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Part One. Fictitious names.
During last four years, I have worked in a small homeless shelter(fourteen people). And, I have worked with over four hundred residents. Ages: 18 to 70.
When some people first entered our building - they stood still - in shock and anxiety. Some people walked ... Views: 1011
Time has been called, "The 4th Dimension" by some thinkers, but, at minimum, it seems to shrink or expand, not obeying any kind of "Natural Law." Individually, few of us feel like we have enough of it to do all we want to do, let alone making space and time for ourselves.
It is generally ... Views: 1285
There was a time when dating was considered as an immoral thing but now the era has changed and it is considered as the need of the time. People do what their heart says. Heart is given privileged over the mind as it guides through the passage of love and that is what a person desires. According ... Views: 3110
We and Me
How do your relationships support you? They all do, one way or another.
Some of our relationships support us with kindness and comfort.
Some of our relationships support us with meaningful tasks and cash rewards.
Some of our relationships support us with challenges and ... Views: 1848
The thing is, there really is a difference in how you feel after you overcome shyness.
I'm not talking about overcoming shyness where you get bold for a brief moment and then anxiety creeps back in.
I'm talking about a full blown recovery where there is no going back.
A few years ago I ... Views: 1538
One of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person.
It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ... Views: 1790
The pain of any breakup is quite complex for most couples to pass through. Eventually, many couples begin yearning for their partners and often start entertaining the desire of fixing the break-up with their ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
Nevertheless, if your initiatives at fixing the split up ... Views: 2849
“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing…not healing, not curing…that is a friend who cares.” - Henri Nouwen
Friendship is an art. We are born into families but we must ... Views: 1237
None of us can achieve the success or the validation we deserve alone. In this troubled economy, more than ever, we need the input, the feedback, the support and the feet-to-the-fire accountability of a few deep, trusted relationships in our professional and personal lives that we can count on, ... Views: 938
Breaking apart with a person you have really been fond of is in no way a pleasing experience. Making things even worse will be the often determination of fixing the break-up with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend because you are not certain concerning the kind of reaction from your ex boyfriend or ... Views: 6618
Have you ever been in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere, and neither person seems to be able to think of anything to say?
This happens a lot, especially when both people don’t really know each other. It can also happen when both people are lacking in conversational skills. ... Views: 1599
From time immemorial friends were vital to human survival. However, in this new millennium the importance of friendship and perceptions about what it takes to be a friend has moved into a state of decline. When our country was new, friendship was essential to life and protection. Ralph Waldo ... Views: 2762
Did you know that even if you never say a word, your face and body are constantly sending out messages to other people about your state of mind, your happiness, and your level of confidence.
And you have been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of those people ... Views: 4636
In addition to spending Thanksgiving with your family this year, why not start a new tradition and have a “Friends Thanksgiving”? This is a great way to spend time with and honor your friendships, and the families of your friends. As an annual event, your friends and their children will be ... Views: 1289
Loneliness is a very complex, multidimensional phenomenon. Simply put, there is no one cure for loneliness, simply because there are many different types of loneliness. The loneliness of a widow, who just lost her husband, is different from the loneliness of a boy who is sick in bed and can’t go ... Views: 26028
Every breakup comes along with its own different set of mental ordeal. What precisely brought about the separation involving Andrew and Linda would likely have basic resemblance with what caused the breakup involving Julia and Frank, however, each has a number of unique attributes which needs to ... Views: 3553
Here we are again meeting on a beautiful morning sharing our thoughts to loving the life we have, while dreaming of more. Is that the tape that is running in your head? Or is it a more defeating one? I have been using these very questions with many aspects of my life.
Let’s look at these ... Views: 1321
I constantly go to the hardware store looking for apples! Why do I expect to get soothing support from those people that are unable to provide a compassionate ear, and instead I receive critical and judgmental verbal abuse. Because that may be an old unconscious pattern that doesn’t serve me ... Views: 1414
I know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her ... Views: 1291
Being alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful ... Views: 4423
You're at a party and see someone you want to talk to. You stand there like a statue, trying to figure out how to start a conversation with this person or anyone for that matter. What do you say? What do you do? Minutes pass and so does your opportunity. The only thing that gets stronger is your ... Views: 2200
When a relationship breaks up it is very common for one of the partners to realize that the feelings they had were much deeper than they realized and that they would be prepared to do just about anything to get back together again.
This can of course be difficult if certain things were said ... Views: 1035
After having a separation, there's always this particular phenomenon that is shown by the majority of people which is the fact that a lot of them normally ask themselves if they have any sort of prospect of their your ex lover wishing to get back together with them. The telling signs could at ... Views: 6239
Starting a conversation with other people can seem a difficult, an almost impossible task. Especially if you do not know the other person very well, or find that they are either shy or less than enthusiastic about talking with you, trying to start a conversation with basic statements or ... Views: 7432
When you are with other people, do you let them get to know the “real you”? Or do you hide yourself from others, always acting stiff and polite?
In some societies, people behave very formally with each other. In those societies, you will be more respected if you are distant and courteous, ... Views: 4365
A solid friendship is born when you can help the other person in need, and the can do the same for you. Learn to be a friend in need and you will strengthen your relationships.
You don’t know how strong a friendship really is until it is tested. The classic test a friendship encounters is ... Views: 1444
Being stalked on facebook is not a pleasant experience. I wonder in actual fact how many people have been stalked on facebook? When one thinks about stalking the first scenario which pops to mind is one of a man obsessively following a woman with some sort of physically abusive intent.
But ... Views: 3284
If you’re a single woman looking to find that special man in your life, you may want to consider moving to one of the cities listed below if you are having a hard time finding Mr. Right. Today’s women are extra busy going to school, working full-time, and trying to find the right balance of ... Views: 1209
I have always been very sentimental and close to my friends. They always matter to me. I once told this best friend of mine when my time is up in this world, I want you to be the one to speak in my eulogy because you’re the one who really knows me to the core- justify me. This is not an unusual ... Views: 1563
Boosting confidence comprises a theme that is definitely part of one's ability to realize even if you don't have complete knowledge of it. On the exterior, for a few individuals the goal of achieving greater self-esteem and decisive forcefulness can sound like impossibility, or even just a ... Views: 2717
If you follow me on Facebook or Twitter you might have seen my post:
"Note to woman blabbing in the corner of Starbucks: The expiration date on blaming you parents for your misfortune is long past."
If you know me at all, you know I'm an observer of the human spirit and the human ... Views: 1328
There are few gestures more touching than the sending of cards. In this age of digital communication, there is something undeniably thrilling about receiving a card, such as a thank you card, through the post. It makes you think that the person who sent the card has truly gone to an effort to ... Views: 760
You’ve just met this person at the office, and 2 minutes into the conversation, oops! Her name flies out the window of your memory. When you’re talking to your neighbor, you forget her name, too. Welcome to the club. What are you going to do now?
Begin With These 3 Tips:
1. Stay calm.
2. ... Views: 2971
Even though most of us check our facebook pages obsessively throughout the day, remembering why we initially signed up for one in the first place can be a challenge. Don’t worry, I’ll give you some time to think. Assuming your answer wasn’t so you could stalk your ex girlfriend, the answer ... Views: 1370
Dear Dr. Romance,
I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors.
I will be leaving ... Views: 2362
Dear Dr. Romance:
Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love?
Dear Reader:
Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ... Views: 10569
Dear Dr. Romance:
I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ... Views: 1176
Arguments - what's it good for? Debates are rarely "won." When you think you won an argumentation, what did you gain? The "loser" at least learned something, right? But what did you get? arguing practice, ego satisfaction, and diminished Brain power.
Argument Decreases Brain Power?
At ... Views: 4797
If there's a particular inclination that any individual who may have recently experienced a break-up has got, is definitely the inclination for that person to panic. Panic is one of the challenging barriers to just about anyone's likelihood of successfully winning an ex lover back again. When ... Views: 1127
Are you one of those people who’s very confident, who makes new friends easily, who has no trouble asking someone for a date?
Or are you a person who lacks confidence, who fears rejection, who is constantly worried about whether other people really like him, or will reject him? Does your ... Views: 1264
One of the most intriguing patterns that most people do at some stage is to look at someone else, (usually someone who they think is wonderful, good looking and successful) compare them to themselves and start listing all the reasons why they are better than them and why there is no point in ... Views: 1961
Billions of people are doing it every single day. In fact, you could say it makes the world go round. Some of the people who are doing it are very young. Some are very old.
And billions of hours are spent on it every single day.
What is this activity that is so common that nearly everyone ... Views: 2730
A few years ago a surprising survey discovered that people who spent a lot of time on the Internet were a lot lonelier than people who didn’t spend much time on the Net.
This was an unexpected find because many people view the Internet and e-mail as a great way to make and keep connections ... Views: 3874
Waiiit
STOP
Don’t do it!
This will save you a lot of humiliation and rejection if you just read this first.
Because women talk. And they’ll talk about how you tried to pick up on them to their friends, and if you have the same circle of friends that could mean somewhat of a ... Views: 1368
If there are times that you feel awkward about getting people to open up to you try using the techniques applied by many talk show hosts. You have probably noticed that many of them have developed the ability to quickly put their guests at ease. They are masters at getting the conversation ... Views: 1350
As I embark on the project of writing a book, so many fears have shown up for me. I am still working through them. I am fortunate that I have so many tools available to me to use, and I am engaging many of them. Meditation, yoga, walking, energy work, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and ... Views: 943
Have you ever looked for a best friend? Probably not. Best friends generally just seem to appear. But if you did look for a best friend, what criteria would you use? Here are a few that I think might be important.
1. A best friend will care about you. To use the word "care" is somewhat ... Views: 4395
First impressions – they feel so accurate, but it’s so easy to get them wrong.
When we meet somebody new, we size that person up in just a few seconds.
A few seconds, that’s all it takes to decide whether or not we like somebody, whether we trust them, whether or not we want to get to know ... Views: 12783
Time and time again, the question seems to come up from men that really want to turn around their personal life and finally get the reaction from women that they want. Guys want to know how they can turn a friend to a girlfriend and there is a very common and a very good reason for this. Men ... Views: 3586
I was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life.
While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ... Views: 2170