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If a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way.
What this means is that it is not just about him ... Views: 142
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written other posts about how essential it is to peel ... Views: 737
Importance of technology news
There are a significant number of websites and blogs that offer us the latest technological news. We know the latest gadgets, software and applications along with the right platforms to run them. Now we can travel faster and reach our desired destinations in no ... Views: 130
A number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention.
One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no ... Views: 593
A number of years ago I developed a close friendship with someone, and while they had been with members of the opposite sex, they were now attracted to members of the same sex. This was something that became perfectly clear when they spoke about this area of their life, after we had been friends ... Views: 1112
When I was out walking the other day, I was thinking about what can happen in someone’s adult years if they were violated and made to feel insignificant during their early years. What came to mind first was the kind of person who acts as though they are the centre of the universe.
Through ... Views: 907
If I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper.
Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ... Views: 1159
I remember when I was seeing a woman towards the end of 2011, who was going through a challenging time. She wasn’t in a good place, and this meant that I tried to do what I could to help her.
This primarily took place through listening to what she had to say and offering advice. I was also ... Views: 1043
I remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop.
Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ... Views: 1195
Before I started writing articles, I had been on the path for around seven years. During this time, I had put a lot of effort into trying to understand myself and why my life was the way it was.
So, when I started writing, it wasn’t as though I just woke up one day and thought that I would ... Views: 1081
In 2012, I started to read books on child abuse, and the only time that I had read anything like this before was in 2009, when I read the book ‘Toxic Parents’ by Susan Forward. So, up until this point, I had primarily been reading books on self-development.
As far as I knew, I just lacked ... Views: 1116
A little while ago, when I was online, I read something that really stood out. The general gist was that due to how busy people are in today’s world, they haven’t got the time to have years of therapy.
As a result of this, they need to be able to transform their life in a much shorter period ... Views: 640
There was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way.
I had the need to find out about what might be going on, ... Views: 1104
When I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others.
This is not to say that they will end up killing millions ... Views: 514
As I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else.
One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I ... Views: 1063
Towards the end of last year, I was introduced to someone called Collin Smith, who is also known as ‘The Listener’. Now, this not merely a fancy term that he uses; it relates to what he is actually like.
He is one of the best listeners I have come across, and I don’t say this lightly. ... Views: 1066
As we all race to understand Emotional Intelligence, arguably the hottest thing on the business scene globally, there are many questions.
As ‘Ask the EQ Expert’ for a business website, I’ve been asked:
· Isn’t ‘Emotional Intelligence’ a ... Views: 1336
A few years ago a friend of mine asked me if I was able to help them move house. I asked them when they were moving and I came to see that I was available on that day.
I think I had already helped two friends move house already that year, so I was well-prepared. Shortly after I had been ... Views: 1075
At the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others.
As for the latter, I could see that ... Views: 971
Through reading books on self-development, taking courses and changing what was taking place in my mind, amongst other things, I started to settle down mentally and emotionally. This was something that often stood out when I was out socialising, as I generally felt as though I was in control of ... Views: 1063
What do we want from life? Happiness right? Before asking for anything else, the one thing that remains constant is happiness. Without it, all of us are incomplete. No matter then how much rich, successful and settled we get. Happiness remains constant.
But how do you know you are happy or ... Views: 595
We are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in?
Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment.
How are we captured and detained from being our best ... Views: 4656
"'People will suffer almost anything as long as it means they don't have to change." ~ Deepak Chopra
Life is a series of ups and downs, twists and turns. You can approach the roller coaster of life with arms high in the air; willingly and ready for whatever comes next. Or you can grip the ... Views: 1344
Michael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see ... Views: 4921
It's funny when and where inspiration strikes. My latest epiphany came to me while soaking in a hot bubble bath. I had to run from the tub soaking wet to write it down. I've learned that inspiration can disappear as quickly as it comes if not acted upon. This nugget of an AHA moment made me ... Views: 1242
Welcome to your life, the attendance in a universal elementary school of sorts, where you are here to learn, develop and enjoy your being. You are here to learn your ABC's of Abundance, Being-ness and Consciousness. In the rich generative soil of physical reality you are meant to grow and ... Views: 1134
40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is ... Views: 6819
Master the moment with others: consciously mastering your input and output
Your success or underperforming all happens in the moment. What is your response in each situation? Is it emotionally intelligent or exceptional or just average? The key is consciously mastering your input and output. ... Views: 5270
The Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted.
Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep?
When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want?
Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already ... Views: 5001
Mastering the Moment for Exceptional Performance:
Part One Self-Development
In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top ... Views: 4939
Intuition is knowing without knowing how you know. It’s that flash of insight you get about something.
You’re an intuitive being, even though you might think you’re not.
Some people are more in touch with their intuitive self than others, but we all have similar innate abilities. The more ... Views: 3029
We all are born with a certain amount of intuition. The problem is, from a very young age we are often told to ignore our feelings or that our feelings are just wrong. You are never taught to trust your emotions. Much like force-feeding an infant can cause the child to start ignoring their ... Views: 1363
Life stinks.
If that statement bubbled up in your thoughts recently then you may be attached to life decaying garbage truck thinking. Simply put, if you stuff your mind with garbage you will create stinky outcomes. If you focus upon all that is bad in your life you will only add to the ... Views: 1528
How to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out?
This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders.
How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having ... Views: 4811
Managers account for 70% variance in employee engagement surveys.
What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 ... Views: 5424
Life's teachers come in the most unexpected forms. Sometimes, they even sport fins and scales, like the three-foot carp that lives in the pond where I take my daily stroll. OK, this carp has a human interpreter, Robert, a fishing enthusiast who I met a number of years ago during one of my pond ... Views: 1403
I was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to ... Views: 4931
Fired up about new ideas, opportunities and contributing but can’t seem to get out from under a not so fired up workplace culture? Before you spend the rest of the year wishing your workplace were different or going online to blast your resume to recruiters, ensure you are equipped with the ... Views: 974
Teamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now." Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to ... Views: 2402
Alongside the adolescent view of love we hold in this culture that says that love is a feeling, we also believe that love should be easy. Of course, this attitude of effortlessness and ease extends far beyond the bounds of love; more and more, people seem to believe that life itself should be ... Views: 682
Have you ever been belittled?
Has anyone close to you ever put you down in the presence of others?
How do you normally react when someone does that you?
I can safely say that everyone (to some extent) has been subjected to the above-mentioned.
On my Life Skills radio segment, a ... Views: 817
Do you have a Conflict Hider in your life? Conflict isn’t fun, and most of us do what we can to avoid it when possible. But some people take conflict avoidance to the extreme, and that can make it difficult for those around them to resolve conflicts when they arise. Conflict is a normal party ... Views: 427
Is your mission this Christmas season to avoid holiday party conflict? Does it seem like mission impossible? Believe it or not, with a little planning, preparation, and persistence you can bring peace back to your gathering.
Christmas parties are supposed to be fun. They are supposed to be ... Views: 420
“Good morning, this is God. I will be handling all of your problems today. I will not need your help, so have a good time. I love you. ~God”
Today I want to share with you three ways to help you to turn around worry.
I talked yesterday with a dear friend about how we deal with fear. Some ... Views: 859
We all have occasions when we should apologize to someone. It happens. We do or say something that impacts another person in a negative way, and we know that we owe them an apology. When our actions have caused damage in a relationship, an apology can go a long way towards repairing it. But ... Views: 429
1. Inside Out
What you say to yourself on the inside will have an impact on how you act on the outside. So, try to be your own coach by advising yourself in the way a good friend would talk to you. If you were advising a good friend, you would use positive words and ‘big them up’ because you ... Views: 664
Most Americans get really excited about the Fourth of July. This date is all about American independence. Unfortunately, when most citizens discuss their finances, independence is probably not the first word that comes to mind. With a bit of work and planning, however, it is possible to increase ... Views: 933
Work can be not only hard but stressful as well. You know the importance of keeping yourself healthy, so… What about taking up a new hobby — meditation?
https://productive.fish/blog/meditation-apps/
Meditation has combined a lot of cool features for a modern person: helps with your focus, ... Views: 397
Most people buy the deodorant that smells best to them, is the one that’s on sale, or is the kind that they’ve been using for years. While it’s nice to find a deodorant that cancels out pit odor, most people are unknowingly putting harmful chemicals on their skin each day.
Sure, store-bought ... Views: 433
5. Mortal Kombat
The one who started it all. While it may now seem pixelated and dated, it was without a doubt the most violent video game of its time. By generating a large fanbase, a movie, and a host of sequels, most of us have probably played Mortal Kombat in at least one form of ... Views: 108