views: 2687(4 votes) - How to Ease Conflict - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA monk asked Shigui, "What is the first principle?" Shigui said, "What you just asked is the second principle." -- from Zen’s Chinese Heritage A few weeks ago, I was trying to pass along some information to a friend that I hoped would help resolve a conflict with which she was ...
Views: 1021(1 vote) - Conflict Is The Gift That Just Keeps On Giving! You’re Kidding, Right? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenMost of us grow up conditioned to believe that conflict is bad. That is a myth! And it’s a pretty destructive myth because it places all of us in a position of being bad in some way because we are in conflict within ourselves or we experience conflict with others. Truthfully, being in ...
Views: 1675(1 vote) - The Power of Co-Creating: A Law of Attraction Guide for Successfully Handling Negative People - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Nea Joy JusticeYou may be coming to the realization that you are a powerful Being whose thoughts summon law of attraction, thus creating your reality and contributing to the expansion of the Universe. But do you know that your creative power is magnified when you pair your energy with the energy of another ...
Views: 1511(4 votes) - Anger & Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Michael PaulWhen there is a build up of anger in a relationship, healthy communication is clearly absent. Both ears and mouths are not working properly. Messages being given are likely to be interpreted through a filter that hears only what anger expects to hear. The message, as it might be offered, is ...
Views: 1678(2 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWe all have difficult people in our lives, and unfortunately, we must deal with them to get things done in life. It can be your ex, your parents or your in-laws. It could be your employer, employees or co-workers. Sometimes it’s the store cashier, the customer service agent or another ...
Views: 5575(2 votes) - Financial Flocking and How To Keep True To Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsTo explain not posting for the last ten days, I noticed that I was reluctant to admit that we just returned from a California vacation. That reaction seems strange considering in our small town it is an annual communal practice to head south or to the mountains when Montana State University ...
Views: 747 - 5 Important Tips to Help You Talk to Your Spouse about Money - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Pamela LipeAre you and your spouse worried about what’s happening with your savings, your pension, your children’s college funds, or just staying employed? Do you find yourself fearful of your futures together? Do you find yourselves disagreeing with your partner about how to weather this financial ...
Views: 1264(2 votes) - Top Ten Survival Tips to Sail Through a Crisis - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from David PriceCrises Leave Multiple Energetic Imprints The Chinese translation means both “danger” and “opportunity”. We live in a time of multiple global crises which can even more intensify individual crises. In the course of a well-lived lifetime one will experience serious, multiple crises. The ...
Views: 862 - Does Your Boss Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfFiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...
Views: 1582(3 votes) - Enhancing Relationships With the Enneagram - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Nicola BuntingWhat difference would it make to your life if your relationships, at home and at work, were based on mutual understanding and respect, where you inspire each other to be your best and enjoy the differences between you? The Enneagram is a powerful and still surprisingly little known approach to ...
Views: 3649 - A little bit of empathy, a big benefit for your health - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkEvery human being needs to get around satisfactory human relations, both in the family and other areas. Your emotional well-being will depend largely on the capacity you have to achieve this objective. In 328 BC, Aristotle said humans are social animals. Nowadays, more and more evidence is ...
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