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One of the big surprises that happened when I conducted a loneliness intervention program was that lonely people weren’t just your shy, withdrawn, wallflower type, but that lonely people can also be quite outgoing, extroverted, and friendly. Usually the shy, introverted ones feel like the ... Views: 1896
One of the greatest human needs is to feel connected to others and this can relate to an intimate relationship with the opposite sex or the same, depending on one’s sexual preference and to family and friends. To share who one is and to be involved in the sharing of another, plays a vital role ... Views: 1886
Like the tides which ebb and flow on the shore, the cycles of intimacy and solitude drift in and out of my life. I have been living in the absence of intimacy since writing my last blog, The Love Doves. I can honestly say that I enjoy life so much more when the experience of intimacy is ... Views: 1886
Dr. Romance writes:
There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ... Views: 1885
Many say the first year after the loss of a loved is the hardest but most people find that different seasons or dates bring up sadness and feelings of grief years after our loved one has died. There are things we can do to ease our pain during these seasons of sadness no matter when they ... Views: 1884
If someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see.
No Consequences
However, if they were to take ... Views: 1880
In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt.
Hurt feelings will occur in friendships, in intimate relationships, and even between two ... Views: 1876
Are you one of those people who finds it difficult to start up a conversation with somebody new, or someone you barely know?
This is a very common problem. Most of us find it a little bit challenging to start conversations with strangers. When we first meet someone, we don’t know much ... Views: 1873
Stereotypical laws of attraction, when it comes to women, are restricted to tall, dark and handsome men who exude a certain aura of charm and personality. However, all men do not fall into this category, and they find themselves ignored amidst a bevy of girls. If you belong to the latter ... Views: 1873
If human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ... Views: 1870
May 16, 2013
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How do you feel when you see or hear about the success of others? While it may depend on who it is, what they’ve accomplished, and how you’re feeling about your own life at the time – if you’re anything like me, you may have some ... Views: 1867
Healing power of friendship is what I am so grateful for. Friends are one of the most powerful assets a human being could have.
Life is challenging on this planet. With loving friends who have our back we know that we are not alone in the world.
With the healing power of friendship we have ... Views: 1865
Things used to be simple when you had a question about your health. If you weren’t feeling well you called your family doctor. You may be old enough to remember when he would then make a house call with his doctor’s bag right to your home to check on you. When I had my appendicitis attack in ... Views: 1865
Hi there everyone!!
Our events are always different (innovative and creative), but there’s one common element that is our winning formula.
Our community has cool people, and so our parties are full of cool people.
Why? What’s so special about the people we know?
These are three ... Views: 1862
This article is a response to a question posted on Intent.com, "How do We Help the Helpless?" Since I work with homeless families in a homeless shelter everyday, this question raised strong emotions for me. The word "helpless" hit me right between the eyes. Why?
I don't know if it is our ... Views: 1860
Unique personalized sympathy gifts express timely thoughtfulness to a bereaved person. They become treasured mementos of the life of a loved one who has passed on. There are a number of ways to personalize a gift. You can incorporate a photo, have an item engraved, or use a particularly ... Views: 1858
Yeaaah..
Awkwardness sucks.
You know that moment when you realize you slipped up and said or did something wrong...and that feeling of dread comes over you?
Or you know you’re supposed to say something in a group but you can’t get yourself to do it...and you know others take notice of ... Views: 1858
A man is attracted right away, or he's not. They are way more visual that we want to admit. Women often tell me they think a man will 'become' attracted after he gets to know them. It doesn't work that way. That's how women often fall in love. We might be attracted initially, but then he does ... Views: 1852
Dear Dr. Romance:
I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ... Views: 1851
No one person can live in isolation. We all need others to survive, to thrive and to have a happy living. It is this co-existence with our fellow beings that leads to relationships. Sometimes happy, sometimes not. But it is those happy relations that we share with other humans that are called ... Views: 1851
When you are with someone you can sense whether or not their intentions are positive. Whether their focus is on adding value to your life or taking it away like some social leach.
As the world famous personal development speaker Tony Robbins says, there’s two ways to have the tallest ... Views: 1847
We and Me
How do your relationships support you? They all do, one way or another.
Some of our relationships support us with kindness and comfort.
Some of our relationships support us with meaningful tasks and cash rewards.
Some of our relationships support us with challenges and ... Views: 1846
Valentine's Day has been, gone and the shops are getting rid of all the hearts and special love offers. It is just one day for everyone in love to proclaim their love. To be fair this can and should be done every day of the year. Is it vital you get flowers, chocolates or anything else that says ... Views: 1844
The phone rang the other evening, and to my delight it was a group of friends from college. I gladly took a little break from my work on the computer to chat.
I laid on my bed and talked to all three—they put me on a speaker phone (a great invention). We shared fun things only we girls can ... Views: 1842
Valentine's Day gets a lot of media attention, and it can be hard to avoid. When you don't have a special someone to spend it with, or worse yet, you've just lost a relationship, it can be brutal. If you're alone, it's important to take good care of yourself. Gather your best friends around you ... Views: 1840
We all go through difficulties now and then. The tricky part is not getting stuck thinking it will not improve.
Here are some steps you can take to help yourself not only get past the hard times, but actually learn and improve because of them.
1.Get a journal just for this event. Write ... Views: 1835
Written April 12, 1990
How do you know when it's time to say goodbye? To move on? To go separate ways? There comes a point for many people, whether it's with the true love of your life, the gang at church, your oldest friend, or a group you used to hang with, when something is just not the ... Views: 1823
Throughout one’s life, they are naturally going to meet people they feel close to and people they don’t. And the people who they don’t feel close to are going to be in the majority. Special connections are going to be rare and this is because one won’t meet people like this all of the time.
... Views: 1822
“Purebred” schizoids shrug off their disorder: they simply don’t like being around people and they resent the pathologizing of their lifestyle “choice” to remain aloof and alone. They consider the diagnosis of Schizoid Personality Disorder to be spurious, a mere reflection of current social ... Views: 1819
Americans hear tragic stories every day involving guns! However, we must discuss community change if we are going to stop violent behavior! Government, police, schools and nonprofit groups work to reduce violence with educational programs on child abuse, bullying, drug abuse, domestic violence ... Views: 1813
The support of friends, family, and our community has been shown to extend our lives, lower our risk of infection, and help us recover from conditions such as heart disease and high blood pressure more quickly and effectively. A study conducted in 2001 by Beverly H. Brummett, Ph.D. and ... Views: 1808
To have a lifestyle that matches to your niche, you have to live with the wishes or desires that arise from inside of your own self. There are many people who run her life by imitating others lifestyle, want to fulfill others wishes, or also want to be like everyone else. For these things, they ... Views: 1800
Loneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet ... Views: 1795
One of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person.
It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ... Views: 1789
Many of us do not understand the importance of having emotional “boundaries” in our interpersonal relationships. Many of us do not even understand what the term “boundaries” means in that context. And many of us do not even know whether the emotional boundaries in our life are healthy or not. ... Views: 1788
Somewhere in the dim reaches of my Baby Boomer memory I have a vague memory of a comedian whose gag line was, “I shoulda stood in bed.”
I found myself repeating that line to myself – though I used the more grammatical but less funny version – this morning. I should have stayed in ... Views: 1787
Interesting title huh? I bet you cannot wait for me to talk about his topic, as I believe it affects many of us. Actually, I know it does from my years of coaching and helping people take off this painful suit so they start feeling love again.
Have you ever found yourself saying that no one ... Views: 1786
The social organization of our world is changing. People are getting married later in their lives. Unions between couples are not always in traditional marriages, but increasingly as cohabitation, with or without children. A significant amount of marriages dissolve and we are left wondering ... Views: 1783
"Some days, you'll play lonely games too, games you can't win cause you'll play against you."
One of my favorite authors growing up was Dr. Seuss. I loved the rhymes, the silly names and characters, and with a little deeper thinking, the morals and lessons he would weave into his stories. ... Views: 1782
Dear Dr. Romance:
Quite honestly, all the info in "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom" is great. But if your list of reccomendations were a test, we have failed everyone or most of them. I am walking lightly around here, just knowing, somehow, somewhere in time, we will find our way back ... Views: 1781
“Setting limits is a way of defining who you are and what you’re all about, what you will do and what you won’t; what’s acceptable to you and what’s not”. —Laura Stack—
Many people have seen and understand a no trespassing sign posted on private property. And if you were to cross the line, ... Views: 1770
Social anxiety is a form of anxiety that may leave someone inept to socialize within the public. This may occur for a variety of reasons, but understanding what it is and how it effects you, will in-time give you the ability to overcome it. This article explains what social anxiety is, how it ... Views: 1767
When one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance.
So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ... Views: 1766
Happiness follows a U-shaped curve during a person`s lifetime, according to investigation showing that middle-aged individuals are the unhappiest.
Satisfaction with life starts to drop as soon as a person`s late 20s and doesn't begin to recover until properly past 50, says Bert van Landeghem, ... Views: 1755
On one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are.
As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ... Views: 1755
There is often the misconception that to be effective in the world you have to appear like some slick, good looking, fast talking salesperson who projects a vibe of success and perfection in everything they do. You'll be pleased to know (unless of course you are some slick, fast talking ... Views: 1752
Relationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,” although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and ... Views: 1751
Yes, there is such a thing.
A meditation technique that helps you to overcome shyness.
It’s a meditation technique I’ve used for over 6 years and it’s helped me a great deal.
If you follow any of my articles or read about me then you know I’ve overcome shyness and gotten to the point ... Views: 1742
I would like to write and comment on a few funny life quotes and sayings from this hub that made quite a deep impact on my life and work. I am convinced that every dream come true, every deed begins from a single idea – hereby I present few brilliant ones to inspire some and to warn others. ... Views: 1740
If you are wondering how to make friends, you are in the right place. Two of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life are:
1. Deciding what kind of friend you will be
2. Deciding who your friends are.
If you want to have a good life, (and I’m sure you do), then having good ... Views: 1740