When you have a crush on a certain girl, you definitely want her to feel the same for you. Well, we all know that it's not always work that way. She might think of you as another nice guy friend. Or worse, she might not even know you! Don’t think of it as an overly complicated matter, here are a few things that you can do to win her heart:
1. Get to know her
You can’t date a girl that doesn’t have any idea that you’re exist; so if you're in such scenario, the first step would be introducing yourself to her. Don’t think about making an amazing first impression or things like that; just get her to know your name is already an excellent start. Make use of your friends, use her friends, or utilize any kind of situational event to set-up an opportunity to introduce yourself to her.
Do a little research about her activities and interests. This way, when you “unintentionally” bump into her, you already have something to talk about.
2. Be a great listener
There is one thing that makes it difficult for guys to become a good listener: we have strong habit to solve problems! At some point when a girl feels safe enough to share her stories with you, you should SHUT UP and pay attention. It may be a silly story or it could be problems that can be fixed quickly with our “men’s logic”, but hold yourself from judging her or bursting a stream of our “smart solutions”.
Yes, you may feel the urge to cut her stories and tell her “the correct thing to do”, but you need to fight that temptation. Usually, girls are merely searching for someone to share about their days and troubles. If you are able to keep paying attention until she concludes her stories, you already 1 step ahead from the rest of the guys.
3. Flirting and teasing
If you can do tips #2 sucessfuly, you already something among all the other guys, but that alone is not enough to build romantic sparks; you need to tease and flirt with her from time to time. Teasing and flirting are signs that you are attracted to her and you need to make it clear enough for her.
Pay attention to her way of living, habits, favorite accessories, hairstyle, etc and use them within the conversation to show her that you know her good enough. Naturally, use them when you’re teasing her too.
4. Get her
Don’t stay in the “special” friend zone for too much time. Watch the signals. If she shows interest, close take action and move into a romantic relationship. If she isn’t displaying any interest or if you're uncertain about how she feels about you, find a good time and say it anyway. Sure, you could have an embarrassing rejection, but it still better than stepping back and questioning about her real feeling for the rest of your life. Moreover, there's always a chance that she actually wants you too; you possibly simply missed the signs.
That’s how you get a girl to like you. The key here is tips #3 and #4, so ensure that you remember them everytime you make a move on her. Also, don’t act needy and clingy around her. Show her that you can make your own decisions without depending on her approval and act according to your beliefs. Those are the quality of a real man that will win any girl he wants.
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