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- Do You Love Someone Who Suffers From Depression? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2003 from Dave ShieldsRelationships in which one individual is depressed are ninetimes more likely to divorce. Wow, the normal divorce rateis already over 60% nationally! But, it's not always aspouse who is depressed, sometimes it is a child or anextended family member. In this article, however, we'll be focusing ...
Views: 4025(1 vote) - The Pleasure Compulsion: Play It Again Sam - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2003 from Susan PeabodyThe Freudians use the term repetition compulsion to describe “the mind’s tendency to repeat traumatic events in order to deal with them.”1 Another Freudian term, the pleasure principle, describes the need of the infant to seek gratification.2 In adults, this would be called the “production of ...
Views: 11191(1 vote) - Faith and Depression - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2003 from Dave ShieldsDon't worry, I'm not going to get in the pulpit but I willchallenge you to take an objective look at what faith maybe able to do for your depression. In doing so, we'll belooking at many people who use faith in different ways. Did you know that someone who practices healing touch, suchas ...
Views: 3964(1 vote) - DEPRESSION OR A MEDICAL CONDITION? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2003 from Dave ShieldsAre you suffering from depression or a medical condition? Depression can be a symptom of an undiagnosed medical condition. Decision trees are used in psychotherapy much like they are in other professions. At the top of the decision tree are always two items to rule out FIRST, before making a ...
Views: 3021(1 vote) - The Grief And Belief Connection - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Bob Olson"Grief is healing: To take away our grief is to take away our healing. And learning about life after death helps us heal with greater hope, comfort and peace." ~ Bob Olson In approximately five years of investigating the possibility of life after death, I have discovered convincing evidence ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Suicide Prevention - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2003 from Martha PetersonCure for Depression/Suicide Attempts Let’s try Bible Wisdom! We’ve queried weejee boards, psychics, astrologers, soothsayers, lovelorn columnists and even movie and sports stars! We’ve taken the blue, the green and even the multicolored pills and still we are depressed and feel rotten. News ...
Views: 2089(1 vote) - HOW TO CHOOSE A COMPETENT THERAPIST - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2003 from Dave ShieldsI received a disturbing email this week. It's one of many on the same theme which I have received over time, so I knew it was time to address this issue. Here's the story. A young lady's boyfriend went to see a doctor for depression. She shared with me that the doctor apparently said he has ...
Views: 2802(2 votes) - Master your beliefs, Master Your Emotions. - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2003 from Steve DavisJoe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling is not proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you ...
Views: 2227(2 votes) - Chapter One: The Deadly Duo: Depression and Depression Fallout - by Love and depression speak different languages. Every man and woman in a relationship touched by depression comes face to face with this unpleasant truth. Although each believes that he or she is living through a unique situation, the behavior of both parties conforms to a predictable pattern. ...
Views: 2432(1 vote) - DEPRESSION BECOMES YOU - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2003 from Dave ShieldsHave you ever overheard people talking about couples that have been married for a very long time? One of things often said is how a couple will begin to look alike over time. How and why do you think this occurs? This phenomenon parallels a tea bag being steeped in clear water. After a while ...
Views: 2367(1 vote) - The Truth About Anxiety Disorder & Panic Attacks - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2014 from Charles LindenEvery day, I receive dozens of emails and telephone calls from worried anxiety disorder sufferers asking me about medications, therapy and other less conventional treatments; my answer is simple, I DO NOT encourage the use of medication and there are so many therapies available now that it is ...
Views: 6775(5 votes) - HEALING DREAMS - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2003 from Wanda BurchArticle adapted from SHE WHO DREAMS By Wanda Easter Burch Published by New World Library (1500 words) At the beginning of 1990, I followed my dreams to Africa. I was in Ghana when I fell asleep on a warm afternoon, lulled in and out of awareness by the syncopated beating of yams in the ...
Views: 5538(2 votes) - Introverts are Not Mentally Ill! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2003 from Nancy FennOne of the biggest differences between introverts and extroverts is how they react to stress. Some people don’t understand how introverts react to stress. Because of this, they think that all introverts are “neurotic” or mentally ill. Let me explain why this is a misperception. When ...
Views: 8004(1 vote) - How To Tell Sadness From Depression - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2003 from Dave ShieldsYou have and will experience sadness. It might be the loss of a job, pet or a loved one. Yes, even a loved one. The trouble is, particularly here in the United States, we have a quick-fix for everything... why not sadness too? Our quick-fix for sadness is that it's simply not allowed. Healthy ...
Views: 2778(1 vote) - 10 Organizing Hints for Combating Overwhelm - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2011 from Claire TompkinsEven if you know how to get organized, sometimes it seems like there's so much to do you don't even know where to start! Here are some hints to get you going and keep you on track. 1. Break your job into small chunks. If you’re going through lots of paper, take a pile and put it in a nice ...
Views: 2697(2 votes) - Influence: How and Why People Agree to Things - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2003 from Hal WarfieldHave you ever wished you could get others to agree with you? Do you ever find yourself agreeing with someone that you wish you hadn’t? Like maybe a telemarketer or other annoying individual? This is a brief summary of some of the reasons we agree. Perhaps you want to become more persuasive ...
Views: 2613(2 votes) - Remembering Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2003 from Susan StewartWe all dream every night. Some people don't remember dreaming and would swear that they never dream. But dreaming is essential for sorting out and releasing the emotional buildup from our day so we can start the new day with a clean slate. If you stop people from dreaming, they become disturbed, ...
Views: 6209(3 votes) - Using Art to Contact Your Internal Critic - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2003 from Martha GreenwaldSeveral years ago I was driving home to Minnesota through central Wisconsin after a visit to my parents, a four-hour drive. My mother had criticized me for a minor matter that morning, and I responded with wounded intensity, feeling the injustice of her criticism. Somehow, a lot of the ...
Views: 2063(1 vote) - Paranoia Truths - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Paul HannigThe first step towards healing paranoia is to overcome (eliminate) the denial. If this is not accomplished you may be condemned to a lifetime of conflict, alienation and addiction to struggle. Everyone has paranoia to some degree. Acknowledging it puts you in a better position to conquer ...
Views: 12583(2 votes) - Victim Behavior and What You Can Do About It - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2003 from David BruceOk, so what do I do about it? Here we go and lets get right down to it! Mental Chatter versus Emotions Victim Behavior is associated with many emotions, Shame is probably the most prevalent. Feeling overwhelmed is another. Feeling shame and being overwhelmed isn't particularly useful- so ...
Views: 6847(1 vote) - Seven Ways to De-Stress Now! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2003 from Barbara Faison1. Disconnect. Pick one day to disconnect from all technology for one hour. Turn off all the phones, pagers, televisions and computers, including email. Once you disconnect,sit and allow yourself to be still. The mind needs time to relax and recharge and it cannot do that with external ...
Views: 1397(2 votes) - Laughter for Stress Relief - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2003 from Susan StewartSummer is here, our days are packed full and we often become stressed. We sometimes have so much going on we think there's no time to laugh and have fun. Wrong! There is good news! Smiling and laughter are really good for your health! And the more you do them the better! From biblical ...
Views: 6108(4 votes) - Zen Mind. A Personal View. - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2003 from Clive TaylorZen mind is the “Natural” state of our beings: No self, no identity, no memes, no beliefs. Any idea of “what is” takes us away from what is – to be in the moment, all ideas need to be gone. There’s not even an “I” to have the ideas. The natural being acts as an outcome of the movement of the ...
Views: 1155(2 votes) - Victim Mentality - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2003 from Barbara BakerIn a previous article I talked about survivors who are unable to move on with their lives and/or having the attitude that everything that is wrong in their life is the result of another person. In that article it was discussed about how important forgiving yourself is so you can move on. So ...
Views: 7806(2 votes) - Learning To Live - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2003 from Julie DonleyDeath. No one wants to talk about it and yet none of us will escape it. When it happens to someone we know, most people don’t know how to handle it. And it’s because people are uncomfortable about it and it’s so final that people fear the most. In fact, there’s only one thing that tops death on ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - Can Caretakers Take Care of Themselves - by Submitted on May 29, 2003 from Debbie MandelEmotional and physical well being depend on the metaphysical balance between giving and receiving. Both the Jewish mystical work, the Kabbalah, and the Dali Lama’s Book of Transformations assert the same principle: Each one of us needs to establish a balance between giving and receiving. Easier ...
Views: 1496(1 vote) - ***10 Steps to Jump-Start Your Life Today! - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Jim Allen1. Now is the time to be honest with yourself and others. If you're trying to revitalize yourself, you have to be honest about what is and is NOT working in your life. Self-deception is like driving around in circles: you're moving, but you're not getting anywhere. 2. The only person you ...
Views: 3537(2 votes) - The Junk In Your Trunk, Parts 1 & 2 - by Submitted on May 24, 2003 from James CantrellPart I From the moment of our birth until the moment of our demise, we are constantly writing our life’s experiences onto the slates of our minds; and when we have finished writing on a slate, it is stored in an imaginary trunk where they remain until such time as they are needed as a reference ...
Views: 1724(1 vote) - Aromatherapy For Stress Relief At Work - by Submitted on May 20, 2003 from Susan StewartMost people work a 40 hour week so we can estimate that we typically spend about 2,000 hours at work each year. And many people work even more than this. Yet we often don’t take the time to ensure that our job setting is a pleasant place to be. Our jobs are often very stressful and stress is ...
Views: 2414(1 vote) - Telling and Re-telling The Dream - by Submitted on May 20, 2003 from David JenkinsHere is a technique for working with your dreams that is so simple and obvious that it hardly counts as a technique and is so powerful that you’ll always want to use it. - Before you interpret your dream… There is a first step to working with a dream. Before you even begin to analyze or ...
Views: 1409(2 votes) - Victim Mentality - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Barbara BakerHow would you answer this question: I am out of my abuse and have moved on with my life. There is something that I have been wondering about. How and when does the abuse stop playing a significant part of my life? I have seen others who have moved on and I would like to know how they did ...
Views: 28983(4 votes) - Recipes For Stress - by Submitted on May 18, 2003 from Charlie BadenhopIt is within your power to reduce the stressful reactions that you have. A key to changing your reactions is being able to track the way in which you generate stress. Recently, a coaching colleague told me a story about his client "Jim" who gets into many arguments and confrontations with ...
Views: 1143(1 vote) - Coping With Chaos - by Submitted on May 09, 2003 from Mary Ann HillierThink over the past few years: the dot.com bust, the Enron scandals, economic downturn, the horror of the Twin Towers, anthrax, Iraq and now more economic hardships. As if this wasn't enough chaos for a lifetime, SARS threatens to spread across the globe. Just reading the above list feels ...
Views: 973(2 votes) - Emotional Intelligence & Feeling Good - by Submitted on May 07, 2003 from Susan DunnTwo emotions, or ways of feeling, are especially troublesome to most of us – anger management and depression. Depression appears to be epidemic now, globally, and without going into the etiology (the causes), or pinpointing definitions or degrees of severity (they vary; there are many) lets ...
Views: 2776(1 vote) - Adult Attention Deficit Disorder - by Submitted on May 01, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueAttention Deficit Disorder tends to focus predominately on children, leaving the ADD adult population largely under served. Most of the information presented about Attention Deficit Disorder focuses on children, parenting and school issues. All but one ADHD medication currently on the market ...
Views: 4049(1 vote) - Do you have a soft addiction? - by After a tough day, do you come home and flop in your easy chair, grab a bag of chips and zone out in front of the television? Or maybe you compulsively check your e-mail, spend hours surfing the Net or stay up late chatting with strangers in chatrooms. Whether you get lost in cyberspace, over ...
Views: 10721(3 votes) - Mourning Bands - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2003 from Paul VillanuevaThe business world does not recognize mourning in the workplace very well. Once we bury our loved one, we are expected to go back to our jobs to continue, as if we were unchanged by their death. We do not see widows wearing black clothing in the business world, and men certainly do not mourn ...
Views: 6078(2 votes) - HOW TO OVERCOME EMOTIONAL EATING - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2003 from Ellen ShumanI WAS STUCK IN A SELF-DEFEATING CYCLE! I felt out-of-control with food! I was either overeating or dieting. In either mode, I felt I was never good enough. I had willpower and stick-to-itiveness in many other areas in my life. So why couldn't I apply that same resolve to my eating habits? I ...
Views: 14037(3 votes) - Depressed? Wise Woman Ways Offer a Helping Hand - by Submitted on May 09, 2011 from Susun WeedWinter time is depression time for many women. Perhaps it is harder to look at the bright side when days are short, perhaps the holidays and family demands take their toll on us. Of course, depression can also be triggered by lack of thyroid hormone and by use of steroids, high blood pressure ...
Views: 2057(3 votes) - How to Solve Your Money Problems - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2003 from Kathy MillerWhen the bills start piling up and creditors start calling, you might want to crawl under a rock until your circumstances improve. Unfortunately, ignoring the problem by leaving mail laying around unopened and letting the answering machine screen incoming calls will only make your situation ...
Views: 8352(1 vote) - Practical Tools for Reducing Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2017 from Mark FivemanPractical Tools for Reducing Anxiety Using Body-Psyche War, terrorist attacks, a new deadly virus, job and family stress. Let’s face it: most of us have something to be anxious about these days. Anxiety is fear about the future that we keep experiencing for long enough that it ...
Views: 1527(1 vote) - Genuine Tinnitus Relief - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2003 from Charles ValdTinnitus a totally new approach Tinnitus (ringing, whistling, buzzing) in the ears is a very common problem. We all have tinnitus it’s just for the most part not noticeable. 10% of the population suffer from ‘noticeable’ tinnitus. Other people may occasionally get temporary tinnitus after loud ...
Views: 2697(2 votes) - Neuro-Emotional Techniques(TM) - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2003 from Jef Gazley,NETä or Neuro-Emotional Techniquesä is one of the newer “power therapies” that along with TFT, Thought Field Therapy, and EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing have become popular in the last ten years. These therapies seem to work quicker than traditional talk therapies. This ...
Views: 1702(3 votes) - Attention Deficit Disorder - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2003 from Jef Gazley,Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Disorder with Hyperactivity (ADHD) occur as a result of neurological dysfunction in the prefrontal cortex of the brain. This is the newest part of our tri-brain system in evolutionary terms. It is the part of our brain that has executive ...
Views: 3528(3 votes) - How are you dealing with your feelings about the war? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2003 from John GrayIn these trying and troubled times, it can be difficult to get the feelings of “impending doom” out of your head. War, terrorism, the bad economy, you read about it in the newspaper, see headlines on the internet, and watch the war coverage on TV. It’s natural with this level of exposure to ...
Views: 5968(3 votes) - Mountain Climbing over Molehills - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Rhoberta ShalerSomeone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as life-or-death, or do-or-die situations. They put so ...
Views: 1089(2 votes) - What is Stress? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoStress is an interpretation of an event or circumstance which is understood to be a threat. It can be any force or pressure put on a system (living or nonliving) which may result in a need for the system to adapt or change. Stress on human beings is like a rubber band. You also stretch to ...
Views: 1794(4 votes) - How Do You Get Them to Buy-in to Your Idea? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan Dunn“How can I get them to buy-in to this idea?” Anna, a bank manager, asked me. She had an idea for restructuring the department. She knew it would work, but only if everyone would agree to it. She talked about different department members: Bob, who disagreed with anything anyone proposed. ...
Views: 1620(2 votes) - Nutrition as an Attention Deficit Disorder Alternative Treatment: Help is as Close as the Kitchen - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueThe quality of food we eat (or lack thereof) has a profound affect on Attention Deficit Disorder and ADHD. For many people, nutrition alone can effectively work as an ADHD alternative treatment. A growing body of research points to nutritional deficiencies - especially with essential fatty ...
Views: 2125(2 votes) - Communication With The Most Important Person - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Mark ThompsonHe was a student in the 6th grade. He was great in all subjects except Math. His step-father was sent to his room to help him with his Math homework. After a few minutes of silence, a loud yell of anger reverberated throughout the house. His mother came in to after her son was slapped in the ...
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