When it comes to getting ‘turned-on’, men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or if you’re upset about something, you may be unable to wholly experience all of the magnificent sensations our bodies our capable of. It’s imperative to decrease stress, tension and disturbance before embarking on a sexual journey with or without a partner.
Most women enjoy a combination of mental, emotional and physical stimulation to get them going. Although there are numerous erogenous zones, the clitoris is the main point of interest that evokes the most pleasure when stimulated. The clitoris is a complex network with over 8,000 nerve fibers concentrated in one tiny little bump! There are more pleasure-producing sensory receptors in the clitoris than any other part of the female body. There is a highly charged energy surge as the clitoral nerves interact with the 15,000 nerve fibers that service the entire pelvic area. It is truly an epicenter of explosive ecstatic potential possessing the power of generating more incomprehensible pleasure than you can handle!
Orgasm is truly all in your mind, however you need to get out of the mind altogether and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations without distractions. It is, in a sense, a meditation to practice and ultimately master. In fact, it is possible to bring yourself to a powerful orgasm while sitting absolutely still - no movement, stimulation or friction whatsoever. Many women have testified to having the ability to do this! It is a matter of having focused intention, good muscle control and rhythmic deep breathing.
In the same way that a complete understanding of electricity is not necessary in order to flip the switch and receive its benefit (light, music, etc.), you do not need to understand the complex inner workings of your physical body, you only need to understand the simple process by which you allow your cells and nerve endings to generate certain physical sensations. Basically you need to find which buttons do what. As you find and practice resonance with the vibrational source within you, communication between the cells of your body flourishes, as does your entire physical body. And it all begins with the simple focus on your breathing to “flip the switch” of absolute physical well-being and infinite pleasure.
All women have the innate capacity to experience intense, mind-blowing orgasms (even multiple orgasms). Men are also able to orgasm multiple times with or without ejaculating. However most have trouble controlling the release. Women have an easier time managing their orgasms, as we can better regulate our vaginal contraction and release muscles. Women can experience several successive orgasms during a session of focused stimulation. After the first, subsequent climaxes may be more powerful and pleasurable as the stimulation intensifies. Some women also enjoy continuous waves of orgasmic pleasure throughout the entire sexual experience for as long as they choose to carry on.
By focusing your mind’s attention to this specific area, the easiest way to reach orgasm is to apply rhythmic pressure to the clitoris and surrounding area. The methods and process may be different for each woman, so it’s important to experiment with what works best for you and clearly communicate that with your lover. Oral sex can be an excellent method for multiple orgasms, provided your partner knows what he (or she) is doing. Generally, using a combination of tongue and fingers can provide an intense blended orgasm as the clitoris and the G-spot are simultaneously stimulated. Another effective technique is for your partner to rub the tip or the shaft of his penis over the clitoral area either from side to side, or gently thrust between the folds of the labia. Sometimes it’s easier to take control by being on top and regulating the pace and pressure to achieve orgasm. Or use your own fingers to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.
You certainly know best what feels the most pleasurable and it’s up to you to be directive in your sexual experience. To enhance sensitivity, try [G] Stimulation Gel, which is all-natural containing Evening Primrose Oil – to increase blood flow to the clitoris, and also menthol, providing a warming, tingling, stimulating sensation. There is no such thing as having too much fun or experiencing too much pleasure. By allowing yourself to indulge in extreme ecstasy, it will greatly reduce the stress in your life, support a healthier mind and body, and will nourish your relationship tremendously.
At the end of the article on the blog site, there is a link to download an audio meditation to help quiet the mind and learn some of these meditation techniques to optimize orgasmic sensation. You can find it here: http://www.oceanusnaturals.com/blog/how-to-achieve-the-big-%e2%80%98o%e2...
Allura Grace has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing valuable resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.
Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.
Allura enjoys writing articles to empower women in their sexuality, promoting a healthy fulfilling sex life - with or without a partner! Check out my blog, Straight UP Girl Talk with Allura at: http://www.oceanusnaturals.com/blog/