Sexual Issues In A Relationship As You Grow Older

The aging process often contributes to a lack of sexual interest and activity among older people. This lack of intimacy can cause severe strain in any relationship and may cause partners to lose interest in each other. This article promotes better sexual health during old age by providing information and tips on how older people can still have a fulfilling sex life despite their age.

What regulates your sex drive whether you are a man or woman is testosterone. Most men and women produce enough testosterone to maintain their interest in sex. As the woman age, it takes longer for her vagina to swell and lubricate when she is sexually aroused. The vagina also loses some elasticity and these changes can make intercourse less comfortable or even painful.

How To Overcome These Discomfort And Enjoy Sex

For the Women
1. Longer foreplay to increase natural lubrication.
2. Use water-base lubricants such as, Astroglide, probe or silk.
3. Regular intercourse to help maintain lubrication and elasticity.
4. Go slowly if you have not had intercourse for a while, because it takes time to stretch out.
5. Desire usually returns once discomfort is relieved, so minimize any pain or discomfort as much as possible

For the Men
It might take longer to achieve erection, may be less firm and may not last long as you age. The time between possible ejaculation may also increase with aging.

Possible solution
• Relax, stop worrying about it. Anxiety will make it worse. The fear that you may not achieve erection will make it more difficult to have erection
• Do the kegel exercise which is very helpful for men to tone the pelvic muscle.
• Stop worrying towards orgasm and ejaculation, instead focus on pleasurable sensations.
• You may need more direct physical stimulation because it now takes longer with sexual activities.
• Finally, before submitting to an expensive medical procedures, I would encourage a natural and relaxed exploration of sexual possibilities.

For the Children
Most parents understand the concept of sexual health education, but many do not consider classroom instructions on sexual health sufficient for their children’s needs. Although basic information is shared during class, the teenager might not hear or understand everything that he or she needs to know.

Sexual health education is a parent’s responsibility, awkward as it may be. Still, society, by and large, relies on the formal school system to provide children with the necessary biological and social background about sexuality. But by giving follow-up information and reinforcing what the teenager learned in school, parents can help their children in making wise decisions when it comes to sex.