Divorce is overlooked as a taboo by multiple people. This is because you vowed to your partner to stick with each other in better and worse, and many times, couples fear how the public will judge them. Well, one thing to know is that "Divorce can happen to anyone." It is a painful and difficult procedure to live apart from someone you loved or had a family with. Furthermore, it gets nastier when there is property, children, and business involved and the chaos on which parent among two will have the custody of the children. If your marriage is at the edge of divorce is already decided, then we need you to look at the brightest sides of having a divorce.
As per many Divorce Therapy in California, divorce is never seen as a positive thing, and it is mostly seen as a personal failure in many individuals. However, this article will discuss all ten advantages your divorce therapist would tell you in your sessions.
1- YOU GET THE CHANCE TO RELAXES
Marriage comes with a truckload of responsibilities, and you end up not giving time to yourself. You would have worries about everything. Be it your children's school and homework or bringing groceries on your way back home every day. After a divorce, you can have time for yourself, invite friends over, and go to those places you want to.
2- GET YOUR FREEDOM BACK
Your divorce therapist may ask you when the last time you went out with your group of friends to have some drinks was? Or visited the spa or salon to get your hair and nails done? When you are married, all you think and do is work for your family. There are no activities that can be enjoyed. In those early times of honeymoon, you might have enjoyed with your spouse, but as time passed on. Life got dull. You deserve happiness and if you are not happy in your marriage than its best to end things in a smoothening way.
3- FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS
What happens to those career-oriented goals or opening up your small business dreams? As you take on divorce therapy, you can realize that your dreams conflicted with your spouse's desires. With a divorce, you can start working on your dreams and goals and make them all come true. Since it's time to have all the freedom you ever had or wanted.
4- YOU GET YOUR HAPPINESS BACK (SLOW BUT STEADY)
Marriage is about being happy in a relationship and doing things for each other to make them happy if happiness is not there anymore. There is no point in staying married or acting like zombies in a household. If divorce is the only way to end this abusive relationship, then why not? Get your happiness back, and do not get fearful by thinking about divorce. If you are going through a rough patch, talk with your divorce therapist and find out the best way to smoothly end things.
5- EVERYTHING WAS NICE, BUT THE PERSON WAS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU
You might have been stuck with a person who was not right for you from the starting of the relation. However, all those red flags you felt before getting married seemed like red roses to you, but they were red flags that meant "NO." Staying in a marriage that is not working for you and is consuming your hundred-percent effort. If the person were right for you, you would have felt it. The right person makes you feel happy and talks you out of a bad argument.
6- YOU GET TO LOVE YOURSELF
Due to excessive work in the office and house, you may have forgotten those gym classes or even cooking healthy meals for yourself. You completely forget yourself, and all you do is things for your spouse, yet it is still not a happy marriage. The divorce will lower the chores and will make it easier for you to love yourself.
7- YOU REUNITE WITH YOUR FRIENDS
It's time to reunite with your friends and buddies. You may find it impossible while you were married as your spouse didn't allow you, and all you did was come directly home from work or stay at home. After a divorce, you can reunite with your friends and be happy to do everything that makes you happy.
8- THERE IS ALWAYS A PERSON MEANT FOR YOU
If your marriage is not making you happy, then do not think a second chance would be the same. There is always a person meant to be in our life. If you are not happy in your married life, then thinking about divorce is the right option. You could even end up meeting someone who makes you happy and complete.
9- BETTER RELATIONSHIPS:
As per Divorce Therapy in California, some people end up in a much better relationship with their ex-husband or ex-wife after a divorce? This is because mutual respect is already created, and you realize that you are better off being friends than married, as it works better for you.
10- YOU BECOME A BETTER PARENT
Bad marriages take away all your happiness and energy, resulting in you not looking properly after your children, and all your thoughts are focused on your marriage. Once the divorce happens, you can realize that you still have to take better care of your children as you can get time for yourself.
What else do you want to improve about yourself?
Select what you need the most and talk with your divorce therapist to help smoothen the transition procedures.
Next Step Counseling is based in Beverly Hills, CA but currently exclusively provides remote teleservices via video conferencing to all of California. So, if you are looking for a professional psychotherapy expert for hire in Beverly Hills, feel free to contact my office at 310-400-3409.