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- A little bit of empathy, a big benefit for your health - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkEvery human being needs to get around satisfactory human relations, both in the family and other areas. Your emotional well-being will depend largely on the capacity you have to achieve this objective. In 328 BC, Aristotle said humans are social animals. Nowadays, more and more evidence is ...
Views: 2150 - Hard Conversations - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from TAHIRA DORSEY"The hardest conversations are the most important ones." India Arie wrote those words in the liner notes of her album, Testimony: Volume 2 Love and Politics. India's words often connect with me at a perfect intersection of time/space. I read those words a short time after having a very ...
Views: 1083(1 vote) - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6370(3 votes) - Workplace Bullying and Conflict Management - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Sue WhiteConflicts arise from a variety of sources - some are avoidable, while others are not. One of the more insidious causes of conflict in the workplace is the subtle, but devastating, situation known as workplace bullying. Workplace bullying includes all types of interpersonal harassment and ...
Views: 1526(1 vote) - When Family and Friends Hate Your Significant Other - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen friends and loved hate your significant other, it can be a major disappointment. There’s no doubt that this can be a painful issue, since conflicts are always waiting to happen. The situation can make you feel as if the people who matters most in your life are disrespecting you by ...
Views: 2026 - Three Conflict Resolution Strategies You Need to Know - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Renee ShupeConflict happens when two opposing parties have different views, interests, or goals, which seem incompatible with one another. Conflict usually occurs at the height of a stressful situation when everything seems to bubble over. Typically, it's not just related to the one event that triggered ...
Views: 2550 - Somali Pirates in a Compassionate World - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDoes the young Somali pirate brought to trial in the U.S. create the perfect moment for the world community to take a deeper look at its own conscious? If reports from Somalia are true that its coastal waters have been used as a dumping ground for toxic and nuclear wastes, and its fisheries ...
Views: 946 - Commumication In Recovery: Guidelines for Setting the Stage for Effective Talks with Your Loved Ones - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Peggy FergusonWhen you want to solve some important relationship or logistics issue, you help assist help ensure your effectiveness by appropriately setting the stage for communication. Remember these guidelines while trying to solve a problem in your relationship. 1. Think about what you want to say ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - Communication in Recovery - Ten Steps to Fair Fighting - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Peggy FergusonUse the following ten steps to replace old, ineffective arguments with an effective fair fighting session: 1. Fight to resolve an issue or solve a problem. 2. Identify the problem to be solved. 3. Take turns stating your case, using I messages. 4. Practice active listening. 5. Generate ...
Views: 3039(1 vote) - Stay Afloat with Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Grace KerinaWhen folks around you make waves with their alien communication styles, fervent demands, or weird displays of power, you need healthy boundary skills that pop to the surface like a life preserver. Your imagination can roar to the rescue and save the day. To keep a grip on the real you when ...
Views: 1817(1 vote) - 3 Simple Ways to Conquer Difficult People - by Submitted on May 10, 2009 from Michael LeeDealing with difficult people could become quite a challenge. Sometimes, they can take the form of a boss, co-worker, or even a friend or relative. Whatever the case may be, you need to stop losing your temper and start reading some tips for dealing with difficult people. Letting difficult ...
Views: 1357(1 vote) - How You Deal with Conflict - by Submitted on May 03, 2009 from Loren Fogelman"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you." BrianTracy When you are part of any community you interact with others. Being part of community is being ...
Views: 1756 - How to Make a Really Difficult Decision - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Claudia LuizPatients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
Views: 12528(3 votes) - Conflict Management - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Prof.M.S. Rao“Never look who is right and wrong. Always look what is right and wrong.” – Prof.M.S.Rao When you look at individuals there will be involvement of egos and emotions. On the contrary, when you look at the issues there will be no individual preferences and prejudices. Better judgment prevails. ...
Views: 1019 - 4 Ways to Survive the Hard Times and Come Out Closer - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinIs it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit: 1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ...
Views: 2440(2 votes) - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4785 - Health and Harmony in Relationships: It All Starts with YOU! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon Rivkin“Stress is damaging to your health, so take care of yourself,” is very sound advice, but what exactly does that mean and how exactly do you take care of yourself and lessen stress? Experiencing optimal physical, mental, and spiritual health includes the good fortune of having healthy and ...
Views: 3887(1 vote) - How Your First Argument Could Last for 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
Views: 2724(2 votes) - Why Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsThere are many areas in life where it can be noticed that men and women respond differently to a number of situations, recent research with brain imaging has shown that each gender responds differently to stress. The main difference is that stress caused changes in men's rights prefrontal ...
Views: 2116(1 vote) - *** How to Resolve Instead of Just Solve Problems - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” - Dr. Seuss In these hectic, often stressful days, many people measure themselves on ...
Views: 1360 - Can You Control Everything in Your Life or Not? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jahiel KamhiI knew him as an angry person for a long time. He used to be angry for weeks or even longer, for the sake of somebody’s behavior, or for the sake of every situation you can imagine. But, he wasn’t a bad guy. When he was angry, he wasn’t furious, aggressive, or rude, just sad and quiet, suffering ...
Views: 1488 - Resolving Conflict in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jim BrittAre you tired of experiencing conflict in your relationship? Do you ever find yourself choosing the wrong person? Have you ever thought, “if only I’d known…” about my partner? Just imagine what it would be like if you could have a relationship where you could easily resolve problem, make ...
Views: 2878 - Recognizing and Dealing with Negativity - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Mardie CaldwellIt's only natural that we want to be "right" or feel that we are handling every situation to our best ability. But, the truth remains that it is not always the case. This becomes especially evident when we deal with people that are considered difficult, verbally aggressive, or just negative. ...
Views: 2226 - What Do You Do When You Find Out Your Spouse Is Being Unreasonsable, Inconsiderate, and Selfish? And Can't Accept Your Well Mean - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Pamela LipeHave you begun to notice that your partner is more selfish than you ever thought? Does it seem like she will never understand you. Does it feel like he’s being inconsiderate and even treating you poorly? It’s not uncommon for us to see our beloved partner in a less favorable light after ...
Views: 3238(1 vote) - A Formula for Relieving Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Rita Bigel-CasherRelationships, which are the spice of life, often create feelings of inadequacy and pain which interfere with the sense of well-being that we all strive for. When faced with interpersonal conflict, we tend to either blame ourselves or the other. There is a third way. Accept the reality ...
Views: 2024 - How to Deal With Devious Co-workers? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2009 from zurab tsvenThis question comes back over and over, it is the same in class with the kids, as it is at work as it is between families and countries. The fact is that all people are equal on one very important level, at any age, any were in the world, all we really want is to be noticed appreciated, ...
Views: 3459 - Tips for Resolving Conflict for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Sally ConnollyTips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your concern or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Views: 2726 - Conflict Exploration - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellMost people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ...
Views: 1600 - How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Love Coach RinattaIs fighting a problem in your relationship or marriage? Fighting is a very serious problem for many couples. The good news is that I am about to help you solve it permanently. First you have to understanding that you should not fight at all, with anyone. I don’t mean you should not disagree ...
Views: 16158(3 votes) - Conflict Resolution 10: Arguments and Verbal Aggression - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Ian GlickmanIt may not come as much of a surprise to learn that some people enjoy arguments. They look forward to them and literally get health benefits from the experience. This is a fact. Others, however, do not like to argue. For these people, an argument is an unpleasant and unhealthy experience, one ...
Views: 4781 - Coping with Conflict, Part II - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2009 from Julie ChristiansenConflict can be defined as “a perceived divergence of interest, or a belief that the parties’ current goals (needs) cannot be achieved simultaneously.” Does that mean conflict is a bad thing? Not necessarily! Conflict has many benefits. It produces change. It builds collaboration. And, it ...
Views: 1283 - Conflict: The Dance of Disagreement - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Sally ConnollySharon and Bill fought a lot about money, children and household chores. The disagreements always began with Sharon’s request in what she thought was a friendly tone but Bill heard as a nagging tone. Bill’s response was generally a defensive one, complaining about her tone or the fact that she ...
Views: 1479 - Top 10 Workplace Dysfunctions and How to Terminate Them - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Roxanne EmmerichThe dysfunctional workplace is a killer. Untreated it will kill off your customer base, your profits, and your joy for living as surely as anything. As managers, leaders and top executives within your organization you've got to kill the conflicts in your workplace first before dysfunction ...
Views: 1129 - Conflicts at Work - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Leland ShieldsDo you ever come home steaming about an interaction you had that day in your place of work? Are there people at your job you avoid or wish you could avoid? Do these relationships sour your job satisfaction? If so, you are not alone. A study in the mid 90’s reported that 84% of companies ...
Views: 1443 - End Conflict Now - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Joan CurtisHow many times do we find ourselves in awkward, uncomfortable situations? How many times have you wished you could talk your way out of those little messes or better still, disappear? Ever wonder how confident communicators do it? Want to learn ways to manage conflict and still keep your ...
Views: 1228 - Secrets to Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Sheila Van HoutenThey are everywhere you go--at work, in the family, among friends, at the church and synagogue. They are difficult, annoying, irritating people. You want to avoid them, but no matter where you go, thee they are. The fact is, they are playing their part PERFECTLY by allowing you to figure out ...
Views: 2948 - Are You Afraid to Journal? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Carolyn ShannonIs your privacy extremely important to you? Do you live in or work in an environment where your boundaries are often ignored or crossed? Does the thought of someone reading your diary or journal terrify you? One of the more humorous representations of the ramifications of this is portrayed ...
Views: 1282 - Three Steps for Leaders to Minimize Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2012 from Richard Highsmith1. Be proactive instead of reactive. One morning when I got out of bed and turned toward the bathroom, I cut a tad too close to the bed. My toe caught the leg of the footboard. !#%*^%$#*!. Once the hollering and jumping around was over, I had a choice to make. I could feel very sorry ...
Views: 2179 - Helping Difficult People See a Better Way - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Clarissa AlversonToday a terrible argument occurred in the hallway outside my office. It began when one of my coworkers became irate at my boss for not notifying him promptly that a morning meeting had been canceled. It was a very painful thing to have overheard. He was yelling and swearing, and not even pausing ...
Views: 786 - Order Your Thoughts! - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2009 from Cheryl PetersenWow, she is gorgeous. Blond, comfortable, fun looking. And, driving a 69 Camaro! I love the paint job; a creamy yet rich yellow color, with a wide black strip across the top. Gotta be custom. Is it a Z28? WHAM. The gawker rear-ended the Camaro. The back window of the Camaro shattered and ...
Views: 1109 - The Courage to Confront - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from James KrehbielOne of the most significant underlying assumptions that many people internalize is, “I must avoid conflict at all costs; if I let others know what I think and feel, I might get disappointed and hurt.” However, “sweeping things under the rug” tends to eventually magnify unresolved interactions ...
Views: 1567 - The Most Common Mistake Made in Apologizing - The Non-Apology Apology - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Joshua UebergangLearning the correct actions and methods to apologize is not enough. It greatly helps your understanding and success if you not only know what to do, but also what not to do. This article reveals to you the most common mistake we humans make when apologizing to people. The Most Common Mistake: ...
Views: 5504 - How To Handle Conflict Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Andrew SchwartzFive Methods of Handling Conflict: Avoidance. Ironically, avoiding pending conflicts can sometimes squash a potential outburst. A sudden difference of opinion can immediately result in conflict. If you as a manager can justify its avoidance (on the basis that it is a conflict of belief, ...
Views: 2722 - How to Handle Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Andrew SchwartzFor many of us, every day is a struggle to avoid conflict. Yet avoidance is practically impossible since the core characteristics, ideas and beliefs of each individual often conflict with our own. Differences of opinion, competitive zeal, and misinterpretations, among other factors, can all ...
Views: 6937 - The Housemate Syndrome - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingDo you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved? Deepest intimacy - When your relationship started and you were so 'in love', do you remember what it was like? Can you remember that you used to talk about everything? You spent every moment with each ...
Views: 1392 - Individual Thinking vs. Group Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Nelson TanThere must be POWER in collective decision-making. We guess it is safer to say group thinking is more reliable than individual thinking. Throughout human history there is a secret consensus within shared cultures that uphold great societies, countries and civilizations and they had their 15 ...
Views: 7341 - Bring a Coffee Cake - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2008 from Judy RingerAt dinner with my friend Susan recently, I was struck by the simplicity of her conflict resolution strategy. A friend sought Susan's advice about how to approach her neighbor about a potential conflict. The neighbor was prickly and the friend uneasy, and she asked Susan to come along as support ...
Views: 1068 - End Conflict Now! - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2008 from Joan CurtisHow many times do we find ourselves in awkward, uncomfortable situations? How many times have you wished you could talk your way out of those little messes or better still, disappear? Ever wonder how confident communicators do it? Want to learn ways to manage conflict and still keep your ...
Views: 766 - From Conflict To Unified Field - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Niela MillerIntroduction: This article was written some time before I had studied process work* with Jungian psychologist, Arny Mindell and his cohort. From the 80’s to the present time, process work has developed a technology for working with individuals, couples, groups and communities in conflict. ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - Unresolved Conflict Is Organizational Bloodletting - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rhoberta ShalerUNRESOLVED CONFLICT IS ORGANIZATIONAL BLOODLETTING © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD www.OptimizeInstitute.com www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com www.TamingTenseTeams.com Unresolved conflict is like blood-letting: immediate pain, a big mess, then, a slow draining while no one does anything - or worse yet, ...
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