Dating With A Shy Personality, Todays Technology Makes It Easier Than Ever

Dating with a shy personality
can definitely present you with more challenges
than you would have if you were more outgoing.
Having said that, though, doesn't mean that you have to give up.
You can still have a fun dating life
even if you are shy and it takes you time to open up.

I think that there are several changes
that have come about in the last few years
that actually make it much easier dating with a shy personality.

Things like online dating sites,
Twitter, Facebook, and texting are
just a few examples of the things
that can make it easier for you to meet
and get to know others in a less stressful way.

That little bit of anonymity
can make it easier for you
to let a little bit of yourself
show slowly and over time.

It can definitely be more of a challenge
to know what to say when you are talking to someone
on the phone than it would be
to have a texting conversation.

When you are texting
you will have much more time
trying to think of what you want to say
then you would if you were actually talking to each other.
That can really take a lot of the pressure off.

Using an online dating site
can also help because you can target
the type of people you want to meet
and also let them know a little bit more about you.

Filling out your profile and saying
that you are a little shy
can definitely make it easier
to avoid any misunderstanding when you first meet.

Sometimes, a shy personality can come across
as being arrogant or rude.
This can really be a common misunderstanding
if you are also very good looking.

In that case it can be very easy for someone
just meeting you to get the wrong impression
if you are kind of quiet and reserved.

But, when you say right up front in your profile
that you are a little shy and reserved
then anyone meeting you will already have
that expectation and it's very unlikely
they will read more into than they should.

Also, if you prefer to date others
who are also a little on the shy side,
you will have the opportunity to specify that
when you fill out your profile.

And once you do meet someone
you can use these different technologies
to get to know them at a more leisurely pace.
Again, just like with texting,
this ability to take it slow
and get to know their personality
before you actually meet
can take a lot of the pressure off of both of you.

I know the son of a friend of mine
is very shy and he loved the idea
of getting to know the girls he met online
slowly and by instant messaging.

He said that it just made it easier
to get to know them with out the "distraction" of looks.
That is a very valid point.
We often get side tracked with the "chemistry"
when we meet someone.
Chemistry is a great thing to have
but it can get in the way
of getting to know someone on a deeper level too.

So, use these "tools"
to make dating with a shy personality
a little easier and less stressful.