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Again, I heard someone talking about the dangers of global warming. So I thought, “How serious is this problem? How many people have died because of global warming or climate change? How many have become ill? How many have become impoverished? How many have been adversely effected in any ... Views: 750
Is it unreasonable for your husband to want a sexy wife? What if you just had a baby and it seems like an impossible task to lose that baby belly? The stress of being a new mom can be overwhelming without thinking about losing weight and counting calories. You may be thinking, “He should love ... Views: 1082
I once heard a man tell me that he does not feel the same way he always felt about his marriage. I asked him "Why?" He said that his marriage lack the excitement that he see in other marriages and that it is not as glamorous as the Hollywood marriages with some of their steamy sex scenes.
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Divorce sometimes offers an illusion of happiness to people of all ages. Approximately 65% of all divorce in this country is filed by women. So why are so many women giving up on their marriages?
During the early stages of a marriage, women are usually the premier care takers of the ... Views: 1117
Can you define a "paradox" to an average 12-year-old? Try saying your definition out loud, and compare it to this: "A *paradox* is something that inherently negates itself." Paradoxes exist because many things in the world have different levels of meaning, depending on the context. A simple ... Views: 3617
This Blog is to commend a guy who, having listened to our free stuff, realised why his 15 year marriage was simply not working and why she wanted to quit! You know when you have an 'AHA' moment, one of those moments when the penny drops, well this was a massive one for this guy and one many many ... Views: 1240
It is unfortunate, but many relationships lose that special something. One simple technique to insure that your relationship stays fresh is the practice of gratitude for your partner. The use of gratitude can help you keep your relationship positive.
Benefits of Gratitude in ... Views: 773
It's Spring! Love Is In The Air!!
Spring is an absolutely fabulous time of year. It's a time of renewal, replenishment, reinforcement and reinventing of nature or even oneself. And, for so many of us it too is a time for love. It's in the air!
Whether you are already in a relationship or are ... Views: 731
DO YOU HAVE an "assertion hero/ine" - i.e. someone you regard as exceptionally adept at asserting her or his needs, feelings, opinions, and boundaries? Would others name *you* as a world-class asserter?
The American Management Association once defined "assertion" as communicating in a way ... Views: 5900
Weddings can be one of the best days of your life and one of the most stressful days of your life. From choosing your shoes and dress to picking your hairdo, everything has to be perfect. But forgetting to find that perfect piece of wedding lingerie that goes on underneath the dress is easy to ... Views: 839
With the divorce rates climbing up, so many people are hesitating marriage nowadays. Most people would not dare to marry because they expect that they will be cheated on anyway. This is such a fallacy, however.
Experiencing great love is still possible in this lifetime. You just have to work ... Views: 709
If an average nine year old child asked you "What is 'awareness'?" - what would you say?
On a scale of one (I'm totally unaware) to ten (I'm extremely aware in all situations), how would you rate your degree of *awareness* in (a) calm and (b) stressful situations? Are you becoming more aware ... Views: 2117
My favorite couple came in for a session this past weekend and a number of insights came out of the work with them that I wanted to share. They had called a week before to schedule the appointment and I caught myself during the week pondering what I might talk about with them—mistake! An ... Views: 695
From my clinical training, research, and experience as a family-systems therapist since 1979, I have come to believe that normal human personalities – like yours – are composed of a group of unique, talented “subselves” or “parts (discrete brain regions). This “inner family” of subselves acts ... Views: 3501
The day you found out your wife was pregnant was exciting, but then new considerations arose. All of a sudden people were coming forth sharing their personal horror stories. You heard about potential mood swings, the horrors of labor and delivery, and even how most pregnant women and new ... Views: 1167
A beautiful wedding ceremony, with the perfect readings and all, will help with the feeling that you are laying a strong foundation for your entire marriage. It goes without saying that marriage isn't something to be taken lightly and it is still considered an important foundation for ... Views: 697
My great good fortune has been to know Allison since just before she was born.
I was returning home to Connecticut from performing another wedding. Allison's parents, Tracy and Brian, were in charge of transporting me from Milwaukee to Chicago's O'Hare International Airport. But it wasn't to ... Views: 2414
Most couples spend more time planning their weddings than their marriages! With divorce rates at an all time high, it seems that couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their relationship stability. In my relationship counseling work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve ... Views: 1416
Many married people consult a divorce attorney before making a final decision on their marriage, most times to check out their rights. This is not a bad idea. However, remember that it is not the attorney's job to say to you 'try to reconcile and work things out, or seek counseling for a ... Views: 668
Being a strong advocate of the marriage vows; I am convinced that outside of extreme circumstances such as physical or severe substance abuse, chronic infidelity, and your spouse is not willing to change any of these for the sake of the marriage, I do believe that most marriages can be ... Views: 620
I have seen on many occasions where a husband and wife may have an issue. And both spouses confide in some one else outside the marriage. This has both good and bad consequences.
First, when you share your unhappiness with some one else, what they hear is your side of the story, and your ... Views: 571
According to statistics for first marriages listed as “very happy,” there has been a decrease from over half in 1976 to a little more than a third in 1996. I recently attended a conference where the presenter stated “half of marriages end in divorce, while another third of the remaining are held ... Views: 1744
"Love has nothing to do with fairness. Love is Love."
--Susan Page, Why Talking is Not Enough
"It's not fair!"
How often have you heard this from young or adolescent siblings?
I grew up as an only child, so I was never indoctrinated with the concept of fairness. Not growing up with it, I ... Views: 2834
Why is it so hard to figure out the opposite sex? Because our brains work differently.
Men’s brains are really good at focusing completely on just one thought and women’s brains are really good at thinking many thoughts at the same time. This difference can make it hard to figure out what ... Views: 2465
When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? A romantic date? Warm conversation? Candlelight dinner? Spending time together? Sex?
Not long ago, I defined "intimacy" as the physical part of our relationship. That definition has expanded.
Through the years our relationship became less ... Views: 676
When Jim and I were planning to be married, we set aside an intense two hours for marriage preparation -- not much of an investment for an idealistic 19 and 20 year-old couple. Unfortunately, no one pulled us aside to explain the secret to building a strong and lasting marriage. I figured if we ... Views: 661
The pained voice on my cell phone told the story. He desperately wanted his marriage to work, but now, only one option seemed feasible: Move out. Caught in deadlocked communication, hurtful finger pointing and a rapid marriage meltdown, this last ditch tactic was the only solution. He had to ... Views: 688
The other day a friend expressed deep sadness. She shared with me that Valentine's Day is the only day her husband remembers to give her a card and flowers — The rest of the year she receives nothing.
I was deeply saddened. It occurred to me this annual event might be the only day they ... Views: 628
Before climbing out of bed each morning, our thoughts travel to expectations. We expect that we’ll have a busy day at work with project deadlines. We expect that we’ll have to return phone calls. We expect that we may have to prepare dinner, or at least dial for carryout.
Our days ... Views: 710
When Sheri and I speak publicly, we almost always make the point that our romantic relationship has never been better. Then I cringe when Sheri goes a step further and says, "After twenty-five years, few couples can say their sex life is better than ever!"
I wouldn't have put it quite that ... Views: 623
One of the most popular love topics people
ask us about is infidelity and how it relates to
fate and karma.
The American Heritage English Dictionary defines
infidelity as “Lack of fidelity or loyalty, especially
to a spouse.” It defines fidelity as “Faithfulness to
obligations ... Views: 4939
It is not easy to plan for a wedding if you have a relatively tight budget. You will need to find ways to save money in this case. However, planning for a wedding with a tight budget does not mean that you will lose the fun of wedding planning.
In fact, there are a lot of ways to save money. ... Views: 811
Marriage keeps you healthy, US government researchers reported in December. According to a new study by the Center for Disease Control, married people are less likely to smoke, drink heavily or be physically inactive. They are less likely than singles, divorcees or widowed adults to be in fair ... Views: 2022
For most of the couples, the first idea to make their weddings a memorable affair is to have attractive wedding invitations. Although there are many choices in wedding invitations, yet one will have to spend a considerable time in choosing the right one. The idea of wedding invitation templates ... Views: 3071
To get your wedding invitation text or wording correct is very important because wedding invitation wording is what communicates to every guest the place and time they are to join the bride and groom at the wedding.
Wedding invitation wordings must always be clear and neat, because every guest ... Views: 1956
Every couple knows that it is stressful to plan for a wedding. In fact, one of the ways to do the wedding planning easier is to hire a wedding planner. The professional knowledge and experience of the planner will greatly help during the planning process.
However, you may find it confused when ... Views: 783
When it comes to picking a wedding gift, the choices can be overwhelming. As a result, a lot of people play it safe by getting something off the couple’s registry list. Until recently, giving gift cards as a wedding present was considered impersonal, but with the increasing acceptance of ... Views: 1795
As a counselor, I often work with people who are unhappy in their relationship and thinking of leaving. They believe that they are unhappy because of their partner, but the real reason is that they are not taking responsibility for their own feelings within the relationship.
For example, when ... Views: 3306
When we embark ourselves in marriage, we embark ourselves in the most meaningful partnership of our lives.
Like all relationships, this partnership requires a continuous and mutual exchange of energy and, because of the nature and depth of emotions involved, communication and choices based on ... Views: 1104
I read somewhere that the dynamics of every romantic relationship are decided within the first 3 months.
It makes you wonder …
It is normal to fall for someone and become totally infatuated… specially during the first three months!
This means that the things which we would usually spot go ... Views: 1395
Be glad we don't live in a place where marriages are arranged or we are restricted to certain partners like a religious cult. Been there, done that. The best advice you can ever gave yourself was to discard any lingering baggage from childhood and get to know yourself really well before you ... Views: 2369
If you want a relationship to click...find out what makes it tick. One question you could ask yourself is, "What do I see in another person that excites me to be with them"?
You might reply to yourself,
I like intelligent conversation and a bit of adventure in spirit.
I like someone who ... Views: 3683
Anger is a lit match that can be blown on and cooled or thrown onto a pile of paper on which kerosene is poured. It’s an opportunity for friends and lovers to resolve conflicts to the benefit of both parties and bring these parties closer to each other or it can be an invitation to start a war ... Views: 1101
Do love and marriage really go together like a horse and carriage? For some they do but for many they don't.
Why not? Why does love seem to die away in so many marriages?
At the beginning of most relationships that eventually lead to marriage, the couple falls in love and believes that this ... Views: 2619
I want to focus on an essential relationship behavior that you will want to practice, become good at and use frequently with your Honey:
…Honor and respect your partner’s feelings as if they are your own
Our feelings are the barometer of our outside existential lives. Our feelings ... Views: 5424
Now that you have decided to tie the knot, the most important question is the kind of wedding ring that will symbolize the marital status of the couple. Wedding rings have always been a symbol of everlasting love between the couple. It’s strange to know that though women have been wearing ... Views: 1105
Follow these wedding photographer tips and go over them before your wedding day. But before the big day, you are probably wondering how to choose a wedding photographer? Are there certain things you should look for? This article will cover some of the important subject that you should touch on ... Views: 867
Follow these florist guidelines and go over them in advance of your wedding day. But before your wedding, you are probably wondering how to choose a florist for a wedding? What is expected of the company you go with? Please read the following article for some insight into asking the right ... Views: 1023
The number one thing people ask when selecting a dj for their wedding is how much do you charge. This may not be the question you should be asking. Here are 10 things to ask when selecting your dj for your wedding.
Do you offer MC services?
Not all djs offer the Master of Ceremonies ... Views: 860
Research indicates that, unless there is violence in the home, children are better off being raised by an intact family. Whenever clients who have children call to work with me on their marriage, I always encourage them to do all they can to save their marriage.
Leah is a good example of a ... Views: 2684