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- The "OK" Solution to Criticism - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe live in a harsh and judgmental world where people are quick to point out the faults and imperfections of others yet seem oblivious to their own. Some misguided souls believe they have a moral obligation and civil duty to help you to be a better person by telling you what a failure you really ...
Views: 1399 - The "SO - What" Method: Six Steps to Resolving Conflict - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Janet PfeifferConflict: two forces in opposition. Resolution: the process of finding a mutually satisfying solution. There's nothing threatening here yet for many they'd rather have a root canal rather than try to resolve a dispute. They either seek a quick departure or prepare themselves for an ugly battle. ...
Views: 3900 - The 15 Minute Conflict Resolution Solution - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 2282 - THE 15 MINUTE CONFLICT RESOLUTION SOLUTION - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 1777 - The Advantage Of Marriage Counseling - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2011 from Sherwin Ree MirasThere are a lot of marriages that fails because they fall out of love; but still stay together for their children. Divorce for many couples is the solution to their marital problems beause they can no longer bare the arguments. Marriage counselors are there to help couples when it comes to ...
Views: 1392 - The Anger Exchange: Give Up These 7 to Gain This Instead - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIf you've read my book, The Secret Side o f Anger, or attended one of my lectures on the topic, you know that while there are thousands of events that can trigger anger, there are actually only three root causes: hurt, fear, and frustration. In any given circumstance, you can trace anger back to ...
Views: 1462 - The Art of Dealoing with Difficult Children and Becoming Effective Parents - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Rita Bigel-CasherHaving three children, three step-children, seven grandchildren, and the added experience of nearly thirty years as a Family Therapist and Coach for better living, I can tell you that I know a little bit about parenting. Are there difficult children? You bet! However, in the ...
Views: 2078 - The A~N~Y Words and Anger - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Janet PfeifferThere are thousands of things that trigger our anger: aggressive drivers, rude coworkers, disrespectful children, lying politicians, high taxes, unfairness, and favoritism just to name a few. A critical statement or offensive comment can raise our ire to which we may respond with indignation. ...
Views: 1493 - The BLAME Game - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen something goes wrong in your life, who do you blame? “I’m in so much debt because the economy is bad and everything is so expensive. It’s not my fault” “My mother always criticized me when I was a child. That’s why I suffer from low self esteem and make so many bad choices.” Sadly, ...
Views: 1772 - The COLTS Method of Instantly Resolving Problems - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe've all had our share of problems in life, some more than others but problems none-the-less. If you're anything like me, you eventually grow weary dealing with and finding solutions to unpleasant situations. Rather than win the lottery, some might opt to have all of their problems vanish, ...
Views: 1353 - The Communication Clean-Up Campaign - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2016 from Kelley KosowWell, we are finally here...Election Day! Normally I would make some comment about how "tomorrow we will wake up and there will be a new president." Yet, since nothing has been normal about this election, who knows what tomorrow will bring and what the status of the election not to mention the ...
Views: 1103 - The Compromise Imperative - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from William CottringerThe Compromise Imperative By Bill Cottringer “I shall argue that strong men, conversely, know when to compromise and that all principles can be compromised to serve a greater principle. ~Andrew Carnegie. Our main thinking paradigm today is still stuck somewhere between a ...
Views: 1214 - The Courage to Confront - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from James KrehbielOne of the most significant underlying assumptions that many people internalize is, “I must avoid conflict at all costs; if I let others know what I think and feel, I might get disappointed and hurt.” However, “sweeping things under the rug” tends to eventually magnify unresolved interactions ...
Views: 1740 - The Ego as an Addictive "Energy Vampire", in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant "Energy-Giver" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Barry HammerAlthough the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not ...
Views: 1983 - The Gals Get the Diamond Ring, the Guys Get the Wooden One or Why Men Die Sooner Than Women - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Terrence PlankAs this is my first article for Self Growth I'd like to just break the ice with what I consider a funny side of the male/female relationship. I would love to get some reactions from both sexes on this topic. From my blog at http://terrenceplank.blogspot.com Friday, November 19, 2010 The ...
Views: 971 - The Grudge Effect - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from TARA ROEMy personal romance history consists of four very different, long and drawn out bouts of mostly toxicity. Not without some joy and fond memories peppered in, but these did not remain focal points and were therefore not nurtured as necessary. Each began with high hopes and assumed potential, but ...
Views: 1000 - The Hidden Power of Archetypes - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Ashoo ModgilArchetype is a symbol, pattern and experience we engage our energy in based upon our culture and values assigned to it. Archetypes are very much universal in their raw form and our everyday language uses archetypal information. When we are ready to look at our life from the symbolic perspective ...
Views: 1495 - The Housemate Syndrome - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingDo you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved? Deepest intimacy - When your relationship started and you were so 'in love', do you remember what it was like? Can you remember that you used to talk about everything? You spent every moment with each ...
Views: 1600 - The Illusion of Anger - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI sent out an email about my upcoming show, The Illusion of Anger, and was met with an angry response. "Anger is NOT an illusion! People die from anger!" he wrote. I am well aware of that. However, that is not the illusion I'm speaking of. According to Webster's dictionary, anger is a feeling ...
Views: 1671 - The Key to Success with Employee Empowerment - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Tracey FieberAs an entrepreneur and small-business owner, you have a lot of responsibilities. You’re ultimately in charge of all aspects of your company, and trying to keep up with everything can be highly time-consuming. Many business leaders are finding that employee empowerment can help ease some of ...
Views: 1759 - The Keys to Effective Family Divorce Mediation in Florida - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Matthew BrickmanMy Experience in Family Divorce Mediation My name is Matthew Brickman and at the time of this article I have conducted nearly 300 mediations over the past several years. As a professional family mediator I specialize in conflict surrounding family issues and 99% of the time the mediation ...
Views: 2017 - The Most Common Mistake Made in Apologizing - The Non-Apology Apology - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Joshua UebergangLearning the correct actions and methods to apologize is not enough. It greatly helps your understanding and success if you not only know what to do, but also what not to do. This article reveals to you the most common mistake we humans make when apologizing to people. The Most Common Mistake: ...
Views: 5685 - The Nature Of Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2019 from Karen ScheelThe nature of every relationship is to present us with challenges important for our personal development and spiritual growth. Learning to be in right relationship is the primary reason that we as human beings exist. Sharing our lives with others is a lifelong journey that requires skill. Each ...
Views: 963 - The Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from William CottringerThe Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide By Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; unite and lead, is watchword of the wise.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. There is no denying that we have a great Divide going on in our country, that has reached the point of begging ...
Views: 950 - The Pause - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Judy Ringer"In between stimulus and response, there is a pause, and in that pause we have the opportunity to make a different choice." ~ Victor Frankl Reading a blog post recently by my friend and colleague, Judy Warner, I was inspired. Although I teach aikido techniques like the practice of centering ...
Views: 1394 - The Problem of Our Time - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2023 from William CottringerThe Problem of Our Time By Bill Cottringer “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” ~Albert Einstein. So, what is the problem of our time? The problem is that we all sense the pain from a growing monumental problem, but we don’t understand it ...
Views: 630 - THE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICT - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from William CottringerTHE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICT By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Differences in thinking about problems and solutions cause great conflicts; but the way we communicate about these differences is the source of continuing the conflict.” ~ The author. Conflicts are a frequent ...
Views: 1159 - The Relationship Advice Approach to Deal with Infidelity - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamInfidelity is one of the most heart-wrenching problems a marriage can face because it shakes the base of trust on which relationships are built. However, it is not inevitable that all couples divorce after such an event. It is natural that couples have a hard time to re-connect and re-build ...
Views: 2196 - The role and quality of product prices in marketing - by The 21st century is an era of marketing and every brand wants to be as close to its customers as possible. You encounter so many marketing campaigns daily, most of which are meant to attract new customers or create a specific brand image. The role of marketing in sales and success for any ...
Views: 137 - The Spiritual Split - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2024 from William CottringerThe Spiritual Split By Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. One such truth is the awesome power of threes. Just consider the influence of the threes in pyramids, the Christian trinity, colors of traffic lights, a tri-fold ...
Views: 363 - THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAlthough we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply ...
Views: 1692 - The Three Core Conflcits - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2021 from William CottringerThe Three Core Conflicts by Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author. There are three core conflicts for humans: (1) Us vs. life (2) Us vs. others, and (3) Us vs. ourselves. We all ...
Views: 789 - THE WHY'S WAY TO NEUTRALIZE ANGER - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIf I told you that there was one simple word that could prevent anger from arising would you be interested in discovering what that word is? Or in the event that anger showed up without warning, this same word could easily subdue it and restore your sense of calm? Would you utilize this ...
Views: 1789 - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
Views: 1814 - Three Conflict Resolution Strategies You Need to Know - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Renee ShupeConflict happens when two opposing parties have different views, interests, or goals, which seem incompatible with one another. Conflict usually occurs at the height of a stressful situation when everything seems to bubble over. Typically, it's not just related to the one event that triggered ...
Views: 2724 - Three Steps for Leaders to Minimize Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2012 from Richard Highsmith1. Be proactive instead of reactive. One morning when I got out of bed and turned toward the bathroom, I cut a tad too close to the bed. My toe caught the leg of the footboard. !#%*^%$#*!. Once the hollering and jumping around was over, I had a choice to make. I could feel very sorry ...
Views: 2345 - Time-outs Aren't Just For Kids! - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2008 from Sylvia FlanaganIn my private practice, I often see the damaging effects of unbridled anger on relationships. And, men don't have the corner on this market either - plenty of women do their fair share of harm through fiery tempers and uncensored words. So, what are some suggestions for couples who continue to ...
Views: 1125 - Tips for Resolving Conflict for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Sally ConnollyTips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your concern or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Views: 2934 - Tolerance Can Be Overrated - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from Alan Sharland(....or why conflict avoidance, under the guise of tolerance, can be a dangerous thing.) I was once asked to support a man who had been sent to prison for carrying out a violent attack on his neighbour. He was referred to me to see if I could help him with what was considered to be some ...
Views: 1704 - Tongue Twisters: When Others Manipulate Your Words - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Janet PfeifferEffectively communicating with others can present enough challenges without the added issue of one who twists and distorts your words. Below is a transcript of a recent conversation I had with someone (who refers to himself as a member of the black race) on facebook. He posted the controversial ...
Views: 2345 - Top 10 Workplace Dysfunctions and How to Terminate Them - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Roxanne EmmerichThe dysfunctional workplace is a killer. Untreated it will kill off your customer base, your profits, and your joy for living as surely as anything. As managers, leaders and top executives within your organization you've got to kill the conflicts in your workplace first before dysfunction ...
Views: 1264 - Top Ten Survival Tips to Sail Through a Crisis - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from David PriceCrises Leave Multiple Energetic Imprints The Chinese translation means both “danger” and “opportunity”. We live in a time of multiple global crises which can even more intensify individual crises. In the course of a well-lived lifetime one will experience serious, multiple crises. The ...
Views: 969 - Tough Advice About Anger - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEverybody gets angry, even me. Professionally, I've been helping people understand and reduce their anger for twenty years. And in all honesty, I do practice what I preach. I experience far less anger and frustration than I did when I was younger, perhaps some of which is due to age. People ...
Views: 1464 - Transitions: The 3rd Inevitability (in addition to death and taxes!) - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2016 from Suzanne St. John SmithOver the years, I’ve discovered there are few among us who embrace transitions. I’m not one of them. Just ask my husband. For perhaps the first ten years of our lives together, when we vacationed overseas (before the aid of the Internet to illustrate the sort of place we were headed to), ...
Views: 1244 - Transvaginal Mesh Lawsuits Manages Medical Costs - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Dean McDurmontLately, the public has become more conscious of surgery mesh complications suffered by women after taking down pelvic organ Prolapse and stress urinary incontinence surgeries by making use of man-made mesh. This mesh is called upon by various names including transvaginal mesh, pelvic mesh, ...
Views: 1112 - Travel to Asia: a great experience - by I get very excited when I think about traveling to Asia. It is the largest continent in the world with the largest population. Therefore, an amazing mix of culture and tradition is an obvious and inevitable element of Asia. With the fusion of several countries and their specialty: India, land of ...
Views: 167 - Turn Your Anger Into Power! - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Sandra MiniereAnger is a high energy emotion. When you can focus the energy in your anger towards an action that leads to a constructive outcome, you are turning your anger into power. Speaking up rather than acting out or holding back leads to healthier bodies and relationships that work. Two divorces ...
Views: 2519 - Turning Confrontations into Conversations - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2007 from Sharon MarquartFew of us look forward to confrontation. When we have “issues” with someone our energy has become strained or “jammed up.” We often feel the energy between us and this person has become a battleground and confronting them feels like we’re heading into battle. And ...
Views: 1249 - Two Illusions That Spoil Reality - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2023 from William CottringerTwo Illusions That Spoil Reality by Bill Cottringer “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~Søren Kierkegaard. There are two persistent and compelling illusions that help spoil Kierkegaard’s version of reality. These are: (1) the strongly sensed ...
Views: 659 - UFO Method to Eliminate Arguing - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all argue. Well, for sure we all disagree. Arguing is an option. We can peacefully debate opposite sides of a topic and without having it escalate to anger, shouting, name-calling, and hurt feelings. Yet oftentimes it does. When people do not feel as though they are being heard or understood ...
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