It's wonderful to find a person we love and enjoy being in their company, but the problem transpires when this love for them becomes overly clingy and oppressive.
Do you know how does our affection for our loved become so clingy? It is from one’s own lack of insecurity and emotional neediness from the person we love.
We are all aware that for any relationship to succeed trust, honesty, open communication and understanding one another is paramount. Sometimes what may work for one person in the partnership may not be the same for another person. One may want to spend every single spare moment they have in the company of their loved one but our dear one may feel suffocated and as a result could begin to withdraw. Therefore, it is vital to understand one another’s needs and allow room for the relationship to evolve naturally.
So what can be the signs of being clingy and consequently the adverse results of these emotions could have in our partnership? When one does not give their spouse any space. One is constantly texting or following up on their movements. Furthermore, when the partner returns home, one starts asking probing questions about where they have been and with whom. Bear in mind that our partner can sense our uneasiness and the way we are behaving.
We want our partner to be emotionally attached and involved as we are. We want to be in each other’s company continuously and we would like them to mirror the same affections back. We must take into consideration that everyone is different, and we all have different ways to express how we feel; and often it may not be in the same manner as ours.
One lives their entire life solely for the purpose of their loved one. We let go of our personal interests and friends, wanting to be always available for our partner.This could mean suffocating our partner with our company and love.
We are suspicious and insecure about our partner’s friends. We have to allow our loved one to be with their friends, just as they do so with you. It is very healthy to be in the company of others as this brings a fresher perspective into the partnership and allows each other some individual space.
How can one stop from being clingy?
Balance our relationship by having a life of our own. Start off by having an array of different interests that occupies our mind. Maintain a healthy social life with a group of good, confident friends.
Keep our emotions normal. Bring a good balance between the time we are together, our expectations and feelings for them too. Anything above or below normal will have negative results.
Enjoy the time together, live the moment. We should try not to be consumed with thoughts of feeling insecured with ‘what ifs’, or else you are allowing your mind to play negative games. Speak to each other and understand what works and what does not. Together, agree on parameters which will lead to a healthy partnership, and agree on areas of the relationship which could be best for both of you.
It is better to focus on ourself instead of being concerned with what our partner is up to. Do you know whilst our mind is somewhere else, we are losing out on enjoying what is right in front of us? Keep our emphasis on the positive aspects of the relationship and stay away from negative thoughts. Negative thoughts will bring us down emotionally and will have damaging effects on the partnership.
It is so easy to be consumed with being clingy, wanting to be loved. But sometimes we forget to stop and take stock of the harmful results such emotions can have on us and on our loved ones. Do you know the more attached you are to someone the greater dislike is likely to follow? Attachment brings forth emotions like expectations, possessiveness and demands from our partner which will only lead to loathing our loved one when eventually these emotions are not met either by us or them.
Ultimate solution lies in spiritual science.
Spiritual science guides us to keep our love within its boundary. This science shows how to love someone without hurting them. One understands how to get the best from our relationship which produces positive results for everyone involved.
Sometimes we may be aware that what we are doing is not helping but we do not know what to do to stop it from happening. However, with spiritual science you get clarity on what to do. This science sheds light on why this is happening and what to do to prevent it from happening again.
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Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.