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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- It is not about winning or losing - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2010 from Isabel KirkWow…the Winter Olympics are gone but the idea of how many good lessons we could learn from them keeps gravitating in my head. The most important is the idea of persistence and trying again vs the typical win or loose model, not only when pursuing an Olympic medal but in life. Stop for a second ...
Views: 4982(12 votes) - *** White Space Issues - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Reldan NadlerThe word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them ...
Views: 7768(2 votes) - 10 Ways to Increase Your Energy at Work - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana Garcia1. I allow time for playfulness and fun at work. 2. I surrender to the wisdom of the Universe and believe that my current job or situation is bringing me a lesson in love about myself or my life. 3. I know that I am safe and the Universe always provides for me. 4. I am loyal to ...
Views: 1365(2 votes) - 6 Ways to Be a Happy Super-Model Parent - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2010 from Patrick McMillanThere is no such thing as a “perfect” parent though most of us try to be the best mom or dad we can be. Just as we tend to model the parenting habits of our parents, our children too will model themselves based on who they see in us. If we want our children to BE HAPPY we need to be ...
Views: 1033(2 votes) - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
Views: 1911(2 votes) - BLESS YOUR MESS! Your Greatest Problem is Your Greatest Opportunity - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Sheila Pearlby Sheila Pearl, M.S.W. Have you ever fantasized about living a life without any problems? A life that is neat and tidy, with no mess? If your life is anything like mine, you might have started your day by putting out fires, cleaning up some kind of mess, solving some kind of problem. ...
Views: 1505(4 votes) - Changing My Mind - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Lori Kirstein, Speaker/"Emotional Linguist", Author, ActorIn January, on the heels of the death of one of my dearest, closest friends, I quit my office job. Well, the job was godawful to begin with, anyway, but the false money-guru in my head kept saying, “But I need the money, but I need the money!” And I stayed. Until Randy died. Then I said to ...
Views: 1230(4 votes) - Choosing to Be happy is the Key to Invite Meaning into your Experience - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Andrew HortonInviting meaning and fulfilment into your experience, starts with you making one of the most important and satisfying choices you will ever make in your life, namely the choice to allow yourself to experience true joy and happiness. Remember happiness is always a choice and the level of ...
Views: 995(2 votes) - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 1812(2 votes) - Conflict – Are You Using it Productively? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Gael DrumConflict is a good motivator to address problems and to seek solutions for unresolved issues. It is a good warning sign that an area of your life, or your personality may need attention. However, if you sweep the warning signals under the carpet or ignore the motivation to confront and resolve ...
Views: 1281(2 votes) - Excuse Me, But Can You Please Push Me Out of My Own Way? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Denise AllenThe other day, I had the good fortune to connect with a dear friend that I had not spoken with in a while. I always feel so good when I spend time with my friends. I am convinced that our best moments in life are spent in the company of people that we love. We chatted lightly for a while ...
Views: 1090(4 votes) - First Principle for Awakening to Wholeness -JUST FEEL IT! - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from Michael CasteelThe first principle to Awakening to Wholeness is JUST FEEL IT! Feel it all, as fully and as deeply as you are able. WHAT? Does this sound off to you, counter-intuitive, maybe even a little scary? In the past, it most certainly would have seemed so to me. My strategy was more like "If it's ...
Views: 977(2 votes) - Introductions Please - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Kenny BrixeyIntroductions Please I would like to introduce you to an amazing person. This person is a wonderful human being and is full of love, intelligence and strength. The extent of their worth is unimaginable. The possibilities of what this person can do are endless. To look within them is to see ...
Views: 826(2 votes) - Leading is Learning (an excerpt from the authors NEW book, Oracle of the Obvious: Secrets to Common Sense Leadership. - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2010 from Raymond JorgensenTo explain why leading and learning are synonymous, reflect on the words of Eric Hoffer: In times of change, learners inherit the Earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists. In other words, learning is the key to remaining ...
Views: 998(6 votes) - Listening is not Understanding - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Claude WarnerWe all listen, but there is a big difference between receiving information, and actually understanding what is being said. For many of us our main focus whilst listening is to pick up clues to respond to. This is not necessarily wrong, but the difference is our intention in listening. Are we ...
Views: 1133(2 votes) - Maximize Peformance Through Understanding - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Rick (Eric) JohnsonTo be effective, leaders must not only manage their team but they must develop an understanding of every individual on that team. Prioritizing acquainting yourself with each individual on your team includes knowing their dreams, their hopes, their thoughts, their opinions and their values. This ...
Views: 937(2 votes) - Relationship Selling, So What Is A Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Harlan GoergerIt seems that anywhere I turn there is a conversation, blog, discussion or new book on Relationship Selling. You may also be seeing and hearing the banter. I have no problem with the idea of "Relationship Selling", my only question is. "What is this relationship?" can it be described or ...
Views: 985(2 votes) - Since I accepted the Inevitably, I see Possibility - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Claude WarnerFor most of us our goal in life is to be comfortable. For instance, we want just enough money to be able to live a “comfortable life”. We don’t necessarily seek the passion of fulfilling great visions, or the other extreme of apathy and despair. For many of us our lives are focused on ...
Views: 1366(2 votes) - The Freedom Formula - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2010 from Paul Dalton"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" Victor Frankl One of the things I love most about coaching others is when they really get that creating more of what they ...
Views: 1035(2 votes) - The Heliotropic Mind and 7 Emotions to Cultivate in Life - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Steven AitchisonIf you’ve heard of a Heliotropic plant you’ll know that its stem grows in the direction of the sun so it can take full advantage of the photosynthesis process. I believe we have a Heliotropic Mind as well, we want to have positive emotions in our life and if we grow these positive emotions ...
Views: 1594(2 votes) - The Power of Yin - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaThe TAO says: “The softness and yielding of water overcomes the hardness and strength of stone” TAOISM is a chinese philosophy which advocates simply the way and order of the Universe. Through stillness and receptivity (feminine or yin) natural intuition guides us in knowing when to act and ...
Views: 1304(2 votes) - The Schoolroom of Love - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2010 from M.J. RyanOne of the greatest inspirational writers of the 19th century was a man named Henry Drummond who wrote a best-selling little book called The Greatest Thing In the World. In it, he said, “The world is not a playground; it is a schoolroom. Life is not a holiday but an education. And the one ...
Views: 1217(2 votes) - The Secret to an Amazing Life- Feeling Good - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Dorcas WoodI start my day in silence. Enjoying the peace I feel in my heart, being one with God. I start my day acknowleging the magnificence of who I am and all of the blessings God has given me. I focus also on what He's left in my authority. I know that I have the power to create my world with my ...
Views: 976(2 votes) - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 1889(2 votes) - We Are the World…at What Price? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Stephanie FrankIt’s been 4 days since we said goodbye to the King of Pop - or as some would now call him, “The Greatest Artist that Ever Lived.” Some were shocked by the news, most saddened and some don’t care at all. Whatever your personal opinion of Michael Jackson, there is no denying the massive price ...
Views: 1179(2 votes) - Work or Fun - Do Words Change Minds? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2010 from Hal WechslerWork or Fun – Do Words Change Minds? Are you in the business of influencing, persuading and convincing folks to use your product or service, and not your competitor? We all have a boss, someone to report to, even if it is the Board of Directors. Decisions are not mechanical or ...
Views: 1304(4 votes) - Your EQ, not Your IQ, is Your Key to Success and Happiness - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Lisa SmithFor a long time, one's IQ (Intelligence Quotient) was considered the leading determinant of success (financial and personal). However, as more studies looked into the lifestyles and success factors of those with high IQ's, it became clear that this theory did not bear itself out. Many with high ...
Views: 4533(2 votes) - The Psychedelic Emotional Drive To Success - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Andre ZiziThis is a chapter of my current book. (Copyright09) The stream waves of emotions drive us to inspiration and elevation. Reason? Effective life mastery comes from a deeper awareness of the stream waves of consciousness that lies within us. This knowledge can only be activated, and acted upon ...
Views: 1327(7 votes) - ***Experiencing the Power of Diamond Joy in the Body - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Jacqueline JoyJoy...the alchemical emotion. One drop of Joy transforms oceans of doubt and fear into Trust and Love." - Kevin Ryerson Joy is the ecstatic feeling in the body that uplifts you and radiates good feeling into the world around you when your Authentic Self, the Diamond Self Within, is fully ...
Views: 3934(5 votes) - The 2 Most Powerful Emotions That Will Change Your Life! - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Amit DesaiEverything we see around us is nothing but energy and everything vibrates at a certain frequency. Frequency is everything. All frequencies co-exist to make up the entire Universe. Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason & you & only you are responsible for all of it. You ...
Views: 1556(5 votes) - Emotionally Intelligent Leadership: The Optimal Thinking Way - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Sam DonnersWhen leaders lack emotional intelligence, employees often feel powerless, anxious and frustrated. Functioning with unresolved emotional turbulence, their performance can be dramatically impacted. Many employees disconnect from the company's mission and their daily responsibilities when they feel ...
Views: 1408(8 votes) - ***Are Outrageous Outbursts Now an Effective PR Tool? Oh My! - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"Lions and tigers and bears, oh my!" - Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz The media is filled with bizarre tales of rude and downright bizarre behavior that was once exhibited by self-loathing attention seeking narcissists and now may be used as a clever inexpensive tool for massive publicity. In ...
Views: 1188(3 votes) - Abandonment: Why Do Some People Fear Abandonment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the external experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind ...
Views: 2414(3 votes) - Emotional Intelligence and Anger Management - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Gregory KylesWe are all emotional beings. We may experience emotions in varying levels of intensity but nobody can deny having emotions. Recognizing and understanding emotions is of paramount importance in our personal lives and interactions with others. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new concept in ...
Views: 6206(3 votes) - Forgiveness Can Set You Free: Unshackle the Chains of Resentment - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Donna Marie Thompson“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive peace and happiness.” Robert Muller Often when we are wronged we hold on to the hurt. We own it – it is our hurt and we do everything we can to keep it. In the early stages, we use this as a coping mechanism ...
Views: 3583(3 votes) - How about some fine-tuning of your attitude? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2009 from Ozias MucheriwaAviation is a very interesting field. When flying an aircraft, the pilot has to watch a small gadget called the Attitude Indicator which reveals the plane's attitude. In simple terms, the plane's attitude is its position in relation to the earth's horizon. Pilots know that the aircraft's ...
Views: 922(3 votes) - Resilience - the key to thriving in challenging times - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from Ralph BrownOur emotions got us into the recession. They can keep us there, or get us out of it. Resilience is the essential ingredient for thriving when budgets are cut, sales are down, when our jobs are threatened or gone, or when we are simply overwhelmed by it all. People who lack resilience can go ...
Views: 1621(3 votes) - Take Nothing Personally - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2010 from Kristin RobertsonThe scene: a hip and fashionable downtown restaurant. A high-ranking manager of a technology company and several of his team members are enjoying lunch together to celebrate the team's recent achievement. As the conversation veers off onto casual topics, one of the employees excitedly explains ...
Views: 1480(3 votes) - Improve Your Relationship Management Skills with These 5 Tips - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Maurine PattenRelationship management becomes more important as you assume more professional responsibility. You need skills to build bonds, inspire, influence and develop others. All the while you need to be open to change, manage conflict and establish teamwork. Emotional Intelligence author Daniel ...
Views: 21337(4 votes) - Finding Words That Work in Business - by Submitted on May 13, 2010 from Nonviolent Communication Books From PuddleDancer PressWe all face difficult conversations in the workplace: criticism from our boss, a conflict with a client, a co-worker we find irritating, a subordinate who submits incomplete work -- all might entail a conversation we do not look forward to having. When we anticipate that an interaction might be ...
Views: 1304(9 votes) - Success and Identity - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Geoffrey CanavanWe have all already established an identity. Don’t be afraid to let this identity be up for change. In many instances we find ourselves adapting to situations, almost like being different characters in a play. This gives rise to the many faces of the one person, acting out different roles in ...
Views: 1832(11 votes) - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 2621(2 votes) - *** How to Rise Above the Pecking Order - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteWhere are you in the pecking order of your life? Are you above or below the "measuring up to" rung you hoped to be on at this moment in time? Where are you in the heirarchy through which you define your life achievement; your sense of self-worth and accomplishment? If you had answers to ...
Views: 2298(1 vote) - 10 Ways to Increase your Personal Power in the Work Place - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana Garcia1. Are you attractive to yourself? This is the first step to become attractive to others: What can you do to become more attractive to yourself? We are looking not just at areas such as new clothes or an upgraded make up but things that make you feel good about yourself and raise your energy, ...
Views: 4965(1 vote) - Are You Ready? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Pam WhiteHow many of you know you don't like questions asked of you? How many don't like someone presuming something about you? How many love to sit in a movie, read a good book, eat something wonderful? We know ourselves by these outside determinants. We know what we like and don't like, what we want ...
Views: 579(1 vote) - Are you stuck in the dance of guilt? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Nigel LewisThe Dance of Guilt What is guilt? Have you ever realized how you react to guilt? Most of us do what I call the dance of guilt. Life is so much about moving towards or moving away from anything and everything. When we feel guilty we often retreat into the moving away from stance. We withdraw ...
Views: 2274(2 votes) - Being a Friend in Need - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuA solid friendship is born when you can help the other person in need, and the can do the same for you. Learn to be a friend in need and you will strengthen your relationships. You don’t know how strong a friendship really is until it is tested. The classic test a friendship encounters is ...
Views: 1273(2 votes) - Buddhism, the Brain, and a Bad Boss - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Nina HamThere’s nothing more frustrating and disheartening than feeling that your boss is undermining your efforts to do your best at work. Maybe it seems intentional, maybe it seems just who s/he is. Whatever the origin, the toll on your morale and performance is heartbreakingly wasteful. What to ...
Views: 1581(1 vote) - Caution! Child Under Construction: Getting it right the first time - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Brian WalshA friend of mine is a construction contractor specializing in tiles. During a recent conversation, he was complaining that his previous job was problematic because it was a renovation rather than new construction. When he removed old walls and plumbing, he uncovered many examples of shoddy work ...
Views: 1313(1 vote) - Changing Behaviour the Easy Way - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Clive MillerIn Groundhog Day Bill Murray keeps playing out the same situation, over and over, never finding a way to make the outcome different. Do you ever keep making the same mistake? I sometimes have to make a mistake many times before I begin to change my behaviour and react differently. Traumatic ...
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