Another Aspect Of Grief And Loss

There is always a reason why somebody grieves. We should not try to fight with our grief because it can lead to frustration and having a negative behavior. Grief and loss are a natural and practical process in our lives.

However, dealing with grief and loss is not only practical but also necessary to attain happiness and fulfillment in our lives.

Grief could affect our thoughts, feelings, behavior and our relationships with others. We do feel sadness and anxiety, and sometimes, we feel that grief and loss have gone because we did something to fix it.

But later on, that grief will return again. Often, it's one after another. Don't be surprised because the process of grieving is experiencing the pain of loss. And some people experience this for the rest of their lives. It's unfair and intolerable but that's life. We could have this feeling when some terrible circumstances happen in our living. Such as the death of our loved ones, breaking up with someone who has an intimate relationship with us, failures and depressions.

There are a lot of causes why all human beings experience this kind of emotion. While grieving is difficult and painful, we can learn to be patient to ourselves and others.

Try to control this strong emotion and understand what you and others are going through. For example, your love one died. You'll feel completely lost when someone close to you has gone forever. How can you manage it? Most especially if that circumstance also involves the death of your dreams or success.

Suddenly, you also feel that your future was also buried together with that person. You will get angry, you become in denial, frustrated and depressed. You are angry at the person who died because they left you and made your life miserable. It is natural that we get angry to a criminal and we may consider them as a criminal because they killed our hopes and dreams.

And then, you can't accept the fact that someone has been separated in your world. You're still imagining that all of these are just a dream. Like it can't happen to you. These tasks really involve dealing with an emotional shock. So after we deny it, we feel frustrated and depressed.

We will lose our mental concentration. We recognize that our body becomes numb. We can't do anything - it's the reality of it. It's hard to move on but we must. We still have life after all the disasters that are happening to us. Acceptance is the most important thing to do to recover from all the causes of deep sadness.

Accept the reality of the loss. Open your eyes and mind around the people that you have forgotten for a while. Appreciate the new life that God has given to you. The life of someone you love has ended but it doesn't mean that your presence is already a trash. They always said, make yourself busy in doing something worthwhile. Talk to your family and friends. Make up with them. You will recognize how beautiful life is.