VENUS RX KARMIC KRAZY GLUE ALERT: “Who Do You Love . . . and Why?"

"The magic moment is the moment when a 'YES' or a 'NO' can change our whole existence." Paul Coelho

Dear Friend,

Happy Summer! Over the next few months, we’ll have a golden opportunity for some potentially life-changing healing and growth as Love Planet Venus retrogrades over the Leo/Virgo axis in the midst of THREE heart-expanding conjunctions with juicy Jupiter beginning on July 1st and culminating with a Venus/Mars conjunction on November 2nd. This will bring us all into a new balance of our male and female energies in meticulous Virgo.

During this period, ALL that we have ever loved—people, places and things—will be up for major karmic review focused on the theme of attachment, love and loss.

This will be an especially important and intense Venus RX cycle for two reasons. The first being that Karmic Teacher Saturn Rx will be forming a societal game-changing square with expansive Jupiter on August 2nd, in the final degrees of relentless Scorpio, never to pass this way again for another 28 years. This means that the inner yin/yang balancing we are experiencing individually will also be setting the tone for an acceptance of a wider range of gender roles on the world stage—as if we haven’t noticed it enough already. But, after this summer, there’ll be significantly more to come and no going back to less flexible ways of viewing our humanness along a continuum embracing a much fuller range of male and female qualities—all within one incarnation.

Secondly, we’re in the last few months of the Dharmic North node’s transit of Venus-ruling Libra for the next nineteen years, making sure we lock in our new gender-bending lessons of how to more fully own our receptive/yin and action-oriented/yang qualities personally and en masse with respect for healthy individual boundaries. In other words, live and let live.

However, there is a warning label on this summer’s lovely love transits—thus my: Karmic Krazy Glue Alert. What is karmic krazy glue? It’s when one or both partners have an unrequited burning desire carried from past lives to hook up again and finish what they started—culminating in a mutual auto–da–fé. But, ah, what a way to go!

I’ve had some personal experience in this area, having been in one of these karmic bondages for over eleven years—off and on—beginning at age twenty-seven. And while this type of passion does make one feel intensely alive with the pleasure of at least temporarily sated desire—again and again and again—this ride also frequently dips into excruciating pain—like when you try to rip apart two objects that have been krazy-glued together.

In this type of karmic dance, neither partner ultimately gets out fully in one piece—and usually one is lucky to survive emotionally enough to rebuild one’s psychic integrity and rise again from the ashes.

I’ve already had a number of clients coming to me in the throes of this karmic phenomenon—as Venus is in her retrograde shadow—not going fully Rx until July 25th. Adding to this, Saturn is pressuring us to get our karmic lessons in this area once and for all with the Libran North Node encouraging us to go for the high road of choosing the growing pains of unhooking, rather than another go-round of merging and ripping apart.

This applies to those of you already playing out this karmic dynamic of unrequited desire, as well as those of us who might very well have the experience this summer of an old lover reappearing (at the very least in our dreams:))—to test our resolve to grow and expand rather than stay stuck.

“Love is a burnin' thing, and it makes a fiery ring. Bound by wild desire, I fell into a ring of fire. The taste of love is sweet when hearts like ours meet. I fell for you like a child, Oh, but the fire went wild. I fell into a burnin' ring of fire, I went down, down, down and the flames went higher, And it burns, burns, burns, The ring of fire, the ring of fire.” Johnny Cash

If you are currently with a partner (or have an unrequited desire to be with one) who is incapable of nurturing your heart and soul to an equal measure of your own capacity, but rather is feeding you sense pleasures with increasingly diminishing returns—and yet you keep going back or wanting more—be aware that you are shortchanging yourself with what I call “poisoned candy.” (You know whom I’m talkin to:))

This could present as all the externals looking or feeling good on paper (or in your delusion)—i.e. aesthetically pleasing visuals and promises of future safety and security. But, internally, you may be feeling as if you’re subtly being slimed by negative, toxic or lower-frequency energies that will ultimately drain your life force. For more on this:

The Nature of Addiction . . . It’s only Human

To make the most out of this Venus RX cycle we need to go for the growing pains with gusto. For, if we choose to stay attached to long (or recently) lost loves we will only continue to experience chronic low-grade suffering indefinitely. We always have free will on this . . . as in all things.

A misinterpretation of traditional Buddhist philosophy views desire as the root of all suffering. In my philosophy, the Divine’s initial desire to know Itself created all of Us as part of Leela, Divine Play. Desire manifested this cosmic perpetual motion machine called the Earth Game. And, as souls incarnate, we’re designed in the Divine image to play out our range of Being as we learn how to be conscious Co-creators with All That Is. Consequently, desire is a very good thing in my book. Please click here for more: LEELA

In addition, Buddhism teaches that we should strive for non-attachment—as attachment causes dissatisfaction with what is. Well, on this one, a little clarification is needed. I do believe that attachment can cause suffering if we choose to cling to what has passed and are unwilling to let go. But, in my experience, attachment dissolves spontaneously in the present moment when we fully merge with the Divine or the Beloved in various guises . . . and bliss spontaneously arises.

For more on this: “On Pleasure, Joy and Bliss” and my memoir, written under the pen name Leela Jones and now available on Kindle: COSMIC SUGAR

The key concept we need to comprehend is two-fold: Firstly, giving ourselves permission to fully merge and enjoy what is available to be loved when it is in our presence. Then, learning how to be flexible enough in the Flow to unhook, release and fully let go—without clinging or attachment—to what is in the past and no longer available.

Obviously, since the Earth is a plane of relative truth and everything in it is ephemeral, we’ll all need to learn this lesson sooner or later.

To practice: Inhale and make a fist—tight, tight, tight—and then, as you exhale, relax your hand and let go of any grasping fully. Tighten and release. Tighten and release. Get the feeling? With Venus RX to help us over the next few months, we have a major opportunity for practicing flexibility in the Flow—with all that we’re still clinging to that is no more. I’ll make a list of mine—if you’ll make a list of yours:).

When we’re not able to be emotionally flexible enough to let go when it’s time, it’s like we’ve placed a hook in our own heart (and/or our 2nd chakra/pleasure center) that gets wrenched and pulled part when the object of our desire is no longer available, even if it’s an attachment to a younger version of ourselves. But, if we can choose to unhook when it’s time to let go, we’re creating an opening to allow the infinite abundance of the Universe on all levels flow into us—whereas before, with a clenched fist, there was no space for new energy to move in.

This has been one of the hardest lessons I’ve ever attempted to master. To enjoy fully what is—receiving and giving gracefully with an open loving heart and full attachment, merging totally with the object of my desire, seems to come naturally to me. But, when it's time to fully release and let go gracefully—not so much. I must admit that there have been times—fortunately not lately—when I’ve resisted letting go with so much kicking and screaming that I've made myself physically sick.

Here are some of my personal guidelines for making the most out of this season’s karmic love lessons, keeping in mind that the Libran North Node personifies healthy boundaries:

I. What you choose to do with your life is your karmic business . . . and what I do with my life is mine.

II. What you choose to believe in creates your dream (aka personal reality) . . . just as my beliefs create mine.

III. I don’t have to allow anyone else’s dream of suffering (of which there are infinite levels) affect my dream of joy in Being—right here and right now.

IV. I only allow others into my dream if I enjoy the way we play together and the sides of my nature they bring out in me. YAY!

All summer long, the feminine and masculine sides of our Being will be undergoing a recalibration dance to right our inner yin/yang balance at a more awakened level of operations. This internal balancing means that, through our yin side, we can allow Source to move through us vertically without needing to control or understand It’s mysterious and wondrous workings. And, simultaneously, using our yang discriminating mind, we always have our “YES” and our “NO” horizontally as to what feels intuitively right to act on in the Flow that is aligned with the dream we’re manifesting for the highest good of all concerned . . . especially ourselves.

The Dharmic North Node in Libra will continuously inspire us to take the high road in all our relationship dealings—ever reminding us that if we don’t choose what is for the highest good of ALL concerned (including ourselves), we are incurring karma. Simultaneously, the South Node of our karmic past in warrior Aries will consistently be tempting us to act out from a “Me First” mentality. Our goal is to find the balance of embracing the full Aries/Libra nodal range of being.

Here’s a quote that truly epitomizes the Libran North Node of Destiny:

“Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. Love is as love does. Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.” M. Scott Peck

In summation, how do we make the most of our love karma this year? We need to choose to see the world like a Taoist sage and view All of Life as our primary Love relationship—which I like to call our “cake.” Then, all our other love relationships, in whatever form they’re presented, can be savored as the deliciously sweet—but ephemeral— icing on our cake that they truly are. It’s important to keep in mind how many varieties of love there are: platonic, romantic, erotic, spiritual and divine, to name a few.

Or, as Rumi so eloquently puts it:

“Are you fleeing from Love because of a single humiliation?
What do you know of Love except the name?
Love has a hundred forms of pride and disdain
and is gained by a hundred means of persuasion.”

The good news is that, for many of us, 2015’s Venus RX dance with Jupiter may actually bring us more than our usual share of sweet moments, with no bitter aftertaste, especially if we keep in mind to:

I. Be fully present in the Eternal Now within each sweet moment and savor it—as it will never come again.

II. Release any attachment for more, once the moment has passed—if we want to avoid the suffering of unrequited desire.

III. Use any desire arising as a tantric practice—by continuously breathing it in and out until we become One with the emotion of desire and experience merging with our primary food supply—which is always Source, the Tao or All of Life.

IV. REMEMBER: Personal love relationships are tasty courses in the banquet of Life that come and go, but the ultimate feast is always infinite Divine Love—right here and right now . . . and smile.

Next, if you’re ready to upgrade your heart’s desire, here’s the Venus RX prescription:

1. REVIEW everything that has given meaning and value to your life to see whether these Venusian preferences will continue to feed your Soul as you move forward. This includes: your relationship with money, resources and “stuff,” the foods, clothes and material things you crave, your taste for beauty through your aesthetic sensibility and enjoyment of the arts. And, of course, ALL your personal relationships.

2. RE-EVALUATE. Ask yourself: Does what I desire still “do it” for me in terms of giving me more self-worth and self-esteem? Or, am I stuck in a rut of sabotaging behaviors and relationships that no longer nurture or enhance my life-force energies?

3. RECONFIGURE. On September 6th, Venus stations direct and moves into her direct shadow through October 8th. This is an auspicious time to consciously choose new upgraded Venus preferences to begin investing your heart energies in. Ones that truly fuel your soul’s highest aspirations and bring joy in Being—rather than just fleeting pleasure.

AND, YES, WE WILL ALL BE TESTED DURING THIS PERIOD by our inner “ghosts” or by our shadows projected outward into our personal relationship with Life. If we want to move to higher ground and transform our relationship patterns, we need to choose to PASS on what is presented—especially literal lovers past or the same dynamic in a different disguise.

These tests may also take the form of a relapse into addictive behavior to “sick excitement” in the romance area. So, beware and be AWARE—as any lessons here, once we know our behavior is regressive—can leave an aftertaste of aversion . . . at the very least.

Last but not least, here’s a synopsis of my personal channeled guidance for karmic relationship healing:

I. Forgiving ourselves and others for any harms done helps discharges destructive emotions from the body.

II. Having gratitude for gifts received and lessons learned regardless of the price paid dissolves self-pity, regret and anger.

III. Sending blessings to all those we have ever loved, no matter the heartbreak, allows us to continue on our journey with open-hearted acceleration.

In closing, whether we’re merging with the Beloved in human disguise—or directly with Source, the Tao, or the Flow of life—may we find our bliss and heaven on earth. May we continuously remember to practice our karmic love lessons of catch and release in the Flow and take to heart these words from my favorite Dzogchen teacher, Ngak’chang Rinpoche: “If you are fully present with the object of your desire, then it is yours forever."

J O A N

“Across planes of consciousness, we have to live with the paradox that opposite things can be simultaneously true.” Ram Dass

Astrological readings are a useful tool for clarifying and understanding the nature and timing of our karmic lessons. If you’re ready to make the most of this VENUS RX cycle, a karmic astrological consult is exceptionally fruitful in helping move to the next level of loving your Self more and manifesting THIS outward.

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